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Rejected Craigslist Roommate = Possible Date?

My housemates and I interviewed several people yesterday for a new roommate. We chose the person whose move-in schedule logistically worked best. However, we got along with all of the interviewees surprisingly well; each one stayed and chatted for at least an hour. I especially got along with two people, and I'd like to contact them again to see if they want to get together as friends, or - especially one of them - as a date. How inappropriate is this? Would you feel flattered or stalked if someone who didn't choose you as a roommate asked you out? [more inside]
posted by Munching Langolier on Aug 18, 2014 - 21 answers

Gay Tax

I hit the holy grail and have a new position with full benefits, including full coverage for domestic partners. I have a partner who lives with me, but we are still fairly newish and are not ready to get married. I have to enroll us in the benefits very soon, like now. The problem is, the queer tax (I guess now the Not-Legally-Married tax) on my partner's benefits. [more inside]
posted by latkes on Jun 12, 2014 - 14 answers

Queer sci-fi

Where are some good places to read queer sci fi short stories? [more inside]
posted by tinkletown on May 22, 2014 - 23 answers

Blog-Magazines For Cool Colorful Punk Babes

Lately I've been really into the blog Ribbon Around A Bomb, who writes about female-fronted 70s post-punk, Twin Peaks, feminist art, and leather jackets. I also love The Pulp Zine, which is full of teen dreams and high school small town angst, an obsession with Burger Records, 90s nostalgia, black lipstick and pink hair. I'm looking for more blogs that cover punk, garage rock, femme fun, DIY, weirdo fashion, nostalgia, queerness, creativity, feminism, art, and worship of countercultural idols. Basically, I'm a fully-grown scummy punk boyfemme who wants the experience of flipping through a teen magazine tailored to my interests. What other sites would I love? [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana on Apr 16, 2014 - 2 answers

How to tactfully explain to people that I’m not straight?

I got married last year (!). My husband and I are both queer, and both have a history of same-sex relationships before we met one another. This hasn't caused any problems in our own relationship, but it’s causing some unexpected confusion at our LGBT-friendly church. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 12, 2014 - 34 answers

Feels like I'm 15 again

I'm in my early thirties, bisexual/queer and just ended a decade-long relationship with a cisgendered man. I'm starting to date women but haven't had sex with a woman in a decade and didn't have a lot of experience even then. I have always been a visible part of the LGBT community and most people assume I'm a lesbian, which makes people think I have more sexual experience with women than I do. I'm basically nervous about not knowing what to do anymore and being bad in bed. Questions are as follows: Should I disclose this lack of recent experience to the women I'm starting to casually date and have sex with? How can I stop being so nervous, which I know won't help? And: what does real-life lesbian safer sex look like when you're an adult and not a 23 year old with no sense of risk?
posted by anonymous on Apr 2, 2014 - 8 answers

Where have all the movie plots gone?

Where are all the films which have queer characters whose sexuality is not the main point of the film? Action movies with lesbian heroes; courtroom dramas with transgender lawyers; road trip movies with gay buddies out for more than getting laid; science fiction/spooky stuff films with androgynous/intersex protagonists, I'm not fussed. Preferably ones where no one dies as a "punishment" for being queer. [more inside]
posted by Athanassiel on Mar 16, 2014 - 38 answers

Am I in danger?

Total snowstorm inside, in short my roommate for the next month has very, very different worldviews from me, does things I find offensive and might have access to a gun. He does not know that I am transgendered. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 10, 2014 - 65 answers

Thoughtful trans/queer/identity politics blogs

I'm looking for thoughtful, thought-provoking blogs (and books, I guess) covering topics like queer theory, trans/gender theory, identity politics, and maybe related activism. Transmasculine/masculine of center/FTM topics especially welcome. Extreme academic jargon is not a turn-off. A few additional notes inside. [more inside]
posted by dorque on Feb 19, 2014 - 3 answers

Away We Go - Grandparents Included!

My partner and I are pregnant and looking for a place to make our permanent home. The sitch? My parents are coming with us. And while we think it's pretty awesome of them, it's making location hunting that much more complicated. [more inside]
posted by givennamesurname on Feb 15, 2014 - 19 answers

Queer-friendly haircut in the Twin Cities?

Looking for a place or a particular stylist who will cut my queer hair and who may even offer suggestions about style. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Frowner on Nov 5, 2013 - 15 answers

Songs about the early years of HIV/AIDS

What are some songs about the early years of HIV/AIDS in the US and the politics surrounding it? Think musical equivalent of something like Angels in America. [more inside]
posted by ActionPopulated on Oct 17, 2013 - 34 answers

It gets better. It really does, right?

