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How to reverse relationship with work colleague

I just moved to a new team who I've worked with in the past but not a ton. I've gotten off to a rocky start with one of the people on the team and it's all on me. How do I make her make want to continue working with me? [more inside]
posted by sandmanwv on Jul 8, 2016 - 21 answers

How can I maintain a social life balance when all I want is my SO?

One of the reasons my last long-term relationship failed was because we didn't have any/many friends outside of each other. I want to avoid that in my current relationship, but unlike my last one, my current boyfriend and I love doing all the same things together so it's hard to reconcile doing things separately with friends that we'd prefer to do with each other. [more inside]
posted by majesty_snowbird on Jul 7, 2016 - 28 answers

how do couples argue successfully?

I've read that successful couples argue. How can I do this in productive way with my partner? [more inside]
posted by diode on Jul 2, 2016 - 19 answers

How to get results from unemployed spouse?

His unemployment benefits just ran out, and he likes to use the coping skill of avoidance. He clams up for conversations about money or what he is planning to do. I'm pregnant and cannot support both of us and a child without overextending myself. I want to be supportive, because historically I have lost my cool around these issues. But I also don't want to be so supportive that he isn't motivated to do everything possible to fix things. [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato on Jul 2, 2016 - 93 answers

Do I squash the seed of leaving or just let it grow?

I've been thinking a lot about my relationship. Maybe it was a mistake asking a question before, but now I can't stop thinking and debating, feeling guilty and exhausted about my relationship. Please advise for hopefully the last time I bring this up. The snowflakes are falling inside and it's a long post, sorry. [more inside]
posted by socky bottoms on Jun 30, 2016 - 35 answers

Living with an alcoholic boyfriend

I am in a pickle. My boyfriend is an alcoholic (probably the functioning kind- whatever that is,) and we live together. We have been together for almost two years. I can't stand the drinking anymore, and I have tried nearly every avenue to remedy it within the relationship. The only thing I can think to do now, is move out so that I can distance myself from his alcoholism. [more inside]
posted by Wizzow on Jun 30, 2016 - 66 answers

Getting some on the side, with permission.

My spouse has given me permission to have sex outside of our marriage, has expressed a desire for me to do so. This is not something that I have necessarily wanted to do, but I believe it is something I should consider for reasons I will explain inside. Have you or someone that you know done this? If so, what are the pitfalls? What are some good ground rules? What worked and what didn't? What should I consider before taking this step? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 28, 2016 - 19 answers

I think you need therapy...

I really want my partner to try therapy but she really doesn't want to. How do we resolve this? [more inside]
posted by myitkyina on Jun 23, 2016 - 35 answers

Say something or don’t. What to do about a crush?

When my partner and I first got to together a few years ago, one of her friends jokingly said something like “I saw you online, too but ‘Sally’ got to you first” (she was also doing the online dating thing as most of us who were single seemed to be doing at that time.) I laughed it off; she seemed to be kidding around. She – I’ll call her ‘Rebecca’ – is a member of one of my partner’s friendship circles. We’re all women in our 30s and 40s. [more inside]
posted by Lescha on Jun 23, 2016 - 34 answers

Fairness in Splitting Housing Expenses as a Couple

My fiancé is moving in with me (hooray!) and I'm trying to figure out how to split the mortgage and other things equitably. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 17, 2016 - 24 answers

Seeking to be more mature and less insecure in my marriage

We have been married for 2 years, and had a crazy amount of stressful things come our way at once. I don't have the best upbringing or modeling for the healthy relationship I strive for, but I do try. I need examples of healthy ways to think about these situations, healthy self-talk mantras I can use, and tools I can use to determine when I am being unreasonable and when I am being appropriate in my expectations. [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato on Jun 5, 2016 - 40 answers

In a relationship but feeling empty…

I am living in a country that is quite far from mine because I got a great opportunity to work here in a newspaper. I’ve been dating a man for a year. I have feelings for him and know that he does for me too. However, I often feel shallow and full of doubts about our relationship. The first reason is that I cannot share a lot of my interests and ideas with him. I have a strong intellectual side. I like to read, discuss ideas, and learn stuff. My boyfriend is only interested in discussing gadgets, fashion, sports, and computers. I don’t mind these topics but I like more ‘intellectual’ things as well and I don’t like not being able to share them with him. I have also found out that some of his opinions are quite conservative and it bothers me because I am very liberal. [more inside]
posted by Fromthesouth on May 31, 2016 - 23 answers

