My girlfriend was raped by a former coworker and friend. How would you recommend I offer support?
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posted by anonymous
on May 5, 2013 -
7 answers
My elderly mother in law recently confided in me that her now-deceased husband sexually assaulted her decades ago and it haunts her daily.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 19, 2013 -
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I'm interested in learning about rape in 19th century America for a fictional piece I'm writing. I'm not really sure where to start in researching this, but I'd be grateful for any resources or information.
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posted by Put the kettle on
on Mar 8, 2013 -
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Someone makes rape jokes at your workplace. If you could make them read and write an essay about an illuminating book on rape and sexual violence, what would that book be?
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posted by DisreputableDog
on Jan 22, 2013 -
22 answers
I've been Googling and looking through different lists of recommended books (including some recommended by orgs like RAINN) about healing from sexual trauma, but I'm looking for 1 or 2 good books that are reasonably-priced. (Many of these books seem to be out of print and therefore expensive.) This is about an assault that happened to me as an adult, so books about child abuse are out.
What I don't want: hokey, religious, new-age, preachy, textbooks, "workbooks"
My ideal book would deal with many of the symptoms of Rape Trauma Syndrome, including having "body memories" of the assault.
Hope this is descriptive enough.
posted by anonymous
on Jan 20, 2013 -
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Have you gone to therapy or counseling after a rape? What outcome were you looking for? Did it help?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 18, 2013 -
9 answers
The
Wikipedia page on statistics about rape shows a very high crime rate for countries like UK, US and Australia in stark contrast to, say, India. The gap can't be explained simply by under-reporting, as that exists in all these countries (even assuming different rates of under-reporting). Is it because these countries have different definitions of rape? Or something else?
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posted by vidur
on Jan 13, 2013 -
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Someone had sex with me even though I said "no" multiple times, but I was drunk and my memories of the event are completely foggy, especially the moment of penetration. This happened several months ago and I have been completely ignoring it, but in the past few days told my partner and now feel completely confused. What do I call this? Is this rape or a confused moment that turned nonconsensual by accident? Especially confused about how to interact and think about the other person involved.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 2, 2013 -
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Women's self defense. I'm curious about things that can be done before you get to a point where you've got to physically defend yourself.
In particular, I'd be interested in first hand experiences from women about how you avoid these situations and if you've ever had to fight someone off.
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posted by rambletamble
on Nov 12, 2012 -
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My boyfriend made me incredibly angry with rape-related victim-blaming arguments of "people just shouldn't put themselves in risky situations" tonight. I can't make my point eloquently enough. Point me toward someone who can?
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posted by R a c h e l
on Nov 10, 2012 -
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The girl I've been dating for two months told me she was raped five years ago. What could be her motivation for telling me now?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 24, 2012 -
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I'm finally processing the reality of being a victim of online enticement by a child predator. Besides therapy, are there any good resources for helping deal with the shame?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 21, 2012 -
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I am a woman who is deeply ashamed of what sexually excites me and need help or resources in learning to stop my porn/masturbation problem.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 22, 2012 -
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My girlfriend has suffered a lot, and is very angry: she wants me to confront my housemate for his passivity to the abuse she endured. Should I? Long and complicated.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 6, 2012 -
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I'm dating a girl who has had a difficult past and who seems to be strangely absent during sex. Help me figure out how best to deal with this.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 6, 2012 -
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What is the story behind the text "My brother raped me last night" that has been posted to hundreds of apparently random online forums recently?
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posted by msalt
on Nov 16, 2011 -
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If I want to find out more about the fallout from the Pitcairn rape trials, who should I contact? I have read the wikipedia entry on it, but I would ideally like to hear from people who were actually involved in the trial, or who are closely connected with the community, what the impact of it has been on the community.
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posted by lollusc
on Sep 29, 2011 -
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I was raped by someone I thought was a friend. I finally reported him to the cops, but I live alone in a city where i walk everywhere. He knows all of this, along with my daily habits. I don't want to change my lifestyle, but I need safety, especially at my apartment (which is where he raped me). Pepper spray (which I already have), tasers, stun guns--I've seen cops use these things on men of his size & it makes no difference. I feel like I have no choice but to get a gun. Please help me think of another option.
