I'm currently in therapy and unsure of whether I should use my insurance for it (thus saving money, but raising the possibility that I may be denied insurance later for a "pre-existing condition") or whether I should pay out-of-pocket (losing money, but averting the risk of a potential insurance hassle down the road). [more inside]
How do you figure out whether or not your mental illness is serious enough to (basically) permanently stop working? Are there books or worksheets you can use to sort this out? [more inside]
It seems like a lot of what psychologists do is provide tools for processing troublesome beliefs, experiences, etc. in a healthy way. Are there books that the hive mind would recommend that teach some of these tools to non-psychologists for the purpose of being able to use these techniques in their own lives? I've envisioning something less dense than a college textbook but more rigorous than a walk through the self-help section at a bookstore. Recommendations are welcome for general techniques/tools as well as topically oriented works, such as books focused on techniques specific for relationships, money problems, or other common sources of stress and conflict.
Some people want to be liked, whereas others want to be admired. What causes this? [more inside]
Is leaving my job because of (possibly irrational) fears an example of avoidance? Or a realization of limitations? [more inside]
When leaving a comment on mefi, does looking at that "live preview" window below the edit box make you a better writer too? What's up with that? [more inside]
Have you or someone you have known ever radically changed a core belief system? How and why does deep psychological change occur? [more inside]
Other examples of true stories like Krugman's babysitting co-op and Radford's POW camp that illustrate complex and abstract truths, theories, and ideas with concrete language and more tangible, familiar, or interesting situations? [more inside]
I am working in a Autism lab this summer. I've been wondering whether it is a problem that so many psychological disorders are defined by symptoms and focused on treating symptoms. I think, and this isn't a particularly controversial opinion, that it is also important to investigate their causes. Are there any instances of really effective investigations of the cause/causes of psychological disorders (discussion open to any disorder)?
How do you help guide others to recognize, accept, and work towards a unified vision resulting in orgazational change? [more inside]
Tell me about situations where you've reluctantly cut off contact with a close friend, family member, or confidant -- especially those in which the relationship was good to you but you felt that letting go was the best move for *their* sake. [more inside]
I'm an Australian psychology student looking for an undergraduate research program/scholarship overseas (anywhere, but especially UK or USA), any time from October 2012-early 2013. The problem is, my summer is your winter, and I can't seem to find any "winter research programs" via Google. [more inside]
I'm trying to find information about taxes and volunteer paid experimental (non-clinical) studies. I work in a lab, and one of our participants told us a week ago that if a study pays (the volunteer) over a certain amount, it gets taxed. Can anyone tell me if this is true and give me an official link? We're in Philadelphia, PA, USA. I can provide any other relevant information you need. Thanks!
how to you embrace different or opposite opinions from yours, instead of being offended or upset or pressured by it? [more inside]
I'm looking for a book that is essentially a mashup of behavioral economics, social psychology, neuroscience, wisdom/bible literature, and mythology. [more inside]
How can I find help keeping up with life? I need an option between permanent supportive housing and crap, I haven't taken out the trash or paid a bill in three months. [more inside]
What do people outside of the U.S. do when they're feeling depressed and aimless? Are there different cultural traditions, rituals or events to pick yourself up and set a new path for yourself? Something more than "take a walk to clear your head?"
Is there an exact psychological disorder to explain this person's apathy towards seemingly bad people? [more inside]
How to forgive yourself and others healthily [more inside]
How does one internalize advice that is an enumerated collection of pithy platitudes? [more inside]
What is the name (medical/psychological term?) for this feeling that "my life been a dream since that one event several years ago"? [more inside]
Did I get a bad psychologist or is there a valid reason for a chemical dependency evaluation? [more inside]
What are some specific ways that I can promote a soon-to-expire Kickstarter project? I've heard that projects sometimes gain momentum from that "act now!" boost, but how do I tap into that segment of the funding crowd? [more inside]
Any advice on turning on turning a psychology BA into a research-related, but non-academic and non-clinical career? [more inside]
Help me make a decision I keep circling over again and again -- interdisciplinary masters that lets me do some cool research now, or continuing to work/exist in desired city and a more professional and/or appropriate MA/PHd in the next year or two? [more inside]
Whats the best Steven Pinker book to start with?
