We fired our nanny this morning. This is the second nanny we have gone through in five years. Please help me refine how to do my prep work so we can build a long-term relationship with the next person. [more inside]
Do you mind if co-workers simply drop by your desk to ask you a question or give you info? Do you prefer getting impromptu questions from one of these channels over the others --> in person, phonecall, email, instant message? [more inside]
Hi all, I am a graphic designer and have an interview with a large company next week. The HR person asked that I fill out a couple forms, bring my resume, printed portfolio... the usual. However, she also stated I should bring my laptop. [more inside]
One of the reasons I like Facebook (don't kill me) is that it connects me with a lot of my friends near and far. For the past week, I've been posting questions that start off with "Because I'm curious…." which has resulted in a lot of great banter, but it also helps me to get to know people too. Help me come up with more questions. [more inside]
A friend and I travel together frequently. What are some interesting questions we can ask one another while we're hiking for hours on end? [more inside]
Can you help me compile a list of silly, yes/no style questions? [more inside]
What difficult questions can I ask to my half asleep girlfriend? [more inside]
In my role at work, I'm often approached on a day to day basis with very specific ad hoc questions. Often times, I have no background on the question / issue, and am not sure how to answer. [more inside]
My partner always says he doesn't have any particular goals in life, but it's clear that he does. He just hasn't identified or articulated them. Do you know a book, essay, website, etc. that could help him elucidate his image of what he wants for the future? [more inside]
I've been working at my current job, in an actuarial capacity, for nearly 3 years. The problem I'm having is that I find it difficult to ask questions about new tasks in the workplace. I think a small part of this is the fear of coming across as dumb. If I end up asking something really basic, it may look bad to my boss. I've read about imposter syndrome and think that's part of what I'm experiencing. But, I think a bigger part is that I have trouble actually articulating a question clearly about something unless I actually have a pretty complete idea of it. If someone is explaining something new to me, I have to spend some time letting it sink in and digesting it before I can actually form a clear, coherent question about it. It's frustrating, because I see other co-workers of mine who seem able to ask questions immediately upon being given new tasks, but I struggle a lot with it. I generally want to be able to ask questions more easily - how can I best achieve this?
Watching BBC recently, I caught a bit of an advert with Frank Skinner and some others talking about a new bbc website (or maybe it was a series available on iPlayer) which features interesting questions. I've looked on bbc.co.uk and googled but have come up empty handed. Can anyone point me to the site?
Help me think of some short answer but open ended questions that will make people smile and get them to relax in a community-building way. [more inside]
My doctoral advisor is moving universities. What do I need to know? What are good questions to ask? [more inside]
Defending my thesis next week and need help with turns of phrase to kick off complicated answers to difficult questions. Have flopped in conferences past. [more inside]
I am beginning the application process for a much-desired position. One of my good friends works in a similar position for the same company on the other coast. I will definitely have her ear during the application and interview process, and I want to make the most of being able to pump her for information. However, I don't even know where to begin. What questions should I ask her that will give me usable insight into the company, that I can turn around and use to strengthen my resume (and hopefully land and ace an interview)?
I stumbled across a site a few weeks ago which would put up an image of some sort and ask you to write what question came to your mind. I think the point was just to collect the questions and look at them (but it asked you to make an account before you could see more than a few of the other peoples' questions, and I never did that). I've forgotten where I found it. Does anyone know what site this was? [more inside]
I'm looking for witty endings for the question "Welcome to Computer Science, where questions like XXX are not YYY", similar to this sign. But I'm drawing complete blanks. Any ideas?
Basically I met a guy at a bar (I'm also a guy fyi)... We've been going places, eating out, and hanging out for the past month and a half and still are. Every day or every other day or so and he's always up for it. He messages me while we're both at work. [more inside]
I hate responding to small-talk interrogations. I'm a private person, and I just don't feel ok with giving relative strangers answers to personal-feeling questions, even though the questions themselves may be fairly innocuous. I also get confused and flustered when people ask me a lot of questions, and I will make mistakes, even though they are about me. How can I avoid answering these kinds of questions? [more inside]
What are the best questions to ask when checking out a potential wedding reception venue? [more inside]
My partner and I want to fill a hat with as many questions as possible, so that we can pull a couple of questions out of it each time we're together. We chat a lot but we both think it'd be great to have something else to spark conversations. I think it'll work best if neither of us know what most of the questions are. Hence why I'd like your lists of deep, funny, stupid or random questions to ask that will spark a conversation. [more inside]
As one might tell from my time spent reading AskMe, I'm endlessly fascinated by good answers to fascinating questions. Likewise I read Slate's Explainer, The Economist Explains, and XKCD's What If?. What are other similar sites that provide quality, in-depth answers to questions I never knew I wanted to ask? [more inside]
I work in a large health-care facility and thus see many people that I know in passing as I travel to and from various places. I have been shamelessly ripping off "Diamond" Dallas Page (who probably ripped it off from someone else) for his response to "How are you doing?" If I was doing any better, I'd have to be twins to enjoy it. This usually gets at least a chuckle, and I'm looking for responses in a similar vein. Generally light and humorous (I'd prefer not to say something darkly humorous) and DEFINITELY short, as this is usually said in passing. So, Metafilter, HOW YOU DOIN'?
