I don't have a low sex drive, but I rarely want to have sex. Or rather, I WANT to have sex but I don't want to be me while I'm doing it.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 18, 2013 -
22 answers
I meet new people all the time, and have lots of old friends from different phases of my life. I realize I can't keep up with everyone I've ever met, but I'd like a better system for helping to manage new friendships. Is there an app like that?
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posted by amoeba
on Jun 17, 2013 -
6 answers
My girlfriend, who is lonely, used a dating site to make a "friend" which I'm having difficulty coping with. What should I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 14, 2013 -
80 answers
I'm looking for a word or phrase to sum up the following sentiment:
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posted by bac
on Jun 11, 2013 -
42 answers
This was me. Short version: was in a 6 year relationship with about a year of long distance, partner dumped me for someone else out of the blue. A month later he broke up with her and has since been really working hard for us to get back together. I can't imagine trusting him enough to get back into a relationship, but I love him and he's my best friend so we're doing this weird friends-who-miss-one-another and love-one-another thing that I know will eventually end badly. What should I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 11, 2013 -
25 answers
I have had some tough times with my partner of just over two years and we were on the way to solving them. But something new has come up and I am trying to get some perspective on whether it is reasonable for me to carry things on or if I'm in denial and need to end it.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 11, 2013 -
35 answers
4 months ago, I (a woman) broke up with my boyfriend of over a decade. The breakup came out of the blue, and neither of us were prepared for the aftermath that comes with dissolving a household. Things are still not completely done, and I feel like they need to be so that I can actually start to move past that chapter in my life. On the other hand, I've been avoiding dealing with these issues for months because of how my ex lashes out at me every time he gets the chance. I need some help formulating a plan to get it all done and stay sane in the meantime.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 10, 2013 -
12 answers
We usually get together Friday evening, spend all day Saturday, and then I go home Sunday afternoon. He's a self-employed lawyer and has had a habit of going into the office Sunday afternoons to prepare for court Monday. (He goes to court Monday afternoons after working in his office that morning and then works in his office the rest of the week.) If there's a holiday Monday or special event (e.g., Superbowl), he skips going to the office Sunday afternoon, and I'll usually stay Sunday night.
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posted by femmefatale123
on Jun 9, 2013 -
38 answers
Should I wait for an apology from my mother-in-law, let it go, or none of the above? My IRL counsel is giving me mixed answers.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 8, 2013 -
35 answers
Met a guy online about a month ago had about 7 great dates... and 2 or 3 sleepovers...all of a sudden he stopped contacting me...now what?
(sorry for the long long explanation below)
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 8, 2013 -
15 answers
I'm in an amazing relationship, with someone I've known for over two years, and we've been dating for a year-ish. We're both women in our early 20's. I've only dated women up to this point, and been very happy with that. It seems that my brain doesn't want to keep that status quo anymore and is trying to convince me I want to experience being with men.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 6, 2013 -
10 answers
My very sweet, kind, funny, smart, caring, new, younger boyfriend is... how to put this... terrible in bed. Over several months, we've had about a half dozen "encounters" (we live in different cities), and they have left me feeling bewildered, drained, confused, and overwhelmed. It's not that there's one thing that isn't working, and it's not "technique"-- it's like the entire foundation is out of alignment. Either we're just super incompatible, or one of us is doing something wrong. I'd really like to figure out how to approach this, and I don't know how to even begin this conversation.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 1, 2013 -
40 answers
I'm in love with a guy, he has too many issues to be in a relationship right now... Has anyone ever waited for a person like this and had it work out?
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posted by Autumn
on Jun 1, 2013 -
46 answers
I've recently experienced a significant family loss. I also need to leave my long-term partner. How does this go exactly?
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posted by anonymous
on May 31, 2013 -
14 answers
A friend of mine refuses to address his anxiety issues. I don't want to lose him as a friend, but also don't know how much more I can take. Please help.
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posted by stedman15
on May 28, 2013 -
15 answers
My boyfriend and I want to get married but I'm not sure. Is my intuition is telling me something important or is it just fear?
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posted by anonymous
on May 26, 2013 -
14 answers
I have a bad case of relationship ambivalence. She (35, never married) deserves better. I (42, never married) deserve better. But I'm so massively stuck I don't know what to do. Hope me?
