A woman i know through business network and common friends entered into my life after a series of events which seems like a fairy tale. However it might also be a a very bad cosmic joke. Now i am struggling to deal with the situation, help me to find my feet. Long version below.
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posted by yamamato
on May 17, 2013 -
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I'm thinking of enrolling for Fall 2013, and I'm interested in a practical, skills based (as opposed to academic) program. What courses are absolutely essential nowadays?
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posted by winterportage
on May 6, 2013 -
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I'm horribly unhappy with my job, but don't want to quit because of certain reasons. Advice solicited.
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posted by dubious_dude
on Mar 10, 2013 -
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A colleague has recently asked me to go out with him. The major red flag is that his ex-girlfriend whom he split up with, is a work colleague. In fact, all three of us work in the same organisation. The two of them have very senior posts and the nature of their work is such that they need to interact at meetings every day. I have a less important job and only work part-time. He was dating his ex for many years and the breakup wasn't easy. None of us are likely to leave our jobs. Does working closely with an ex ever rekindle the flame? Also, they sometimes work late in the evenings and she lives near him, so she often takes a lift with him. Should this be stopped? After all they are in close proximity anyway, so what is an extra 20 minutes in the car? Would you say this is enough of a ref flag and I shouldn't go ahead?
posted by ashawill
on Mar 4, 2013 -
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I've been constantly told that key to being okay again is to "choose one's happiness" - both by strangers on the internet and the very closest people in my life. I've been diagnosed with mild-to-severe depression and anxiety for three years now (there is a bit more to that, though). Since most of the before-mentioned friends (etc) wanted me to stop taking antidepressants, I am without them for now. So, since everything I found by sending my queries to Google was meant for "normal people" who are "feeling a bit depressed", I would be grateful to know how these approaches apply to those with actual mental health issues, if they do at all.
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posted by 9080
on Jan 9, 2013 -
36 answers
Can you recommend me podcasts, books, TV documentaries, articles or journals (in English) where I could learn more about China, such as Chinese politics, history, culture and other important things?
posted by EatMyHat
on Oct 15, 2012 -
8 answers
Spent two days, 12 hours driving helping a friend move from Los Angeles to San Francisco. The whole time my friend seemed unappreciative of my help and didn't even go as far to pay or offer to pay for any snacks or meals. At the end of it all my friend offered thanks. Am I being over sensitive or do I have the right to be a little annoyed?
posted by nathanm
on Sep 27, 2012 -
22 answers
I received this text from my neighbor this morning. I have owned my house for 7 years and think my neighbor should mind her own business.
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posted by timpanogos
on Sep 3, 2012 -
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My dad has not been in a relationship since his split from my mom 19 years ago. He's turning 60 next year and I want him to finally be able to find someone to grow old with. He lives a few Provinces away - how do I broach this with him.
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posted by Danithegirl
on Aug 28, 2012 -
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One of my significant other's friend runs a business that takes "cash under the table" and brags about his nice new toys, and teases us about what suckers we are that we have to pay taxes. This infuriates me. What do I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 9, 2012 -
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How do one handle buying property jointly before getting marrried? (One partner has assets and the other one has income)
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 5, 2012 -
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My Mormon parents won't meet, talk of, or accept that I am with my girlfriend. How do I navigate family events and holidays since I am very close to my family but I am also in a very serious relationship?
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posted by timpanogos
on Jun 20, 2012 -
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Asking for my Mom: how does a non-smoker who has a severe allergic reaction to cigarette smoke mitigate the effects at a social event when they are outnumbered 6:2?
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posted by katemcd
on Jun 16, 2012 -
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Flatmate filter: I'm planning on having a calm discussion with one of my flatmates this weekend about some issues I know she has about the house, but that haven't been discussed in the open. I would like tips on remaining calm and collected in the moment.
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posted by mooza
on Jun 3, 2012 -
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What methods have worked for you in terms of keeping a rational mind when you feel yourself becoming (rationally or irrationally) angry?
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posted by oink
on May 31, 2012 -
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I love AskMefi for many things, but ultimately it comes down to being
super-nosy about other people's lives, and the human relations questions are my favorite. What other sites should I be checking out to satisfy my curiosity about other people's lives and problems, as well as thoughtful advice and insight? I'm a big fan of Carolyn Hax's column, but am drawing a blank at what other sites I should try out.
posted by Neely O'Hara
on May 14, 2012 -
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I was eligible for a sizable bonus on February 1, 2012, the one year anniversary date of my start date. The offer letter said I'd get an email listing the criteria on which the bonus would be based by the end of February 2011. I never got the email. Requests for the criteria went unanswered. So have emails and phone calls since November.
Is this something I could present to a Labor Relations panel for resolution? I have tons of qualitative and quantitative data on the work I've performed, essentially in a vacuum.
