A friend of mine refuses to address his anxiety issues. I don't want to lose him as a friend, but also don't know how much more I can take. Please help.
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posted by stedman15
on May 28, 2013 -
15 answers
My husband and I have been together for 9 years, married for the last 3. We met when I was 19, and him 21. Recently I have been feeling like I might want out. I still love him, but I am not sure that he is going to change in ways which I would prefer him to.
Should I tell him I want to separate or wait to see if things get better?
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posted by anonymous
on May 19, 2013 -
35 answers
I've been in a relationship for 3 years, waiting on a proposal. I don't know if it will materialize. Lately I've been fantasizing about an ex-boyfriend who I made a marriage pact with.
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posted by anonymous
on May 3, 2013 -
48 answers
It's another wedding question.. I'm getting married on April 26th (yay) and I'm looking for a good first dance song that reflects our history as a couple. We were best friends for about 6 years before we started seriously dating and I'd love to dance to a song that reflects that. My fiance mentioned Can't Fight this Feeling by REO Speedwagon but I was looking for other suggestions. Any type of music is okay except country because we aren't big country fans.
Thanks!
posted by AngryLlama
on Apr 1, 2013 -
26 answers
I've been married for a few more than 10 years. For most of that time, I did not really listen to my wife or honor her goals and desires for our life together. Starting in 2012, I have made a change in my attitude and actions, and we are communicating and making significant progress in our relationship. If it were just making the current state of affairs good, I think we're on a good track and we'd be ok. My question is: How do I make up for the previous ~10 years? If you want to email: accommodatee@mail.com. Thanks in advance for any advice, here or via email.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 20, 2013 -
30 answers
My boyfriend and I have been together for a little under 3 years, and we have lived together for over one year. We are in our late twenties. We are extremely compatible 90% of the time, have so much fun together, are mutually supportive, generally very communicative, and love each other deeply. We get along with each others' families, we travel and live well together, and we share so many interests. I am ready to marry the man, and he is maybe/kinda/sorta ready to marry me. Ouch!
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posted by tentwentythirty
on Feb 22, 2013 -
57 answers
Need advice to sort out my marriage after a very stressful time - very extended explanation inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 12, 2013 -
15 answers
This is a question for those of you who are married (or have an SO): When it comes to things like personal correspondence, is there still such a thing as privacy?
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posted by Telpethoron
on Feb 2, 2013 -
65 answers
Because I am prone to bouts of idealization and sometimes don't have my feet rooted in reality, I want to hear from those who are happily married or in a committed relationship with someone with whom they plan to build a life with.
I have *not one* real life example of a healthy functioning adult relationship, and although I have periods of loneliness, I can't imagine living like any of the people around me do.
Are all relationships just people fitting into each others dysfunctions? Are there real ones out there that work, or is that the fantasy ideal that we all chase after and never achieve?
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posted by tenaciousmoon
on Feb 2, 2013 -
18 answers
Talk to me about being married, but choosing to live apart. It sounds... awesome, for so many reasons. And I have heard that people do this. But I don't know any real people who have done it. If you or someone you know has this type of relationship, i'd like to know more about your experience. Examples of the type of stuff I want to know is:
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posted by windykites
on Feb 2, 2013 -
10 answers
We've been together almost 2 years and at first I thought he was almost a perfect match for me. We got along, he made me so happy, he's so sweet, makes me laugh, and considerate. I know that every relationships get into the comfortable phase but lately I feel like he has taken me for granted and has gotten way too comfortable to the point I'm starting to lose interest in our relationship. I no longer look forward to seeing him and want to be alone, say I love you, kiss, or anything.
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posted by Asian_Hunnie
on Jan 30, 2013 -
49 answers
Can I do an Angelina Jolie and get married for a third time while still maintaining my integrity? Please help me with your opinion.
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posted by Youremyworld
on Jan 13, 2013 -
38 answers
My husband lied to me in a multi-part, well crafted way, about something stupid. I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable, and I don't know where to go from here.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 11, 2013 -
48 answers
For people who were/are in a long-term relationship, what were your reasons for cohabiting or choosing that over marriage? Was the former a path leading to the latter? Or were the two independent choices and you picked one over the other- and why? If you chose one over the other, did things turn out the way you expected or otherwise?
Basically, I am interested in knowing why people who cohabit actively choose that, over marriage, if thats also an option. Did the results corroborate the premise?
posted by xm
on Dec 6, 2012 -
60 answers
Convincing my traditional parents that marrying my boyfriend (as opposed to an arranged marriage) is not a "sin". Tried for many years; can you help me try more? I will start with a little bit of my background. Please bear with me for the verbose description.
