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Self-help books for dealing with rejection during job searches

My partner was rejected from several jobs (she is an academic), and she is looking for self-help books for dealing with the emotional aspects of this. We found several books dealing with rejection on an interpersonal level, and there are of course many books with practical advice for job searches. Are there any books that you would recommend for dealing with emotional aspects of rejection, career difficulties, or losing a job?
posted by studioaudience on May 22, 2014 - 4 answers

How can I let myself be vulnerable in my new relationship?

I think I have some messed up ideas about relationships, that are going to get in the way of me finding true intimacy and being a really good partner to someone. I want to get over these ideas but am terrified that acting in a more authentic and loving way will backfire. Hope me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 7, 2014 - 8 answers

Did I get rejected by her?

Hi I asked a girl out for valentines day for the first time by text (I would have done face to face but there's like a lot of snow where I am and I have midterms and stuff so I was very busy) but she said that she was thankful that I asked her out but she feels burdened because valentines day is supposed to be with someone special. She asked me if it was ok to see in the weekend. As I asked before on this website, the girl is a friend that I would like to be my girlfriend. Last time we had lunch together, I felt that she liked me but I wasn't too sure haha. I don't know if she still likes me or not after reading her text. I'm not sure if she wants to meet in the weekend because she feels sorry for me. What do you guys think?
posted by soul24rage on Feb 13, 2014 - 24 answers

Help me not dissolve into a stressavoidance puddle at work!

How can I avoid totally unraveling when working with a dismissive/cold person? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 30, 2014 - 16 answers

I turned him down. So why do I keep thinking about him?

I met someone online. Had a great date with him, but ultimately decided not to pursue things with him. So why can't I get him out of my head? And should I try again with him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 18, 2014 - 21 answers

Letter etiquette, reply to a job offer: 'thanks, but no thanks'

My SO applied for, was interviewed for, and subsequently was offered an academic post (lectureship). Some stuff just wasn't right from the outset, and all the contact with the department made it clear that it's not the right place to be working. Please help us to say 'no thanks' correctly. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 19, 2013 - 14 answers

Deciding if to turn a "breakup" into a friendship

Someone who I bonded with decided we had no spark, but wants to be friends. I am having trouble dealing with being rejected and my lowered self-esteem from the rejection but I feel like he is such a special person that I want to keep him as a friend. We had an intense online relationship for three months and dated for less than 2 weeks. Reading all these posts on MetaFilter has really helped me deal better with my breakup, but I still feel a inner turmoil about how I should handle my own situation. I don't feel that I trust my judgment so...here I am. Help on the matter is appreciated or just some advice or words would help me get through this. [more inside]
posted by LadyAerin on Oct 26, 2013 - 45 answers

A friendly rejection

What's the friendliest way to decline future dates from someone you've been out with a few times but just aren't that into? [more inside]
posted by greta simone on Aug 18, 2013 - 14 answers

Friends WITHOUT benefits?

I've declined romantic overtures from X in the past. Subsequently, X made repeated friendly overtures toward me. My reciprocation of friendly overtures made X angry. I'm not sure if I need a reality check, or if X does. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 10, 2013 - 34 answers

Should we really though? Really? *Squints like Larry David*

Is "We should get a drink sometime" actually a very polite rejection? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 4, 2013 - 26 answers

It'd be improper to tell him his joke made me suicidal, I guess.

I keep finding myself in a peculiar and incredibly disheartening group social dynamic. I need practical guidance on how to "fix" the latest one, and maybe some suggestions on how to head these things off before we get to Suicidal Ideation pass. [more inside]
posted by Fee Phi Faux Phumb I Smell t'Socks o' a Puppetman! on Jun 22, 2013 - 58 answers

Should I go no contact or continue to hang out?

