I recently graduated from college, and will be finding a place to rent within the next month or two, likely in either the SF Bay Area or NYC (so the market will be rather competitive). While in college, due to being five young guys who were apathetic about cleaning, we didn't leave our apartment in the best condition, and incurred significant cleaning fees (~$450), much more than our landlord usually charged. (Not that we literally destroyed anything, though.) How badly would this affect our rental applications in the near future, and what should I say if asked? [more inside]
I was fired from a job like 5 years ago, and I am thinking of just saying that I was laid off if I am asked “why I left”. I am not planning to give any references from that company but I heard that sometimes they will call the company and fish around for a reference without you knowing. [more inside]
I was head hunted by a recruitment agent through LinkedIn about 6 months ago, which has resulted in me starting a job I LOVE this week. Today the agent called me up and asked me to give her a LinkedIn reference . I felt a little on the spot so I said yes. [more inside]
I would have to break a small teaching contract to take a much more stable and lucrative admin job I interviewed for at the same university. I haven't told my current supervisor that I'm looking for other work, but the application form required me to put them down as a reference. What should I do if HR gives me the heads-up that they are going to call my references? [more inside]
Did people commonly make and keep copies of their handwritten personal correspondence? [more inside]
Do you have any suggestions for books, websites, other to help a new arrival to the US with learn general cultural references? I'm mentoring a Chinese student who is attending a mid-size US university. This is her first time in the US, and her English is fantastic. She asked me if I knew of any resources that could help her understand more US cultural references since sometimes she feels lost. [more inside]
Help me remember where this joke about James Bond came from. [more inside]
A young designer asked me to write a letter on her behalf for an O-1 visa application. She has a job offer from a certain fruit-named tech company. I don't want to go into detail here about how I know her; I'm familiar with one of her projects, but don't know her well at all. Her lawyers provided a letter, but it uses language I'm uncomfortable with ("I can say without hesitation that X represents the best of the best in Y industry") and that the lawyers say is important. The rest of the letter also doesn't sound like anything I would ever say. What should I do? I don't want to hurt her application, and I initially said that I would do this, but I don't think my actual letter would offer the kind of support they're looking for.
I've read several baby books that provide a comprehensive overview of the first year of an infant's life: development, basic care, etc. Can you recommend a book that covers the toddler years in a similar way? [more inside]
I am looking for a resource that lists probability distributions and their common real-world applications. For example, I'd expect to see: Lognormal - daily returns in the stock market. Poisson - failure rates for mechanical equipment, ... [more inside]
What to do when a reference suddenly flakes? Just wondering what happened as it is such an awful feeling. [more inside]
I was told that I am the finalist for a position in a school district, but that the last step would be to contact my current employer for a reference. I told them no, not until I see something in writing. But how do I handle once I do see something in writing? Help me navigate these tricky waters! [more inside]
My +1 is outfitting the molecular biology and biochemistry side of a physics lab. He would like to get books (electronic and/or paper) to fulfill two needs: 1. protocols and reference - for in lab use 2. history or textbook of molecular biology - to help familiarize physics people with the field. Looking for suggestions for solid books that are readable and have good figures. [more inside]
Which short instructional videos do it really well? [more inside]
I'm interviewing tomorrow for a reader services position in an archives and need some help thinking about what current topics the committee might want to talk about. [more inside]
I'm searching for visual reference material, in the area of kinetic natural phenomena - think falling rocks, volcanic eruptions, flowing magma, good tornado sequences, anything menacing, optimally POV. Photorealistic preferable, CG perfectly suitable, any duration, web or DVD sourced, docs or movies. Thanks!
I'm a reference for a friend who is applying for a license to practice law. The reference form asks me whether my friend has ever "been arrested, or engaged in unlawful conduct". My friend has not, to my knowledge, ever been arrested (or had any other trouble with the law), but like most people consumed alcohol before the age of 21, jaywalks, downloaded music as a teen, etc. Nothing serious at all. What should I say? [more inside]
When I encounter a problem that I want to improve my management of, what is a better strategy than, "find book on Amazon/ order book/ never read book or only read 1st chapter? [more inside]
I've been tasked with putting together a medical library for my small disability law firm. Doctors, what are five essential medical books that we should look at obtaining regarding general medical practice? [more inside]
Last Olympics there was an FPP linking to a thorough Olympics prospectus. Among other things, it has a condensed three-event-a-day set of viewing recommendations, a per-sport set of athletes and countries to keep an eye on, and bunches of athlete and sport context sprinkled throughout for flavor. I loved being able to tune in to a random event, pull up the prospectus, and quickly find a few sentences/a paragraph that gave me the gist of the narrative/context for that event. Is there an equivalent this year? Failing that, what are other good resources for Olympics viewers this year?
Decided to take a break from photography. Would like to learn how to draw / paint. Can anyone recommend a good book / textbook for reference purposes?
