So I am a guy getting harassed by another guy at work, and by the way, this is a "professional work environment". A couple months ago this guy comes up to me and starts making comments like "you are looking good today" and just stares at me for a prolonged period of time with a smirk. And he has said other things too that make me uncomfortable. Now, I do what I can to avoid him but he is trying to gain rapport with me, but I just ignore him; so now it has been 3 months. I was initially going to talk with my boss (the CFO) and let him know what this guy has been doing. But, I have asked this question before on this website, and someone pointed out that I could get fired for making the complaint even though I am the victim. And then I did more research on the internet where victims of sexual harassment can actually get fired for making a complaint. I am just wondering how often does this happen, and if anyone has ever seen it happen before?
I need to be in a group photo with 6 other mostly tall, all slim, all young, all very attractive people. I'm not disgusting or anything, but I am very short, very round, and very 40. I am seriously stressed about this. [more inside]
I need some advice about how to transition from a contract position straight out of a master's degree in a professional health care field (communication sciences and disorders). Can I ask for a $17,000 raise? [more inside]
Asking for a friend: I'm looking for business-minded arguments or resources for dress codes that would not allow more obviously controversial symbols like the Confederate flag, but perhaps not so stringent that it would forbid t-shirts with quasi-political, positive messages (more context below the fold) [more inside]
My boss has been promoted to incompetence. How can I and the others in our (very small) group help our boss be a better leader without risking our own careers? [more inside]
How to deal with co-worker that you dated and now have to work closely with, but your angst doesn’t stem from having dated, but just from the fact that you know too much about them now and really don’t like them as a person? [more inside]
A friend has been approached by AlphaSights, who seem to be some sort of a "connect SMEs to companies seeking new markets and earn cash!" organization. There's not much out there about them that's not news linked to the company itself. Has anyone had any interaction (that they can talk about) with AlphaSights that would be useful for my friend?
I am a messy, clutter-loving packrat and my partner is a minimalist. And we live in a one-bedroom apartment. Can a professional organizer help me/us? If so, how can I find a good one? (Does anyone have Seattle-area recommendations?) If you've done something like this, how has it worked out for you? [more inside]
I work for a general contracting company and I'd like to learn more about scheduling construction projects. Can you recommend any resources? Books, online resources, webinars, classes, anything. [more inside]
I'm bored at work, to the point where I frequently cry at my desk. I want to talk to my manager about it, but I need a script. This is my first office job, and I don't have a lot of experience with this part of the whole working professional deal. Can you help me?
I have hard time meeting people. While driving for lyft, I am very professional and have good reviews and at times I strike up a nice conversation with the riders especially women and feel like getting to know more about the girl(about 5% of time). But I chicken out in the end and just stay professional, wondering if it would be appropriate to ask a girl her number, or if she has a bf etc. Is it okay to ask people out? If so, how you do it without sounding weird? what is a good exit strategy if it doesn't work out?
Hi guys, I just finished a summer from hell finishing my accounting designation. To round off my degree, I need to finish a rather open ended paper, and I'm almost out of brain cells and motivation. The paper need be only 2000 words, so nothing too in-depth is required. [more inside]
I am interested in hearing about how other professionals entrusted with the lives of others deal with the anxiety that comes with this responsibility... [more inside]
How to sit with discomfort (and you know... get some sleep) after making decisions that put my financial needs first? [more inside]
Can I get specific, heartfelt, recommendations for high quality resume writing services? Would also work with an individual (i.e. not a service) if someone has really strong personal knowledge of someone who rocks at this. [more inside]
I recently joined the board of my professional school women's organization (in a, for what it's worth, traditionally male dominated profession). Maybe I shouldn't have. [more inside]
I am looking for stories, books, poems, data, or anecdotes, about people who have flourished (professionally, but also personally) when they have chosen an environment where they feel supported, loved, and connected. [more inside]
I'm a lady. I need a bag to take to my semi-professional job. Please help me find the perfect one! [more inside]
I am a paid intern for a small SaaS startup, and in the past month or so, I've been drowning a little at life. I remoted into the office this weekend to play catch-up, and discovered that a coworker, who until recently was also an intern, had publicly 'completed' (badly) the task clearly assigned to me, which I had already spent some time on. Our workflow tool indicates he assigned himself to the ticket. [more inside]
I've gotten out of a ten-year plus job that was essentially (if not in reality) a protected workplace and not too difficult and now am going to tackle (have been hired for) a new, higher-up and better paying one (before the first job I was very sick for quite a while and therefore couldn't work at all so missed out on the opportunity to learn about much about the Big Girl/Big Boy details of life in the workplace). Because of this, I feel like I really don't know what I should be doing (besides the work I mean). What is your very best advice for being/appearing professional on the job? I know about not gossiping and being on time.
