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Help us have sex again

Anonymous — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 09:40:33 -0800

My luverly wife and I had a baby a few months ago. He's a great little feller. We're now ready, physically, to have sex again but... (possibly NSFW) We haven't had sex in a long time, we pretty much stopped as soon as we found out we were pregnant. Our married sex life has always been quite unhealthy (unlike pre-marriage, which was great - WUWT?) but we love each other and all that and it's not threatening the relationship or anything.

But now we're ready to start again. Except I don't know where to start. Or how to start. My wife is beautiful and wonderful and she can certainly arouse me but the idea of going back to the awkward sex we were having for the year or two preceding the baby isn't exactly appealing.

I want us to do it right this time around and try to either get back to where we were pre-marriage or go somewhere different (if those carefree teenage-like mega-session-rompings aren't capable of being repeated).

Over-disclosure necessary as this is being posted anonymously: I'm game for anything, she's very sensitive and doesn't like much foreplay other than digital stimulation. I would love to get beyond her body issues (she won't let me do oral and any kind of general touching is, apparently, just tickling as far as she's concerned) but I don't know if that's possible. She likes sex, but something went wrong somewhere along the line (probably my fault, directly or indirectly) and I'd like to fix it. Naturally, suggesting that something is wrong and needs to be fixed would probably upset her quite a bit.

Please help. I'd really appreciate it if you could give specific advice (as opposed to "rekindle the romance" or "show her that you care and it's not all about sex".) Especially bearing in mind that we have a wee baby in the house so romantic getaways and things like that are a bit hard. Personal experience would be greatly valued and if you don't want to share here, feel free to write to me at readytohavesexafterbaby@gmail.com

Thanks, in advance.

Can I be pregnant?

esolo — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 05:54:30 -0800

can I be pregnant? I've been on DEPO until few weeks ago, and used a condom every time since then. I have been on DEPO (injectable contraceptive) for 7 years, and went off it few weeks ago. It takes around a year for the cycle to normalize. Also, my partner and I have used a condom every single time since I went off.

However, my partner is freaking out that i may be pregnant, because of some changes in my body - tender larger breasts, spotting, etc. I think the chances are understandable given all the hormonal changes taking places, after I went off DEPO. It's illogical for me to run to a gynecologist for a blood test, given the facts. What do you think?

I'm scared

Anonymous — Thu, 15 May 2008 16:30:54 -0800

what are the chances she's pregnant? i had relations with a girl yesterday. we were both bottomless and i rubbed my penis on her vagina. there was minimal insertion, and no pre-ejaculation. however at the end i masturbated onto her leg, and a little bit touched her vagina... right in the opening. I immediately got a dry paper towel and wiped it off until she was dry. on a scale of 1-10, what are the chances she could get pregnant, with 10 being almost certain?

vagina vagina vagina!

skrike — Wed, 08 Aug 2007 21:25:24 -0800

Pregnant Sex Filter: So the wife is 37 weeks preggo and wants the baby NOW. She read the sex will sometimes induce pregnancy early so shes been all over me lately (yay me!) Tonight shes convinced that it "felt different" and is wondering if this means shes dilated. This is our second, and the first came a month early at 35 1/2 weeks when her water suddenly broke and she had to be induced, so the whole naturally dilating thing is new to her.

Help my wife alleviate her sexual frustrations!

Thrillhouse — Sat, 07 Apr 2007 17:52:21 -0800

My wife is 25 weeks pregnant and has placenta previa that doesn't appear to be improving. Her doctor has made her swear off 'doing anything' until after the baby is born in July. How can I help her relieve her stress since sex is now out of the question? She was told last week by her doc- NO SEX. My wife is one of those that REALLY REALLY REALLY likes sex (apparently yes, I'm that good :) ).

Its been one week and she's already going crazy. She needs something to alleviate her sexual frustration but obviously intercourse is out of the question. How do I help her through the next 5 months without sex?

Is it JUST intercourse or is any activity that causes an orgasm a problem with previa?

How far can we go?

PS: I already know you're not my doctor. I'm not going to sue you. Please don't ask me to ask her to ask her doctor. Its not going to happen.