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How to be more confident and less socially anxious?

Hello All, I seem be having some low-self esteem issues lately, especially with expressing a fierce opinion, sharing my beliefs, and sharing/explaining my hobbies to others. I have such a difficult time warming up to strangers, that I will excessively worry that I'm not interesting, exciting, and vibrant enough -- I'll shut down and become aloof. I have become withdrawn and reserved -- how can I open up and gain some confidence? [more inside]
posted by RearWindow on Oct 21, 2016 - 6 answers

Applying for a new job posting at company that rejected me already

Long story short, I applied for Project Manager position on Team A at a company. I got to the final rounds but ultimately got rejected. This was about a week ago. Today, I just found a new posting from this company for another Project Manager role, but on Team B (i.e., same role, but with a different hiring manager and set of people) and I want to apply for it. What are some things I should think about? More details below. [more inside]
posted by 6spd on Sep 21, 2016 - 10 answers

How to deal with a husband who actively rejects my daughter and me?

What more can I (or should I) do in this family situation? There is such an imbalance of love and affection going on, I don't know what to even do any more. [more inside]
posted by retrofitted on Sep 6, 2016 - 51 answers

Videos of rejection?

I'd like a bunch of videos of actual rejections. [more inside]
posted by hleehowon on Jul 16, 2016 - 1 answer

Help me be brave

I've got a friend that I do almost everything with. I have realized I'm very attracted to him. Help me be brave and ask him out. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 5, 2016 - 44 answers

Everyone I like likes everyone else I like and no one likes me

How to deal with seeing a glimpse of 'your people' but them not wanting you? [more inside]
posted by ninjablob on Jun 3, 2016 - 52 answers

"Wanna meet up?" "Not free tonight, sorry!" "Screw you, B****!"

Husband's new friend recently met my best friend at a birthday party a few weeks ago, and tonight he messaged her to meet up. When she said she wasn't free that night, he said "ok. sorry for asking. F***. You." She blocked and deleted him, but sent me a pic of the conversation. How should we be dealing with this kind of assholery? [more inside]
posted by lizbunny on May 7, 2016 - 41 answers

What do I do with this relationship?

I met this guy several years ago. We had a fantastic friendship, which was temporarily torpedoed by a failed attempt to make it romantic. We are now friends again, on a long distance basis, but I am worried that his attitude is shifting and he may want to give the couple option another try. Should I say or do something? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 22, 2016 - 18 answers

How to get past my husband's lack of attraction

My husband and I have been together for 16 years, married for 10. We started dating at almost 20. We generally have a good marriage, good communication, and love each other. However, several times over the past few years, my husband has told me that he is not attracted to my body. He still thinks my face is pretty and we still have sex about once a week, 2x a month if we're busy, and it's good. I'm having trouble getting past the fact that he feels this way, though. I'm angry and resentful. How do I move past this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 20, 2016 - 24 answers

Are you sure you want to reject me?

Should I contact the person who interviewed me for a job about a form rejection letter I received? [more inside]
posted by WeekendJen on Feb 1, 2016 - 22 answers

How to cope with rejection without it turning into self-hate

I can cope with rejection when its a case of different priorities or whatever, but the really hard thing for me about rejection is how hierarchical it seems, that there are some people who are better and more valued than others, and rejection basically means you're less good than the person who has rejected you. Not always but as a kind of general trend. How can I cope with this? [more inside]
posted by ninjablob on Jan 23, 2016 - 16 answers

The misanthropic novel

I need fictional novels to help me dive head first into the abyss. Please recommend some. [more inside]
posted by ihaveyourfoot on Nov 21, 2015 - 115 answers

How to rebuild your confidence after a stream of rejections?

I've recently had a stream of dating-related rejections. It's gotten pretty frustrating and I've now started to see rejection as a given. How do I rebuild my confidence and get back on the horse? [more inside]
posted by sockandawe on Oct 24, 2015 - 6 answers

Searching for answers regarding lack of success in romance

Why am I also so disappointed and unsuccessful when it comes to dating, romance, and relationships? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 18, 2015 - 12 answers

Best practices when calling a do-over is not an option.

I applied for a job, I got a phone interview, I got rejected, and now the search has been reopened. I think I want to make inquiries. How should I go about it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 7, 2015 - 14 answers

How do you deal with rejection that isn't explicit?

I asked a guy out twice. The second time, he didn't respond but because he didn't explicitly say no, I'm having a hard time letting it go. How do I move on from this? [more inside]
posted by cyml on Mar 4, 2015 - 27 answers

Help me get back up again after rejection

Hello everyone. I am back to my favorite advice site for help on this relationship rut I am in; specifically the lack of ever having one. [more inside]
posted by christiehawk on Feb 28, 2015 - 10 answers

Encourage the good guys

To men and women who partake in online dating: how should I respond to the rare person who actually sends a nice, thoughtful message, but to whom I'm not attracted? I don't want them to get discouraged because they are actually doing it right! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 30, 2015 - 41 answers

How to deal with a friendship gone sour...