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posted by anonymous
on May 25, 2013 -
28 answers
My partner, who is good for me in so many ways, and has made my life incredibly better, is really self-centered in some ways. He is non-neurotypical. It's confusing. What should I do?
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posted by 3491again
on May 23, 2013 -
75 answers
My husband and I have been together for 9 years, married for the last 3. We met when I was 19, and him 21. Recently I have been feeling like I might want out. I still love him, but I am not sure that he is going to change in ways which I would prefer him to.
Should I tell him I want to separate or wait to see if things get better?
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posted by anonymous
on May 19, 2013 -
35 answers
I met a girl at a party and things were going well until I started acting desperate. What can I do to get the situation under control?
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posted by Parh6512
on May 13, 2013 -
57 answers
Two people -- both in 40ish-- are talking about the possibility of moving in together. We are in a loving and serious long-term relationship. There has been an initial talk about how we might handle finances and we came to conclusion that there are many ways we could handle them. I read a few posts about how couples handle finances, but am looking for some more viewpoints/options for us to consider and discuss. Details inside.
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posted by anonymous
on May 6, 2013 -
11 answers
I've been in a relationship for 3 years, waiting on a proposal. I don't know if it will materialize. Lately I've been fantasizing about an ex-boyfriend who I made a marriage pact with.
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posted by anonymous
on May 3, 2013 -
48 answers
Either one of two things has happened. (1) I've met someone I'm very compatible with who has "matching baggage" and with some patience it will work out to be a happy, healthy, sustainable relationship. OR (2) I've met someone whose issues spell trouble for me, and I may need to cut my losses but I'm not sure where to start. I'm way too close to it, and on balance so far it's definitly something I want to keep working on because I care about him a lot and like how we fit together - but I need a reality check.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 27, 2013 -
30 answers
I love my boyfriend dearly but am starting to doubt our long term potential. I don't know if I'm asking smart questions, or letting my inner commitment phoebe dictate my thinking.
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posted by meb123
on Apr 25, 2013 -
25 answers
So Mr. lasamana got a job (yay!). He had an offer from a company that was not local and an offer that was local but with a fair amount of travel. We made our decision in part by Mefi. Now the question - he’s now working for the local company that includes 2 separate friends of ours. They are his bosses. He seems cool with it but I’m having an issue. We (3 couples) are friendly through our kids. 2 of ours and separately 1 each of theirs (different ages). Occasionally we got together as moms and socialized. This happens maybe 2x/year. Our conversation runs the gamut and included personal stuff. Not to mention we run into each other in the store, etc. I feel very leery all of a sudden about these relationships. Not to mention I sense a sudden cooling off by one of the wives. Is it better to let these friendships fade or maintain as if nothing changed? I should one of these couples has been very good to one of kids even including him on overnight trips and stuff. Now I’m concerned even about the propriety of that in relation to other employees. Do I have a valid concern?
Want to add I really like both couples and have had great fun with the wives.
posted by lasamana
on Apr 22, 2013 -
6 answers
How do I get rid of feelings of worthlessness, anxiety, and distance in my relationship that seem to occur when I'm not having sex?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 18, 2013 -
29 answers
I live in a major east coast city and my boyfriend of almost two years lives in a much smaller city 2.5 hours away in another state. We are both in our late 20s. We see each other almost every weekend - he has a car, and I take the bus. We have lived like this for the entirety of our relationship. Our relationship is great and we're very happy together - we agree we want to live together, get married and have kids. We've known this from pretty early on in the relationship, but have always struggled with figuring out how to close the distance gap. At the New Year, we agreed that by the end of this year we would have figured out how to be in the same place if we were not there already, but the same arguments are flaring back up.
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posted by meb123
on Apr 17, 2013 -
30 answers
I want to be a healthy, fit person, and I want my partner to want that, too. What's the selling point? How can I convince my SO to make this change with me and notice how our generally very sedentary life is sucking the life out of our relationship? Help!
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 16, 2013 -
31 answers
The boyfriend will take things I say in totally the wrong way, how do I explain this to him without starting another argument? And he compares me to his ex when doing this stuff...long-winded details inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 16, 2013 -
36 answers
I just broke up with someone and I'm feeling like a mess. Unfortunately I have to write five papers in the next month and a half that I have hardly done any research for. And give a giant presentation. I am freaking out.
