So I'm trying to find examples of cultures/peoples/ethnicities/religions that are significantly dissimilar to the main city/culture/groups that surround them. Like finding a group of Amish people in Detroit. Or the one someone gave me of the significant Hasidic population in the scantily clad nightlife world of South Beach. What other current examples are there in the USA and Canada of unexpected groups in unexpected places?
posted by rileyray3000
on Aug 25, 2014 -
Where can I find statistics of black officers who have used lethal force against black people.
posted by CollectiveMind
on Aug 20, 2014 -
Let's say I would like to organize 6 friends to go see a baseball game. There's one problem: ticket purchases have to be done at the same time to ensure that people sit together. How is this circle squared? [more inside]
posted by Hollywood Upstairs Medical College
on Jul 31, 2014 -
I'm helping my friend's Maid of Honor plan the bachelorette party. Due to a miscommunication, I thought we would be a party of 6 for dinner. Nope. It's between 12 - 15 people. I need to rethink. [more inside]
posted by functionequalsform
on Jul 3, 2014 -
The person in question is my significant other’s ex, I’ll call Steve. We share custody of the kids (3 under 12 years). Their separation agreement calls for the responsibility/decision making for the kids to be shared 50/50. The kids go back and forth between houses. In reality, we do much more than our share. A recent conflict has left me searching for a new outlook on Steve. I’m tired of being frustrated and angry with his behavior and attitude. I need to find some peace. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jun 23, 2014 -
I have a feeling that hospitals push surgery all the time. my grandma was diagnosed with a heart defect that she was born with and they recommended surgery for 40 years.she has mitral stenosis and she was fine and on meds and no major issue except once when she was in the hospital. however now that we revisited the subject, I asked her if she should get the surgery. she is 77. she is saying God forbid that old people have trouble recoviering from it and that she can die from a surgery when she can just live as long as she can naturally and the pills help her. we know that the pills only treat the symptoms not the underlymg cause.
so from your experience and with your old beloved, how do they handle heart surgery after 75? did you have good or bad experience with such surgery? of course I will just respect her wish but I wonder what experience did you have with your beloved ones undergoing mitral stenosis surgery
posted by barexamfreak
on May 13, 2014 -
I'd like examples of traits/personality types/habits/behaviors wherein most people fall into two or three "camps", none of whom are generally aware of the existence of the other(s). "Ask Vs. Guess Culture"
and "Sit Vs. Stand to Wipe?"
are two examples (a LOT of people are absolutely gobsmacked when they learn that Asking and/or Standing is not only an option, but a POPULAR option). I'm NOT interested in predefined typologies (e.g. the MBTI or Buzzfeedy "What Garden Implement Are You?" kinda stuff)... just ones that, 1. Arise kinda organically, 2. Involve Group A and Group B people frequently being unaware of one another's existence.
posted by julthumbscrew
on May 12, 2014 -
I'm an early 30s lesbian who spent most of her 20s in committed relationships. My latest and most significant ended about a year ago and I've started dipping my toe in the scary online dating waters. I'm not ready to get serious yet but since I've been in these long relationships, I've never really 'dated around' per se, except maybe in my very early 20s- although at the time I was pretty closeted and neurotic, so I hardly even count that.
Anyway, I registered on OkCupid and messaged back and forth with a few people. Somewhat naively, I gave two of them my phone number to text. BAD IDEA.
More inside.. [more inside]
posted by anad487
on Apr 16, 2014 -
In December I started working for a mill that manufactures flour, and although most employees there are excellent and fun to work with, I am discovering that many of my immediate co-workers appear to sabotage others for their own benefit. [more inside]
posted by 8LeggedFriend
on Mar 1, 2014 -
I regularly find myself needing to conclude a fairly sizable gathering of people. Too often I find myself at the end of our proceedings, saying something like "Have a great week," expecting people to get up and leave. But they don't. After an awkward moment, I find myself resorting to "We're done." Everyone laughs and finally leaves. How can I better signal a conclusion?
posted by toots
on Dec 20, 2013 -
Which people, figures, deities, beings, etc personify the concept of the fairy godmother - a caring compassionate motherly figure who grants wishes? There's the fairytale stock character, but there's also Oprah (and to some extent Ellen). [more inside]
posted by divabat
on Sep 27, 2013 -
Guitarists get callouses on the tops of their fingers, former ballet dancers stand and walk with a specific alignment, active violinists have a callous under the chin. What are other examples of telltale physical cues and behaviors that can identify what a person does for work, sport, or hobby?
posted by mochapickle
on Sep 19, 2013 -
You used to use Facebook regularly, and then you quit. Or tried to quit. Please tell me about it. [more inside]
posted by Miko
on Aug 7, 2013 -
Who are some notable people with the initials B.A.M.? Living or dead, fictional or otherwise. Americans are preferred, but foreigners are OK too. Prefer people notable enough to have their own Wikipedia pages.
posted by Dec One
on Jul 31, 2013 -
Sorry this is so long.