What style and color of professional high-grade dress shoes should I invest in? [more inside]
I have an Gmail account with an unprofessional-sounding handle—think Schnookums2318@gmail.com. I've been using this for far too long. Firstname.lastname@gmail isn't available, but email@example.com is, and so I took that one. How can I merge the two accounts, or otherwise transition from Schnookums to FirstMiddleLast with a minimum of trouble? [more inside]
Let's assume I can get training in anything I want and have a supportive boss who will allow me to "practice" any skill I choose in my current position as a director. What skills should I learn to make the next big leap to head boss at a non-profit? [more inside]
I'm going to need a "business casual" wardrobe for the first time in my life, but I have no idea how to go about that because I am a short overweight woman whose weight is very changing and I have a desire to look stylish and interesting, not boring and frumpy. Is just filling my closet with dresses a thing I can do? How many dresses would I need? [more inside]
So, I have the most soporific cover letter in the world. Sure, it's professional, but it's genuinely a bore to read. Are there any MeFites who can share some tips on how to craft a rockstar cover letter? [more inside]
I am considering hiring a resume writer. I have 10+ years of experience in a specific industry (industrial manufacturing related) and interested in branching out to different industries. I feel like I should be doing something different than the usual. Has anyone hired a resume writer ever? How was your experience with it? Any tips? My fear would be to get a canned resume that I could do better myself. Are there any personalized services out there that could really help differentiate the resume?
I know that my very question speaks to the fact that I am not quite a seasoned professional as of yet, but how much do professional type artists and letterers charge a client for a poster? [more inside]
I have several sessions of leadership coaching for free. Great! Now what do I use them for? [more inside]
As it stands, I'm being groomed for a promotion that puts me on the 'managerial' side of the line. What steps can I take to reinvent my work persona in a way that encourages my peers to change their perception of me? Difficulty level - three years deep into the class clown act. [more inside]
I want to hire an external speaker to come speak to a group of ~500 women in a large corporate environment about how to effectively find a mentor, be a good mentor, and build a great mentoring relationship that is beneficial for both parties. [more inside]
I'm in grad school for a masters in counseling, and our teachers are telling us we need to join listservs and professional organizations, so we know what's happening in our field right now. My issue is this: I have limited time every day, and I'm ADHD. Given these factors, how involved should I get in professional organizations? Are they helpful? Or are they the yearbook committee of the post-graduate world? [more inside]
I'm preparing to attend my first NBA game and I would like to know what is the best way to buy tickets for a specific game. More generally, I'd be interested in learning about the best ways to buy U.S. professional sports tickets in general. [more inside]
Hi everyone! I am searching for a pannier bike bag for my husband that is clean, subtle, and professional looking off the bike. [more inside]
My wife is starting a professional organizing business and is having trouble coming up with a name for her business that a) doesn't sound generic (i.e. "Organizing Solutions"), b) would appeal equally well to businesses and homeowners and c) would avoid her services being confused with a cleaning service. I'm wondering if anyone here might be able to offer any suggestions?
I am a professional. I am a lady. Every day, in meetings, the same thing happens: the contribution I'm so excited to make to a meeting gets INTERRUPTED by a man or a woman. I am not verbose. I am succinct. I do not speak more than anyone else in the group. Yet I cannot freaking finish a thought without someone interrupting me. It is making me insane. [more inside]
I totally humiliated myself in a professional capacity, in front of lots of people. Please give me some strategies to deal and not drown in self-loathing. [more inside]
Looking for your ideas and apps for a professional journal-keeping system. More inside! [more inside]
I am in my mid-thirties, but people often think I'm about 22. I could probably pass for 17 in the right outfit. Young face. On top of that, I am slightly built and female. Not short, but delicate. People call me honey and baby and ask me where I go to college. I want to look like a badass who can win venture capital funding. I want to look as powerful and effective as I really am. [more inside]
I'm having some photos professionally taken and I would like to get them printed in a small, ideally pocket Moleskine-sized book. Where can I make that happen? [more inside]
I am in need of a low-maintenance, yet chich mid-length haircut. Any ideas are greatly appreciated. [more inside]
Help me decide on warmer footwear with a suit, but flat or with a low heel. [more inside]
A family member will soon be finished serving a prison sentence for a felony conviction. Before his arrest and long odyssey in the legal system he was a very experienced professional in an upper management position. What are the chances of him getting back into a professional track? [more inside]
A few weeks ago I came across a series of online photos of the Scottish countryside. It was a borrowed laptop so I can't search the history. I'm hoping the Mefi detectives can help me. [more inside]
It's that time of year again, when I need to put the sandals away and figure out what the heck to put on my feet for the next 9 months. Help. [more inside]
I have a self deprecating sense of humour and I've come to realise that I can take it too far. I can sometimes play dumb and it gives the impression that I don't know what I'm doing/talking about. But at this point in my life/career, I do!! (in certain areas, I think). Help me change my wiring. [more inside]
Looking for websites and books for guidance and encouragement, not just techniques, in professional dress. I am entering a field where the top echelon of business casual seems to be the default setting. [more inside]
Tips for succeeding in the workplace (Special snowflake details: female people pleaser) [more inside]
I've been invited to attend an anniversary dinner/fundraiser for a regional nonprofit advocacy group. I'll be attending as a guest of a work-related higher-up, and the event will doubtless involve a bunch of professional networking small talk. They're calling it a gala... but the event starts at 5:30, with dinner at 6:30. What on earth do I wear? [more inside]
How did you find ways to have a great family, and to keep trucking along with what you need to do to fulfill yourself professionally, especially when that professional work is really tough (but rewarding?) In other words, how do I keep myself from just drooling over strollers all day? [more inside]
Has anyone gone through any general professional development courses that were awesome and really helped you in your career? I have been tasked with finding some courses for our team of project managers that will help us become more polished professionals. Topics might include client communication, presentations, meeting facilitation, negotiation, conflict resolution, etc. Ideally this course could be done online but if we had to bring someone in that wouldn't be a problem. Help us get better.