After a miscarriage at 12 weeks, it seems that I might be Rh negative or 'lightly positive'. This comes as a surprise since I was told during my first pregnancy that I was Rh positive. My gynecologist and GP keep telling me it's not a big deal, but should I be worried? What else should I know about borderline Rh factor? [more inside]
Our friends and family have kids already at one and two+ years old. We're at that age where people in our social circle have started families. And we're not pregnant... again. We're overall positive, though, and this AskMe isn't about getting pregnant. We're very confident that it'll happen, or we'll adopt, or whatever – no need to give answers about that, please. But, I agonize that by the time we have a kid, that all of the kids of our friends will be too old to play together, that our friends will have moved on from wanting to hang out with a newborn, that they'll have "passed us by", or that basically we won't be able to share experiences with them and in turn we'll lose them as friends. So, I'm looking for support or advice from folks who might have been in the same situation as us. Did you end up having kids a few years after your friends/social circle? Did it turn out alright? Any positives?
How do I deal with my unexpected strong feelings about my estranged father's death in light of my recent discovery that I am pregnant? [more inside]
I was looking for a good place to buy equine chorionic gonadotropic (eCG) hormone for science reasons today and stumbled across this listing for the more commonly used hCG. It's listed as being sourced from "Human Pregnancy Urine." Where on earth do biomedical companies get enough human pregnancy urine to distill a compound like this? Is there some sort of secret cottage industry of pregnant ladies selling their pee to biotech companies? Where does the pee come from?
I'm in my first trimester of pregnancy (Week 7) and making myself miserable worrying about all the ways I might be injuring the baby. How can I return to a more balanced state of mind about this? [more inside]
I recently learned I was pregnant. Just before that, I put down a deposit on a rented workspace. Artists work in adjacent spaces, using paint, pens, etc. The place does not actually smell fume-y. Should I be worried about safety? [more inside]
I'm a very private person. I'm also pregnant, and starting to show, and having issues with the fact that I can't keep this as private as I normally would something like this. My main question is about when to tell people at work, but I'm also concerned about strangers and just people in general. [more inside]
37 weeks with baby #2. Traces of protein in my urine, blood pressure tip toeing up, very minor pitting. Is pre e coming my way again or normal end of pregnancy stuff. [more inside]
Recently hired at a decent job with good benefits. The job requires some occasional heavy lifting. The hiring process was long and in the meantime I have become pregnant (yay!). [more inside]
I am not irresponsible! I am a US Citizen who lives in a European country, where I am on state health insurance. We are back in the US for three months, and have temporary, emergency health insurance here. (We are not eligible, as non US residents, for ACA insurance.) I find myself unexpectedly but happily pregnant, with a few more months in the US to go before we return. How do I get prenatal care? [more inside]
There is a statistic that gets thrown at all women trying to get pregnant stating that each month that you only have a 20% chance of getting pregnant assuming each partner is fertile and otherwise healthy. This seems super low (and depressing and discouraging) to me. What gives? [more inside]
Anonymous as it's too early to officially announce - but I'm pregnant with a VERY wanted baby. Help me figure out a creative way to tell my parents over Father's day weekend! [more inside]
I'm pregnant. It's about to become disgusting hot and gross out. What do I wear? [more inside]
How do I stop thinking about my legs?I'm late pregnant and a lot of my previous sleep restlessness (which I asked about here) has resolved... But each night, once I THINK about my legs, I can't stop thinking about them and afraid of feeling twitchy and eventually even if they felt fine before, they end up driving me mad. [more inside]
It's too early to share with parents, friends, and colleagues, but just the right time to open up to a bunch of internet strangers. Mrs. BJW and I are 9 weeks pregnant. (YAY!!) I would like to ask the hive for help finding 2 things: First, a website that I saw referenced here but can no longer find. Second, the current best "What to Expect" book out there. [more inside]
Just found out that we are expecting our first child. We are about 8 weeks along! We are lucky enough to split out time between Kentucky and Florida. Currently, I am seeing two different doctors, one in each state, as we travel back and forth a bit. Coming up on 10 weeks, both doctors have recommended prenatal screening. One office recommends a "Sequential Screen" test (also called Integrated Screen as well as a Quad screen). The other office offers a similar NIPT screen called "Panorama Prenatal Screen". I understand that different companies offer different services, but I'm trying to figure out if one of these is recommended over the other. Any insight would be appreciated!