Starting a relationship with someone who's in a bad place

I met someone on OKCupid about a week ago and we really hit it off. We've been chatting on Facebook and Skype for around 6 hours every day which I've never done with anyone before. We've never met in person because she lives about 2 hours away, but things seemed to be heading somewhere serious. She's in a horrible situation right now though. She's from another country and she basically has no money and no income. [more inside]
posted by Chenko on May 31, 2016 - 25 answers

Dissecting anxiety in a relationship

So I'm in a new relationship. Two months. He's great! Yay! But some subtle things have turned me into a neurotic mess, and now I'm having a hard time differentiating between irrational neurotic anxiety and actual concerns that I'm brushing off as a result of an anxiety disorder. [more inside]
posted by Amy93 on May 18, 2016 - 15 answers

Ex's grandma just passed away. Should I text him?

I was dating this 23-yo guy for about 5 months but we were never official. We broke up in March because I wanted the relationship to progress and he didn't. Since then, we still continue to talk and we hang out as friends about once a month. He knows that I want us to get back together since I've initiated us hanging out the past few times. He's told me he enjoys my company and he's considering giving us another chance. The last time we met, he told me he'd text me when he's done with his final exams so we can meet up. I just found out through FB that his grandmother just passed away. I never got to meet any of his family but he has talked about them before. Would it be okay if I send a text sharing my condolence? I really do feel bad for him. Or should I just wait and see if he texts me to meet up and then tell him in person?
posted by missybitsy on May 16, 2016 - 29 answers

Suddenly long distance, suddenly panicked

Our relationship is really great by any measure and makes me very happy... but now we're apart for the summer, and I'm stuck in obsessive anxiety about my feelings. Help! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 16, 2016 - 6 answers

He didn't forget my birthday, but it feels like it

My boyfriend didn't say happy birthday to me, which I'm convincing myself is not that big of a deal, but I don't know why it's annoying me so much. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by socky bottoms on May 10, 2016 - 120 answers

Short relationship and he asked for space to think about things

I feel pretty upset that this guy I've been dating for 1.5 months (and known for longer) has suddenly decided he needs space while I was away. He has every right to choose to stop seeing me but we see each other frequently in our social circle and where he works/works out at and will continue to for another 3 months, so I told him I would like to talk to him about it in person. [more inside]
posted by korrasamus on May 10, 2016 - 18 answers

How do you teach boundaries and respect?

Is it possible to teach an adult how to be considerate and respect boundaries? If a child grows up without boundaries, is it impossible to learn? [more inside]
posted by serenity_now on May 9, 2016 - 29 answers

Rebuilding trust in my relationship

How can I stop beating myself up for experiencing insecurity? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 9, 2016 - 12 answers

How to listen without offering solutions?

I'm in a relationship for the first time in a few years. When my girlfriend comes to me with problems or things that are bothering her, I'm intellectually aware that she's not looking for solutions or fixes unless she asks, she's looking for understanding and empathy. However, I'm just not practiced providing that kind of emotional support and often find myself at a loss for words. How do I do it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 7, 2016 - 35 answers

Help me understand the end of my relationship with a trauma survivor

I'm still trying to make sense of how a man with PTSD/trauma survivor I dated broke things off with me. Looking for insights and resources about the psychology of someone who has gone through hell and come out the other side and how that affects their ability to have a relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 7, 2016 - 24 answers

Major Relationship Issue- How to Control My Resentment?

I'm currently harboring a lot of resentment towards my girlfriend. Her brother is a molester and she's unsure of what to do about it, and she has cancelled our wedding due to being unsure and afraid of losing the rest of her family. I have no idea what to do or where to turn, how can I stop feeling resentful? [more inside]
posted by Firestorm 2018 on May 7, 2016 - 45 answers

Need advice on helping my wife cope with her best friend moving away

My wife just learned her best friend is moving to a different city and is now very sad. How can I help? [more inside]
posted by glenngulia on May 5, 2016 - 7 answers

Clarifying a breakup over email- good or bad idea?

