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Can I change my workaholic boyfriend?

Should I bother continuing to date a workaholic in his forties who barely has time for me, let alone for a hypothetical future family? [more inside]
posted by Guinevere on Jul 4, 2015 - 33 answers

Catching up on/with an ex years after a bad break-up?

4+ years ago, I ended a long-term relationship on pretty bad terms (I was at fault). ex cut off all contact. I'm in a very different place than I was then (obviously) and I've grown curious about what she's up to now, but she appears to have me perma-blocked on Facebook. is there any way I can ask how she's doing? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 1, 2015 - 44 answers

parents hated my boyfriend, but love my sister's boyfriend

My parents didn't accept my boyfriend for about six of the seven years that we've been dating due to his physical disability. Now my younger sister has a new boyfriend whom my parents wholly and happily accept, and as childish as this is, this is bringing up all sorts of unpleasant feelings. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 29, 2015 - 9 answers

Worries about our relationship in face of shitty cancer diagnosis

Please help me sort out my feelings about my relationship with my boyfriend, my relationship with his cancer, and how the two might be interplaying. [more inside]
posted by starstarstar on Jun 29, 2015 - 17 answers

My boyfriend's ex is his "best friend."

My boyfriend had a pretty awful 10-year relationship with his ex girlfriend. After they broke up three years ago, things recovered to the point where they are really good friends. I feel like their friendship has unhealthy elements and I'm not sure how best to proceed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 29, 2015 - 23 answers

Why am I not in love with my amazing friend who loves me?

My close male friend is in infatuated love with me – I fancy him and think he’s great. I don’t want a relationship with him or anyone else. We keep on being friends but his love keeps on pouring out of him and it makes me feel pressured. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by mrmulliner on Jun 26, 2015 - 22 answers

How to navigate a potential divorce?

Hi. This is me. I have been thinking for a couple weeks and am leaning towards divorce. I have multiple questions about this. [more inside]
posted by a strong female character on Jun 24, 2015 - 41 answers

Should I pay my boyfriend rent if I'm crashing with him for 1 month?

I have a gap in between leases, and my boyfriend graciously agreed to let me crash at his place for a month. Should I offer to pay him rent? [more inside]
posted by placoderm on Jun 23, 2015 - 19 answers

Relationship with my husband

I can't help today but complain, I am in nursing school and I am married. My life is hell. I am in an accelerated nursing program bachelors and I am extremely busy and on top of it my husband is supportive in some ways and very unsupportive in other waysz.he does most of the house chores and cooks most nights. I get that this is hard on him too but I feel that he wants things el that he wants things his way or no way, if I say something that he disagrees about it. [more inside]
posted by barexamfreak on Jun 23, 2015 - 20 answers

Toxic ex broke up with me and wants to get back together

I'm conflicted with this sensitive, hard situation. My ex of 2.5 years broke up with me roughly 4 months ago due to him recently becoming aware of his issues (anger, depression, possible bipolar disorder, childhood issues, binge eating). He seems to be increasingly struggling with his issues day by day He mentioned that he still loves/cares for me, and wants to become a better person for me, build a life together but can't do these things until he gets better. We've talked on and off after the break up. He saw me out with a new guy and is now worried about potentially losing me and wants to get back together. [more inside]
posted by ruebeignet on Jun 23, 2015 - 37 answers

First time woes...

Short version: I had sex for the first time with someone I thought I really liked, but it didn't quite go the way I expected it to and now I'm completely panicking about it. Long version inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 21, 2015 - 12 answers

Couples Therapists in NYC: recommendations

My partner and I are looking for a couples therapist in NYC - preferably Brooklyn and Manhattan. We tried one therapist about 8 months ago but we both felt he wasn't a good fit and quit after a few sessions. I'm looking for someone who really engages us and is both professional and empathetic. We have CIGNA and United Oxford insurances and would like to remain in-network if possible. Please share your recommendations, therapist hunting is really hard. Thanks!!
posted by whatdoyouthink? on Jun 21, 2015 - 3 answers

How to keep the one your with

I'm curious to know your stories, or what it is that keeps you happy in the relationship you are in? Also is it possible to grow in love with a person when you are in a happy relationship? Before I confused love with infatuation and I don't want to go through that again! [more inside]
posted by red47Apple on Jun 20, 2015 - 11 answers

Did my boyfriend just get married?