A buddy of mine I've been wanting a closer friendship with got very drunk and offered to help solve my high libido problem. I didn't do anything with him then, because, um, hello, informed consent, but I texted him the next day to signal that everything was cool and I was receptive. He, and I should have seen this coming, was blacked out, remembers nothing, and is not interested. I feel humiliated. What comes next? [more inside]
posted by dee lee on Jan 16, 2015 - 28 answers

Can this 'bond' turn into a relationship?

I fell for a girl...we keep a really nice and friendly connection going on between us, but nothing more happens. She knows how I feel but keeps rejecting me. She have her reasons to do so though. [more inside]
posted by Nightrunner on Jan 3, 2015 - 21 answers

The job(s) that got away

So, after an 8-month long job search since graduating, I've finally found a job in my field (hooray!), but I still feel a bit sad when I think about all of the jobs I didn't get. How can I stop thinking about these missed opportunities and focus on what lies ahead? [more inside]
posted by modesty.blaise on Dec 20, 2014 - 14 answers

How can I deal better with being passed over in the dating world?

I’m looking for stories, examples, wisdom to make me feel better about not getting asked out on a second date. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 10, 2014 - 22 answers

How can I be more courageous?

This could go into human relations, work & money, or a number of other categories. I am a daydreamer, and I am often motivated by visions of the future. The problem is that the world often disappoints, and after many rejections/failures (alongside the successes, of course), I have gotten to having a fair amount of anxiety on a regular basis. It sometimes feels compelling to put my head in the sand rather than probing for real answers. How can I be more courageous? [more inside]
posted by htid on Sep 11, 2014 - 9 answers

Self-help books for dealing with rejection during job searches

My partner was rejected from several jobs (she is an academic), and she is looking for self-help books for dealing with the emotional aspects of this. We found several books dealing with rejection on an interpersonal level, and there are of course many books with practical advice for job searches. Are there any books that you would recommend for dealing with emotional aspects of rejection, career difficulties, or losing a job?
posted by studioaudience on May 22, 2014 - 4 answers

How can I let myself be vulnerable in my new relationship?

I think I have some messed up ideas about relationships, that are going to get in the way of me finding true intimacy and being a really good partner to someone. I want to get over these ideas but am terrified that acting in a more authentic and loving way will backfire. Hope me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 7, 2014 - 8 answers

Did I get rejected by her?

Hi I asked a girl out for valentines day for the first time by text (I would have done face to face but there's like a lot of snow where I am and I have midterms and stuff so I was very busy) but she said that she was thankful that I asked her out but she feels burdened because valentines day is supposed to be with someone special. She asked me if it was ok to see in the weekend. As I asked before on this website, the girl is a friend that I would like to be my girlfriend. Last time we had lunch together, I felt that she liked me but I wasn't too sure haha. I don't know if she still likes me or not after reading her text. I'm not sure if she wants to meet in the weekend because she feels sorry for me. What do you guys think?
posted by soul24rage on Feb 13, 2014 - 24 answers

Help me not dissolve into a stressavoidance puddle at work!

How can I avoid totally unraveling when working with a dismissive/cold person? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 30, 2014 - 16 answers

I turned him down. So why do I keep thinking about him?

I met someone online. Had a great date with him, but ultimately decided not to pursue things with him. So why can't I get him out of my head? And should I try again with him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 18, 2014 - 21 answers

Letter etiquette, reply to a job offer: 'thanks, but no thanks'

My SO applied for, was interviewed for, and subsequently was offered an academic post (lectureship). Some stuff just wasn't right from the outset, and all the contact with the department made it clear that it's not the right place to be working. Please help us to say 'no thanks' correctly. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 19, 2013 - 14 answers

Deciding if to turn a "breakup" into a friendship

Someone who I bonded with decided we had no spark, but wants to be friends. I am having trouble dealing with being rejected and my lowered self-esteem from the rejection but I feel like he is such a special person that I want to keep him as a friend. We had an intense online relationship for three months and dated for less than 2 weeks. Reading all these posts on MetaFilter has really helped me deal better with my breakup, but I still feel a inner turmoil about how I should handle my own situation. I don't feel that I trust my judgment so...here I am. Help on the matter is appreciated or just some advice or words would help me get through this. [more inside]
posted by LadyAerin on Oct 26, 2013 - 45 answers

A friendly rejection

What's the friendliest way to decline future dates from someone you've been out with a few times but just aren't that into? [more inside]
posted by greta simone on Aug 18, 2013 - 14 answers

Friends WITHOUT benefits?