I broke up with my boyfriend of two years two days ago (on Skype, since it was a long distance relationship). I'm horrible at expressing my thoughts and emotions in person/by voice, especially when I'm upset, so the Skype breakup involved a lot of crying and me not being able to answer his questions properly. It was really horrible and I feel terrible. My question is, now that I've had a couple days to calm down and think more clearly--would it be okay to send him a single email that more coherently says everything that I want to say, but didn't get to say? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 4, 2016 - 22 answers

Married but interested in younger/beautiful girls

I have been married with an older woman for about 4 years and now I have developed interests towards younger girls. [more inside]
posted by wondering_man on May 4, 2016 - 52 answers

Not another narcissist? (covert)

I recently started dating a guy who seems great in a lot of ways, but a friend recently suggested he might be a "covert narcissist". Both of my previous relationships have been with overt narcissists and ended pretty badly, so naturally I'm not happy to hear this but am willing to consider it a possibility. [more inside]
posted by seraph9 on May 2, 2016 - 19 answers

New relationship - how can I learn to chill the *&#! out?

So, I'm in a new relationship, we've been together about 2 months. Although I liked him from the beginning, he was slightly keener and always the one arranging dates, etc. I told him I was a slow burner, he was ok with that and happy to go my pace. [more inside]
posted by Britchick35 on May 2, 2016 - 9 answers

Is she too young for me?

I am a 36 year old guy who has gotten out of a divorce about a year ago. I have known this girl since approx 5 years, but not very closely for most of that period. She is 22 now. She told me some time back that she has a huge crush on me and wants, at the very least, some sort of a fling with me. I am not sure how to respond because of background and some practical challenges. [more inside]
posted by questionsquestions on Apr 28, 2016 - 88 answers

Contact between dates

I've been seeing a great guy. All of his behavior indicates that he's interested in me... except he's almost stopped initiating contact in the past week. I'm anxious as hell about this. I need help figuring out what this could be and how to approach it, if at all. [more inside]
posted by Amy93 on Apr 26, 2016 - 16 answers

Leaving 1 year old for a week with grandparents, good or bad idea?

Our daughter will turn 1 in August, and we have been invited to a friend's wedding in Italy (we are in the US), so we would need about 7-9 days. We normally take her with us on travels, but it's too much of a long travel flight time for her as she hasn't been on a plane yet, so bringing her is out of the question. We did want to go on a vacation just us two after her 1 year so it kind of works out perfectly. But, I'm afraid now that the time is come that she is too young, and that it will be too hard on her (and me), and I feel a tiny bit guilty leaving her. We could really use a vacation to relax and reconnect. My mother (her grandmother) is her caretaker during the week because we both work full time, so they are very comfortable with one another and I trust her completely. Has anyone traveled that long without your baby, how did it turn out?
posted by MamaBee223 on Apr 26, 2016 - 27 answers

How to cope with a spouse's abusive parent's suicide?

My beloved spouse's extremely abusive [estranged] father killed himself about a month ago. They're having a hard time coping, and me too. I don't know how to support them and to cope with their limited functional ability in our relationship and in life in general. I'm looking for resources to help me with this. [more inside]
posted by gloraelin on Apr 26, 2016 - 7 answers

New relationship good practices

Please give me your best practices for starting a relationship off on the right foot. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 13, 2016 - 10 answers

Does this email have romantic overtones?

My partner and I have minor trust issues to deal with. He had an email exchange with an old ex- that I asked to read and have mixed feelings about and I'd like to hear your outside unbiased perceptions of it. [more inside]
posted by miaow on Apr 12, 2016 - 39 answers

New "relationship" moving too fast

I started seeing this guy 2.5 weeks ago. He's great. We click really well, he's incredibly nice and funny and sweet and all else. But in that time we've gone from just meeting to knowing a ton of intimate details about each other's lives (mental health problems, his father's alcoholism, his sister's self-harm) and cuddling and kissing at his place for eight hours straight. It's not like it's horribly unreasonable but I'm overwhelmed and scared and need help setting limits/managing my emotions. [more inside]
posted by Amy93 on Apr 9, 2016 - 20 answers

I miss my old life, pre-baby & feel extremely guilty...is this normal?

Nobody can prepare you for motherhood, nobody can even come close to describing the joys, sadness and all other mixes of emotions that come with adding a new life to your family. And nobody really shared the struggles or "not so pretty" side to motherhood, so with my feelings of yearning for my old life I feel so guilty that I haven't embraced this new life with an open heart and arms...are these feelings normal? Do mothers and fathers roles cause resentment, because there is inevitibly more responsiblity on the mothers (by nature to nurture if that makes sense)? How do you maintain a relationship with your SO when life seems to be so seperate now that a baby has arrived? A lot of the fun we had together is now seperate. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 8, 2016 - 40 answers

Was my ex a narcissist?

