So, I'm trying to get some opinions here:
My fiance and I have been engaged for 4 months and are in our mid-20s. We are both in school (undergrad for him, grad for me), but due to my income, we wanted to wait one more year, so that it would be financially better for us (e.g., paying tuition, etc). We are both interested in having children, however, something has come up for me health-wise (ulcerative colitis) that would make it less safe (because of medications) to have a baby later on, compared with now. Here are my questions for you:
1) Would you have a baby before marriage? What would be the reasons?
2) Has anyone actively planned this before? How did it work out?
I know some would say suck it up and push up the wedding, but it would save us a good 20K or so.
posted by queenba
on Mar 16, 2013 -
Suppose that I have a website that has frequent traffic. This traffic is consistant and predictable. How do I begin monetizing it by selling ad space? Where would I get in touch with these mythical people who would pay to have their ads displayed on my website? Is it customary to get paid per click or per view? Are there different rates depending on the readership?
Educate me, Metafilter!
posted by wolfdreams01
on Mar 15, 2013 -
My husband is driving me up the wall. He has always shown a reluctance to make a plan for anything, but I love planning stuff (trips, etc) so it's never come to be a huge issue. Except for now. [more inside]
posted by checkitnice
on Mar 13, 2013 -
So I got accepted to my doctoral program (vet med - yay!). Before it begins in August, how can I best use my time between now and then? Looking mainly for non-obvious stuff (work, save money, sleep, etc). Any other general tips for surviving the program would be gladly accepted.
posted by Ufez Jones
on Mar 1, 2013 -
In New York, and many other cities, developers can build bigger buildings than would otherwise be allowed, as long as they provide amenities such as parks, schools, affordable housing, etc. I want to show students how this works by providing a photo or drawing of a real building, annotated to show how much of the height is due to these bonuses.
For example, a drawing of a 50 story building, where the first 30 floors are unannotated, but then 30-35 are labeled "plaza," 35-40 "affordable housing units," 40-45 "subway entrance" and so on. I want it to be from a real building, and clear enough to show via a projector. I'm surprised this doesn't already exist, but I've done plenty of searching and can't find it.
posted by lenore
on Feb 20, 2013 -
I'm desperately trying to become an adult (finally!), but I can't wrap my head around 'classic' budgeting software. Suggestions and tips to find what I really need? [more inside]
posted by hanov3r
on Feb 14, 2013 -
I would like to hear about the little things that really stood out and details you still remember to this day from conferences or conventions in any field. [more inside]
posted by nathaole
on Feb 12, 2013 -
My friends are all prepping for careers, and I'm wondering how I'll balance mine with the many things I want to do that are (probably) mutually exclusive. Looking for insight. [more inside]
posted by Urban Winter
on Jan 27, 2013 -
My office delivers projects - about thirty a year, about four months each, give or take a few weeks if they go well. They're always late, but when planning the next project, we use the same optimistic assumptions. I think reference class forecasting (RCF) could help. Any pointers for (or links to a crash course in) using RCF to turn a spreadsheet full of historical start / end dates and milestones into more accurate forecasts? Or is this something best left to a math geek?
posted by obiwanwasabi
on Jan 26, 2013 -
If you keep a diary or other secret papers, do you have a plan for what happens to it if something happens to you? [more inside]
posted by dawkins_7
on Jan 5, 2013 -
Looking for activity ideas for a singles night in a small restaurant. What doesn't make you cringe? [more inside]
posted by ceiba
on Dec 17, 2012 -
in my mind i envision a website where you put your departing airport and the site pulls together current last-minutes deals to all sorts of destinations [more inside]
posted by allthingsconsidered
on Dec 9, 2012 -
Help me add new dishes to the menu. Difficult level: kosher-style, pescaphobic, non-dairy, mushroom hater. [more inside]
posted by bq
on Nov 27, 2012 -
I was asked to consider teaching for a couple of days at a university here in the UK which is great. But I have zero experience in creating lessons plans. I have found some useful free-to-use lesson plans online that I am tailoring but I can't seem to get an indication of what I should provide to the university department leaders in advance. Should I only send the lesson plan and readings? Should I omit readings from what I send my future bosses? Help me make a proposal map so I can sort it all out for the future! It's a media studies department FWIW.
posted by parmanparman
on Nov 3, 2012 -
Help two budget wedding dorks make the most of appointments, touring venues, etc. What questions do we need to ask in person? How do we get it all done in a weekend? Can we get discounts on entry fees for looking at all these places? [more inside]
posted by nakedmolerats
on Oct 10, 2012 -
I am taking a trip to Salem (MA) this weekend with several friends. The general goal is to have lunch together and see some of the cheesy haunted house attractions. What else should we see while we are there? Are there any non-cheesy attractions that are simply too good to be missed? [more inside]
posted by wolfdreams01
on Oct 8, 2012 -
What's that movie? filter: I'm looking for the title of a classic movie where a couple plans a wedding and it makes everyone unhappy. [more inside]
posted by petiteviolette
on Oct 5, 2012 -
I've somehow been tasked with organizing a family reunion for my HUGE family. There could be up to 75 people there if everyone comes with spouses/SOs and kids. I plan large events for work and have done travel events like this (bachelorette parties, ski weekends) for smaller groups, but this is a real challenge for a group this large. Advice? [more inside]
posted by deliciae
on Oct 4, 2012 -
Tell me your recipes that get much easier with a little bit of advance planning! I like cold-brew coffee and this recipe for hash browns
, not just because they're tasty, but because they're less work than regular coffee or hash browns, as long as I remember to do a tiny bit of preparation the night before. What else is like that? (If you have some non-food tips that fit the theme, that's good too...)
