how to you embrace different or opposite opinions from yours, instead of being offended or upset or pressured by it?
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posted by akomom
on May 23, 2012 -
8 answers
My wife of 14 years never tells me she loves me. She never initiates sex. She never holds my hand, kisses or casually touches me. No pillow talk. No thoughtful little gifts. I do all of these things for her as often as I can.
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posted by anonymous
on May 22, 2012 -
43 answers
Four years ago I married a great guy. We've been together a total of eight years. Sometime around when we got married...maybe a little before, I stopped wanting sex with him. I dreaded it on our wedding night/honeymoon. At first I thought it was just a phase, something to do with wedding planning burnout and general nerves. Four years later, it's even worse than it was. Otherwise, we have a good relationship, I think. We have everything in common, a shared worldview, good communication. Because of the sexual issue, we have talked numerous times about separating. I guess what I can't figure out is, why this has happened, and if our entire relationship is worth ending over it.
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posted by sugartown
on May 20, 2012 -
80 answers
My friend-with-benefits rarely texts me or asks to see me. So I think he's probably not that into it. But then he spends hours fixing things around the house for me. What would explain this?
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posted by anonymous
on May 17, 2012 -
39 answers
[Psycho Filter] - I love him. He loves me. We intend to get married next year. YAY! But it feels like a
really long time away. Help me to be patient and enjoy the anticipation and build up, because right now I am suffocating in a world of "OMG CAN WE PLZ GET MARRIED YESTERDAY!" eagerness.
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posted by gwenlister
on May 16, 2012 -
27 answers
About three weeks ago, we moved into a fantastic new apartment; we are renting. Last Friday, the water heater in the apartment across the hall burst causing extensive damage to our apartment. What are our rights with respect to rent and reasonable expectations regarding quality of life following this incident? Extended explanation inside.
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posted by JuniorBCat
on May 11, 2012 -
7 answers
He is an old friend of mine, and I recently helped him out by getting him a role at our company where I am senior developer.
Issue is buddy demonstrates a supremely arrogant streak, and loses his temper during discussions about architecture – when the approach under discussion is not his and tends to pout for the afternoon or storm off. This has come to a situation where I want to terminate his contract and will also probably terminate a very old friendship.
Catharsis below the fold...
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posted by the noob
on May 11, 2012 -
22 answers
Help me get through a toxic and stressful situation (revolves around work) and successfully get some coping mechanisms (and cajones) for the first time ever.
After a couple years of amazing- work has gotten tough-and I need help getting through it- and I respect you guys on MeFi a lot... I'm getting support but there must be some other things I could be doing. I've attempted to write in order of: context, challenge, question.
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posted by misspony
on May 6, 2012 -
12 answers
Cohabiting couples, how do you handle the housework? Is there a clear distinction between your mess and their mess?
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posted by emelenjr
on May 4, 2012 -
52 answers
how not to feel the need to justify myself in front of my parents. Because their approval should not matter at this point of my life, but I am still angry when they compares me to others in achievement.
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posted by akomom
on May 3, 2012 -
8 answers
So, you might remember my question
'help me navigate and not screw up this budding online relationship', in which I managed to self sabotage a good thing w/ a guy who was really into me by dragging on a conversation online for 4 months and screwing up 3 attempts to meet. Well, I re-read our entire conversation and it seems he had subtly made attempts to hang out 2 additional times! (I don't know what's wrong with me and why I was being so daft, scared or evasive). I took you all's advice and apologized for flaking on our first official/somewhat organized meetup in which my rules about being feminine/cautious caused me to act like an idiot. His specific response to my date suggestions was ...
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posted by soooo
on May 3, 2012 -
36 answers
I'm falling in love with my boyfriend, but he doesn't think he'll fall in love with me. Should I end it?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 29, 2012 -
58 answers
Should I work harder for my relationship or is it beyond saving at this point? I don't know if I'm sacrificing too much for something that will never work.