I just emerged from a relationship of several months which I have since realized was emotionally abusive. In attempting to understand it I have come to think that maybe she had NPD, but I don't know whether this is an accurate characterization. [more inside]
posted by myitkyina on Apr 4, 2016 - 25 answers

How do I stop lashing out?

I have a very destructive pattern in most of my relationships and friendships. The closer the relationship is, the worse it gets. I can usually always maintain composure at work but personal life is another story. After I lash out, I say so many nasty and hurtful things that the friendship/relationship is irrecoverably damaged or ends all together. How to change this? [more inside]
posted by sockiety on Apr 3, 2016 - 17 answers

wanting to want me ain't the real thing

Help me define and communicate my own needs with my sporadically emotionally unavailable new girlfriend. [more inside]
posted by missmary6 on Mar 29, 2016 - 16 answers

Is my anxiety ruining things or is something really off (dating)?

About a month ago I started seeing a guy with whom I felt an instant spark (very rare for me). Almost immediately my anxiety kicked in and I started worrying that he wouldn't like me, was taking days to return my emails, etc. Then he told me he really likes me and my anxiety switched around to maybe I don't like him and almost compulsively looking for flaws / red flags. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 28, 2016 - 10 answers

Gottman Institute couples' weekend workshop - worth it?

My wife and I are thinking of signing up for one of the Gottman Institute's weekend couples' workshops in Seattle. We're wondering if it's worth the $800 price tag, or if we could put the time and money to better use in terms of helping our marriage. [more inside]
posted by El Curioso on Mar 28, 2016 - 9 answers

I am not my type's type

I keep being envious of women that have sparkling, bubbly, fun, energetic and confident personalities. Nearly every guy I ever liked has ended up falling head over heels for a woman like that. Details below the fold.... [more inside]
posted by sockiety on Mar 15, 2016 - 20 answers

Relationship mess. Is walking the only reasonable option?

I really don't know what to do. My partner keeps lying. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 14, 2016 - 102 answers

Effectively communicating my feeling neglected

My boyfriend a few months ago started a new job in my home country. He has never worked overseas before, and the nature of the new job and the cultural differences are making it really difficult for him, taking up a lot of his time and mental space. I am feeling neglected. I want to communicate this without stressing him out more than he already is. [more inside]
posted by milque on Mar 14, 2016 - 25 answers

Who am I?

I'm 28 and my life is a mess and I don't know where to start fixing it. A big part of the problem is that I don't feel like I have any sense of who I am. How can I find out? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 11, 2016 - 18 answers

Should I have a fling or continue my not-quite-vow of celibacy ?

I have met a man who I think *may* be open to this & who is moving in 2 months - but I recently promised myself no casual sex/relationship only. What would you do? [more inside]
posted by Ariel432 on Mar 10, 2016 - 26 answers

How to start difficult relationship conversations

I need to talk to my boyfriend about some issues in our relationship, but I'm notoriously bad at confrontation and I never know how to start the conversation. It doesn't help that from my perspective it feels like I have a bunch of complaints without solutions (other than "stop doing that"). I want the conversation to be fair and effective. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 7, 2016 - 13 answers

My mom found my brother's adderall tablets

My mom found adderall tablets in my brother's pencil case and under the couch. My brother flat out denies he takes drugs and is violent when anyone confronts him about it. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by raintree on Mar 6, 2016 - 16 answers

My boyfriend is not good-on-paper. Do such relationships ever work?

I’m crazy about my boyfriend of 7 months (it hurts when we are apart!), but he has some traits to his personality that might make him difficult to live with long term. While lurking on AskMe for quite some time now, trying to find solutions to some of our problems, I see a lot of responses such as “dump him, you will find someone with all these good qualities, who also treats you right in other ways.” I’m sure there’s truth to that, but I’m 38 (he is 39) and last time I was in love I was 20. Love doesn’t come around all that often for me. [more inside]
posted by LakeDream on Mar 6, 2016 - 85 answers

Coming to terms with a messy breakup

This relationship destroyed me. I feel that, after having given a lot, I was led on. But now I don't know whether I was wrong to feel this way... [more inside]
posted by myitkyina on Mar 6, 2016 - 24 answers

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