After years of parental pressure and self-conflict, I no longer know: do I want to be a doctor or not? I am paralyzed with self-doubt and indecision and have repeatedly shot myself in the foot. How can I stop spinning my wheels, climb out of the deep rut I dug myself, make a choice and act on it with conviction? [more inside]
How can I help my husband stay focused and on track with things that have to get done and are important to both of us. I don't want to nag and just want us both to be happier. [more inside]
Therapist recommendations in Orange County / South LA. Specifically for procrastination and laziness issues. [more inside]
How do I avoid procrastinating on tasks that have “fallen off the radar” / are less urgent? [more inside]
How do I end the cycle of self-sabotage? [more inside]
I have so many problems--I'm so far from being the person I want to be --that I don't even know where to start. If you were me, what would you do this week
to try to build up to some change?
I am at wits end with myself. How can I kick this procrastination habit once and for all (despite many failures)? [more inside]
How can I build the courage I need to face great professional and personal challenges... like writing reports and doing my expenses on time and putting up those shelves in the bathroom? [more inside]
I have lost all of my motivation to do even a modicum of a half-decent job at work. Has anyone dealt with this? How do I get back into the groove of things? [more inside]
Mildly self-destructive behavior: why do I do this and how do I stop? [more inside]
Is it worthwhile to try to talk to EDD about retroactive unemployment benefits? [more inside]
I flaked out on a friend's new-baby acknowledgment... for two months! Exactly how much of a transgression is this, and what (if anything) can I do to mitigate the damage?
How to Be Awesome and Finish a PhD? I'm in my first term of an engineering PhD (post-bachelors and 2yrs working in industry). My work is sucking: I don't do enough homework or research. How do I get back the drive I felt in high school when I was a clueless single guy who felt he had to prove he was brilliant? [more inside]
Why can't I just WORK? [more inside]
Thank you so much for getting me to seek therapy. You're the best. Now I need more help, because I don't know if the therapy is working. [more inside]
I teach college. I have ADD. I have some kind of mental block against fully planning my courses. [more inside]
Has anyone here ever actually overcome procrastination issues, so they don't bother you anymore? [more inside]
Introvert Filter: please help me revive a friendship! [more inside]
I have an awesome job - but I'm too afraid to actually work? [more inside]
How do I know if I'm working as hard as I should be, or if I'm slacking off too much? [more inside]
I'm in trouble because I try to ignore trouble. [more inside]
I have Important Things I Have To Do, but I'm having trouble doing them. Instead, I find myself wanting to do a variety of plainly self-destructive things. This happens to me a lot-- but why, and how do I deal with it? [more inside]
What are my options when I have decided that I want to receive cognitive behavioral therapy, but I live in a non English speaking country with few mental health resources in general? [more inside]
How do you stop worrying so you can work? When you start to freak out with worry, how do you stop? [more inside]
I have fucked up yet another academic semester. This is the third time--I fucked up as a freshman, took time off, came back, fucked up again, took more time off, and came back and have repeated the cycle. Only now, now that I've realized I've shot myself in the foot again, I desperately want to recover my academic career somehow. Is it possible? Is it over? [more inside]
What did you do to get over your deep-seated belief that you'll fail at everything you do? In the past this has manifested itself in overtly self-destructive behaviors (e.g. substance abuse), and while those are currently under control I still engage in massive self-sabotage that I'm pretty sure is connected to my belief that I do not deserve success and will fail at anything I try to do. [more inside]
How can I change my habits? I'm a graduate student, and I am taking my PhD qualifying examinations within the next year. I am down to the wire and I need to change my habits, and they are very, very bad. [more inside]
I'm anxious. All the time. About everything. Everything! Are there ways to manage this without the use of medication? [more inside]
I'm a science nerd who's transitioned to the humanities because of repeated fuck-ups. Now I'm giving up the last few science classes I have and it's ripping me apart. What should I do? [more inside]
How can I help my boyfriend face his serious, long-term roach problem?
How do I find a procrastination therapist? [more inside]
I hate all forms of work (hence the anon. post) and the only way I've found to finish papers etc. is to stay up all day and night procrastinating until the last possible instance writing a bit here and there--an agonizing process--until, as the last chance deadline aproaches, something takes shape. These papers are usually final papers and usually earn me between a B+ and an -A... which is probably why I never learned how to do work in a painless and organized fashion... at any rate, I have two papers due on the same day and no chance of an extension on either one and am incapable of forcing myself to work. WHAT DO I DO?