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posted by anonymous
on May 31, 2011 -
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Is it normal when processing an assault to get similar body sensations as the assault itself when journaling or contemplating it?
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posted by kanata
on May 21, 2011 -
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Please recommend journal or magazine articles about rape. I'm looking for a select few especially worthwhile articles—insightful, written in plain language. Any aspects welcome, from legal analysis to personal stories. Substantial articles preferred (i.e., longer essays, not opinion columns).
posted by red clover
on Mar 28, 2011 -
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My friend (American) is in Changsha, China, and will be for about a year. She found out that a male expat in the city recently raped a Chinese woman. What can she do? She really needs some China-specific advice.
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posted by mandanza
on Oct 10, 2010 -
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I was raped several months ago and did a remarkably good job at boxing everything up to think about at another time. It looks like it's ... that time. How do I go about processing things?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 14, 2010 -
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I'm about to begin volunteering at a shelter for battered women and their children. The shelter also operates a 24/7 crisis line for women who have suffered from abuse and violence, including sexual assault. What should I know before I start? How should I prepare? What was your experience like?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 9, 2010 -
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I was sexually assaulted a year ago, and I never told my long-distance boyfriend what happened. Am I morally obligated to talk to him about it?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 23, 2010 -
44 answers
What is the name of this really disturbing science fiction short story? (potentially NSFW description)
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posted by brundlefly
on Jun 25, 2010 -
14 answers
Are statutory rape prosecutions based on the state of residence of the accused, the state of residence of the victim, or where the sex occurred?
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posted by Joe Beese
on Jun 21, 2010 -
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My girlfriend confided in my yesterday that she cheated on me with an exboyfriend almost exactly a year ago and kept it secret from me. This explains a lot of her overemotional behaviour and the tumult in our relationship over the past while, I think. But when she elaborated on the circumstances what happened sounded more like rape than anything.
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posted by anonymous
on May 3, 2010 -
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Before recent times (say, mid-20th century to the present), have there been other accusations, admissions, or convictions of Roman Catholic priests committing sexual abuse, molestation, and rape?
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posted by raztaj
on Apr 5, 2010 -
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I'm a woman, he's a man. We're in love. We were both sexually abused as children. I've overcome it, but he's still struggling. Can I help him? [NSFW]
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 3, 2010 -
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What is acceptable for a mentor/mentee relationship? I feel like I'm taking mine too far...
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posted by semp
on Feb 20, 2010 -
16 answers
My first lesbian experience quickly became assault. What do I do to take care of myself now?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 3, 2009 -
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A medical issue has caused memories of rape to resurface and ruin my sex life. I have no money for therapy. Do I have any options other than being a mess and making both me and boyfriend totally miserable?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 11, 2009 -
22 answers
I need recommendations for a group for survivors of violent crime and or sexual assault. I am in the Glendale/Burbank area.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 22, 2009 -
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Awful Filter: What are the best women's crisis centers in NYC who address rape survivors? How can I locate affordable therapy in New York for a rape survivor? How do I call attention to hospital incompetence and unqualified social workers? Much, much more inside.
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posted by zoomorphic
on Aug 3, 2009 -
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How can I come during sex with my boyfriend? I find it impossible to reach orgasm unless I'm doing it myself, with extreme, violent fantasies. I've tried fantasizing about the same stuff during sex, but it's hard to reconcile with the reality of my gentle, loving boyfriend, even if we have rough sex or (to a degree) act out the fantasy.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 26, 2009 -
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It seems like the only thing that can get me off is extremely unpleasant written erotica (details inside, to keep the front page clean). Do I have a problem? Should I see a therapist?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 30, 2009 -
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I'm completely confused about why this is bothering me so much. Can you help me figure it out? My wonderful adorable boyfriend of several years has recently begun a D&D campaign with his friends, and their typically evil characters go around murdering, stealing, and raping. Why oh why do I have no problems with the first two in games, but become incredibly frustrated when I hear about that third?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 10, 2008 -
103 answers
I recently heard a rumor that Carl Gustav Jung would rape female patients and hypnotize them so they would have no memory of the attack. Is there any truth to this, or is this the sort of story professional rivals spread to discredit his ideas?
posted by bunky
on Sep 14, 2008 -
10 answers