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Ours is not to reason why; ours but to do or die.

Did your spouse leave you for "more*"? If so, what was it like? *More = attention, affection, interest in your needs/hobbies, directed goals, assitance, reliability, intimacy, understanding, emotional labour, enthusiasm, connection, time, etc.... [more inside]
posted by Dressed to Kill on Nov 24, 2016 - 21 answers

How do I deal with the pain/guilt of not keeping in touch with family?

I have social anxiety, and I've put off calling my family members (other than my Mom) for years because I'm afraid/don't know what to say/think they'll reject me. Now it looks like one of them doesn't have much longer to live. How do I not hate myself for putting off getting in touch? [more inside]
posted by Autumn on Oct 21, 2016 - 11 answers

Regrets about no negotiating job offer

I left a job where I had plenty of privileges for a new job that I love but has no perks [more inside]
posted by 3dd on Jul 20, 2016 - 7 answers

Should I keep my old journals?

I'm considering throwing away several journals from 15-20 years ago. Have you been faced with this choice? If you tossed yours, did you ever regret it? If you kept yours, have you found some value from them? [more inside]
posted by woot on Jul 16, 2016 - 47 answers

I broke up with this guy, but did I do the right thing?

Broke off a short-term relationship, now struggling badly & unsure if I did the right thing. Tell me I have, or haven't. [more inside]
posted by Ariel432 on May 24, 2016 - 16 answers

Is it limerence, sexual obsession, or something else?

Even though I am generally happy, I sometimes have a hard time with a breakup from last year. I know it wasn't love. But it's messing me up. Confusion inside. [more inside]
posted by destroying_angel on May 23, 2016 - 8 answers

I miss my old life, pre-baby & feel extremely guilty...is this normal?

Nobody can prepare you for motherhood, nobody can even come close to describing the joys, sadness and all other mixes of emotions that come with adding a new life to your family. And nobody really shared the struggles or "not so pretty" side to motherhood, so with my feelings of yearning for my old life I feel so guilty that I haven't embraced this new life with an open heart and arms...are these feelings normal? Do mothers and fathers roles cause resentment, because there is inevitibly more responsiblity on the mothers (by nature to nurture if that makes sense)? How do you maintain a relationship with your SO when life seems to be so seperate now that a baby has arrived? A lot of the fun we had together is now seperate. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 8, 2016 - 40 answers

How do I stop regretting a 'wrong' decision (when it was really right)?

A few months ago I turned down the opportunity to attend Air Force Officer Training School, a dream I've been pursuing for years. This was probably the right decision, but not the one I wanted to make. Now I'm struggling with regret. [more inside]
posted by mannermode on Mar 30, 2016 - 22 answers

I was promiscuous in high school and undergrad and can't get past it.

I am in therapy. However, I am haunted by what people think of me rather than what I've done. I'm sex-positive, but my promiscuity stemmed from extreme childhood abuse. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 20, 2016 - 43 answers

First time woes...

Short version: I had sex for the first time with someone I thought I really liked, but it didn't quite go the way I expected it to and now I'm completely panicking about it. Long version inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 21, 2015 - 12 answers

How to quell envy?

How do I give my deep feelings of envy the smack-down? for that matter, is what I feel actually envy, or something else? [more inside]
posted by Soap D. Spencer on Apr 27, 2015 - 13 answers

How to get over an inferiority complex...when I am actually inferior

Most of my former college and high school classmates are doing really well (academically/professionally) and I am...not. I'm upset at myself for not taking advantage of opportunities I had in the past and the fact that I am so far behind them and may not actually be able to ever get to a similar level. How do I get past this? [more inside]
posted by hejrat on Apr 7, 2015 - 52 answers

it wasn't me, I wasn't there / I was stone drunk, it isn't clear

I used to be very, very wild. Now I am very, very boring. How can I bridge the gap to get back in touch with the people who only knew me as I was back then? Difficulty level: I don't want to talk about the old days at all. [more inside]
posted by divined by radio on Mar 24, 2015 - 21 answers

Does my obsessive worrying mean I was wrong to break up?

I am a 23 year old woman who recently broke up with my first serious girlfriend (32 yr old) whom I dated for 18 months. I cannot stop obsessing that it was the wrong decision even though there were many reasons why we wouldn't have worked. Is this normal or a sign I'm making a mistake? [more inside]
posted by gatsbyisgreat on Dec 10, 2014 - 30 answers

Help me find this blog entry(?) by a regretful, semitalented cartoonist.

Many years ago, I read a blog entry or the like by a person who followed his dream to be a cartoonist, despite not being very talented, and regretted his decision. Help me find it! [more inside]
posted by Bugbread on Nov 12, 2014 - 9 answers

Tell me about radical acceptance/constructive living?

