Mom's about to start psychotherapy for a condition that has been around for a long time and that we only recently had the nerve to talk to her about. How can we be supportive, what can/should we do to help her through the shock of going to therapy for the first time, and what else can we do? [more inside]
Did I just break up with my therapist? Am I being unreasonable? [more inside]
How to Become Better at Dream Analysis [more inside]
Why don't I feel sadness anymore? [more inside]
How do I make life magic again? [more inside]
Ask people who knows child developmental psychology stuff about separation anxiety for 1 yr old. Will there be permanent damage to the kid? [more inside]
A few months ago, I had a complete physical and emotional breakdown and actually went temporarily insane. I'm ok now. How do I begin to repair the relationships that suffered during this time? [more inside]
Does anyone know a wonderful child/family psychologist in Baltimore to work with a first-grader (and his parents)? [more inside]
[Distraught Progressive Filter] I need a postmortem on liberalism in the United States. [more inside]
What data-coding problems are sufficiently like my data-coding problem to have built good software solutions to handle it? Or can I write something myself? [more inside]
Psychologist says his approach to ADHD is based in developmental psychopathology and that he thinks disruptions in parental attachments could cause ADHD symptoms - is there any basis to this? [more inside]
Is it normal to wanting to emulate a certain person at your job? My guess is yes, but I find myself doing this all the time. One day, I want to be as ambitious as General David Petraeus and it shows in my work - my productivity increases. This goes on for a few weeks... recently I've been reading about Tim Cook (Apple's new CEO) and aside from being very impressed with him, I have a more of an "industrial design" approach to my work... help! (more examples below.) [more inside]
Quote filter: Did Freud ever claim not to know why psychoanalysis works? [more inside]
Any non-obvious tips for conducting a successful interview? I'm looking for perspectives both in general and also considering my situation. [more inside]
Psychological profiles and analysis: Help me get inside your head! [more inside]
He says it's poor memory and stupidity. I say it's low self esteem and insecurity. How to tell? [more inside]
Though I can be broodish and moody at home at times, I keep it in check. People at my workplace find me enjoyable and fun to work with. They find me humorous. I have friends there. Today, one manager out of the blue from another department told me "You are the most negative person I know." I told her in an even tone "That is not too nice a thing to say, you know?" She just rolled her eyes and laughed and said "You're a downer…like Eeyore". Context: She sort of glides from department to department with this air of superiority and says edgy things to people in a joking-but-not-really way. Many don't find her funny. I let her get to me as it cut me deeply. Real deep. Before that I was in a zen mode all day and at peace. How do I deal with interactions with her in the future as I can't change her and I secretly think she likes taking jabs at people. (moderate sociopath?) She is higher in the chain and is liked even higher up as a hatchetwoman and I don't want to be rash with something I might say back. I wish I could buy Thick Skin on ebay or something. Thanks for your answers. (If it matters, I am a male.)
Sometimes when I'm concentrating, I unconsciously and involuntarily clap / clench my muscles / make nonverbal noises. I've done this ever since I was a child. What am I doing? [more inside]
I am about to see a psychiatrist for the first time for some anxiety-related issues. I am...anxious about this. Naturally. What can I expect, and what should I look out for? [more inside]
Behavioral economics: which rent discount option is more appealing? [more inside]
How awkward will it be if I tell my therapist that I want to be a therapist? [more inside]
Is there a word for the fear that you're doing something wrong but don't know what it is? [more inside]
Have you gotten off mood stabilizers? Have you started having emotions after locking them away for forever? Give a man a hand. [more inside]
I'm almost finished reading The Now Habit by Neil Fiore. Can you recommend any books that are similar in approach but deal with a wider focus, that is, setting medium- and long-term goals? [more inside]
Thinking in context of "Maslow's hierarchy of needs" (the pyramid) - can voids be filled? If so how did you succeed in it? [more inside]
[Psych filter] I'm a few months out of a relationship that wouldn't have happened if I'd been honest with myself from the start. However it led to me questioning more than just my motives... do I need to talk to a pro, or just rest, relax and not make such a big deal of life? Of course there's [more inside]
Familiarity breeds contempt. (But why?) [more inside]
I found a CBT doctor here in NYC, Dr. Fader, and he charges $300 per session with no sliding scale. My insurance, United Healthcare, covers 70% after I hit my $500 deductible. So after hitting that I would be paying $90 out of pocket. Is this a typical amount to pay w/insurance? I'm asking because I can always look around, but this doctor is supposed to be very good and if it's a typical price I might as well stay with him. Thoughts?
