A work colleague of mine lost her mother to cancer to one year ago tomorrow. I wanted to give her a card just letting her know that I am thinking of her and am aware that it must be a difficult day for her. Is it appropriate for me to do this? She has not been talking about the fact that the anniversary is tomorrow, I just happen to remember the date. If it is a good thing to do, what should I say on the card? Thanks for your help
posted by elis on Nov 12, 2009 - 24 answers

How have you made your best and most lasting friendships? [more inside]
posted by cymru_j on Nov 12, 2009 - 41 answers

Men and women sharing a room. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 22, 2009 - 30 answers

Sexfilter! My girlfriend and I have good sex. She comes, I come, all quite brilliant and working perfectly (oh I am a man). But, during preliminary stuff (hands and mouths) I can't make her come. I don't think anyone else has with her either. I've never had any problem with this stuff before. Quite the opposite. I know if she's on her own she'd do it lying on her front... do any girls do this? Does that mean I should be doing something differently?
posted by anonymous on Oct 13, 2009 - 13 answers

My wife admitted she had a crush on a co-worker, but nothing happened. However, I now know that during her crush, she drunkenly told the guy she liked him and he said he liked her too. She has never admitted this. Things are really good between us now, like when we were first married. Do I let this new piece of information go, or confront her about it? I still have no doubts nothing else happened between them.
posted by boognish on Jul 27, 2009 - 34 answers

I recently discovered that I am a shareholder of a UK listed company, Anglo Asian Mining Company. I base this discovery on my recent receipt of proxy materials and notice of the annual shareholders meeting, which was held today. I realize the best way to retrieve or have replaced shares of stock in the United States is to contact the investor relations or financial department. This seems like a daunting challenge. Is this the best/only way for me to retrieve whatever number of shares I have in the UK?
posted by Daddysugar on Jul 24, 2009 - 2 answers

What are my realistic chances of getting a non-academic job with a PhD in International Relations? [more inside]
posted by Spurious on Jul 8, 2009 - 10 answers

I want to stop being seen as odd or eccentric. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 21, 2009 - 46 answers

Developers / coders / programmers: What do you wish your non-technical clients, bosses, and co-workers knew about the work you do? [more inside]
posted by hayvac on May 7, 2009 - 32 answers

When an embassy acts as a proxy, representing the interests of a third country, what kind of compensation is made to them? [more inside]
posted by cmonkey on Apr 24, 2009 - 4 answers

Please help me find a way to support my boyfriend's integration into my culture... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 9, 2009 - 14 answers

I'm fascinated by studies of body language and their application - yet my own body language sucks - I seem to have - 'hey, cut in front of me when I'm walking or queueing' or 'when I express an opinion, puff up and argue with me' - even though sometimes I actually do have the right info. Does anyone have theories on the type of body language I can use to dispel/improve this? Being short, female and 38 with a 'kind' face doesn't give me a good head start apparently. I look forward to hearing your thoughts. This can get to be tiring and annoying - and I'm actually pretty patient.
posted by IdleRepose on Mar 26, 2009 - 26 answers

I feel guilty about a work situation, how can I ease my mind? [more inside]
posted by weh546 on Mar 22, 2009 - 18 answers

I need to find a forum where Public Relations people hang out? [more inside]
posted by jacobean on Mar 19, 2009 - 6 answers

Why are these two males acting funny with me? [more inside]
posted by InterestedInKnowing on Feb 19, 2009 - 23 answers

I'm having the same problem as the poster below me "Help me deal with high stakes situations.." (BTW I read all those responses too). Like her it happens with meetings, people with authority, friends and dating. But, I'm a guy, and the only part I really care about is how it effects friends and dating. The rest I can live with.. [more inside]
posted by 0217174 on Jan 11, 2009 - 12 answers

What are the leading/competing International Relations theories that exist today? [more inside]
posted by Geppp on Nov 12, 2008 - 4 answers

Blurring the Work Life/Private Life Filter - The guy who is my supervisor invited me to come hang out with him & some of his buddies this weekend. Per an email from him, it will be Gaming/Sports Watching/General hanging out, along with drinking and *ahem* smoking. [more inside]
posted by ekstasis23 on Nov 5, 2008 - 12 answers

How do I tell a work-assigned mentor that the relationship isn't quite working out? She's clearly too busy for me, and I don't want to participate in the program anymore. I feel that some of this is my fault, but I'm not sure how to handle going forward. [more inside]
posted by purplecurlygirl on Oct 15, 2008 - 6 answers

A good friend is getting married. All of our mutual friends (and acquaintances) are invited, but me. How do deal with the social awkwardness? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 27, 2008 - 38 answers

Bloggers: Help me not annoy you. [more inside]
posted by landedjentry on Sep 19, 2008 - 10 answers

I'm looking for a book that can summarize/explain different schools of thought in international relations/foreign policy. [more inside]
posted by dismas on Jul 30, 2008 - 8 answers

Help me help the addicts (and possibly the enablers) in my family. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 10, 2008 - 10 answers