A friend's 13 yo son has been having serious mental and behavioral problems and they haven't fully figured out why. They discovered by accident (shared electronics) that he is now identifying as bi and has expressed romantic interest in another guy his age. I'm also queer but I'm not a parent (and I grew up before the internet gave me access to Dan Savage, in a very different cultural climate). I totally know how hard it is to be a GLBTQ teenager and want to help them alleviate as much of the sexual identity stress on him as possible/appropriate. What do you feel are the best resources or advice for a parent of a gay teenager with mental health issues? [more inside]
posted by sweltering on Oct 3, 2013 - 11 answers

How to get Emory to Rescind Award to Anti-gay Activist?

Emory University is planning to give a distinguished alumni award to H. Eddie Fox, who has been leading the fight against the inclusion and equality of gay Methodists in the Methodist Church (among other accomplishments). Students/staff/faculty are currently mobilizing to have that award rescinded. We have less than a week left. What is the most effective way to pressure Emory to rescind that award? [more inside]
posted by andoatnp on Sep 22, 2013 - 6 answers

Rules for hosting Olympics public-viewing events in local bars?

When the Olympics come around, often bars will host viewing events. Are there official rules for how to make this happen? Can any bar with a TV host network viewing or stream from online? Can the bar or organizer publicize it as an Olympics viewing event? Can the organizers broadcast the games and overlay their own commentary? [more inside]
posted by fallacy of the beard on Sep 1, 2013 - 5 answers

Transmasculine / Masculine-of-Center Fashion Blogs

I'm a queer girl who sometimes likes to dress like a boy. I would like suggestions for fashion blogs that focus on genderqueer/butch/trans fashion. I'm especially looking for style aesthetics other than the very popular "dapper" look. [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana on Aug 23, 2013 - 6 answers

Mexico City recommendations: cool 'hood, what to do, etc

I'm going to Mexico City in late October and have a bunch of questions! [more inside]
posted by TheGoodBlood on Aug 22, 2013 - 1 answer

Fun ideas for a workshop on emotions?

Help me design a workshop about emotions, self-awareness, and coping strategies for 50 queer youth! [more inside]
posted by whalebreath on Aug 6, 2013 - 12 answers

LGBTQ+ activism/volunteering while studying abroad in Barcelona?

I'm studying abroad this fall in Barcelona with pretty workable Spanish but very limited Catalan, and I'd love to do some work/activism/volunteering/organizing around queer or related issues (HIV/AIDS, youth development, homelessness, etc.) while I'm there. Is this possible given my language limitations? [more inside]
posted by kylej on Jul 29, 2013 - 4 answers

Should people work to end sister city relationships with Russia?

What is the value in pushing non-Russian cities to drop their sister/twin relationships with Russian cities to protest the anti-gay laws and attitudes in Russia? This article from Radio Free Europe offers a summery of the issue, "Sister Cities Ramp Up Russia Boycott Over Antigay Law". [more inside]
posted by andoatnp on Jul 25, 2013 - 14 answers

Reading recommendations on queer families

I want to read more about alternative family structures in queer communities, particularly trans* communities, particularly communities of and for queer transpeople of color. What can you recommend? [more inside]
posted by liketitanic on Jun 29, 2013 - 4 answers

Best charity for LGBT rights

What is the best charity to give to in support of LGBT rights and activism? I'm in New Mexico but am open to donating to a national organization. [more inside]
posted by NoraReed on Jun 2, 2013 - 11 answers

Supporting my girlfriend through medical transition

My girlfriend is about to start a series of medical-related procedures as part of her gender transition (M2F). What can I, as a cis(ish) woman, do to be a good support to her? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Apr 10, 2013 - 4 answers

Playing my part in making life for fellow LGBT countryfolk bearable.

The State-sanctioned homophobia and transphobia in Malaysia, my country of origin, is breaking my heart. What can I do as a currently overseas citizen to make things better for my fellow LGBT folk back in Malaysia, particularly in raising awareness of the issue internationally? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Mar 5, 2013 - 5 answers

Where therapy and parties collide, aka what happened to my social tact?

I ran into someone at a party that I'd previously met briefly in a clinical setting (in a position of authority), but I lacked the social tact to refrain from mentioning this. Is there anything I could have done to right the situation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 20, 2013 - 23 answers

Interesting scifi / glam rock makeup looks?

Can you point me to some (non-prosthetic) scifi/fantasy makeup looks? [more inside]
posted by lemoncakeisalie on Jan 1, 2013 - 10 answers

Unobtanium suddenly becomes obtainable; drat! complications!

I have two romantic interests in my life: one who adores me and is giving herself to me wholeheartedly, and one who seems to be a better match but lives 850 miles away and is just getting out of a relationship. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by sockpuppetryarts on Oct 14, 2012 - 34 answers

At least it's a polite, supportive boys' club...

How do aspiring stand-up comedians who aren't straight white men find success at open mics? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 8, 2012 - 25 answers

You are not a bad person for wanting to break up, and neither is he.

Any resources for healing after a breakup when you're the one that initiated it? And that doesn't demonise either party? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Oct 6, 2012 - 11 answers

Should I try to start an LGBTQ organization at my middle school?

