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Am I broken?

I used to like people, but now I don't. I fear I'm creating an irreversibly solitary life for myself. I think the problem must be me, but I'm not sure what the cure is. Looking for advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 16, 2014 - 73 answers

What are some activities/dates I can do to boost confidence?

I haven't been feeling so confident lately. I know my SO could also be much happier if she felt a bit more confident. When we first met around 3 years ago, we were both extremely confident. Now we seem to have trouble being decisive, making decisions to better ourselves/get necessary things done, and choosing a restaurant or a date idea gets harder and harder. I would love ideas of things that could help with this. [more inside]
posted by bbqturtle on Aug 11, 2014 - 26 answers

Intelligent resources about stages of a long-term relationship

I'd like to learn a little bit more about what couples counselors, therapists, and psychologists have written about the stages that long-term relationships go through, what the issues and concerns are in the different stages, and what approaches are helpful in keeping the relationship strong at different stages. The articles I've been able to find on the web are pretty shallow, and seem to assume that the purpose of marriage is to have kids. I'd like to find something that is more appropriate to a couple who got married at 40+ so have already attained (presumably) a certain degree of wisdom, and for whom kids are not in the picture or in the cards. Authors that I have found helpful and intelligent in the past have been Gottman, Sue Johnson (Hold Me Tight), and the author of perennial AskMe favorite The Five Love Languages. I'm specifically interested in the 5-10 year stage, but welcome broader surveys as well.
posted by matildaben on Jan 29, 2014 - 5 answers

Who originally thought of this dating-related experiment?

Write the numbers 1 to 20 on a set of cards, one per card but two cards of each number, put them on the foreheads of a group of twenty men and twenty women, and give them a couple minutes to try to pair up with the person of the opposite sex with the highest-ranked card: they will always end up with someone close to their own rank. Who originally thought of this? [more inside]
posted by renovatio1 on May 20, 2013 - 7 answers

Like the old Twinkie mystery, but with sex.

Got a message out of the blue on a social network the other day from an ex; mentioned it to my partner (we're both big believers in transparency when it comes to random messages from exes) and we're each taking a different read from the message, so we figured we'd turn to the hivemind for input. [more inside]
posted by MarchHare on Jan 10, 2013 - 60 answers

Resources on Adult Attachment Therapy?

I may be starting adult attachment therapy in the next week, on the advice of a crisis counselor and after a few years of on-and-off treatment for anxiety and depression that's not getting me very far. Point me to some quality, hopefully easy to find resources that can spell out what the experience might be like. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 18, 2012 - 4 answers

True friendship sometimes means letting go

Tell me about situations where you've reluctantly cut off contact with a close friend, family member, or confidant -- especially those in which the relationship was good to you but you felt that letting go was the best move for *their* sake. [more inside]
posted by renovatio1 on May 27, 2012 - 9 answers

What the heck is this?

My boyfriend seems to have a kind of blindness around other people's feelings and motivations. I don't think he has Aspergers -- more like ADD and some narcissistic traits, perhaps. What might this be called, how can I gently help him with it, and how can he help himself? [more inside]
posted by sockratties on Mar 22, 2012 - 34 answers

How to repair after major disrepair?

A few months ago, I had a complete physical and emotional breakdown and actually went temporarily insane. I'm ok now. How do I begin to repair the relationships that suffered during this time? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 25, 2011 - 17 answers

I see a butterfly. No wait. Clouds. No wait...oh, that's dirty!

I am about to see a psychiatrist for the first time for some anxiety-related issues. I am...anxious about this. Naturally. What can I expect, and what should I look out for? [more inside]
posted by Caligula's Idiot Cousin on Aug 16, 2011 - 16 answers

Do I need a doctor?