Am late 50s, living in Portland, OR, divorced many years, really don't want to be here (interested in relocating to southern california), but have early teenager daughter. How do I reconcile wanting to pursue what I want to do with the years I have left, with staying around in this area for my daughter (my ex has custody, zero problems with visitation, etc.). By the time she turns 18, i'll be in mid 60s+, which i know is not the end of the world, but...am i being selfish for wanting to pursue what I think will make me happy, versus "doing time" here just to be physically close to my daughter (we have a great relationship). Genuine feedback appreciated.
posted by america4 on Jun 22, 2008 - 26 answers

How do I reconcile cultural differences with my in-laws? [more inside]
posted by Juicylicious on May 21, 2008 - 34 answers

HEY AMERICANS! What would be a good gift from a Canadian? [more inside]
posted by joelf on May 2, 2008 - 63 answers

Newly single (after 10-yr relationship). How do I get from Point A to Point B, with Point A being meeting a potentially interesting person, and Point B being the point where I can smoothly ask them to do something with me. All, you understand, in service to just getting to know this other person better. The possibility of a hook-up is secondary (although not completely disregarded.) [more inside]
posted by hapax_legomenon on Apr 22, 2008 - 11 answers

How to acknowledge my situation, without acting as though I'm apologizing for my past? [more inside]
posted by mrgreyisyelling on Mar 21, 2008 - 21 answers

I think my boss is trying to get me to quit. [more inside]
posted by Gular on Mar 13, 2008 - 21 answers

How can I encourage my talkative boss to stick to a meeting agenda? [more inside]
posted by katala on Jan 16, 2008 - 17 answers

I have applied to many marketing and PR jobs since last month. Now, I have a great case study writing sample. Should I submit it with my resume to companies I have already applied to but have not heard back from?
posted by parmanparman on Jan 9, 2008 - 3 answers

I'm going to be an aunt, but I can't stand my nephew-to-be's parents. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 29, 2007 - 16 answers

How do you deflate an over-inflated ego? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 9, 2007 - 38 answers

How do I deal with a super-chatty co-worker I can't afford to offend? [more inside]
posted by katala on Oct 12, 2007 - 18 answers

Any Mefites know of headhunting/recruiting firms in the Chicago area that specialize in government relations/public affairs? [more inside]
posted by notjustfoxybrown on Jul 30, 2007 - 1 answer

As a new employee, how do I diffuse...um...acting like a total jerk? [more inside]
posted by metasav on Jul 13, 2007 - 11 answers

What reason would there be for a male to pass himself off as a woman on the internet? Should I tell my girlfriend her online confidante is actually a guy? [more inside]
posted by misha on Jun 12, 2007 - 23 answers

How do you remain friendly and patient with people? Through the course of my day, if I am not in the right mood, I have neither the time nor the patience for certain people. For example, someone may come into my work area and want to chat. I would like to be more friendly and chatty but if I am in the zone, or having a stressful day, I just can't be bothered. I tend to be curt and/or dismissive. I think this gives people the impression that I am an asshole. This applies to interactions with different people throughout my day. Someone asking questions, my boss going off on a tangent, a small-talker on the ferry, sometimes I just can't stand interacting with people. Does anyone else struggle with wanting to be friendly, but not having the energy or constitution to consistently be friendly? How do I build up my friendly muscles?
posted by jasondigitized on May 14, 2007 - 19 answers

I know someone who has, in the last six months, lost a husband, had a house go into forclosure, mother had a stroke, and is close to the breaking point. [more inside]
posted by theperfectcrime on Apr 28, 2007 - 10 answers

How do my co-workers and I deal with the owner of the start up company we work for when he doesn't want to change his ways? [more inside]
posted by jrdnbaade on Mar 14, 2007 - 10 answers

Press release distribution services! About six years ago, I coordinated the development and delivery of weekly press releases for my then-employer. I recall looking at and evaluating a variety of online distribution services before eventually settling on a service that was either free or very inexpensive. [+] [more inside]
posted by mwhybark on Jan 18, 2007 - 7 answers

Stuck in a relationship with small child, love gone, what to do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 14, 2007 - 19 answers

Help me make sense of the industrial relations reform (WorkChoices) that has taken place in Australia since the last federal election. [more inside]
posted by teem on Dec 9, 2006 - 3 answers

I'm transitioning from part-time to full-time at my office and until the paperwork is completed, the director has said that I can only work X number of hours per week and that I must give priority to the (evening) hours when he needs me. Right now, I don't have a regular schedule and each week unfolds according to his needs. However, I am regularly given work by other people in the office and there's the rub... [more inside]
posted by anonymous78 on Nov 17, 2006 - 4 answers

Help me stop being so paranoid and/or self conscious. [more inside]
posted by trampesque on Oct 22, 2006 - 21 answers

I'm constantly told I don't "look like" my ethnicity...do I? [more inside]
posted by sweetkid on Sep 7, 2006 - 59 answers

So my mother-in-law died and I feel like my siblings haven't been there for us at all..am I expecting too much? [more inside]
posted by cellardoor on Jul 29, 2006 - 30 answers

Can anyone suggest some diversity management exercises or activities? [more inside]
posted by Scottk on Apr 3, 2006 - 4 answers

Why do I get so easily aroused? [more inside]
posted by nona on Mar 29, 2006 - 30 answers

Should, and if so, how, should I say anything about my coworker's long lunch breaks? [more inside]
posted by talitha_kumi on Jan 3, 2006 - 16 answers