As a 30-year old who is a part-time grad student and a full-time office worker, are my goals to get control over my life (weight loss, finances, home, work, etc) really unrealistic? Is there a way to just be NORMAL and balanced, or is it really just normal not to really have things together, even as an adult? [more inside]
posted by dumbledore69 on Nov 13, 2009 - 24 answers

When is it actually worth it to attempt to do any better than average? [more inside]
posted by jnnla on Oct 21, 2009 - 16 answers

How can I become less absent minded? [more inside]
posted by emilyd22222 on Oct 16, 2009 - 23 answers

Help me stop myself from turning into my dad: how do I manage daily guilt? [more inside]
posted by brambory on Oct 13, 2009 - 10 answers

How do I stop setting ridiculous expectations of myself and then either beating myself up when I don't meet them, or feeling more stressed during the process than is warranted? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 20, 2009 - 10 answers

How do I kill the perfectionism, the precious and fearful impulses, and the self-doubt that keeps me from completing my creative writing projects. [more inside]
posted by mizrachi on Aug 2, 2008 - 50 answers

What is 'good enough'? Reforming perfectionist wants to know. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 31, 2008 - 27 answers

Another "Help me plan my life" question... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 27, 2008 - 12 answers

I'm a grad student. I like the subject(s) I'm studying, I like research, and I know I'm capable of doing the work... except when I sit down to actually do it, I choke. I know I'm not the only one suffering from both imposter syndrome and perfectionism - how do you manage to get your brain to stop spinning its wheels and get to work? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 31, 2008 - 33 answers

I have a huge mental block when it comes to writing songs that is the direct result of being ridiculed or sometimes even punished by my father when I was little. It's so bad that even when I try, a little voice in my head screams, "no, no, no!" and I just shut down. Freewriting is great, but I need to be able to ignore that voice even when I'm writing thoughtfully and paying attention to conventions like rhyme, rhythm and melody. I have plenty of ideas, but I need help learning how to get them out onto paper. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by freshwater_pr0n on Dec 27, 2007 - 21 answers

how my perfectionism, indecisiveness, and depression are driving me mad. [more inside]
posted by howiamdifferent on Sep 10, 2007 - 17 answers

Chasing grades is no longer working for me. I feel terrible when I get less than perfect grade, even if I have put in a great effort, even if I get the next best grade. [more inside]
posted by b33j on May 24, 2007 - 16 answers

Conquering perfectionism. [more inside] [more inside]
posted by .kobayashi. on Dec 14, 2003 - 16 answers