Has anyone ever made a mistake that they just can't stop replaying over and over in their head? I think that I accept the mistakes that I made and the decisions that led up to it, but I keep thinking why in the world did I have to do what I did. Every day I get up and I am thinking about the past. I made a mistake that was so big that it has permanently jeopardized my future. It's been almost two years since this problem first appeared. Some things have improved since that time but other things have gotten much worse. On a scale of 1 - 10 as far as big fuck ups go, this one would be about an 11. How do you process something like this and live with it so that you're not constantly thinking about it?
I'm looking for a term (either a neologism or something that already exists) for a person who so precisely resembles someone from your past, someone whose relationship with you is unresolved and will never be resolved, that they drag up all the feelings associated with that person despite having no actual connection to them. Stuff like "dead ringer," "spitting image," "doppelganger," etc. only covers the appearance, not the emotion.
At what point does avoiding the things that make you unhappy become unhealthy? [more inside]
In my past, I was very experimental. Now I'm wondering how much of that I'm obligated to tell my SO. [more inside]
I'm trying to think of a movie where a man is having an affair with another woman. During one of the encounters while he should be watching his child, the child accidentally dies I think by falling into a pool. After feeling grieved, he goes through some sort of cave in a park and goes back in time and can make things right again. Apparently, there's something weird about the new neighborhood he's in (spoilers so I won't say more). Anybody know what the movie is called?!
What do most people do with all the cards, letters, notes, trinkets and other crap that gets collected over the years? [more inside]
Think I can solve this privacy issue of mine? If not, what to do if I'm "discovered"? [more inside]
"The past isn't dead. It's not even past." Source? [more inside]
Stuck in nostalgia. How to move forward? [more inside]
A close friend, "Tom" has just gotten engaged to somebody, "Jane", who, in the recent past, despised me for reasons unknown and said terribly hurtful things to me. I am 100% ready to be pleasant and graceful about this, but Tom wants me (and my spouse) to be good friends with Jane. I am not interested in this. Help me figure out how to navigate this situation. [more inside]
Retro-Travel Filter: How much did it cost to fly roundtrip between Detroit and Philadelphia this past May (2012; leaving on 5/24 and returning 5/29)? Or, how can I figure this out? [more inside]
What was the gay lifestyle like in past times (say, pre 1970s)? How was being gay perceived? [more inside]
How much to tell a potential new love about past infidelity [more inside]
Is it possible to let go of past injuries? My parents were abusive when I was growing up (both physically and emotionally) and I have been dealing with depression and anxiety ever since, with medication and therapy. Now, though, they have changed (really), and I'm trying to figure out how to let go of what happened and have a good relationship with the people they are now. [more inside]
My boyfriend is catching up with an old girlfriend and I want to be okay with it. [more inside]
Should, or how should, I represent this cataclysmic but plum past job in my employment history? Way, way more within. [more inside]
What do you say to children of your exes that find you on Facebook? Bisexual three-way snowflake details inside. [more inside]
What suggestions do you have for helping me put the past in a box and filing it away? [more inside]
What are some compelling techno-utopian visions from the past that didn't pan out? [more inside]
Does anyone know of an online resource for looking at the configuration of the continents over the eons? [more inside]
A juicy, confessional article I wrote years ago, before the Internet, has been referenced, quoted, and even reprinted online without my permission. Will this hurt me with potential employers? A blizzard of special snowflakes after the cut. [more inside]
What kinds of pranks and/or practical jokes could a time traveller pull on people from the past without changing history? [more inside]
How much of your life do you remember? [more inside]
Ghosts-of-relationships-past-filter: How do I forget an old girlfriend, years gone by? [more inside]
I've been married for just a little while now. I still have issues with handling my husband's "past." He took my virginity early in our relationship. He was with other women before me.... I don't know how to deal with this heart-sinking feeling when i think about his life before me. Advice would be gratefully appreciated.
[FearFilter]: 15 years ago I experienced an imminent death/serious injury moment that turned out ok. However, I still feel physical chills and tingly feelings even thinking about it. Am I the only one or is this common? Thoughts and stories appreciated. The science is a huge bonus. [more inside]
Please help me to constructively frame and endure a "let's discuss your past relationships" conversation with my SO. [more inside]
How much leeway should I give a photographer who has already missed his OWN deadlines three times now? [more inside]
How do I let go of the past? [more inside]
Background info: I've been dating my girlfriend for almost 2years and we both love each other very much. However, every once in awhile she will get depressed because of her troubled past. She is my first girlfriend, while she's had a few bad partners who I would punch in the face if I ever saw them. Just to name a few, she was physically abused by one, had a "friends with benefits" she is extremely disgusted/ashamed about. Every once in awhile her past will come back and cause her a lot of suffering. I've been very patient, respectful, loving and understanding to her throughout our entire relationship. However, I feel helpless to help her overcome her past. I've suggested counseling but she thinks it won't really help. Has anyone gone through something similar? I want to help her but I don't know how? Do I just continue doing what I am doing? Thank you in advance
How to acknowledge my situation, without acting as though I'm apologizing for my past? [more inside]
What is it called when you can't imagine the past or the future? [more inside]
Help me find a specific type of time travel novel. [more inside]
What kinds of high-technology things exist now but will only come to light 50 or 100 years from now? Speculative, but asking for concrete answers. [more inside]
I am working on trying to get my romantic life in order, but I seem to get tripped on one issue - how do I handle the "gaps in my resume"? [more inside]
What do you do with your collection of old letters from ex-significant others? [more inside]
Looking for Halloween-themed, pre-teen ghost mystery from the 80s. [more inside]
Magazine Filter: How does one get past issues of magazines without going through the publisher? I'm looking for the April 2004 issue of Esquire Magazine. The publisher takes 2-3 weeks to ship past issues... is there a better/faster way I'm missing?
Will future politicians have to explain their Web past [MI]? [more inside]