Any thoughts would be much appreciated. Thanks.
posted by holdenjordahl
on May 5, 2012 -
13 answers
Our department is small among many departments in the company. We are not very highly perceived, although this is not the truth. How could we improve that.
posted by amostafa10
on Apr 10, 2012 -
10 answers
Please hope me prepare for pregnancy this year. 36 years old, 40lbs overweight. I know I need to lose weight, but I'd also like to start trying sooner rather than later because of my age. I know there are no quick fixes, but I still want one.
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posted by heffalump
on Feb 26, 2012 -
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My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We are happy and are sexually active, but we just don't have sex. I know that everybody does it at any age now, and that everywhere you turn, you are somehow reminded of it, but is that so bad? Basically, when we first got together, everything was (of course) perfect. He was a virgin but I wasn't, and he knew that. I liked the fact that we had a lot of sexual tension but that he didn't ever pressure me to do anything I didn't want to. Basically, he wanted me to make the shots. And I feel almost like it's still that way now.
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posted by xopaigexo
on Nov 29, 2011 -
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I am concerned about my nephew's strange behavior. He paces a lot, is extremely antisocial, and exhibits other odd behavior.
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posted by ElizabethEllis
on Nov 27, 2011 -
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Babysitting friend's budgie and let it out to have a fly. It hit a wall and fell to the ground beside my dog who promptly scooped him up but dropped him immediately when I yelled at him. I rushed him to an avian vet. The bird is in shock and in "critical" condition. Oh, please help. Vet expenses are going to be $400 and I don't even know if the bird will make it. But I don't care about the money. I care about my friend and my friendship with her.
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posted by heffalump
on Nov 21, 2011 -
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How do I get potential employers not to call my current employer (when they've already requested to) for a reference?
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posted by heffalump
on Aug 28, 2011 -
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A friend of mine is looking to sell two extraordinarily valuable violins (in the 3+ million dollar range). I think he's hoping to sell it privately to avoid the huge cut the auction houses take, and he's suggested that if I can find him a buyer, he'd be happy to pay a finder's fee of some sort. So two questions...
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posted by sdis
on Aug 22, 2011 -
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I have a serious problem with being seen to be intellectually 'wrong'. I need ways to get over it
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 24, 2011 -
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My husband was laid off today... The day that was supposed to be my last day of full-time employment. How do I recover at work?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 22, 2011 -
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Married white female seeks a good night's rest without dreams of having intimate relations with a close male friend. Can you help?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 21, 2011 -
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How are the relationships between the American military personnel and the local population in Germany?
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posted by Carius
on Jan 25, 2011 -
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I'm looking for examples of media outlets and organisations which do quality labour and industrial relations reporting.
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posted by Fiasco da Gama
on Nov 14, 2010 -
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I have a cantankerous and grouchy colleague at my place of work. I was wondering what tips and strategies the fair people of meta-filter have for dealing with difficult and obstructive people?
posted by waltz9
on Sep 11, 2010 -
34 answers
What do I do about an attention-hungry relative? I am worried about how she will act at an upcoming funeral!
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posted by hellameangirl
on Aug 19, 2010 -
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I read the news (BBC) daily and pick up The Economist once in awhile (it's expensive!). I'm curious and want to know what is going on in the world, but most of the time I can't put anything into perspective and understand what this means for the rest of the world or the possible impact on my life. For example, I'm not really sure why Bush started a war in Afghanistan, or the repercussions of the Gaza flotilla attack. I like how The Economist will analyze issues and say "X happened. This is bad because Y might happen now." or "A is mad because B did this in the past." in short, up front sentences. When I try to look people/events up on Wikipedia or Google, it's overwhelming because there is TOO much information to read, and I'm constantly having to look up more and more and this easily turns into hours of reading and 60 tabs open on my browser. How can I get a general grasp of international relations?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 28, 2010 -
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I'm a current 1L in a mid-level law school about to interview for an externship at the nearby city's Government Relations office. I need to do a little preparing.
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posted by cyphill
on Feb 15, 2010 -
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I am a biracial female in my mid-thirties. Growing up in the 1980's as a mixed kid was no fun, but I survived. My mother was white, and my dad was not a strong black role-model; his family was not a part of my life, and likewise, I did not have any influence from Black culture as I grew up. My parents also sent me to a suburban school, which was predominantly white, so it was very hard to fit in there...I went through school with few friends, and college did not offer much chance to establish any more. By most interpretations, I would likely have fit in better in a "white: crowd (culturally, socially) but phsically I am still a black person. Still, due to my lack of racial identity, it was very hard to fit in anywhere. Fast forward to my question:) Present day well into the new century, I have a successful career and a small real-estate investment business. However, I find that I still have a lot of trouble in work, with my business and with making friends.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 15, 2010 -
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