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posted by alady
on Nov 10, 2012 -
41 answers
Supposed to be getting married to my long-term girlfriend, developing feelings for someone else, unsure of how to proceed.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 7, 2012 -
36 answers
I feel like my marriage is falling apart. It's not because we don't love each other, but I don't know what to do.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 21, 2012 -
37 answers
Help me reconcile the fact that my BF doesn't want to get married and I will have to return home due to visa restrictions. (long)
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posted by winsome
on Jul 20, 2012 -
49 answers
My wife of 14 years never tells me she loves me. She never initiates sex. She never holds my hand, kisses or casually touches me. No pillow talk. No thoughtful little gifts. I do all of these things for her as often as I can.
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posted by anonymous
on May 22, 2012 -
43 answers
Four years ago I married a great guy. We've been together a total of eight years. Sometime around when we got married...maybe a little before, I stopped wanting sex with him. I dreaded it on our wedding night/honeymoon. At first I thought it was just a phase, something to do with wedding planning burnout and general nerves. Four years later, it's even worse than it was. Otherwise, we have a good relationship, I think. We have everything in common, a shared worldview, good communication. Because of the sexual issue, we have talked numerous times about separating. I guess what I can't figure out is, why this has happened, and if our entire relationship is worth ending over it.
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posted by anonymous
on May 20, 2012 -
80 answers
[Psycho Filter] - I love him. He loves me. We intend to get married next year. YAY! But it feels like a
really long time away. Help me to be patient and enjoy the anticipation and build up, because right now I am suffocating in a world of "OMG CAN WE PLZ GET MARRIED YESTERDAY!" eagerness.
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posted by gwenlister
on May 16, 2012 -
28 answers
Those who have read or are familiar with Mira Kirshenbaum's "Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay:" recommend books / resources for dealing with my Power Person wife.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 16, 2012 -
20 answers
Why can't I control my stupid feelings? Love one guy, distracted by another, engaged to be married. Advice/personal experience?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 6, 2012 -
33 answers
Do you have a recommendation for a book about relationship ground rules and agreements in marriage? I'm interested in a book that might help someone to consider how they want to be treated, how to set reasonable expectations for interaction, and how to define what would constitute a good relationship for them.
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posted by OmieWise
on Nov 30, 2011 -
7 answers
Help me figure out if this is a relationship dealbreaker-- my husband recently dragged me out of my chair, against my will.
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posted by DianaV
on Nov 26, 2011 -
66 answers
Marital strife filter: Was my husband out of line to invite three women to spend the night at our house when I was out of town?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 18, 2011 -
63 answers
I'm having a difficult time trying to mentally process an ex's recent wedding because I'm hung up on the sex/religion aspect of it all. I need advice on how to stop thinking about him.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 21, 2011 -
33 answers
How do you know that a relationship is progressing without the traditional milestones (marriage, house, children, etc.)?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 17, 2011 -
30 answers
Have you (or someone you know well) loved someone but weren't "in love" with them (had a strong, warm, happy relationship but one that wasn't very intense, passionate, etc) and gotten married/been in a long-term partnership? Did it matter that you weren't "in love" exactly? If it led to problems, what were they?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 22, 2011 -
56 answers
You know marriage is not in the future of your relationship. The relationship is still good and you're still in love. How do you know when to cut it off?
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posted by Hey nonny nonny mouse
on Jun 14, 2011 -
21 answers
My wife doesn't get along with my sister. My sister is graduating. My wife discovers that I am buying her a graduation gift without her knowledge. She is upset I went behind her back. Where do I go from here?
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posted by anonymous
on May 19, 2011 -
71 answers
Wife mistrusts me now over a single comment, and thinks I'm withholding family information. What should I do?
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posted by pxharder
on Apr 20, 2011 -
36 answers
My boyfriend recently finalized his amicable divorce, but I am more wary than ever. What are the emotions one goes through after divorce and what sacrifices are required on my part? It's a little long - thanks in advance for reading.
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posted by gardenbex
on Apr 8, 2011 -
23 answers
Talk to me about same-sex marriage in Canada between a citizen and a non-citizen. Rights, responsibilities, etc.
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posted by geckoinpdx
on Feb 20, 2011 -
15 answers
How do I stop myself from second-guessing my decision to get a divorce? Does the little bit of doubt mean that I'm doing the wrong thing? Are there any books or resources for people in my situation?
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posted by catfood
on Feb 16, 2011 -
43 answers
My husband falls asleep in front of the TV four or five nights a week. He says this is the only way he can get to sleep. I hate sleeping alone and this has become a Big Issue. Should I let this go and if not, how can I communicate more effectively?
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posted by fantoche
on Sep 10, 2010 -
49 answers
There may be fifty ways to leave your lover, but I can't handle any of them. Deep down I know I need to end my relationship, but I don't know how to do it.
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posted by secretsquirrel
on Aug 26, 2010 -
11 answers
My wife has stopped reading for pleasure. I'm a writer. This is really starting to bother me.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 15, 2010 -
91 answers
Should I leave my wife??? I have doubted my feelings for her from day one... story below... This is lengthy, sorry...
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posted by anonymous
on May 20, 2010 -
54 answers