I feel (at the very least) tangentially responsible for another persons death (murder) and I just can't shake it. [more inside]
Help me understand the psychology of a sexual fetish. Most of the time I have no problem at all indulging my boyfriend's fetish and actually enjoy it myself. Occasionally it makes me feel insecure and shitty, which ruins it for him. How to deal? [more inside]
I'm the boy who cried wolf! (or 'ouch'!) Help me stop, especially in light of the fact that this behavior has been positively reinforced at some points. [more inside]
I have been unmotivated to do pretty much anything outside of work for a several months now. Help me get back on the horse. [more inside]
I'm having trouble searching for this on Google. But, I'd like to know more about the inner workings of the mind. I'm looking for scholarly articles or anecdotes that discuss how people's minds work. I'm primarily looking for details about how vivid images are in people's minds and how close thoughts feel in someone's head. [more inside]
Precedents/ideas for molding agriculture, food/cooking, health, and psychology together into a meaningful, practical career? [more inside]
Is there a cultural dynamic to groupthink? [more inside]
My boyfriend seems to have a kind of blindness around other people's feelings and motivations. I don't think he has Aspergers -- more like ADD and some narcissistic traits, perhaps. What might this be called, how can I gently help him with it, and how can he help himself? [more inside]
How can I keep to positive topics when journaling? [more inside]
Help me get my little brother into Dialectical Behavioural Therapy. Or into anything. [more inside]
Why do I find propaganda so creepy? [more inside]
is it possible to stay locked in or stuck in a dream & never wake up? [more inside]
Torture by the CIA, specifically experimental/psychological torture, between about 1955 and 1985: how much more would CIA-funded lab psychologist Donald Hebb have known about specific real-world practices/pervasiveness than the general public could know? Articles or books where I can research this (especially anything he wrote himself)?
Help me find web ressources, preferably in the form of podcasts, on sub-categories or specifics in psychology / personnal development. I am curious about NLP, transactional analysis, the systemic approach, psychodynamic theories, self-hypnosis, and the like. I'd like to keep it as practical as possible, although I wouldn't mind it if more "esoteric" approaches were included, such as jungian theories. [more inside]
Is there any good research into how people behave in a stampede? You know, the classic fire in a theatre sort of stampede. I'm looking for academic articles, books, slate.com speculations, anything. Thanks!
What does it mean to remain "true to yourself?" [more inside]
Sometime in the last century, a psychologist came up with a personality description designed so that the vast majority of people who read it would agree that it fit them. Who was he, and what was the description? [more inside]
When people say, "It is what it is", what do they mean? What does that mean? [more inside]
What's a good venue to publish an essay on the notions of meaning and explanation in psychology (broadly defined)? I'd like to find a venue that would address both scholars in various fields as well as writers, artists, and the intelligent laymen who might be interested in these issues. [more inside]
I think I'm doing fine, but my friends tell me I'm not. [more inside]
How can I effectively (and efficiently) counterbalance the questions for 200 questionnaires? [more inside]
Psychotherapy: can a therapist be right about progress and the client not see it? We often hear from people who are in psychotherapy and are in disagreement with their psychotherapist about whether they are making progress. When is the psychotherapist right? [more inside]
I need to bludgeon my anxiety to death in the most peaceful way possible. Many people recommend meditation. For me, attempting to meditate has been a miserable experience... a sad exercise in white-knuckled denial. Just thinking about it fills me with dread. I know this isn't the way it's supposed to go. I need something more than "sit quietly and allow your thoughts to pass by like clouds". I need the step-by-step, couch-to-5k edition of mental calmness and focus. Help me out, mefi. Give it to me straight, detailed, specific, and with absolute minimum of woo... the mental focus fitness program for someone who can't even lift a metaphorical 1lb weight. Book/media recommendations welcome too. (I'm in therapy already, btw. It's been helpful, but we're not specifically focused on my anxiety at the moment.)
CBT questions: Can cognitive behavioural therapy work for me if I've tried it twice without success? Don't feelings happen before thoughts? Aren't some beliefs deeper than rational thoughts can change? What if you don't have the will to do homework? [more inside]