posted by moonmilk
on Oct 2, 2012 -
Launching a freelance career, starting a training program and planning a wedding. Please help me get organized before my life spins out of control. [more inside]
posted by ladybird
on Oct 2, 2012 -
How do you set yourself up for maximum success when starting a creative project that requires consistent production? Or: I have to create multiple radio pieces a week! How do I best prepare myself to get out there and make them? [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish
on Sep 10, 2012 -
What are some good MA programs in Urban planning in the US? With emphasis on working from the architectural side on large scale developments, particularly in relation to tourism. [more inside]
posted by pynchonesque
on Aug 19, 2012 -
So I'm thinking it's a bad idea to include a chapter by Jonah Lehrer
in my college's first-year experience course, given that it would be placed right after our discussion on academic dishonesty. Can you help me think of a replacement? [more inside]
posted by bizzyb
on Aug 6, 2012 -
I'm a young person with no debt and a pile of money to invest. The catch: I'm not real confident about the long-term health of the US economy. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jul 24, 2012 -
Help me find a wedding planning website. Tried 'theknot.com' and I can't get past how disorganized & visually chaotic it is. [more inside]
posted by luciddream928
on Jul 16, 2012 -
I have a lot of autonomy in my job, along with a lot of responsibility. How can I get better at organizing my working patterns so that I get everything done, without always worrying that I should be working on some other task instead? Looking for recommendations for tactics, mindsets, books, apps, or whatever's worked for you. [more inside]
posted by Catseye
on Jun 13, 2012 -
I'm in okay shape, but fitness and athleticism don't come naturally to me at all. Gyms are weird and stressful. Any advice on the best way to think about and develop a good workout routine? [more inside]
posted by whymog
on May 21, 2012 -
How do really good and thorough event planners find dates with the fewest conflicts? I am in San Francisco, planning music events, and would love to find a comprehensive calendar including major festivals, concerts, bridge closures, naked marathons, sporting events, etc. Failing a comprehensive calendar, what main Bay Area calendar resources would you use?
posted by purplefiber
on May 12, 2012 -
I'm looking to make the jump from the public sector to perhaps a career in urban planning. Can you share your experience with me? [more inside]
posted by timpanogos
on May 7, 2012 -
Help me plan a 10-year anniversary party (to be on par with a wedding reception) for my boyfriend and myself. Specifically, what might our guests expect from the evening? [more inside]
posted by youngergirl44
on Apr 26, 2012 -
My job is contract based, and tends to lead me around the world. How does one plan for retirement with such a job? [more inside]
posted by TrinsicWS
on Apr 26, 2012 -
Tools for visualizing the interim steps of long-term goals, when there's no established model for the long term goal? Longer description inside. [more inside]
posted by Cool Papa Bell
on Apr 20, 2012 -
I'm planning a trip to Paris from Boston for my family (wife, 3 girls 13, 11, 9) sometime over the summer. I don't know what I'm doing.
How do I find the least expensive flights?
Are there tricks to knowing when to leave and return? e.g. are there travel days that get better rates; leave on a Wednesday and return on Monday for cheapest flights?
What's the minimum number of days we should stay to make it worth the trip? I was thinking 5-6 days.
Is July better than August in Paris?
Do you have a favorite place to stay while in Paris? hotel? b&b? youth hostel?
posted by GernBlandston
on Apr 20, 2012 -
Maternity leave: did you space yours out over a year (if your place of employment offers that option)? How did it go? Did you regret not taking it all up front, or were there real hidden benefits? [more inside]
posted by tristeza
on Apr 11, 2012 -
How many varieties of tiny bite-sized dessert cakes should I offer if I want to serve 20 people? (Limitation: I can only buy 70 pieces.) [more inside]
posted by parilous
on Mar 13, 2012 -
I'm planning a party for the Game of Thrones premiere on April 1st, we're planning on doing a potluck, using the show as a theme for the dishes. I have already found several sites or blogs dedicated to recipes of dishes mentioned in the books. But if you do have a good recipe, please
feel free to share it as well!! [more inside]
posted by Quincy
on Mar 12, 2012 -
I want to be prepared (tongue-in-cheek) for when I win 300+ million dollars in the Powerball lottery. The moment my winning numbers are selected, what kind of staff should I assemble to handle the $$$, protect my family's safety, and maintain the greatest anonymity possible and any other creative suggestions...all before I publicly turn in the winning ticket?
posted by teg4rvn
on Feb 15, 2012 -
Big changes are coming and I'm not sure how to make the best of them. I am not enthralled in the least in my current career and would like to take a chance on something new, but should I go for something that is very risky that I love, something practical, or something that uses my mind, or is there some kind of career that embraces all of this that I am not aware of?
Man this gets long! [more inside]
posted by stormygrey
on Feb 15, 2012 -
How do I evaluate the cost/benefits of migrating my org's front-end website from M$Sharepoint to an open-source platform? [more inside]
posted by metajc
on Feb 2, 2012 -