I've declined romantic overtures from X in the past. Subsequently, X made repeated friendly overtures toward me. My reciprocation of friendly overtures made X angry. I'm not sure if I need a reality check, or if X does. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 10, 2013 - 34 answers

Should we really though? Really? *Squints like Larry David*

Is "We should get a drink sometime" actually a very polite rejection? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 4, 2013 - 26 answers

It'd be improper to tell him his joke made me suicidal, I guess.

I keep finding myself in a peculiar and incredibly disheartening group social dynamic. I need practical guidance on how to "fix" the latest one, and maybe some suggestions on how to head these things off before we get to Suicidal Ideation pass. [more inside]
posted by Fee Phi Faux Phumb I Smell t'Socks o' a Puppetman! on Jun 22, 2013 - 58 answers

Should I go no contact or continue to hang out?

I met this girl last year at a party, she was slightly interested in me back then (I found out from her recently) but never pursued me and we did not keep in touch. I met her once again 2 months ago, this time I was mesmerised at first sight. I hung out with her 2 times with my friends and finally mustered the courage to ask her out on a date. She said yes, but I could sense from the get go that she was not as into me as I was into her, stating that she wants to take things slow. We went out on 3 dates, made out on the first and slept together on the third. Two days later, she said I was sending out cues that I'm very serious about it and am possessive of her, and how that freaks her out. She said that she is in no shape for a relationship in that she needs to heal and is going through too many things at this point in time. [more inside]
posted by polyhistor on May 29, 2013 - 32 answers

I didn't get the job, but I have been sort of offered a better job?

I didn't get the job, but I have been sort of offered a better job at the same company in the future? Is there anything I can do besides wait? [more inside]
posted by ad4pt on May 7, 2013 - 10 answers

How do I respond to resume rejection because of high salary expectations

I sent my resume for a job that I am very qualified for but just received a message that my expectations are above the scope. They did not provide a range, just a requirement to include expected salary in the cover letter. I stated my salary and said that it is negotiable. I have plenty of wiggle room, I am in a new market that is a bit lower than others I've been in (I did lower it from past compensation, but not enough apparently). What can I say to convey I still want to be considered & am willing to take up to $15k less without sounding desperate? I am worth every penny that I asked for, and that is not just my opinion. I am very very good at what I do but again, I realize it is a new, different market so I am ok with lower...
posted by Snackpants on Apr 22, 2013 - 8 answers

How to drop out of an interview process without alienating anyone?

What's the best way to say you want out of an interview process before it's reached the offer stage? Difficulty: The company is one you want to interact with positively in the future. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 4, 2013 - 8 answers

Is There Ever A Chance After You're Rejected?

Do people ever reconsider after rejecting someone? Or is that a pipe dream? I asked someone out and got rejected...but things seem to remain unclear. [more inside]
posted by christiehawk on Feb 19, 2013 - 50 answers

Asked Out A Friend. Rejected. Now What?

About a month ago I asked about how to flirt with a friend. Well, I asked her out, and got rejected. Now I want to know how to deal with it. [more inside]
posted by christiehawk on Feb 4, 2013 - 26 answers

what am I doing wrong?

Guys keep rejecting me; am I hideous? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 4, 2013 - 45 answers

Shy and Unlucky in Love

Help me figure out why I'm so unlucky with romance [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 18, 2012 - 26 answers

How can I turn him down without crushing him?

How can I avoid leading a guy on when he won't come out and state his attraction? [more inside]
posted by chocolatemilkshakes on Dec 14, 2012 - 28 answers

After a breakup, how do you deal with the rejection?

After a breakup, how do you deal with the rejection? [more inside]
posted by thank you silence on Nov 15, 2012 - 23 answers

I think we should just be friends. Actually, I don't even think that...

I met an online suitor who's more into me than I'm into him, and I don't even really want to be friends with him. How can I tell him this? [more inside]
posted by dean_deen on Sep 9, 2012 - 19 answers

Is my boyfriend entitled or am I being a jerk?

My boyfriend of 6 months is great in many ways: kind, supportive, funny, etc. But (of course) there's one thing about him that's been bugging me, and I can't tell if I'm being unreasonable or not. The best way I can come up with to describe it is that he seems to feel... entitled. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 25, 2012 - 42 answers

I'm *not* going to stand outside holding a boombox over my head.

How to get a company to reconsider me for a job? [more inside]
posted by Gorgik on Aug 23, 2012 - 11 answers

Prospective father-in-law rejected marriage proposal request. What now?

I asked my girlfriend's father for permission to marry her and got shot down. What now? [more inside]
posted by daeken on Jul 17, 2012 - 86 answers

What now?

I didn't get into graduate school. All of my hopes/dreams/etc. were riding on this. Now what? [more inside]
posted by oxfordcomma on Apr 2, 2012 - 37 answers

I only want a partial enchilada, thank you

I have too much of a good thing. A lot of people want to date me. I am not interested in most of them beyond friendship, though, and I'm in a really comfortable FWB situation and don't want "the whole enchilada" of commitment, yet I only want this one person. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 12, 2012 - 23 answers

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