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What conversations should we have before living in sin?

Dear hive mind, please suggest items for a checklist of issues/expectations/questions to discuss with my significant other before we shack up next month! I was reading this question and saw that many people felt that they would never move in with a partner before discussing their finances with a certain level of detail. I would love to know what other rules of thumb people have about establishing a mutual understanding, financially, emotionally, housework-wise, etc. before cohabiting. Possibly relevant details inside. [more inside]
posted by erstwhile ungulate on Jul 17, 2014 - 30 answers

Help me find perspective, is my relationship half-full or half-empty?

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 3 years now, but it seems like we can't seem to find a good "groove". We're satisfied in the relationship for a while and then we get into petty fights and don't resolve them. I thought I was happy with him and really enjoyed his company. However, it's been more and more stressful and I need help figuring out if I've checked out for a while, or if the relationship has run its course. Hope me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 14, 2014 - 17 answers

How can a planner and an impulse-traveler make it work better?

I'm in a long-distance relationship: my S.O. is in California, I'm on the East Coast. We've been pretty lucky with getting to meet up regularly since his job often pays for him to come out here and I've had a number of opportunities to get out there. But I'm feeling a personality clash arising from his erratic scheduling. Question clusterbomb ahoy! [more inside]
posted by psoas on Apr 22, 2014 - 18 answers

how to ask for help

I've been dating a guy since the summer. I need help with asking for things I need in the relationship. [more inside]
posted by swamp rocket on Jan 26, 2014 - 14 answers

How do I make up for 10 years of blowing her off?

I've been married for a few more than 10 years. For most of that time, I did not really listen to my wife or honor her goals and desires for our life together. Starting in 2012, I have made a change in my attitude and actions, and we are communicating and making significant progress in our relationship. If it were just making the current state of affairs good, I think we're on a good track and we'd be ok. My question is: How do I make up for the previous ~10 years? If you want to email: accommodatee@mail.com. Thanks in advance for any advice, here or via email. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 20, 2013 - 30 answers

Dating when you already have feelings you never intend to act on?

I have feelings for another woman that I have no intention of ever acting on, and my current relationship seems doomed because of it. Help. [more inside]
posted by zeek321 on Mar 8, 2013 - 78 answers

They told me the first year of marriage would be a tricky one...

This is a question for those of you who are married (or have an SO): When it comes to things like personal correspondence, is there still such a thing as privacy? [more inside]
posted by Telpethoron on Feb 2, 2013 - 65 answers

Me or relationship.

How do I decide whether this relationship is worth staying and working on or leaving and working on myself? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 30, 2012 - 31 answers

Boyfriend and I coming to crossroads: conflict and pursue/withdraw

How to deal with incompatible conflict styles? My boyfriend avoids and I try to confront/face things. He hates to talk about it. I hate to leave it unaddressed. It's straining the relationship. [more inside]
posted by hungry hippo on Nov 19, 2012 - 44 answers

How should I act when I think that we might break up?

How should one act in a relationship when you are thinking of breaking up with them? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 10, 2012 - 10 answers

Seriously confused by recent breakup.

Why am I hopeful with this ex-girlfriend ? [more inside]
posted by Atlantic on Jul 28, 2012 - 31 answers

Fixing general marital communication issues

I feel like my marriage is falling apart. It's not because we don't love each other, but I don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 21, 2012 - 37 answers

My man fixes my stuff, but doesn't touch me enough

Boyfriend is great, but how can I get him to meet my emotional needs more consistently? [more inside]
posted by hungry hippo on Jul 6, 2012 - 31 answers

Boyfriend?

Do I ask for something more or just let it flow? [more inside]
posted by InterestedInKnowing on May 15, 2012 - 15 answers

How do I communicate better with my dad?

I need some advice on how to communicate better with my dad and hopefully improve our relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 15, 2012 - 11 answers

I'm never wrong, you're never right

is it a red flag if a person never thinks they're wrong? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 15, 2012 - 66 answers

How do you "check in" on a relationship?

BF and I (straight mid-twenties lady) have a happy, loving relationship (2 years+). But, this is my first long-term relationship and I have an anxiety disorder. I want to "check in" with him and make sure we're still on the same page about us and the future, but this is my pattern and it has been unhealthy for me. To the healthy couples - do you "check in" with your partner? Should I? Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by Paper rabies on Feb 17, 2012 - 16 answers

Help us meet in the middle.

How can we ease our long-distance communication woes? [more inside]
posted by queens86 on Dec 16, 2011 - 13 answers

how to survive long-distance neediness

how needy is too needy in a long-distance relationship? [more inside]
posted by happyjuice on Dec 4, 2011 - 17 answers

I know you don't approve. I won't talk to you about it.

Reconciliation after a break-up: dealing with fallout from friends. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 20, 2011 - 17 answers

Boyfriend isn't ready to propose

What are productive ways to deal with the fact that my boyfriend isn’t ready to propose? [more inside]
posted by Ob Lady Dee on Nov 17, 2011 - 65 answers

Am I expecting too much?

Reasonable Interaction Wishes: Okay out there, help me either adjust my expectations or hold out for communication/relational interaction I'm wanting. Am I expecting too much? [more inside]
posted by sleeping beauty on Nov 9, 2011 - 26 answers

"You're Too Paranoid To Be Seduced Anyway."

My new boyfriend has become incredibly paranoid about my literary interests. How can I put him at ease? [more inside]
posted by xbeautychicx on Nov 2, 2011 - 79 answers

Maybe I'm just an asshole...

How or when is it okay to "correct" your SO? [more inside]
posted by doomtop on Nov 2, 2011 - 62 answers

How do I approach a second date?