Made a few bad decisions -- how do I move forward? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 4, 2014 - 9 answers

Grad school doubts, and it's only been three weeks!

I moved back to North America after living abroad for four years to start a Masters program. I’m here now, it’s been three weeks and I feel alternatingly very unhappy, stressed and panicked about the choice that I’ve made, and I'm hoping for some of advice on how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 20, 2014 - 7 answers

How true is this, really?

In your personal experience, how true are quotes like these? "In the end, we only regret the chances we did not take" or "Regret for the things we have done will be tempered by time. It is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable.” [more inside]
posted by puppet du sock on Sep 16, 2014 - 34 answers

How to get over post-lasik anxiety

I have post-lasik regret which is resulting in anxiety. How can I best frame my thoughts and emotions about my results so I can calm down? [more inside]
posted by vivzan on Aug 27, 2014 - 19 answers

Je Regrette Tout

Please help me figure out how to deal with crippling regret over small and large things. [more inside]
posted by caoimhe on Jun 12, 2014 - 11 answers

Quote help: "No one looks back on their life and remembers..."

I'm looking for a variation of this quote related to working too hard, or missing family events. I know there's the version that says "No one looks back on their life and remembers the nights they got good sleep..." but I thought there was one that was like "and remembers the nights they stayed late at the office" or "the times they stayed at work instead of being home in time for dinner." From a movie maybe? [more inside]
posted by jtajta on Jun 5, 2014 - 6 answers

The cubicle is always less dusty in the other office...

Have you ever regretted a career change? Have you ever attempted to change careers and failed to find gainfull employment in your new desired field? [more inside]
posted by WeekendJen on May 27, 2014 - 8 answers

How to maintain motivation for self-improvement?

I am a 27 year old woman who, after spending most of my twenties held back by depression and insecurity, is FINALLY taking steps to improve my personal and professional situation. However, I am battling doubts, regret, self-loathing, and the fear that it's all too late. How do I keep the self-criticism at bay long enough to actually get ahead? [more inside]
posted by celestine on May 4, 2014 - 22 answers

Did getting a tattoo after waiting for years live up to expectations?

If you wanted a tattoo for years and then you finally got a beautiful one, did you regret it later? [more inside]
posted by n'muakolo on Mar 18, 2014 - 44 answers

How can I come to terms with mistakes I made in my 20s?

I am in my late 20s, and I have increasingly found myself preoccupied with regret about how I have squandered my 20s. [more inside]
posted by ClaireBear on Feb 25, 2014 - 35 answers

apology vs. regret

What is the difference between apology and regret? Can you meaningfully, honestly apologize for something you don't regret? [more inside]
posted by divined by radio on Feb 7, 2014 - 44 answers

I feel like I am emotionally constipated around the people I love most

Whenever I see one of my close friends or family members, as soon as we part company I kick myself for not being more demonstrative of my love and appreciation of them. Am I Doing It Wrong, or is this a cognitive problem? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 13, 2014 - 6 answers

Name that sci-fi short story (aliens discussing humans)

Do you remember reading a short science fiction story where aliens were regretting their decision to exterminate humanity? [more inside]
posted by ana scoot on Dec 31, 2013 - 3 answers

I just got my masters in Biophysics and want to leave. Should I?

I'm in a Ph. D. program in Biophysics. I'm getting paid to be here. I've joined a lab and finished the classes, but I still have at least 2 and a half long years of research to go. I don't care for my project, I don't care for the town I'm in, and I don't even know if I care about science anymore. Finally someone noticed and I've been told I need to step up my game. [more inside]
posted by Archibald Edmund Binns on Dec 12, 2013 - 22 answers

Can/Should I rebuild trust in an LDR? How difficult might that be?

I broke up with my LDR significant other ("SO") because of SO's emotional affair, which SO concealed from me. Is my regret and doubt for breaking up with SO a signal to reconcile or a natural part of the loss? [more inside]
posted by sciolisticfelix on Dec 9, 2013 - 15 answers

How to heal with what I've learned?

I’ve been doing some heavy lifting lately involving my mental illness. For the first time in my life I think I’m finally facing the root cause of my problem, rather than the symptoms of depression, low self-esteem, lack of initiative, etc. More details [more inside]
posted by fredmounts on Sep 9, 2013 - 5 answers

How can I recover from previous inappropriate actions?

When I was in my late teens and early twenties I did some really weird and retrospectively embarrassing things. How can I stop obsessing over these mistakes and move on? Now that I am relatively "normal", how can I do damage control when my past actions are brought to light? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 9, 2013 - 38 answers

How do I forgive myself for making a bad decision?