[Psych filter] I'm a few months out of a relationship that wouldn't have happened if I'd been honest with myself from the start. However it led to me questioning more than just my motives... do I need to talk to a pro, or just rest, relax and not make such a big deal of life? Of course there's [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 28, 2011 - 7 answers

How to overcome fear of rejection in relationships

I’m a 28 y/o woman who has finally found someone that I admire, who loves me dearly, and isn't a huge pain in my ass --and I'm hoping to make this last! Please help me to not ruin this wonderful thing! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 30, 2011 - 16 answers

What does it mean when people "miss the point?"

What does it mean when I'm talking to people and they "miss the point?" [more inside]
posted by blahtsk on Dec 9, 2010 - 39 answers

How do you act around kids?

I'm starting a pediatric rotation next week for nursing school, and I have pretty much no experience with children. Do you have any tips for a nurse dealing with kids of any age between 1 and 18? [more inside]
posted by vytae on Jan 13, 2010 - 33 answers

Extroversion or flirting?

How do you tell the difference between someone who's an extrovert and someone who's romantically interested in you? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 21, 2009 - 23 answers

Grad-school, relationships, and geography... can all three work?

Grad-school, med school, residency match, geography...help? [more inside]
posted by DeucesHigh on Aug 2, 2009 - 12 answers

How to care for my geek husband?

I need help understanding how my hyper-smart geek husband's brain works. I want to give him the understanding he craves but am having a hard time inhabiting his plane. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 24, 2008 - 61 answers

What is the psychology of friendship?

Lately, the concept of "friends" seems to have become incredibly diluted by the casual use of the term by Facebook, MySpace et al. But in "the real world" what do you consider to be important when you are making and becoming friends? Is it how long you've known someone? How frequently you meet up? What you have in common? Something more intangible? Also, I'd love recommendations of any books looking at the psychology of how people become friends.
posted by pipstar on May 14, 2008 - 21 answers

How to overcome defenses and lose the emotional baggage?

How to overcome defenses and lose the emotional baggage? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 19, 2006 - 3 answers

Why is it embarrassing not to have romantic interest reciprocated?

Why is it embarrassing not to have romantic interest reciprocated? [more inside]
posted by socrates on Sep 4, 2006 - 20 answers

help me make friends and not look like an ass!

Starting my grad school program next week (clinical psychology, PhD) and am joining a cohort of 7 others. Any suggestions on things to do (or not do) when meeting and getting to know people I'll have to work with for the next six years? I'd like to be friends with them, especially since we have all our classes together. But the chances of such a small group together so much so stressed without conflict seem doubtful to me. Other psych grad school advice is welcome too. Thanks!
posted by gilsonal on Aug 18, 2006 - 6 answers

Why do opposites attract?

Do opposites really attract? And if so, why? What is it about opposites, specifically personality types, that makes some relationships click? [more inside]
posted by Esther Festers on Jul 16, 2006 - 22 answers

Before I hit the big '30'

What am I doing wrong and why should 'I' change and need I even ought to, in the first place ? Some advice before I hit the big '30'.. [more inside]
posted by sk381 on Jan 8, 2006 - 21 answers

How do I tell my girlfriend that I have herpes?

I just started a new relationship.. It's phenomenal and we've both felt that we're in love. I care deeply for her, but I don't know how to tell her about the fact that I have Herpes. Does anyone have advice on how to break the news? [more inside]
posted by bhenry on Dec 23, 2005 - 20 answers

Does "I have a high tolerance for pain" actually mean the opposite?

When you say you have a high tolerance for pain, don't you really mean to say "I love to complain about how much I hurt"? Or: is this really a case of the more you say it the less you mean it? [more inside]
posted by quacky on Dec 7, 2005 - 39 answers

How do you confront your SO about trolling for sex on the internet?

Note: I'm asking the following on behalf of a friend...

How do you confront your SO about trolling for sex on the internet? [more inside]
posted by jpoulos on Oct 4, 2004 - 37 answers

Armchair Psychiatry

Do you play armchair pyschiatrist? How sure are you that you're right about people's inner lives? Do you act on your hunches? [More Inside.] [more inside]
posted by grumblebee on Sep 10, 2004 - 25 answers

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