(also known as cervical ripening balloon) Curious about other's experience with the balloon procedure? How painful or how much discomfort did you feel? [more inside]
Pregnancy and swelling: Compression sleeves and other methods to reduce discomfort? [more inside]
I'm interested in thoughts and superstitions centred around eating and food in pregnancy around the world. What are you advised to eat or avoid in your country when pregnant? What are you told will happen to your baby (or its character) if you eat specific foods. Also, do Japanese women really give up sushi when pregnant and do the French give up their camembert and brie?
I'm still stuck in a bad work situation, having a baby in 2 months, my mom is sick, and I don't know how to go on. Should I quit my job? [more inside]
I'm dealing with some health issues while being pregnant, and I just don't know how I'm going to get through the rest of it! [more inside]
Hand! My wife and I went for an ultrasound today at week 27 and the Doppler measured increased blood in the brain, it was normal last week. (We have a high risk pregnancy and have frequent ultrasounds) they will have another look next week. My wife had fasted since the night before for the gestational diabetes test which we had right before, so she skipped her usual morning coffee and had a headache herself, could that be the cause? What are the implications of increased blood flow to the baby's brain?
2 weeks ago I noticed the tiniest bit of mucus discharge and walked myself over to the University Maternity Hospital just to be on the safe side and I was in preterm labor and my cervix was almost open, luckily they found the right moment to do surgery and after another week of observation I am home on limited mobility but I feel seriously rattled and would like advice on how to move forward. [more inside]
Help! Own a condo; HOA told us the wood porches would be painted this week after a spray wash. Workers just began to spray bleach everywhere on the wood to kill black mildew (wood was untreated after porches built 4 years ago). Concerns: 8 months pregnant asthmatic (me), our partly-tamed feral cat who spends much time on the porch, and a host of plants. I just watched as bleach misted down from the above porch coating everything on my porch. Help! [more inside]
I'm pregnant - do I really need a midwife or doula? [more inside]
If you have naturally conceived and carried a pregnancy to term in your 40s, or know someone who has, please share your experience with me. [more inside]
After many years of ambivalence, two years of infertility, some surgeries, some IVF, and 9 months of actual pregnancy, I am about to have a BABY. Due to placenta previa, it will be a scheduled c-section, which is great because most likely me and baby will end up alive! But sad because I'd hoped for a natural childbirth to balance out the scientific conception. My hospital does "gentle" c-sections, so I'm allowed to do immediate skin-to-skin, play music in the operating room, and even "read a poem or a story." [more inside]
My wife and I recently had a baby. Yesterday, a stranger mistook her for my mother. Now she's really bummed out. Can you share some advice on actions I can take to help lift her spirits up? [more inside]
After a long journey to this point, I am 24+ weeks into what seems to be a pretty vigorous pregnancy, and quite thrilled about it. I am also showing like whoa, and so it is becoming commonplace for people I don't know well to spontaneously comment on my being pregnant before I say anything about it. I know this is a terrible thing for people to do, etiquette-wise... but I am too excited to want to quash it. Should I be trying to, and if so, how? [more inside]
I'd like to have a gift basket delivered to my pregnant cousin, but there doesn't seem to be much available online. [more inside]
What are the best countries to consider in terms of prenatal care/maternity leave/childcare for American expats? [more inside]
I understand women have been doing this for hundreds of thousands of years, but I'm "delicate". How to not lose my job while feeling this ill? [more inside]
How much did my pot use in the first few weeks after intercourse effect my chances of a healthy pregnancy? [more inside]
My husband and I are interested in trying to get pregnant. My plan was to get a new job, work there for a few months, then start trying. Unfortunately, the first part is not working out. Now what? [more inside]
I work in mental health crisis on a small team in a tight space. We recently lost 2 colleagues and hired a new one. We did a team interview and he frequently called women "girls" and would laugh to himself when no one else laughed. I expressed my concerns, but he was hired regardless. He started 6 months ago and is still unable to do his job without ongoing guidance. [more inside]
We have two cats that sleep on our bed. I would love to know the safest flea control method to use during (human) pregnancy (not pregnant now but planning ahead). We've been using Advantage II, but it looks like prenatal exposure to one of the main ingredients - imidacloprid - by parents using the flea treatment in fact - was associated with autism spectrum disorders. What safer options are there? Thanks!
