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Help me control my Windows

punkfloyd — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 09:55:25 -0800

How do I adjust how Windows XP gives individual windows/applications priority? For example, when Internet Explorer is slow in loading a site, I might switch to Word or something else and begin to type. Then Internet Explorer rears it's head when it's loaded the site.... in the middle of my typing, taking priority over Word (or whatever application I want to stay on top). Windows has gotten so complex, I'm not sure how to tweak such basic stuff anymore.

How does a group of people keep its priorities straight?

clearlynuts — Thu, 16 Aug 2007 06:40:56 -0800

How does a group of people keep its priorities straight? I'm looking for software that a small group can keep a list of tasks. Additionally, I'd like for the list of tasks to be kept in priority order where the priority is set by one or more people. I'd like for the tasks to have unique priorities, so everything can't be most critical. Finally, if this thing could notify the group when the list changes. Does such software exist?

Partner vs family. Let the battle commence.

aprivateperson — Tue, 27 Feb 2007 08:36:11 -0800

In a nutshell, my fiancee hates my family. Through a series of snubs and impoliteness (by her definition, not mine), my fiancee has come to hate my family. In particular, my sisters. I'm not that close to them, but I don't want them out of my life either by a long stretch. And she doesn't care for most of my friends either, the online ones in particular.

The latest spat has come about because my sister mentioned that there was a job in a different part of the country, which my fiancee took to meaning that she was trying to interfere in the relationship, and take me away from the area that she loves and the house we live in.

The one before that, she refused to spend Christmas with them even though it was "our" turn to spend Christmas with them (she having insisted that we spend Christmas with her family last year). So I spent Christmas with my family, she spent Christmas with hers in tears and it's been various forms of drama ever since.

While I can see her point of view and can understand why she might feel snubbed etc., I feel that the "punishment" she has dished out - she doesn't ever want to see them, invite them to any wedding etc. - is OTT.

The trouble is, I love her. She loves me. I've never felt more at home and comfortable with anyone else when things are going well. And then my sister or a disliked friend will call or email, and then the fireworks fly.

So how do you decide which is more important? I think the two are equally important, but maybe I'm wrong here.

(btw, do you let your partner read your email?)

For fact fans: both in our early/mid-30s, engaged, met two years ago, engaged 14 months ago, I moved in with her (cross-country)7 months ago, not set a date.

Should your partner always be your priority?

aprivateperson — Fri, 15 Dec 2006 06:28:04 -0800

In a relationship, should your priority always be towards your partner? During an argument a long time ago, I pointed out to my gf that occasionally she would not be my number 1 priority, that sometimes my family, friends or work would come first.

This has come up again recently, and it still stings and hurts her deeply. But try as I might, I can't understand quite what her problem is. I don't expect me to be her priority 24-7, so why should she expect to be mine?

Am I being unreasonable?

Windows XP Priority settings

WolfDaddy — Tue, 28 Sep 2004 09:01:48 -0800

In Windows XP Pro, is there some doodad/command line switch/whatever that will let me set a task's priority to "low" by default? I have an application that's a CPU hog, and I have to manually set its priority if I expect to do anything else while the program in question is running. If there's a way to set a default priority, I haven't been able to figure it out. Help?