Does anyone know any appropriate mailing lists or online forums where I can find participants for an online music rating study? [more inside]
What did "jerk" mean in 1964? [more inside]
What do you know about "identity transference"? I'd like to find more materials on it, be it films like Ingar Bergman's Persona, songs ("I'm slowing turning into you" by the white stripes?), or fiction/nonfiction writings.
Who goes to harness racing (a.k.a. horse buggies, trotters), and why? A friend compared it to speed walking, lots of activity but still pretty darned slow. Is it simply something else to bet on or is there something wonderful or at least interesting about the sport that I'm missing? [more inside]
Calling developmental psych people (especially those who work with adult development): What should I be reading? [more inside]
A person actively avoids doing what he knows will make him happy. He just doesn't want to do it. Psychologically, what's going on here? And more importantly, perhaps, why should he do what he doesn't want to do? What arguments, appealing to either his reason or his emotions, might he consider? [more inside]
After a few years out of school, Jr. miss thinkpiece is entering master's program in psychology in September with an eye towards a PsyD. She's looking for a summer reading list to help her ramp up and get into the flow. All suggestions welcomed, but please, no doom'n'gloom about the academic path. Thanks all!
Developmental psychology books for new parents? [more inside]
How do I stay motivated in applying for jobs when, after a year, even looking at a job description or approaching a cover letter gives me an overwhelming sense of doom and failure? [more inside]
Help me navigate Kaiser Permanente's mental health services. [more inside]
I have dystemic depression and I'd like to try CBT. I found an in-network doctor but he doesn't push me at all. Im looking for someone who will give me structured exercises and be tough on me. Im tired of just talking about things all the time. I have United Healthcare Insurance and I've found plenty of doctors in the directory, but I have no way of knowing if they are any good. Any ideas?
Is it possible a psychopath can be a "good " person? Or at least ethical? By this I mean purposefully moral.
What can I do about my hangups about receiving money? [more inside]
Recently my psychiatrist and I halved my Zoloft dosage in an attempt to help me feel less emotionally flat. That doesn't seem to have worked, and in fact now I'm just a bit depressed. So I'm thinking the flatness is personality- or lifestyle-derived. Any thoughts on how to fix it? [more inside]
For much of my life I dealt with rather severe depression and anxiety, which I've recently overcome with nearly 3 years of therapy. I'm 24 years old, trying to find a meaningful career that's more than just a paycheck. At this point, all I want to do is be a therapist. I want to help others the way that I've been helped. However, another issue I've been working to overcome is crippling social anxiety. It's gotten much better; I hardly consider myself shy anymore. Still, though, I'm not sure if I have the warm, trust-inspiring personality a therapist should have. Could I be a successful therapist if I'm far quieter and more reserved than the norm? I do love people and want to help, but sometimes I might not come across that way. Can a shy person be a good therapist?
Hi there Marxists, or psychologists, or Jungians, or what have you. My book club recently voted to read The Undiscovered Self by Carl Jung. One member quit, insisting that she couldn't read Jung because she was a Marxist. Why? [more inside]
How can you change how you think and analyze things? How do you think and analyze things in different ways? [more inside]
RewardFilter: Inspired by the recent Habit Judo hoo-ha, what are novel and interesting ways to reward yourself ? [more inside]
I've spent decades working on the same personal flaws, and despite clear goals and clever attack strategies, nothing ever seems to stick. Is it even possible to permanently "fix" specific aspects of one's character or personality? If so, how? and how long does it take? [more inside]
Best books about manipulating people - e.g. via game theory, behavioural economics, inaccurate cognitive algorithms and so on? [more inside]
What should college kids know about psychoactive drugs? [more inside]