I met this girl last year at a party, she was slightly interested in me back then (I found out from her recently) but never pursued me and we did not keep in touch. I met her once again 2 months ago, this time I was mesmerised at first sight. I hung out with her 2 times with my friends and finally mustered the courage to ask her out on a date. She said yes, but I could sense from the get go that she was not as into me as I was into her, stating that she wants to take things slow. We went out on 3 dates, made out on the first and slept together on the third. Two days later, she said I was sending out cues that I'm very serious about it and am possessive of her, and how that freaks her out. She said that she is in no shape for a relationship in that she needs to heal and is going through too many things at this point in time. [more inside]
posted by polyhistor on May 29, 2013 - 32 answers

I didn't get the job, but I have been sort of offered a better job?

I didn't get the job, but I have been sort of offered a better job at the same company in the future? Is there anything I can do besides wait? [more inside]
posted by ad4pt on May 7, 2013 - 10 answers

How do I respond to resume rejection because of high salary expectations

I sent my resume for a job that I am very qualified for but just received a message that my expectations are above the scope. They did not provide a range, just a requirement to include expected salary in the cover letter. I stated my salary and said that it is negotiable. I have plenty of wiggle room, I am in a new market that is a bit lower than others I've been in (I did lower it from past compensation, but not enough apparently). What can I say to convey I still want to be considered & am willing to take up to $15k less without sounding desperate? I am worth every penny that I asked for, and that is not just my opinion. I am very very good at what I do but again, I realize it is a new, different market so I am ok with lower...
posted by Snackpants on Apr 22, 2013 - 8 answers

How to drop out of an interview process without alienating anyone?

What's the best way to say you want out of an interview process before it's reached the offer stage? Difficulty: The company is one you want to interact with positively in the future. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 4, 2013 - 8 answers

Is There Ever A Chance After You're Rejected?

Do people ever reconsider after rejecting someone? Or is that a pipe dream? I asked someone out and got rejected...but things seem to remain unclear. [more inside]
posted by christiehawk on Feb 19, 2013 - 50 answers

Asked Out A Friend. Rejected. Now What?

About a month ago I asked about how to flirt with a friend. Well, I asked her out, and got rejected. Now I want to know how to deal with it. [more inside]
posted by christiehawk on Feb 4, 2013 - 26 answers

what am I doing wrong?

Guys keep rejecting me; am I hideous? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 4, 2013 - 45 answers

Shy and Unlucky in Love

Help me figure out why I'm so unlucky with romance [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 18, 2012 - 26 answers

How can I turn him down without crushing him?

How can I avoid leading a guy on when he won't come out and state his attraction? [more inside]
posted by chocolatemilkshakes on Dec 14, 2012 - 28 answers

After a breakup, how do you deal with the rejection?

After a breakup, how do you deal with the rejection? [more inside]
posted by thank you silence on Nov 15, 2012 - 23 answers

I think we should just be friends. Actually, I don't even think that...

I met an online suitor who's more into me than I'm into him, and I don't even really want to be friends with him. How can I tell him this? [more inside]
posted by dean_deen on Sep 9, 2012 - 19 answers

Is my boyfriend entitled or am I being a jerk?

My boyfriend of 6 months is great in many ways: kind, supportive, funny, etc. But (of course) there's one thing about him that's been bugging me, and I can't tell if I'm being unreasonable or not. The best way I can come up with to describe it is that he seems to feel... entitled. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 25, 2012 - 42 answers

I'm *not* going to stand outside holding a boombox over my head.

How to get a company to reconsider me for a job? [more inside]
posted by Gorgik on Aug 23, 2012 - 11 answers

Prospective father-in-law rejected marriage proposal request. What now?

I asked my girlfriend's father for permission to marry her and got shot down. What now? [more inside]
posted by daeken on Jul 17, 2012 - 86 answers

What now?

I didn't get into graduate school. All of my hopes/dreams/etc. were riding on this. Now what? [more inside]
posted by oxfordcomma on Apr 2, 2012 - 37 answers

I only want a partial enchilada, thank you

I have too much of a good thing. A lot of people want to date me. I am not interested in most of them beyond friendship, though, and I'm in a really comfortable FWB situation and don't want "the whole enchilada" of commitment, yet I only want this one person. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 12, 2012 - 23 answers

What Am I Doing Wrong?

