Why do I keep dreaming about my ex? YANM Psych etc. [more inside]
I went to a couple ones and they just say “uhh huh” and “ya” and “how does that make you feel?” all the time and dont give me any advice. Are there any that actually help you and give you advice? I also want to mention that going just made me focus on my problems and feel sorry for myself instead of changing things and going just seemed to make my problems worse.
Can you offer any recommendations for CBT-centered therapists in and around the Pittsburgh area, ideally east end? I'm looking for a CBT psychologist to provide therapy in conjunction with meds. [more inside]
Asking for a friend who is an MFT. He is considering moving into private practice, however, he isn't ready to make the leap from a steady and reliable job to a job where income is very dependent on the size of your professional network--and he doesn't really have a professional network at all right now. Any tips on how to ease into private practice with a low initial commitment and pressure--just a part time thing with only one or a few clients?
And I mean anything. People, school, projects, hobbies... I always, always give up on the things I start. And it isn't even about losing interest. Yeah, there are things that I'll eventually lose interest in and quit and that's not really a problem. What bothers me is that I quit things I'm actually interested in, too. For example, I was so completely into a book I was reading last week. Really, really into it. You'd think I'd finish it, then, but I didn't. I have an entire library full of half-read books, most of which I'd love to start reading again but just can't. Won't. Cant. Ugh. [more inside]
I have been trying to focus on my work...Usually I'll work for 15 minutes, and would have the urge to surf the Net, check forums, read up on TvTropes... [more inside]
Trying to locate a psychologist for a family member and I am confused by all the types of psychologists, psychiatrists, and counselors that are listed. Please help me understand which medical professional would be most appropriate. [more inside]
Had a job interview over a week ago and can't get a couple of the questions out of my head [more inside]
I know there's been all kinds of research about how people can be influenced in various ways. I'm sure some of this research is of dubious scientific quality, but there's been a lot of it, right? For example, you are more likely to get a cigarette if you ask in someone's right ear. And there are things about who is perceived as having authority or trustworthiness, based on appearance, or physical stance, or whatever. I would like a master list of these kinds of studies, for nefarious reasons outlined below: [more inside]
The boyfriend will take things I say in totally the wrong way, how do I explain this to him without starting another argument? And he compares me to his ex when doing this stuff...long-winded details inside. [more inside]
What is it like to be lazy or whiny but NOT depressed? Please share your stories of irresponsible laid back behavior so we depressives can finally see the difference. [more inside]
I have an upcoming job interview for a fairly sales-oriented position in business. Putting aside that I'm not sure I want the position yet and that in my eyes it counts against the company that they put stock in this sort of thing, the company is about to send me a personality test which they use as a strong hiring indicator. I would prefer to ace the test, whatever that means, and have my actual interview and position discussion determine hiring. How should I go about answering a test that I don't believe will be reflective of my personality? [more inside]
My mom wants me to help her with her "online presence." How do you do that for a therapist? [more inside]
What happens psychologically to people who fight or confront bigotry for longer periods of time? Are there any studies about depression, PTSD or self-esteem issues? How do anti bigotry/discrimination organizations help their members with these problems?
I'm wondering if anyone can shed some light on the daily experience of a university researcher in either psychology or the basic sciences as well as a meta-review of the job as a whole. [more inside]
My girlfriend got her B.A. in Psychology, then worked for 2 years doing ABA (Applied Behavior Analysis) therapy with autistic children. After that, she worked for 6 years in the family business: her parents are doctors, and she served as the admin, doing scheduling, billing, hiring/firing, account management/finances, building management, etc. Now, she is looking for a new job (one of the parents is retiring next month), but we are having trouble coming up with her next career step. Any ideas, MetaFilter? More details inside. [more inside]
Over on reddit, a commenter said that they once read a "social science study" which showed that people are more likely to rally in support of a cause when there's a common enemy to hate. It supposedly showed how when people were given the opportunity to unite and campaign for a positive cause, they showed little interest; but that the presence of a hostil opponent motivated the group to unite and rally against it. Can anyone think of a study along those lines?
I think aloud at times, be it when solving problems at work (I'm a programmer) or thinking through problems or stuff when walking. How can I curb it? [more inside]
My mom is well-meaning. She tries hard to be good and kind. I would be in dead a ditch without her. However, she is far and away the most emotionally manipulative person I have ever met. The most succinct way I can describe her behavior this: Every conversation about a problem-- even if it's not related to her behavior-- turns into a conversation about what a bad person she is. YANMPsychologist. But she doesn't have one and won't get one, and I need some kind of term to frame her behavior so I can look up resources on how to talk to her without wanting to scream. [more inside]
When I'm racing to meet a writing deadline, I feel a sense of exhilaration, momentum, and flow. How can achieve that state on a regular basis so I can make steady progress on my writing? [more inside]
Does anyone have any experience with a mental health program called WRAP, Wellness Recovery Action Plan. It was developed by Mary Ellen Copeland and it looks like groups exist all over the English-speaking world. [more inside]
OK, weird question this week, but I have wondered about this for a while. I've noticed in public bathrooms there are a lot of men who either 1) spit in the urinal continuously while peeing or 2) keep pulling the flush handle while standing there pissing or 3) do both of these at the same time. I'm sure there are multiple reasons for why to do this, but I am curious as to your speculations about why they are doing it. Is the spitting some way of being macho? Is the constant flushing some way of disposing that which is "dirty"? the "normative" behavior is to piss and then flush, so why this variant (which also wastes a lot of water BTW)? Why the combination of both spitting and flushing? I think we may reveal something about male psychology or social ideology here.