Should I try to start an LGBTQ organization at my middle school? How? [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl on Sep 19, 2012 - 32 answers

A Gay is Looking for Fashion Advice

What are the best agressive, alternative, out, fun, political, pro-gay shirts? I'm looking to update my wardrobe with some more queer clothing and am looking for suggestions. [more inside]
posted by andoatnp on Aug 14, 2012 - 18 answers

Who's your favourite butch dyke?

Help me compiling a list of well known butch dykes [more inside]
posted by TheGoodBlood on Jul 26, 2012 - 31 answers

No, no, I'm not attracted to women! I just find women attractive!

Mid-20s, female, sort of starting to wonder if I might maybe be bi, kind of hating on myself over it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 10, 2012 - 38 answers

A Queer Girl's Guide to NYC

I'm a woman in her mid-twenties who is coming to realize that she might like other women in the romantic sense. I'm in NYC. How/where can I meet and date other women and get to know NYC's queer scene? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 29, 2012 - 14 answers

Can anyone recommend any queer events/hangouts in New York City?

Can anyone recommend any queer events/hangouts in New York City? By "queer", I mean non-standard gender/sexuality and probably radical left politics. By "events", I mean DIY shows, potlucks, reading groups, screenings or whatever else. By "hangouts" I mean social centres, autonomous spaces, concert venues, cafes and bars.
posted by maryrosecook on Jun 7, 2012 - 9 answers

Does any woman want to date a woman with no experience?

I'm a woman who identifies as queer and is out about it. Until now has mostly dated and had sex with men. I have always been more attracted to women though, and do not want to date guys any more as I just do not have the same romantic feelings and it turns out badly for everyone involved. But I am scared no woman will ever want to date me because of my lack of history dating women and my lack of confidence in talking to them. Apologies for the length. [more inside]
posted by Hey nonny nonny mouse on Jun 2, 2012 - 16 answers

help queer my summer reading list please!

What are some great (somewhat) recently released novels/books/memoirs with queer/LGBTQ themes or characters? [more inside]
posted by kylej on May 23, 2012 - 31 answers

Help for an immigrant new to San Francisco?

Help for a queer immigrant new to San Francisco? [more inside]
posted by lore on Mar 24, 2012 - 3 answers

omgwtfbbq mefi, i can haz gay boyfriend, plz?

PhillyGayPhilter: Online dating through OkCupid hasn't been working out well for me, but I'm not quite sure how else to do it now that I'm out of college. How do I meet other young-ish gay men in Philadelphia, in either meat-space or alternative digital pastures? Anxieties, personal details, and candy within! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 20, 2012 - 10 answers

Kiss My Grits

I would like help in finding a book mentioned in passing during one of my lesbian literature in English classes in undergrad. This was ages ago in the early 90s. The woman fell in love with a diner.
posted by MidSouthern Mouth on Feb 13, 2012 - 3 answers

It's not much, but it's home.

How do we save our favourite gay bar?! [more inside]
posted by rosken on Feb 5, 2012 - 3 answers

Rare, interesting, awesome dance tracks needed!

Accidental DJ is on deck - I need alternative/underground/indie/queer dance hits of the last decade, any genre. Help me minimize looking a fool! [more inside]
posted by Frowner on Jan 19, 2012 - 31 answers

Staying Friends

Two weeks ago, my partner of 7 years informed me that we are no longer a couple. We are going to continue to live together for now, with no plans to change the living arrangements. So far, things have been quite amicable between us, and I would like that to continue. What can I do to help us handle this with grace and maturity? [more inside]
posted by yesster on Dec 25, 2011 - 8 answers

Seeking: Mentor/Protege

Recommendations for stories about the mentor/protege dynamic that are sexy. Bonus points if both parties are female. [more inside]
posted by divabat on Dec 2, 2011 - 8 answers

Here come Dick, he’s wearing a skirt, here comes Jane, y’know she’s sporting a chain

I'm a guy in NYC interested in dressing more femme without, strictly speaking, wearing drag. Think Kevin Barnes or Zac Pennington. [more inside]
posted by modernserf on Nov 8, 2011 - 14 answers

Commitment Ceremonies 101

Commitment ceremonies: how do you do them? Particularly - how do you explain the idea to family? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Sep 22, 2011 - 29 answers

Something Queer in the Library

Guidance on being a queer lady? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 16, 2011 - 12 answers

Masters in Creative Sexytimes

Which grad schools in the Bay Area are open to interdisciplinary approaches, especially with regards to creativity & sexuality? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Aug 31, 2011 - 8 answers

Good LGBT blogs and websites?

I'm looking for some good blogs and sites related to LGBT issues [more inside]
posted by nickhb on Aug 10, 2011 - 11 answers

Looking for queer science fiction.

So I need more science fiction by and/or about queer folks. Special snowflake request details follow. [more inside]
posted by Frowner on Aug 4, 2011 - 28 answers

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