My job search is making me extremely upset and depressed. What am I doing wrong? How can I push through the constant disappointment? Please hope me. [more inside]
posted by thereemix on Feb 3, 2012 - 31 answers

how to kindly reject the piano teacher

How to talk to my daughter's piano teach about stopping our lesson with her. Truth is, we need a better teacher. But we have used her for about four years. I worry about hurting her feelings by being honest with her. Need help approaching the piano teacher. [more inside]
posted by akomom on Feb 2, 2012 - 13 answers

She said "just friends". We are. Now what?

What techniques can I use to quell or quieten emotional turmoil? Avalanche of special inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 6, 2012 - 16 answers

I love my in-laws and my job, maybe a little too much.

I love my in-laws and my job, maybe a little too much. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 31, 2011 - 15 answers

No. You really ARE crazy.

Rejectionfilter: I'm not that into him, told him and now he's causing drama. How do I navigate this situation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 13, 2011 - 33 answers

I want my husband to want me.

I want my husband to want me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 9, 2011 - 39 answers

Rejection is part of being a writer -- but what about the embarrassment?

Rejection's part of being a writer. I can deal with rejection. How do I deal with the embarrassment? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 1, 2011 - 17 answers

I can’t believe I have to ask this age-old question, but…is he interested or am I spending time thinking about him/this situation for nothing?

I can’t believe I have to ask this age-old question, but…is he interested or am I spending time thinking about him/this situation for nothing? [more inside]
posted by superfille on Oct 11, 2011 - 33 answers

Help me get over being dumped for the first time.

Help me get over being dumped for the first time. [more inside]
posted by staticscreen on Sep 10, 2011 - 27 answers

Want to have my cake and eat it too.

Am I a bad person? It's recently been pointed out to me that I have HUGE abandonment and rejection issues. The guy that I'm seeing told me this - not my husband. Get ready for a bunch of conflicting information... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 27, 2011 - 36 answers

A little encouragement with rejection?

Rejection letters for job applicants -- personal note of encouragement? [more inside]
posted by ClaudiaCenter on Jul 13, 2011 - 54 answers

Is there a survival guide to Threadless design?

How do I survive the brave new world of Threadless design? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 19, 2011 - 11 answers

Friends forever, or until you find happiness elsewhere.

How can I tell if this person is blowing me off or just very busy? And what can I do about it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 6, 2011 - 19 answers

How to overcome fear of rejection in relationships

I’m a 28 y/o woman who has finally found someone that I admire, who loves me dearly, and isn't a huge pain in my ass --and I'm hoping to make this last! Please help me to not ruin this wonderful thing! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 30, 2011 - 16 answers

How to handle speed dating rejection with class?

How do you handle rejection from Speed Dating in a classy manly way? I received a rejection email from a woman and I feel like I should reply...see details below... [more inside]
posted by PetiePal on Apr 20, 2011 - 34 answers

Socially awkward girl seeks rejection tips.

Socially awkward girl seeks rejection tips. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 4, 2011 - 12 answers

Ummmm, what happened?

Egad! Please give me your opinion - I don't know what to think or do... I've never handled rejection well, but I'm not sure it's rejection. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 24, 2011 - 21 answers

Why do people I thought were friends suddenly drop me?

Was it something I said? Why do my friends keep dropping me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 11, 2010 - 57 answers

Need strategies for dealing with rejection at work

Can you help me prepare to not get an internal job offer at work? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 19, 2010 - 12 answers

Am I weird for being this upset?

Am I weird for being this upset? Met up with co-worker I'm interested in. [more inside]
posted by morning_television on Oct 3, 2010 - 33 answers

Sorry, your friend's not hot enough.

How do I deal with people pushing blind dates, when love is not (for the moment) blind? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 12, 2010 - 15 answers

Always have a plan b

What's the best way to keep things light and limit embarrassment for both people if the other person rejects you when you make a move? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 28, 2010 - 25 answers

Getting to no

How do a get an honest rejection at a bar? [more inside]
posted by Hactar on Jun 18, 2010 - 60 answers

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