How do I get rid of feelings of worthlessness, anxiety, and distance in my relationship that seem to occur when I'm not having sex?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 18, 2013 -
29 answers
My boyfriend has talked about us separating, but it seems like he still wants to be with me. I think he's overanalyzing our relationship to death, and I want to talk to him about how relationships take work and we should refocus on what's important to us, but is that true? How would that look, what would we do?
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posted by brisquette
on Mar 29, 2013 -
20 answers
I'm a year and a half into my first serious relationship and it has a lot going for it. But, almost every time we now go see a movie together, or check out a concert, or go somewhere new for dinner, I spend more time worrying about rather she's having a good time than actually enjoying it myself. It's worse if it's something I picked out or suggested, and I find myself avoiding suggesting something I think I'll enjoy because I get nervous about her reaction. She has really relaxed standards for entertainment and usually enjoys what I suggest, so I know it's me and not her. Anyone have experience with dealing with this in their relationships?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 10, 2013 -
16 answers
How do you deal with intense ambivalent feelings in a relationship, especially when they may be colored by a mood disorder?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 1, 2013 -
8 answers
I need therapy for really bad and unwarranted relationship jealousy and insecurity but I wouldn't be able to get started until sometime late January. What would be some alternatives I could pursue in the meantime?
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posted by TheManChild2000
on Nov 30, 2012 -
13 answers
How reasonable is it to expect my future/potential boyfriend or husband to NOT fantasize / masturbate to other women? Is it off-my-rocker to expect this from a man I'm in love with?
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posted by rhythm_queen
on Oct 7, 2012 -
73 answers
What can I do to cope with relationship (adult) separation anxiety/missing someone strongly? It happens after just one day without seeing my partner. I don't want to get clingy or go through so much ickiness so I need some coping ideas!
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posted by hungry hippo
on Jun 13, 2012 -
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I've lost interest in sex with my boyfriend, and find things increasingly uncomfortable in that department. What should I do?! I'm a 28 year old female, and have been in a long term committed relationship with my current boyfriend for about 3 years now. I'd been a virgin up until about 2 and ½ years ago. My upbringing was uneventful, and I've never had any traumatic experiences that I can recall involving sexuality, however I have always felt embarrassed about sex related things, which is why before my current boyfriend I always just made out with whoever I felt like.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 28, 2012 -
15 answers
BF and I (straight mid-twenties lady) have a happy, loving relationship (2 years+). But, this is my first long-term relationship and I have an anxiety disorder. I want to "check in" with him and make sure we're still on the same page about us and the future, but this is my pattern and it has been unhealthy for me. To the healthy couples - do you "check in" with your partner? Should I? Snowflake details inside.
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posted by Paper rabies
on Feb 17, 2012 -
16 answers
RelationshipFilter: Ok, based on advice from you folks and my friends (and therapist), I'm finally going to leave him. I talked with my best friend today and she agrees with me. I'm feeling really awful right now, I know I'm doing the right thing, especially when I look back on my previous questions. But I do actually like him and I just feel like crying. I know he loves and I love him, but as is so often pointed out, that does not make a relationship.
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posted by inmyhead
on Nov 17, 2011 -
36 answers
Panicking about my relationship, which is then causing me to panic about my panic. I have no one to talk to and I just want to know that I'm going to be ok.