This is such a silly question, but I would appreciate AskMe's perspective. My boyfriend and I are long distance, and yesterday I stumbled on "wedding" photos of him and his ex that were taken two weeks ago. He told me that it was from a video that his university is making for new students to show how glamorous graduate school life can be (he's a professor and an alum). Am I being irrational in doubting him? [more inside]
posted by sockpuppetry on Jun 19, 2015 - 235 answers

How can I respectfully make out with pretty ladies?

I have a boyfriend who I am very happy with. However, I would like to smooch some random pretty ladies, and random pretty ladies seem interested in smooching me. How can I go about this in a way that's best for everybody involved? [more inside]
posted by brisquette on Jun 18, 2015 - 30 answers

Dating confusion

Please help me sort out a new-ish dating situation. [more inside]
posted by young sister beacon on Jun 16, 2015 - 31 answers

Feeling conflicted about what you want from relationships

How do you decide if you want something casual or something serious? Can you pursue both at the same time? How do you keep it casual if that is what you want from a relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 16, 2015 - 8 answers

Why do I punish myself like this

I was in a terrible relationship with a girl for about ten months. It was the first longterm relationship for both of us, even though we're both 27/28. Btw I am also a female. [more inside]
posted by otterboxdefender on Jun 13, 2015 - 54 answers

Reducing suffering when making a choice between two relationships

A few months ago, I met an amazing new person with whom I would like to pursue a committed romantic relationship, but I am still in a prior long-term relationship with many problems of its own. How can I decide whether it is fair and right to leave my old boyfriend to continue dating this new person? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 10, 2015 - 45 answers

Too many non sequiturs - how to deal with communication prob in new rel?

My boyfriend is a great listener but often replies with non sequiturs or very general responses. Please help us solve this communication problem. [more inside]
posted by NeverGrowSoOldAgain on Jun 9, 2015 - 25 answers

Should I go on a second date with a guy I'm not physically attracted to?

I just went on a first date with a guy I met online. He's funny, sweet, and nice. He paid for my drink and did not make me feel uncomfortable at all. We talked for about 2 hours and we seemed to have some common interests. I could sense that he's into me because at the end of the date, he asked me if he could see me again soon. I told him I'd have to see when I can because I have a busy week ahead. [more inside]
posted by missybitsy on Jun 7, 2015 - 26 answers

Should we break up or try to make this work?

My boyfriend and I are having trouble deciding whether to work on things or split up. We don't have any huge problems with our relationship...except one. His career demands that he spend a significant amount of time far away from where I live. We are having a hard time determining if this is worth working on or if we should both try to move on despite being deeply in love. [more inside]
posted by Rock 'em Sock 'em on Jun 6, 2015 - 13 answers

Can this be saved?

I have been seeing someone for the last 2 months. I am strongly attracted to him but often feel like we have nothing in common and not much to talk about. How much of a chance do I give this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 4, 2015 - 19 answers

Self-Absorbed Boyfriend

My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years, and we’ve recently reached that awful are-we-breaking-up-or-are-we-fighting-for-this moment. The main issue, as far as I see it, is that he is self-absorbed, which causes me to feel disappointed and disconnected from the relationship. [more inside]
posted by attentionplease on May 31, 2015 - 43 answers

Is my partner a narcissist? Or are we not compatible?