Last time, I came to y'all with a problem with online strangers wanting to barge into my life and take up all my time. You gave me some WONDERFUL advice on how to handle this, including giving me your express permission to resort to a completely made-up personal assistant. So I acquired Serge and am much happier. But... [more inside]
posted by cartoonella
on Jul 30, 2013 -
I recently found out my deceased Father had a daughter from a previous relationship. I know her maiden name, but not much else. Should I hire a private investigator or will an online "people finder" suffice? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jul 10, 2013 -
It's recently occurred to me that I am very, very impressionable and mold myself around to wherever/whomever I happen to be with at the moment and it's giving me some concern (Oh god I don't have an actual personality! I am such an easy mark! I will totally get swept up in group hysteria!). Should I be worried about this or should I just learn how to deal better with being a ball of wax? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jul 7, 2013 -
I'm writing a book, and I just got the following task from my editor: get a sizable (50+) list of high profile people who have written blurbs or reviews for similar books, and get their mailing addresses. Here's the kicker: I'm not supposed to contact them directly, unless I already know them personally. So! What's the best way to do this? I hear there are search engines that charge a monthly fee for this kind of information, but I'm having a hard time finding out which ones are good and which are scams. What do lawyers use when they need to track people down to serve them? [more inside]
posted by sdis
on Jun 26, 2013 -
Hivemind! I need your help locating a trio of college kids that I recently spent the afternoon with on an excursion in Cancun. My family and I joined these guys (we were randomly selected as excursion-mates) on a tour through the 'jungle'... zip lining and cave snorkeling. I have something they want. [more inside]
posted by shew
on Jun 14, 2013 -
So I am in an extended academic program meaning almost all of my friends have graduated and moved on and I know only a handful of people in my current city. I have always been very shy and since the departure of my friends I have been making every effort to be a more social, friendly, and outgoing person. I have been doing an OK job but sometimes stumble as I feel very awkward initiating friendships of either sex and I really need help with this one. [more inside]
posted by Valkyrie21
on Mar 31, 2013 -
I now live in an area populated by college students. Everything in this neighborhood revolves around the major university in question. Problem is, as much as I look like one, I'm not a college student. And when asked, I feel awkward saying no I don't go to school here. What should my appropriate response be? [more inside]
posted by signondiego
on Mar 30, 2013 -
Please help my son (17 years) with a presentation about the homeless people in the US. We are from Scandinavia, and due to our welfare system, we don't have the same situation as in the US. We have explored several issues, and the more we search, the more questions we have. [more inside]
posted by dreamsandhope
on Mar 3, 2013 -
After reading this article
, I'm interested in varying the way I get my media more. Aside from places mentioned in the article, Ebony, Latino, PODER, Essence magazines, what should I be reading that will give me more perspective from people of color? [more inside]
posted by roomthreeseventeen
on Feb 17, 2013 -
I grew up as a painfully shy, socially anxious extrovert. No friends that weren't online, could not talk to anyone. This was not a fun combination, so after Highschool I worked on fixing it and I've gotten better. I can make small talk, break the ice, carry on a general conversation. But this is not what I want. [more inside]
posted by Pericardium
on Feb 9, 2013 -
Fluorescent bulbs explosion -- how to clean glass and powder from the carpet? Broken glass is everywhere. And carpets are everywhere. [more inside]
posted by Oli D.
on Nov 29, 2012 -
I feel very ambivalent, like I lack perspective (but hope is abundant!), but I am not sure; this state of not knowing and being unsure of myself and what I do is tough [more inside]
posted by ahtlast93
on Nov 15, 2012 -
Not trying to be in control for the actions of others is frequent and good advice. How do you put that into practice? Where do you draw the line? [more inside]
posted by iftheaccidentwill
on Oct 4, 2012 -
I've been taking on some more responsibility at work with a slight shift towards management, but I feel like I'm in over my head. Can anyone recommend any good books or anything to help me get more up to speed? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Sep 24, 2012 -
I have a very difficult time recognizing people when they're wearing, say, sunglasses. Or a hat. [more inside]
posted by phunniemee
on Sep 12, 2012 -
(re)met the daughter of a family friend last weekend at a wedding. We hadn't seen each other since we were 6 or 7 and she is two years younger than I am. The challenge--spent three hours together, live 600 miles apart, and I can't stop thinking about her. A few more details, but the question is "How can I see if this has potential to go somewhere?" [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Aug 23, 2012 -
In Responding to Someone Being Difficult, Where is Line Between "Assertive" and "Jerk"? [more inside]
posted by Jon44
on May 23, 2012 -
I am trying to identify a woman from a cookbook. "The only thing I know about her is two pictures from a cookbook printed by the Maryland Seafood Marketing Authority (Department of Economic and Community Management) in the mid-1970s." [more inside]
posted by furiousxgeorge
on May 7, 2012 -
My Italian nephew is the proud owner of a Greyhound bus pass
. His pass is valid for two months, he speaks decent English, loves nature, and he is not afraid to sleep on the bus. He just arrived from New York City to Oklahoma City, where he will be based for a while. What loops around the US should he travel?
posted by francesca too
on Mar 18, 2012 -
Linkedin seems to be somehow scraping my email contacts from an account that was never connected to Linkedin. Two questions: How does that work; and is there anyway to stop it other than closing my account? [more inside]
posted by seesom
on Mar 15, 2012 -
How to get some people to stop contacting me? Long explanation inside. Any help much appreciated. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Feb 12, 2012 -
Is there software that will create a simple directory of employees with name, pic, and a few pieces of profile info (team name, role, etc.). [more inside]
posted by j810c
on Jan 23, 2012 -