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posted by lleguana
on Apr 22, 2012 -
49 answers
I've determined that I need to get out of my current live-in romantic relationship. How do I stick to my guns and break up?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 22, 2012 -
28 answers
My fiance is not speaking to me. We are in a long-distance relationship. He is depressed, has ADHD, a probable gaming addiction, and not doing well in law school. How can I help him?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 21, 2012 -
23 answers
Both my partner and I are competitive and we are fairly bad winners/losers. This is inconvenient because we both really like playing boardgames together... help.
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posted by gwenlister
on Apr 18, 2012 -
46 answers
I'm still dealing with the aftermath of infidelity and would like some advice.
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posted by zinful
on Apr 18, 2012 -
45 answers
How does a single parent cope with an already limited social life and general stress with the added crap of breaking up (again!)?
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posted by retrofitted
on Apr 16, 2012 -
10 answers
Those who have read or are familiar with Mira Kirshenbaum's "Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay:" recommend books / resources for dealing with my Power Person wife.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 16, 2012 -
20 answers
I need some advice on how to communicate better with my dad and hopefully improve our relationship.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 15, 2012 -
11 answers
I can't stop thinking about asking my ex for another try. This is probably a bad idea, but should I just ask anyway, just so I know I tried my best?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 13, 2012 -
12 answers
Do healthy, happy couples ever have periods where one or the other feels the ennui of "I love you, but I'm not
in love with you?" If so, how do they resolve it? How do they decide if it's worth resolving?
posted by Caligula's Idiot Cousin
on Apr 10, 2012 -
12 answers
Am I doing the right thing with this breakup? Is there hope or do I need to push through it?
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posted by ot_refresh
on Apr 6, 2012 -
26 answers
I would probably get back together with my ex if he asked me to do so, atleast today. I think I need to date other people to get him out of my head. What are the ethics of that?
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posted by athena2255
on Apr 6, 2012 -
31 answers
Why can't I control my stupid feelings? Love one guy, distracted by another, engaged to be married. Advice/personal experience?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 6, 2012 -
33 answers
Why do we want ppl the more they don't want us and how can I start talking myself out of really bad ideas? (e.g. - once I get an idea *usually bad* in my head to do something, I rationalize to the hilt why I should follow through and always end up doing it) Help me find balance! ....
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posted by soooo
on Apr 5, 2012 -
16 answers
Am I on the rebound? I don't think I am, but when you hear my story you might think I am. How do I know for myself?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 5, 2012 -
18 answers
Reverse-breakup filter! We broke up, but both clearly still feel deeply for one another. So... now what? What determines whether a relationship is worth going back to? As always, snowflakes inside!
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posted by WidgetAlley
on Apr 4, 2012 -
10 answers
I asked for him to give us another try. He said he didn't know how to respond, needed some time/space to think, and that we'd talk soon. MeFi poll: how many days would this mean to you? Explanation inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 3, 2012 -
26 answers
How have you (or have you not) reconciled your feminism with an unexpected and expanding sense of submission, which is not limited to the merely or nearly sexual?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 28, 2012 -
25 answers
Maybe be starting a potential relationship with a person I met over the internet. He's funny, sweet, and we have so much in common - the only qualm is that he's pretty overweight. I'm thin and have battled with a life long eating disorder. What should I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 26, 2012 -
9 answers
Should I be concerned about this minor but weird apparent untruth by my SO, or let it go?
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posted by Pomo
on Mar 25, 2012 -
53 answers
Why is my ex (who dumped me) still contacting me a year later? We only dated for a few months and then he dumped me by text. I, understandably upset, deleted and blocked him online and off my phone and went on with my life. Since then he's been sending me texts or e-mails every few months.
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posted by Dynex
on Mar 21, 2012 -
41 answers
Relationship filter: New guy. His former flame. Her very bad medical condition. Wondering how to control my anxieties.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 21, 2012 -
17 answers
My mother won't accept that she hurt me emotionally as a teenager. How can I learn to deal with this situation without losing respect and love?
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posted by arhammer
on Mar 20, 2012 -
43 answers
How do I decline an open dinner invitation from an acquaintance with whom I do not wish to spend time?
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posted by kellygreen
on Mar 18, 2012 -
17 answers
Im 22 years old college male and never had a serious relationship. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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posted by Parh6512
on Mar 18, 2012 -
20 answers