I'm very confused about my partner. Let's call him Robert. I'm not sure if my partner is illustrating narcissistic traits or if it is something else? Robert rarely asks about my interests, hobbies, opinions. I think he may lack listening skills and empathy skills to some degree. I think he shows care and love through action instead. He may suspect he might have Aspergers as well. I feel like Robert is always nitpicking my flaws, my goal motives, my personality, and my beliefs. Robert always seems to monopolize the conversation, making it difficult to elaborate and share my points and thoughts on the matter. [more inside]
posted by RearWindow on May 28, 2015 - 37 answers

help with a Google-fu fail

I saw a series of lovely hand-drawn anime-esque cartoons some time ago depicting, in an incredibly sweet and moving way, a couple in a long-term relationship and all its related intimacies. No text or speech-bubbles, just images of two people being together and helping each other. There was one scene of them eating ice-cream together, watching TV, etc. The overall colour palette was warm pink/orange hues. I cannot for the life of me find this again. Turns out terms like "relationship" "happy" "love" "long-term" do not a Google search narrow. If anyone knows that I'm talking about, I would greatly appreciate a link!
posted by starcrust on May 27, 2015 - 2 answers

Not that into someone vs general relationship anxiety

I am trying to sort out my feelings. I can't tell if I am abandoning possible relationships because I am not used to being out of my comfort zone or if I am just not that interested in someone. How do I figure this out? [more inside]
posted by sabina_r on May 26, 2015 - 13 answers

Student - teacher relationships post graduation

I'm looking for examples of policies, laws, or other ways organizations deal with the dynamic of high school student and teacher romantic relationships immediately post-graduation, specifically on the teacher side of things. [more inside]
posted by Nonsteroidal Anti-Inflammatory Drug on May 26, 2015 - 5 answers

Moving home after year abroad - am I making the right decision?

In a few months I will move home - but how can I know this is right for me? [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs on May 18, 2015 - 9 answers

Resources for surviving emotional abuse

I'm seeking techniques, advice and resources on how to protect oneself in an abusive relationship. [more inside]
posted by Les Socks Du Mal on May 6, 2015 - 14 answers

What is sexual compatibility if libido is not a problem?

Trying to get over a recent Ex who I thought was perfect except for sexual compatibility. I'm trying to unpack this concept and get advice on whether different sexual styles (libido is not a problem) is a dealbreaker. There's no chance of getting him back, but it might help me move on. [more inside]
posted by minoraltercation on May 5, 2015 - 15 answers

I was diagnosed with herpes this weekend. Please anecdote me.

I feel guilty that my SO has to deal with this through no fault of his own. Our sex life is amazing and I know this would put a damper on it. He's supportive, but I worry that that might change. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 5, 2015 - 23 answers

How do I deal with these complicated feelings?

At the last minute this evening, my SO changed our plans due to the needs of his ex. This isn't the first time it's happened. How do I handle this type of situation without feeling like a jerk? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 28, 2015 - 46 answers

How to deal with a family who disproves of the partner that you love?

I've seen questions like mine all over the internet. I've scoured the internet for endless hours in search of effective coping strategies, but every situation is unique. I'm hoping to find some valuable information for my own situation, which I fear may crumble if I do. [more inside]
posted by soochala on Apr 28, 2015 - 43 answers

Should I break up?

I'm in a 9 month relationship and have been wrestling with the decision to break up for most of its duration. I don't know if the problem lies with me or if the relationship is truly a bad one. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by CheeseAndRice on Apr 23, 2015 - 17 answers

"You can't handle the truth!" But I need to learn how to...

Last week, my partner admitted that he's been not just hiding things, but outright lying to me. The revelations hurt, but I need honesty if we're to stay together. How do I make it safe for my partner to tell me the truth when it's repeatedly been so startling and upsetting? Difficulty level: partner is dealing with Major Depression, and has been near-suicidal. [more inside]
posted by Someone Else's Story on Apr 17, 2015 - 56 answers

Rough waters in early-ish sobriety

Posting for a friend: "My SO is several months sober, after a few decades of alcohol and drug abuse, and is having a rough time of it. They chose sobriety, and often say they're happy to be sober, that they know it's the right choice, etc. Basically, the sobriety was not court-ordered but a result of "enough is enough." They're seeing a therapist regularly, going to meetings, taking an antidepressant...and still feeling crappy. What can we do? [more inside]
posted by elken on Apr 16, 2015 - 17 answers

Need relationship advice

So this is an interesting relationship situation for sure, but I need advice: [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 14, 2015 - 45 answers

The truth is, Mom I just don't like you.