I received an admissions offer from a doctoral program, which is good news. They have an admitted students visit day, which they will cover costs for. I plan to attend. I am also pregnant. Third trimester pregnant. They are not aware of this yet. I also haven't gotten my funding package yet, but this should come before the visit. My question is this: do I need to tell them when I RSVP to the visit day that I'm pregnant? [more inside]
I know that taking folate acid is the sure-fire way to make sure you get enough, but I have to wonder, what the heck did we did before the miracles of modern science to ensure healthy babies? Are there foods from other cultures (south/east asia, africa, latin america) that we don't always think of as being rich in folate? [more inside]
Going to Europe soon for 5 weeks to be with my daughter as she pops out her first child. Am excited for both of us. I want to be truly supportive of her but also practice self-care and set appropriate limits. Naturally, there are complications. See inside for snowflakes. [more inside]
I'm pregnant, but for a variety of reasons, am having an abortion in 2 weeks. New pregnancy symptoms keep popping up and making me miserable, and also sad. How can I minimize them and/or feel less sad every time a new one pops up? [more inside]
Hello! I am just starting my second trimester and the evenings and nights are a tricky time for me. I am not mentally worried about anything and feel very positive about being pregnant, but physically I feel pretty funny at night. My legs get restless, I feel tense and tight... I run too cold and then too warm. My clothes don't feel right- tags and seams bother me, I end up changing a few times in the evenings and I get itchy. Food doesn't seem to sit right and I get a sickly feeling in my stomach. Did you feel this way? How long? What helped? Mental tricks or games? [more inside]
My lovely toddler's third birthday is rapidly approaching and I am having a hard time with the fact that I haven't managed to get pregnant again. What might help me feel less blue about the fact that he won't have a sibling 2-3 years younger than him (like I had originally hoped)? [more inside]
I'm in the unexpected (as they situations generally are I imagine) situation of having a rocky relationship with a woman who is now pregnant with our child and need some encouragement or advice on how to handle family, the mother, and work. We dated and are still technically dating for about 10 months now. [more inside]
I'm thinking about being a away for a week, around 4-5 weeks before my wife's due date. I'm looking hard statistics (chances of missing the birth) and soft advice (what would you do) to help with this decision. [more inside]
I'm pregnant. Do I tell the boy*? [more inside]
If I ovulated yesterday, and had unprotected sex today (with withdrawal), will Plan B or a similar pill work? What I'm reading on their site and elsewhere indicates that it works by preventing ovulation, and there's no evidence that it prevents implantation. I'm sure I was ovulating yesterday, but not sure if I still am today (very possible). If there's a chance the pill will help I'll take it, but otherwise want to avoid it, because I know it will make me sick.
How do I pick the right therapist to help with my anxiety, stress, indecisiveness, and perfectionist tendencies? What kinds of therapy/techniques/approaches might be most helpful? How do I quickly assess whether to stick with someone or look elsewhere? What are reasonable expectations of how much I can improve in therapy and how quickly? I'm terrible at making decisions-- I need help! (Especially since we want to start trying for kids in a few months so I feel real urgency to make progress quickly to feel comfortable going ahead, for both my and the kid's sake.) DC-area, FYI. [more inside]
Mrs. Pairofshades and I are expecting a baby and would like to read up on parenthood. I came across one book in paticular, in about 2005, that I would love to find and read again. It was from a series based on personal anecdotes from parents who had just gone through the stage the book focused on: in this case it was the first year of parenthood. Some details below the fold. [more inside]
Mrs. Awesome is having a baby very soon! Yay! At this point it's likely to be a C-section - not our first choice, but we'll roll with it if we have to. I understand the recovery can be a bit rough; I'll be around for a month or so after the birth, but will we need more help than just me? [more inside]
A dear friend of mine is likely to have a baby this week. She's just today been diagnosed with gestational diabetes. I would love to help her and her husband out specifically by bringing them food to eat/freeze for when everyone's home from the hospital. However, I am a) clueless about baby things, b) clueless about how gestational diabetes complicates this picture. [more inside]