All my life, I've had a cursory fascination with pretty much everything: from neuroscience and biology, to poetry, history to politics to cooking, writing, architecture, art, aviation and photography. You name it, it's piqued my interest. For all of thirty seconds (exaggerating, but only a little). It's occurred to me that one of the reasons I can't start on a career is because nothing... and I do mean nothing... has ever compelled me to study it beyond a very superficial, Reader's Digest-y type level It's especially apparent when I'm around my very intellectual, very well-read, well-rounded friends. They can talk for hours about most anything, and I can only put on airs using the little I know to only just pass for competent. They read and wonder about things. I might watch half an hour of a basic cable documentary on something and then flip channels. I'm 25. This doesn't seem to be going anywhere? What do I do? [more inside]
What is more important: having stability with your partner, whom you love (but possibly non-amorous) and whose company you enjoy or the being-in-love with a third person with whom you feel alive, passionate and excited [more inside]
I'm looking for phrases to use when you see someone who has a strong passion the appeal of which you just cannot understand--a passion that appears to be one of the things the person lives for, one of the things that gets them out of bed in the morning. (I'm looking for secular passions, not religious ones.) Funny is good but not required. [more inside]
I'm unsatisfied in the passion and effort in my relationship but love the companionship. We are like best friends. However, it's been so long since I've seen makeup or hair down, or her really initiating to me. Tons of details inside... thanks for your help. My frustration has been building over a long time. [more inside]
I recently started taking competitive Irish dance classes again after having been away from it for 4-5 years, but it's not the same as it was when I was a teen and I'm feeling like I should quit...again. Sorry, lots of details inside. [more inside]
Suppose you’re a 28 year old who, after spending 18 years as a shut-in, is finally able to experience things most people experience in their early teens. How do you dedicate yourself to an idea, a cause, a company, or a domain of knowledge while being incessantly hounded by the realization that there is much more to life than the object of your obsession? [more inside]
When your passion becomes your job, how do you keep the job aspects of it from draining all your passion away?
Is there any chance that a relationship with a girl with issues from her past could work long term? have there ever been any that have been successful? [more inside]
To what extent should someone question their ability to fall in love after enduring countless "lukewarm" relationships? [more inside]
I have just graduated from university with a bachelor of science in environmental sciences. My dad would love for me to continue down that route and become an environmentalist. I want to be a primary teacher and he is not happy with that decision. [more inside]
I really can't figure out what I want to do in my life. And it's scaring the crap out of me. At many times I really thought I knew what I wanted and then when I started working... I didn't, at all! I tried really hard to figure out what to do. I majored in political science, been involved in campaigns, and I thought I would just go to law school. But felt uneasy about the whole thing like it was just something I was supposed to do cause I would be good at it. So I decided to work a bit in a medical field, which was followed by living aboard for a few years. Now I'm dabbling in film and thinking about architecture. All amazing experiences but no closer to a conclusion. I feel super strongly about some careers and then realize I only feel strongly about those things because I admire the people in those fields and not necessarily the field itself. Does anyone have a similar story? Any conclusions? Can anyone help?
An earlier poster mentioned this attitude in a thread on boredom and it prompted me finally to post a question that's been simmering a while. I'm super-boring, but not bored -- it doesn't bother me when I'm on my own, but I'm starting to get a complex about it, vis a vis other people. Help me to have any interest, any interest at all! (Or to feel better about not having any.) Novel inside. [more inside]
It seems like every day I will see someone accomplish something amazing. My first thought is not to be impressed or happy for them, but to try and find out their age. Then, if they are younger than I, I'm overcome with jealousy and regret. [more inside]
I am lost, I am interested in being a positive influence to other people by making them laugh or helping them out with life problems. Need some suggestions. [more inside]
Is there a name or pathology for this kind of behaviour (in psychiatry)? Basically, it feels like I'm falling in love all the time - with human knowledge - and I keep on pushing the lever because it feels good. [more inside]
My mind is blank all the time? How do I fix this?? (long read but please read) [more inside]
Would you leave a well-paid but badly-fitting job to do something you really cared about but for less money? [more inside]
Resources on how to foster passion and "have fun" with your spouse? [more inside]
Talk me into becoming a speech pathologist (Work-to-Live version) [more inside]
Do you like your job? Do you like your job despite it not being related to your "passion"? (Maybe you don't have a "passion".) How did you find your way into that job? [more inside]
I recently chose to change directions in my career, so I’m back in school to receive the proper/required training. I did this in response to dislike of my former job and the realization that my artistic needs likely can’t be met through a full-time job. So I’ve chosen a career path that is very technical and science-based, opposite of anything artistic, but a good balance I think (I still plan on working on my art outside of job setting). I feel like it might be the wrong choice though since it's so different and that it might take over any artistic pursuits. Has anyone been in a similar situation? [more inside]
How can I figure out how to make my "ding in the universe"? [more inside]
I’m in my late 20s and still wrapped up in self-indulgent “what should I do with my life” questions that I can’t seem to resolve. Sorry for a rambling question - please help. [more inside]
Help me figure out my own nature when it comes to passion in long term relationships. Yes, it's quite a bit late for me to be asking this. [more inside]
How seriously should I take sexual attraction when choosing the person want to have a child with? Due to unique circumstances, I find myself with two clear and available options, wherein one potential partner has a great job and a gentle/humorous/intelligent nature, and the other potential partner has a freelance job and chooses to work less and focus more on passions and is compassionate/generous/inspiring. If my enjoyment with them, desire to help them, sense of understanding is all equal, and only the sexual desire aspect is lacking, how do I realistically approach this? [more inside]
How do I choose which hobby I want to devote myself to? [more inside]
How do I "do what I love" if I have no idea how to even figure out what the heck that is? Steve Jobs has thrown me into an existential crisis and I need the hive mind to set me on the right path. [more inside]
So, after almost a year of hunting for a full-time job, I've decided to put that aside and try to have a go at digital storytelling as a freelancer. I have a few places I'm getting myself stuck, and I would love some assistance/context in finding 'my people' [more inside]
Have you (or someone you know well) loved someone but weren't "in love" with them (had a strong, warm, happy relationship but one that wasn't very intense, passionate, etc) and gotten married/been in a long-term partnership? Did it matter that you weren't "in love" exactly? If it led to problems, what were they? [more inside]
I'm 28 years old and I feel passionless and directionless -- how can I find something, anything that I like to do and will stick with?