I need some advice and strategies on how to deal with my mother and survive seeing her without feeling like crap for a week afterwards. [more inside]
posted by sisforsock on Apr 5, 2015 - 29 answers

Life After No-Drinking-Allowed: what's the next step?

I gave my problematic-drinker boyfriend an ultimatum to stop drinking for at least 30 days, and he accepted the challenge. Which is great... except I have no game plan for what comes next. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 4, 2015 - 33 answers

Am I being supporting or sacrificial? Taking things back a step

My boyfriend (just turned 30, and I'm 24) of nearly 7 months is very recently divorced (it was finalized 4 months ago and they have been separated for 9). He's the most open and communicative person I've ever met and keeps me as much in the loop as I need to be about where he's at and how he's feeling regarding his loss (but also keeps some details to himself that I probably don't really need to know about.) Our relationship started out very mutual and enthusiastic, and mostly still is but he's taking a few steps back to analyze himself and it's triggering my relationship anxiety. I don't know whether to trust my gut or quiet the fear. [more inside]
posted by korrasamus on Mar 30, 2015 - 26 answers

Is online dating a good idea? If so, which site should I choose?

I'm 23 years old and I have had limited experience with dating in person. I'm pretty busy with school that it keeps me from meeting people I like. Therefore, I've considered doing online dating but I'm a little concerned about catfish and people who just want to hookups. For those of you who have experience with online dating, does online dating have a good pool of people who look for a serious relationship? If so, are paid sites like eHarmony or match.com better than free sites such as OKCupid? Thank you for your response!
posted by missybitsy on Mar 24, 2015 - 31 answers

Ten years of EXTREME doubt and regret about relationship

Its been ten years since I broke up with my daughter's father for the first time (of many), and I still go through periods of extreme doubt and regret. I'm not talking about having fleeting moments of uncertainty; I will literally ruminate for days about our relationship and what went wrong and wonder if we should/could fix it. [more inside]
posted by aprilc34 on Mar 22, 2015 - 24 answers

A name for people who don't adhere to the relationship escalator?

Is there a name for a subculture of people who do not adhere to the relationship escalator but are not strictly LGBTQ or polyamorous? [more inside]
posted by deathpanels on Mar 21, 2015 - 26 answers

I'm not being unreasonable... right?

My boyfriend has connections on LinkedIn that I would like him to get rid off. He thinks I'm being unreasonable. Am I? [more inside]
posted by milque on Mar 20, 2015 - 49 answers

Cross-cultural relationship, family problems

We are planning a future together... If only my family would accept him in spite of his race and religion. Snowflakes entail. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 17, 2015 - 20 answers

How do I navigate my eating disorder with my (likely former) boyfriend?

At my therapist's suggestion, I want my boyfriend to treat my binge eating as if it is not negative, but actually positive. He claims that this is insane and akin to buying drinks for an alcoholic. This difference of opinion led me to say that we shouldn't see each other anymore, and I want to know if I made the right decision, or I am indeed being irrational. Long story ahead. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 17, 2015 - 25 answers

Long distance or bust!

I'm want to (eventually) move to be with a boyfriend 8,000 miles away. Am I being an idiot? Apologies in advance for the long letter inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 11, 2015 - 30 answers

Boyfriend acting strange after spending several nights together?

We're both in our 30's and have been together for 4 months. We made things official a few weeks ago, but only because I asked how he sees us and he responded that he thinks of us as being in a relationship. We've never spent this much time together before, and he's the kind of guy who needs to take a break for a 3 days after long weekend dates. I'm not clingy, he initiates most dates. [more inside]
posted by lohachata on Mar 11, 2015 - 58 answers

How to process personal criticism from a failed relationship?

Very messy breakup that involved a lot of confusing signals and a lot of personal criticism. How do I untangle this, get healthy, and work on being a better person? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 9, 2015 - 34 answers

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