So, I'm trying to get some opinions here: My fiance and I have been engaged for 4 months and are in our mid-20s. We are both in school (undergrad for him, grad for me), but due to my income, we wanted to wait one more year, so that it would be financially better for us (e.g., paying tuition, etc). We are both interested in having children, however, something has come up for me health-wise (ulcerative colitis) that would make it less safe (because of medications) to have a baby later on, compared with now. Here are my questions for you: 1) Would you have a baby before marriage? What would be the reasons? 2) Has anyone actively planned this before? How did it work out? I know some would say suck it up and push up the wedding, but it would save us a good 20K or so.
posted by queenba on Mar 16, 2013 - 49 answers

My girlfriend is pregnant. We're keeping it. Now what? (Advice and encouragement requested.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 14, 2011 - 44 answers

Taking charge of, as well as micro-managing, your fertility. When is the best time to have a second child given our current choices? Scenarios inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 15, 2011 - 16 answers

[ZygoteFilter] I'm apparently fully into that stage where everyone around me is pregnant and I'm actually not horrified at the prospect of becoming a parent. To me, that means ALL SYSTEMS GO... within, oh, a couple years or whatever. What should I/we do now, either things to do before trying to conceive/getting pregnant, or things you wish you'd have had in place before you Got To That Place? [more inside]
posted by Madamina on Jan 11, 2010 - 25 answers

I am turning 40 this month and the only thing that I have been certain of all my life is my desire to have a child. For a bunch of reasons,mainly poor planning, I have no way to make this dream happen any time soon (financial reasons, no partner, etc.). I'd like to look into freezing my eggs so that a couple of years from now I might still be able to make my dreams come true. Does anyone have experience with this? What is the cost? Is it a complicated procedure? Whatever information you might share would be very much appreciated!
posted by anonymous on Feb 29, 2008 - 5 answers