My girlfriend and I are relocating to a new city. We're in town to find a place to live and applied for two places. We were offered both and had to make a (what seemed like a difficult) decision. We went back and forth and eventually made a decision. Once we signed the lease i started feeling serious regret and loss of opportunity. [more inside]
posted by mrunderhill on Jul 25, 2013 - 21 answers

Stories of remorse &/or redemption in the Talmud, Midrash, or Apocrypha?

I'm looking for short and simple fables or parables found in the above (or even just in Jewish folklore) dealing with subjects of regret, mistakes, despair, etc. If there is a redemptive element to it (i.e making amends for a mistake, or at least attempting to) so much the better. Difficulty: nothing related to Yom Kippur. Thanks!
posted by egeanin on May 30, 2013 - 4 answers

I've done wrong and I need to make it right

I cheated on my partner early last year. We were going through an extremely bad patch and I dealt with it in the worst possible way. We've come a long way since then, and I think I want to spend the rest of my life with him, if he'll have me. But I think he deserves to know about my worst secrets if we're going to do that. How do I do this in the least awful way? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 25, 2013 - 53 answers

How do I forgive myself for being a pothead?

I started smoking weed in my early twenties, when I moved away from my hometown to a larger city in a different country. It's enough to say that I wasn't adapted well to being on my own; that, combined with the stress of a new job, a language barrier, and a few health problems that chipped away at my self-esteem, led me to take comfort in marijuana, on and off, for ten years. How do I forgive myself for the feelings of shame I have? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 8, 2013 - 26 answers

Repeating old relationship patterns

Still not over the same old guy? [more inside]
posted by bookgirl18 on Nov 20, 2012 - 12 answers

Stories of dumper regret? Get him back? (Not interested in manipulation)

indecisive ex -- how do I handle this and do they ever come back (for the right reasons)? [more inside]
posted by minerving on Oct 30, 2012 - 12 answers

Help me deal with negative patterns of thinking.

Help me learn how to control my own mind. How do I stop thinking about things that I shouldn't be thinking about? [more inside]
posted by tokaidanshi on Jul 15, 2012 - 23 answers

How can I stop comparing my life to others'?

It seems like every day I will see someone accomplish something amazing. My first thought is not to be impressed or happy for them, but to try and find out their age. Then, if they are younger than I, I'm overcome with jealousy and regret. [more inside]
posted by Monochrome on Jul 6, 2012 - 33 answers

Looking for music tinged with nostalgia and sad longing.

Songs like Jackson Browne's These Days are suffused with nostalgia and wistfulness, what other great songs fit this mold? Help me find them. [more inside]
posted by MasonDixon on May 16, 2012 - 60 answers

How do I move on from this?

I suffer from depression and issues relating to low self esteem. In a moment of unbelievably horrible judgment and extreme selfishness I slept with my best friend's husband. She found out. I'm pretty sure I've lost her friendship forever and I have no idea how to deal with this crushing guilt and regret. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 8, 2012 - 35 answers

just setting myself up for rejection?

I can't stop thinking about asking my ex for another try. This is probably a bad idea, but should I just ask anyway, just so I know I tried my best? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 13, 2012 - 12 answers

I've been thinking about our fortune

Quitting a prestigious job I really enjoyed but grew incompatible with, starting a new one that has more promise, but is still an unknown. I've listened the hell out of Moody Blues' "Story In Your Eyes" and Simple Minds' "Don't You." What other songs capture the essence of a bittersweet ending and an exciting but uncertain future?
posted by Slap*Happy on Mar 30, 2012 - 18 answers

My boyfriend committed suicide

I left him. Packed up my stuff, and the pets. He was there trying to keep it together even though I could see his pain. He killed himself 10 days later. Everyone is saying it's not my fault and not to blame myself. How? [more inside]
posted by puppup on Mar 27, 2012 - 53 answers

Help a girl say no.

Late-twenties female in need of new strategies for handling intimate encounters and avoiding disassociation during sex and shame afterwards. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 5, 2012 - 35 answers

Living with yourself after doing a horrible and selfish thing

I need help in moving on with my life after telling a lie. Many lies. That hurt someone very badly. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 22, 2012 - 28 answers

Regret, turned down job offer, Will the hiring manager consider me for future openings?

Regret of declining a job offer, I want to know how the Hiring Manager perceived me? Will I be considered for future opportunity? [more inside]
posted by msconfuse on Nov 11, 2011 - 4 answers

What do you regret about not going to art school?

People who decided against art school because they have many other interests: what did you regret? [more inside]
posted by ooklala on Oct 27, 2011 - 22 answers

Having regrets about moving...it's eating me up inside and I'm not sure how to deal

I'm about halfway through setting up my new studio in Oakland, and I feel this overwhelming sense of feeling like I should have looked for a place in San Francisco instead. I'm not sure what to do at this point. [more inside]
posted by starpoint on Oct 1, 2011 - 29 answers

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