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posted by p. kitty
on Sep 22, 2011 -
19 answers
Have you (or someone you know well) loved someone but weren't "in love" with them (had a strong, warm, happy relationship but one that wasn't very intense, passionate, etc) and gotten married/been in a long-term partnership? Did it matter that you weren't "in love" exactly? If it led to problems, what were they?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 22, 2011 -
56 answers
My problem is that I can't commit long term to romantic relationships. This commitment phobia automatically colors me as a bad person because the right thing to do in this society is to find that one special person and commit to them for the rest of your life. (ideally)
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posted by BettyBurnheart
on Jun 30, 2011 -
36 answers
I feel like a basket case. I'm 47 years old, and I've been in a 20-year same-sex relationship with another man. I felt like it would last forever. For several years, the relationship was sexless; we did all the normal couples things together - cooked, ate, washed dishes, stressed about the bills, laughed, cried, and took care of each other, but there wasn't much physical attraction any more. I've always been somewhat bisexual, and 2 or 3 years ago, I met a woman on match.com who was cute, seemed nice, and was accepting of my situation. We started dating (with the knowledge, and as far as he acted, the acceptance of my partner). At first, the two of them were sort of circling and sniffing, and I was afraid they would hate each other. As time passed, they became really good friends, and eventually they slept together, which was fine with me. (lots more blathering inside)
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posted by Death by Ugabooga
on Dec 21, 2010 -
64 answers
My girlfriend's OCD and anxiety causes her to get stuck in loops of obsessive thought that really mess with our relationship. How can I deal with this better, and can therapy help her?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 19, 2010 -
26 answers
My boyfriend and I are about to take The Bar Exam in less than a week. A few days ago, my boyfriend was having severe anxiety attacks and suddenly decided he'd be better off at his folks' house. We talked about it, I supported it, and he flew home that night. Now I'm alone in our house and I'm freaking out dealing with my own depression and anxiety. I know (I know, I really know) that what happened isn't his fault, and that he needs to do what is best for him, and that this doesn't mean he doesn't care about me. But my irrational me keeps feeling abandoned. I need advice on how to recontextualize the situation or something because with four days left I don't really have time or energy to spend being irrationally angry.
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posted by mishamashes
on Jul 22, 2010 -
29 answers
Am I beanplating or can a relationship with these "issues" last? How can I deal with my relationship anxiety?
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posted by anonymous
on May 10, 2010 -
14 answers
Relationships cause me anxiety, from ones I hear about in songs to ones I see on tv to my own. How do I overcome this?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 17, 2010 -
11 answers
How do I get over the difference in our levels of experience with respect to relationships?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 3, 2010 -
9 answers
Insight, advice, perspective required for relationship dramas/attempt to become emotionally unstuck (longggggg)
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 16, 2010 -
12 answers
LDR turned SDR goes sour fast - now my relationship's up in the air for the first time ever. Help!
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 21, 2010 -
20 answers
How can I understand, and empathize, with my fiancee's psychological issues? And other difficult-to-articulate questions.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 17, 2009 -
65 answers
I feel like my life is over and I'm only 35. I feel completely stagnant and stuck, relationshipwise and jobwise. Do I need to change things or do I need to learn how to deal? Help me figure out how to be a happier person.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 28, 2009 -
34 answers
I'm dating a wonderful guy. We're about to move in together. I'm kind of nervous, and starting to get irritable and argumentative. How do I not do that?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 20, 2009 -
12 answers
What steps did you take to find your partner in spite of social anxiety or severe shyness?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 2, 2009 -
33 answers
I'd like advice on how to overcome my fear of disapproval from others. It manifests itself as lack of confidence/assertiveness, self-consciousness, anxiety and fear of not being good enough. Looking for all kinds of techniques, suggestions.
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posted by richar4
on Mar 8, 2009 -
16 answers
Does your partner have certain situational phobias that prevent a flow of communication or avoidance of certain places such as being out too far, or avoiding elevators for fear they will break down? If so how do you handle it?
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posted by InterestedInKnowing
on Sep 4, 2008 -
6 answers
I'm in a relationship with a wonderful person who has Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Does anyone have any advice on how to support him and myself?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 1, 2008 -
8 answers
I know similar questions have been asked, but here goes...I've had anxiety and depression for awhile now, but more severely the last few months. I've been seeing a therapist, and have been on some medicine, and both have helped, but I'm looking for more help
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posted by rbf1138
on May 14, 2006 -
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