My kitty, Shoggoth, just had to have six teeth extracted due to FORLs, including one of these fangs. I'm curious about whether any Mefites who know about vet stuff can explain some of the mechanics of this to me. [more inside]
I recently inherited enough money that will allow me to not work again. I still want to do things - volunteer, help others, keep busy, etc. How do I explain this to others and answer questions that people ask? [more inside]
I'm scheduled for a technical interview after the weekend for a front-end development position. I'd like to spend some intensive time beforehand reading relevant blogs and books to prime the ol' noodle and supplement my existing knowledge. Could you recommend some resources? Are there questions you would ask an applicant in this situation, or that you have been asked? [more inside]
I've heard that men don't like questions. I'm a woman and would like to have better relationships with the men in my life. Give me some examples of ways to rephrase questions into statements, directives or imperatives. [more inside]
I read the esr article, and thought that was pretty good advice about asking questions. Then I realized I don't get enough advice about asking questions. So are there any considered texts, resources, etc about asking really good questions? Any direct advice? Edificatory anecdotes?
Tomorrow I'm leading a session for college freshmen on the importance of asking questions. The canned curriculum we've been given introduces the session with me reading a story (!) to the students. Unfortunately, the moral of the story seems to be why NOT to ask questions. [more inside]
Have you gone to therapy or counseling after a rape? What outcome were you looking for? Did it help? [more inside]
I have a problem with certain types of questions. Help me to understand why and how I can deal with my discomfort.
I have been struggling to figure something out. There are certain types of questions I have trouble with, and I would like to understand what types of questions these are, why am I so uncomfortable with them, and what can I do to make dealing with them less unpleasant. [more inside]
Where can I find a bunch of thought-provoking questions or prompts for starting conversations? I'm looking for the rabbit-hole questions you can spend a lot of time discussing with someone, as well as questions that help you get to know someone better. Are there books, games, or web resources like this? [more inside]
Considering asking my doctor for modafinil; concerns and questions. [more inside]
I've got a job interview at Google? What should I expect? [more inside]
What's your favorite web place for open-ended questions about almost anything? I'm basically looking for a great, engaged, smart community - like Metafilter - but with the ability to ask and answer more open-ended questions and to engage posters in conversations.
What is it like living in Hounslow or out Heathrow Airport way? Is it possible to find a three-bedroom house to rent that would allow pets? Are there lots of coffee shops?
Answers to the Book of Questions? [more inside]
There was a study a few years back where they had two people meet and discuss a list of questions. The control pairs got a basic set of superficial interview questions (what's your name, do you have siblings, where are you from) and the other got a specially designed set of questions that increasingly went into meaningful, personal topics. At the end, pairs in the test group tended to report a deep bond with their partner and went on to become friends after the study. Can you find me the study and/or the questions?
Fellow lawyers: If all goes well, I hope to be extended an offer to go in house at a bank, after 7 years at big firms. Is there anything I should know, or any advice you can give? [more inside]
How personal is too personal for a job interview question? [more inside]
Help me learn how to help people come to their own conclusions and learn from their previous experiences in a friendly manner. (Warning: super long explanation inside) [more inside]
Need a quick, simple response to "why aren't you drinking??" [more inside]
So in a week I'm starting a gig writing questions for a tv quiz show! Where are your favourite online (or offline!) repositories or trivia and amazing facts? [more inside]
In a bid to prolong bed-time, my four-year-old just asked me, "What is electricity made of?' I told her to close her eyes and go to sleep, which has bought me 9-10 hours till she wakes me up and asks me the same question again. What's the most accurate answer I can give her that she will understand and not be bored by?
Help me do a better job of phone screening candidates for largely-technical/programming positions. [more inside]
So what exactly is this mystical power of 'Teamwork'? [more inside]
What questions do I need to ask before applying for a mortgage modification? [more inside]
I run a monthly Pub Quiz and I have a website, running on Wordpress which I use for announcing upcoming quizzes, publishing results and past questions / answers. At the moment I publish the questions and answers (50 per month) as separate blog posts with a category of Question or Answer tagged with the month and year. Is there a smarter, more intuitive way of doing it? [more inside]
Matchmaking Judo: Help me design the best (and shortest) matchmaking questionnaire in the history of the world. I'm assembling a short list of questions that two strangers can quickly answer to determine if they might be a good match. [more inside]
Why do some people refuse to answer direct questions, and instead will respond with a question of their own? How can I understand this communication pattern to stop being enraged by it? and how do I get my questions answered? [more inside]