I don't really have anything I can say is a 'passion' or 'interest' that I've held for longer than a few months to a year. The result is I feel completely directionless, left with absolutely nothing to do on the weekends and evenings and feeling like I'm wasting my time and abilities on nothing. How do I find something to do that I like doing and can get good at, and how do I keep my interest? I don't think it's from lack of trying new things -- I've worked vastly different jobs and have tried a bunch of different creative things -- writing, drawing, music, etc., but nothing really sticks. I just want to get good at something and take pride in it. I feel like I am completely the same person as I was 5 years ago, and that scares me. What should I do?
Did you ever have a burning urge to do something significant that makes a difference in the world? How did you become that person? How did you figure out what is it that you wanted to do and how to get there? [more inside]
I'm stuck in a career I'm not sure I love. How do I get out of it? How can I get paid to do the things I love? [more inside]
As a creative person working a day job completely unrelated to your chosen form of expression, how do you cope when the urge to create comes up while at work? [more inside]
I've been through four majors and I'm no closer to figuring out a career. Now what? [more inside]
Is it better to live to work, or work to live? [more inside]
How can I become a responsible adult without getting my dreams lost in the process? Can they be one and the same? [more inside]
I have been working for a design agency for five years. This was my first job out of college. It's the only job I've ever had. I'm stuck in a rut: should I stay or should I go? [more inside]
My father just retired and is losing interest in the hobbies he once loved. I'd like to help try to spark some passion in something that will get him excited, and hopefully, get him out of the house. The catch? He is generally antisocial, depressed, and is extremely set in his ways. [more inside]
What are the best historical sources for the Passion narrative of Christianity? [more inside]
Get me out of journalism. Please. [more inside]
Are you fulfilled in your job? Should I seek to be? I have a job which paid me over $450K last year. I worked maybe 50 hours a week to generate that on average (although with wild swings and a lot of travel.) If I stay I will be on track to make $1M a year in a few years. I am not terribly happy, but not totally miserable. [more inside]
How do you keep your sense of adventure when you sit in a cubicle and have to pick up the kids at 5 o'clock? I love my wife. I love my kids. I like the fact that my soul-sucking job allows me to use my brain while paying for piano lessons, vacations, and an educational trust. I am not looking to get rid of said wife, kids, or job. What I am looking for is a renewed sense of adventure within my current 'constraints'. [more inside]
Should I move to increase my chances at getting a job? Should I drop it all to help my parents? Should I stay where I'm happiest? [possibly long] [more inside]
What are some practical non-fiction books that touch on themes represented in The Alchemistw? [more inside]
I have cycles of creativity. The more stress or responsibility in my life the harder it is to achieve those creative places in my mind. I am looking for unusual, insightful and helpful ways to rekindle my creativity, in spite of any real or self made diversity I'm experiencing. Please don't hold back with your suggestions, I have personal projects and goals that require this passion and creativity, help!
Letting go of God: Help me deal with my atheism and the five stages of grief. I'm in the fourth stage now.
Please give advice on how to accept my atheism, let go of God and the need for one, how to get over the fourth stage of grief/letting go (depression), and how to find my passion for life again! [more inside]
I've been contemplating a huge career change for the better part of a year now and am almost ready to take the plunge into something completely different. But one of the nagging questions I'm still constantly asking myself is whether I'm doing this because I'm fed up with absence of personal satisfaction in my current job (divorce lawyer) or whether that feeling is something else that would, given enough time, just follow me on to the new career. So the question is: [more inside]
I (male) have been married for a number of years (~10). Nothing is necessarily bad about our marriage, but I've felt that we've been lacking passion since before we were married. It just never seemed to matter enough to be worth a divorce.. except that it does matter in the end. [more inside]
Harry and I got married when I was 42. Ours was a rocky relationship at its worst and absolutely riveting at its best. Even today the passion we share and yes, even the fights we occasionally have are intense, but all the laughter, that is what kept us together. We are sharing our 25th wedding anniversary on our wedding day this December. We are writing vows and I wanted to know what are the little things in relationships that made you love someone the most? I feel like all the things I want to say are cliche I need inspiration. I don't want to disappoint him.
I had a dream about an ex-boyfriend last night and I'm wondering if I should do anything about it. [more inside]
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