I recently got the opportunity to apply for a cherry job that would have solved a lot of my current problems, but I seem to have blown it. I'm wondering if a bad employer reference might have done me in? [more inside]
I haven't known him for that long. And am in a position of privilege [more inside]
A question about writing letters of recommendation. Specifically, when the letters are not hand-written and snail mailed, but are emailed instead. [more inside]
I'm looking for a Macroeconomics textbook to use for future reference. [more inside]
What are good "owners manuals" for new dog owners? [more inside]
Help! I need to know what high society Cairo looks like in the 1920s - the sophisticated, opulent, and fashionable - people and settings. More parties and interiors than architecture. It's really important that the references be of Egyptian people, not travelers visiting from abroad bringing their own style with them. But, if it was fashionable for the well-heeled to import furniture and clothing styles from Europe, that's important too. What does a party look like, and how would it differ from a party set in Paris or London? The things that are different are the things that are important. My best resource so far is the Egyptian Royalty pool on Flickr. That and Indiana Jones is all I've got. It's for a painting. Thanks!
I was contacted about a job with a company by a HR recruiter (not from that company) on LinkedIn. I was aware of this job from the company’s website and also I have a friend who is working at that company in a peer position. That friend said he spoke to his boss, and his boss said I should apply for the job via the company's website, so I did. Would there be any benefit following up with the HR recruiter from LinkedIn anyway? [more inside]
Just got extended a dream job offer, but I'm afraid a background check will turn up a skeleton in my closet (that I didn't put there) that I don't know how to deal with. How do I prepare to refute it clearly, professionally, and without weaving an unnecessarily epic tale of drama? [more inside]
Looking for recommendations for a book of poetry collections for someone new to poetry. [more inside]
I have an immersion circulator. Confit is delicious. What's the best reference for making lots of interesting confits? [more inside]
What movie had a reference to Sacred Hoops? [more inside]
I will be giving a newly minted 9-year-old gentleman of my acquaintance a wallet for his birthday. I was thinking of printing and laminating a card full of important reference information for a young man of his age. Sort of an ultra condensed Schott's Original Miscellany. What should I put on it?
What are the best obsessively cataloged reference websites from your field? I mean the kinds of places you can go to when things are being reported on in a confusing way, or just seems off and worth checking, where you can cut through the bullshit and easily find either original source material or otherwise solid answers to technical questions. [more inside]
Do I have to use my direct supervisor as a reference? [more inside]
Is there a book (or a way to have one made) that would list all available Linux commands with options and what they mean for any shell I'm interested in learning? (Currently bash) [more inside]
The question: Should I provide a lukewarm reference for my recently fired ex-manager to avoid awkwardness? Or should I tell him no, and if so, what is the code language to use? I can't say "Sorry, that won't be possible" for reasons outlined herein. [more inside]
A friend's life is being ruled by something resembling ORS, a psychological condition in which you believe you smell like a trash can, move to another city and hide from society. She insists that it's an odor issue, and when everyone tells her she's OK, she writes it off as white lies to make her feel better. [more inside]
Lets say I found an amazing macro photograph of a flower or of an old building and I wanted to do a very detailed graphite drawing of the photo. Am I able to claim this drawing as 'my' artwork? Can I use it in a painting to sell? Does the photographer need to be credited? Do I need permission in the first place to use the photo as reference or should I just avoid all the potential hassle and take my own darned photographs for reference from which to draw?
What are the best resources and references for a novice interested in modern electrical engineering? [more inside]
I am applying for an internship and I want to ask someone to give me a reference. However, I haven't been in contact with them for two years. We parted on good terms. Is it acceptable for me to ask them for a reference still? [more inside]
Which book should I buy to replace the (non-existent) 10th edition of "The Penguin Guide to Jazz Recordings"? [more inside]
What's this novel? I just got a reference request to identify the book/series that has vampires and "bats with big bladders under their bellies". Vampire books are not my forte. Complete question inside. Help? [more inside]
I'd like to know more about a type of photographic route guide used in the early 20th century, definitely in the US if not elsewhere. They're a series of photographs of junctions with an arrow drawn over them. Librarians, map lovers, can you help me? [more inside]
I would like to buy a good book on how to sew. I don't mean a beginner's instructional book, since I can already sew quite well, but a comprehensive reference book that covers everything from the basics to advanced tailoring and couture techniques. I want a sewing book that is the equivalent of Vogue Knitting, which is revered among knitters as the knitter's Bible. I've come across Vogue Sewing, and Power Sewing by Sandra Betzina. Would you recommend either one of these as the best choice, or do you know of another book you think is better?
My supervisor/thesis advisor has dropped off the face of the earth as I'm applying for jobs, so I can't count on him as a reference. How bad does this look, should I explain it in writing somewhere, and how? [more inside]
Help me write a character reference for my friend awaiting sentencing in a US prison. [more inside]
I need to provide supervisor references for a job opportunity, but I do not have many people I can ask. Need help figuring out my options. Details inside: [more inside]
Joni Mitchell's Harry's House/Centerpiece. A lyrics question. [more inside]