I have a system to develop new friends while simultaneously measuring whether they're worthwhile, allowing me to toss users and losers into the discard piles. However, I worry that the intensity of this filtering process may inadvertently be eliminating some perfectly decent people. Snowflake details below. [more inside]
I'm looking for some of the best books/articles/podcasts/videos about positive psychology. Self-help books are fine, as long as they are well-founded in research. [more inside]
About a decade ago I started University in the UK. Towards the end of my first year a friend I made began to become paranoid. His behaviour towards me was particularly troubling, and eventually rumours circulated that he had been institutionalised. I have always wondered what happened to him, and if he is OK. My concerns linger these many years later, but tracking him down online has achieved nothing. Is there any way I can find out if everything turned out alright for him, preferably without causing too many ripples? [more inside]
Have there been any actual studies shedding light on the disparate reactions of (most?) adult humans to real versus fake scenes involving blood, guts, injuries, etc.? More to the point, is there any sort of evidence that as a species we're good at identifying simulated blood, etc., at a glance despite it superficially "looking real", and what physiological markers might indicate this? [more inside]
I have had a lot of trouble finding a psychiatrist to help with ADD issues. I am in Northern NJ, USA and have insurance but it has been surprisingly hard to find a competent person to consult. [more inside]
What are some non-institution-specific scholarships or grants for someone who wants to do primate research this summer? [more inside]
We all have one in our life. They come to us, over and over again, with a particular problem or quandary. Yet they don't seem to want to address the problem. Trying to be helpful, we offer suggestions or ideas, each of which is shot down. The process repeats itself again and again, you feeling more frustrated each time. Surely there must be a better way.
The DSM-5 is coming. I have a diagnosis that is being revamped in the new edition, the name is totally different. Does my doctor do a new evaluation and converts it over, or just converts it himself by clicking some things in a computer, or does the wording/paperwork/dx code stay the same? Also, does everything have to be reevaluated since there are minor changes to many things? [more inside]
My theory is that, of all the emotions, people find anger the hardest to deal with. I know people don't like strong emotions in general, but they seem to be worse at coping with others' anger than in the case of other strong emotions. Why is that? [more inside]
I am taking a very new, unique class this semester at my university, which has a final project related to "breaking social norms." The teacher implied the project should most likely have some videotaping or physical results, and manipulate social norms for a better/more positive outcome. Sky is the limit on this project, there are very few guidelines and boundaries, and I'm not sure where to go with it. Suggestions? [more inside]
Convince me not to get a Master's degree. I'm looking into a program at Columbia which would be at full price, which is not cheap. I'd like you to convince me not to attend, or tell me why it's a good idea after all. [more inside]
Asking for a friend: can you recommend a reputable (presumably brick and mortar) university that has a good online program for child development or early childhood education? [more inside]
Got a message out of the blue on a social network the other day from an ex; mentioned it to my partner (we're both big believers in transparency when it comes to random messages from exes) and we're each taking a different read from the message, so we figured we'd turn to the hivemind for input. [more inside]
I've been constantly told that key to being okay again is to "choose one's happiness" - both by strangers on the internet and the very closest people in my life. I've been diagnosed with mild-to-severe depression and anxiety for three years now (there is a bit more to that, though). Since most of the before-mentioned friends (etc) wanted me to stop taking antidepressants, I am without them for now. So, since everything I found by sending my queries to Google was meant for "normal people" who are "feeling a bit depressed", I would be grateful to know how these approaches apply to those with actual mental health issues, if they do at all. [more inside]
I have a problem with certain types of questions. Help me to understand why and how I can deal with my discomfort.
I have been struggling to figure something out. There are certain types of questions I have trouble with, and I would like to understand what types of questions these are, why am I so uncomfortable with them, and what can I do to make dealing with them less unpleasant. [more inside]
Human Existence Filter: Does everyone have pervasive "background radiation" of anxiety/fear/worry? [more inside]
Do you know about any researchers studying human behavior with regard to motivation, habits, and goal-setting, or books/papers about those topics?
Do you know about any researchers studying human behavior with regard to motivation, habits, and goal-setting, or books/papers about those topics? [more inside]
How creativity is measured? [more inside]
Is masters' level therapy a smart career choice right now? [more inside]
I am looking for books that will introduce basic emotional literacy concepts to an adult. An adult with strong tendencies toward avoidant, anti-social, narcissistic, and paranoid behavior. No, I'm not using those terms lightly. [more inside]
I've been in school my whole life and now am a licensed psychologist in Chicago. Help me get paid! [more inside]
Please help me pick the most relevant program for my career/education goals. [more inside]
Milgram Experiment: Give me examples of other psychological experiments which involved false pretenses. [more inside]
Is there a science of division? (i.e. Models of the phenomenon that communities often split into two blocs with some degree of mutual antagonism. And/or empirical data that such models could be compared against.) [more inside]
Are these really the average scores for the Psych GRE? 577 at Master's level and 633 at the doctoral level. [more inside]
How do I deal with my short-tempered husband? [more inside]
What is it like to realize you live in a totalitarian system? [more inside]
Are there any physiological explanations for why so many people have the same dreams? [more inside]