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posted by thesnowyslaps
on Apr 14, 2013 -
19 answers
BreakupFilter: I think it's time for me to end my LDR. I know it's going to hurt my partner, I know I can't prevent that, but I'd like to do this with as much compassion as possible.
What does that look like, hive mind?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 11, 2013 -
24 answers
People who need a lot of home all alone time – how did you get used to (if you did) living with a spouse or partner? What was the adjustment period like? Also, can you get enough the alone time you need if the other person is in the same house,
but not in the same room?
What advice would you give to each person in this type of relationship? Anecdotes welcomed on cohabiting with a person who needs lees or more alone time than you.
posted by Lescha
on Apr 11, 2013 -
29 answers
tl;dr: Friend likes friend's sister. Friend is very socially awkward and sister is very scared of him for his "creepy" demeanor (according to her words) and the sister needs to know how to make him stop liking her. Ideas discussed include outright rejection, fake boyfriend, fake pictures, which I had mostly disagreed with, and need advice to sort this out.
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posted by JYuanZ
on Apr 8, 2013 -
18 answers
My friend "Joe" and I have been friends on and off for over 7 years. - On and Off being key words - Recently a few things in the friendship were really inappropriate - details inside - and he has since stopped talking to me. During this time I have realized my life will be much more drama-free to end the friendship, but I would like to do so with the least drama, while still getting myself heard.
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posted by Crystalinne
on Apr 6, 2013 -
40 answers
How can you tell when you legitimately need to give a partner "space" and when you should just throw in the towel?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 3, 2013 -
28 answers
I recently dated this guy whom I have to admit I liked him a lot for the sex in spite of everything else I hated about him. He is your definition of a player, he is hot and cold, talks to you one weekend, and not talk to you the next. After three months of hot and cold behaviors, I have finally decided to let him go but inside I am still hurting. Any heart to heart advice?
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posted by Likeashadow
on Apr 2, 2013 -
15 answers
It's another wedding question.. I'm getting married on April 26th (yay) and I'm looking for a good first dance song that reflects our history as a couple. We were best friends for about 6 years before we started seriously dating and I'd love to dance to a song that reflects that. My fiance mentioned Can't Fight this Feeling by REO Speedwagon but I was looking for other suggestions. Any type of music is okay except country because we aren't big country fans.
Thanks!
posted by AngryLlama
on Apr 1, 2013 -
26 answers
I'm in a happy relationship but still have thoughts about my previous unhappy relationship. Sometimes it's worry that the current one will go sour like the previous one, and sometimes I actually wish the previous one had worked, even though it was toxic. How do I stop this and just focus on the present?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 31, 2013 -
8 answers
My boyfriend has talked about us separating, but it seems like he still wants to be with me. I think he's overanalyzing our relationship to death, and I want to talk to him about how relationships take work and we should refocus on what's important to us, but is that true? How would that look, what would we do?
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posted by brisquette
on Mar 29, 2013 -
20 answers
Why am I having so much trouble leaving an emotionally and verbally abusive relationship? Or, tell me about your experience with leaving and how long it took you.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 28, 2013 -
19 answers
I've been married for a few more than 10 years. For most of that time, I did not really listen to my wife or honor her goals and desires for our life together. Starting in 2012, I have made a change in my attitude and actions, and we are communicating and making significant progress in our relationship. If it were just making the current state of affairs good, I think we're on a good track and we'd be ok. My question is: How do I make up for the previous ~10 years? If you want to email: accommodatee@mail.com. Thanks in advance for any advice, here or via email.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 20, 2013 -
30 answers
My head is a mess after seeing my ex tonight for the first time since we broke up, kissing her, and finding out she had a thing with another girl that never went anywhere. I'm hurt but doing okay, but I'm afraid that if I don't take some kind of action I'm going to get incredibly more hurt in the near future. But what do I do now?
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posted by Pericardium
on Mar 20, 2013 -
23 answers
My husband has many strong Borderline Personality Disorder traits. Many, many, many. We are separated. I believe he may have convinced some of our mutual friends to side with him and against me using blaming tactics, slick people skills, possibly some fake crying, and major cognitive distortions of reality. Pathologically motivated to avoid abandonment, he might say a great variety of untrue things in order to secure friendships for him and him alone. Please help me maintain and repair my friendships while being the kind and upstanding person I mean to be.
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posted by WelcomeCat
on Mar 18, 2013 -
33 answers