Never dated someone I didn't already know. Some advice on dating protocol? [more inside]
posted by Atlantic on Oct 16, 2011 - 19 answers

I think I need to communicate, but how?

New guy moving away in a few weeks--how do I tell him what I think? [more inside]
posted by queens86 on Sep 6, 2011 - 22 answers

Communications going from bad to worse.

What are some tips for turning around days where you and your SO just don't seem to be communicating or getting along well? [more inside]
posted by SNWidget on Aug 29, 2011 - 44 answers

Help me be more communicative and considerate.

How do I get myself to stop assuming that my SO knows things I need to tell her? [more inside]
posted by PhatLobley on May 16, 2011 - 15 answers

Is it ever normal to dislike your SO?

Is it normal to dislike your boyfriend at times? (Or girlfriend, or husband, any SO...) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 13, 2011 - 40 answers

From cohabitation to nohabitation

I have lived with my boyfriend of 4 years for 2 of those years and now I am moving out. How can I make this transition smoothly? [more inside]
posted by WeekendJen on Feb 1, 2011 - 9 answers

Be careful what you ask for, you just might get it.

How do you get over having to ask for what you want in a relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 27, 2011 - 40 answers

What are you talking about?

Can you help me understand and deal with this dynamic between me and my partner? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 26, 2011 - 47 answers

Seasonal gift giving dilemma

Did I give her an xmas gift? Should I be giving her a(n another) xmas gift? [more inside]
posted by mistertoronto on Dec 19, 2010 - 12 answers

Is it possible to refurbish this mess into a more reasonable friendship? If so, how?

At baseline, I'm terrible with keeping in touch even with uncomplicatedly good friends. This situation is far from uncomplicated, though. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 9, 2010 - 21 answers

The strong, silent type does not compute.

He asked for a break until we see eachother again in six weeks. That's coming up this weekend. Having a hard time getting perspective and feeling out how to approach the meeting. [more inside]
posted by lizbunny on Oct 21, 2010 - 12 answers

(brotherly) pride and (anti-gay) prejudice and (avoiding sibling rivalry issues returning like) zombies

Calling adult younger siblings with older siblings who sometimes annoy them (and anyone else with an opinion on said matters): I'm proud of my gay younger brother for a stand he's taken (some would say finally); should/how I express this to him without accidentally being patronizing? Long details within. [more inside]
posted by MCMikeNamara on Sep 14, 2010 - 11 answers

How do I get my husband to sleep in bed with me?

My husband falls asleep in front of the TV four or five nights a week. He says this is the only way he can get to sleep. I hate sleeping alone and this has become a Big Issue. Should I let this go and if not, how can I communicate more effectively? [more inside]
posted by fantoche on Sep 10, 2010 - 49 answers

How do you handle the silent fade away from a person you spoke with for hours a day?

How do you handle the silent fade away from a person you spoke with for hours a day? [more inside]
posted by boostershot on Aug 21, 2010 - 17 answers

Avoiding heartache

How to resolve relationship issue regarding how to communicate and support one another in times of crisis. [more inside]
posted by EmbarrassingQuestionsSockpuppet on Jul 31, 2010 - 15 answers

talking about Big Plans in a relationship

Talking Big Plans in a relationship -- how do I distinguish the excitement of approaching life for two from the prudence to not jump the gun, so to speak? [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish on Mar 2, 2010 - 7 answers

What can we do differently?

How do I correct an intimacy problem in a relationship? The affection is gone, and I'd like to bring it back but I feel guilty because I know he wants more alone time. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 28, 2010 - 38 answers

Keeping in contact while away

I need some suggestions for some nice things to do for my girlfriend while I'm traveling for business (and more generally, how to better keep in touch). [more inside]
posted by backseatpilot on Feb 4, 2010 - 14 answers

Someone else let the cat out of the bag.

My trouble figuring out how to deal with a long-distance romantic interest was just complicated by an overshare by an overzealous "helper." Long-time relationshipfilter listnener, first-time caller. [more inside]
posted by Ironmouth on Jan 11, 2010 - 43 answers

Oh, here we go again.

I am an ENFP. He is an ENTP. Our emotional responses while arguing lead to complete exhaustion. M'aidez! [more inside]
posted by opossumnus on Dec 21, 2009 - 27 answers

Help create more frequent long-distance communication

How can I make it easier for my boyfriend to contact me more often while we are long-distance? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 2, 2009 - 22 answers

The girl I love bought a house I hate - now what?

We're in love! That's great! She bought a house yesterday with zero input from me whatsoever! That's crappy! What does it mean, and what do I do now? [more inside]
posted by xbonesgt on Dec 1, 2009 - 57 answers

Long Distance Love Affair

several years ago I met a man and we had a brief relationship. We've maintained a friendship through other relationships. We have both always been honest about our attraction to each other but live a few hours drive away from each other. Recently my circumstances changed and as it happens we are both available. We both are interested in seeing each other and he said he'd be willing to move as an eventuality if things work out. As it stands with our jobs it works out so that technically we could see one another twice a month if we wanted to. I have a few questions for the hive, what are ways people in a long distance relationship can stay close, Has anyone out there had a successful transition after moving in together, and has anyone not tried and regretted it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 5, 2009 - 7 answers

I like to make plans, he doesn't. What now?

What do you do when one partner likes to make advance plans and the other likes to be spontaneous, in a relationship? [more inside]
posted by CatherineK on Aug 25, 2009 - 26 answers

Mom: I'm not going to call you back.

MomFilter: help me deal with mine! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 11, 2009 - 32 answers

Is it over-analyzing or just being smart in dating?

Am I over-analyzing or being rightfully cautious in dating? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 17, 2009 - 29 answers

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