What movies and books should I introduce to my kids as they move towards adulthood? I would like to give my kids a solid foundation in books and movies outside of what will be thrown at them by the media and their friends. I turn to Mefi to give me a list of the literary and cinematic signposts that would broaden and round out a toddler, tween, or teenager.
I recently read about a study that found the brain thinks in more security-oriented ways after the birth of one's first child. I can no longer find it. Folk wisdom seems to say that once you have a child, your values usually change and you are a different person. Is there research for or against chemical and neurological changes in parents?
My (toddler?) 16 mo old son has developed a new habit at bath time: standing. While he has been a little hesitant to go walking solo outside the tub -- inside the tub he has suddenly become enthralled with the idea. Any suggestions on how to handle what has become a standing.. sponge bath? [more inside]
How much time spent with your kid is enough, and how much is too much? [more inside]
I'm trying to deal with some familial baggage that seems to be getting heavier by the year and I'm wondering from parents what your perspective is on your kids. How did their characters shape your relationship? If you had a difficult toddler (defined however you like) did that inform your relationship with them as teens and then as adults? [more inside]
When I was childless, my parents' right-wing politics were pretty easy to ignore. Whatever, we're different, they are entitled to their opinions. But now that I have a small child, and we are about to adopt transracially, things are beginning to get tense for me. [more inside]
My 17-month-old is starting daycare for the first time. Should we send her for two, or three days per week? And what changes should I expect in her personality or our relationship as a result of this? [more inside]
Looking for intelligent writing (especially memoirs) on pregnancy, childbirth, and parenting that aren't fluffy/mainstream "how-to" guides, as a gift to an expectant couple in their early/mid 20s. [more inside]
Is there a kid-friendly portal to pop music videos? She is not satisfied by Kid Disney and she wants to listen to the "latest" hits. She begs us to let her watch music videos on YouTube, but she's not ready to be let loose on that yet. So where can we let her browse and watch "current" videos with not too much bad stuff? [more inside]
Are there any modern communes in the US where people live in groups, share responsibilities, maybe are conscious, green etc? Relatedly, is there a way to be the 3rd or 4th parent? Being a single parent or even in dyad parenting seems like too much responsiblity...but being the 3rd or 4th parent (to go to soccer games, PTA meeting, car pool, make lunchs) sounds like a responsibility i could handle. I don't live in a community with children around so i can't offer up my co-parent services and it also sounds a bit creepy being 37 and wanting to babysit. Is there a way i can create this kind of community? I feel that i would make a great back up mommy.
ParentingFilter: best approach for dealing with childhood obesity? [more inside]
I am a hetrosexual man who was rasied an only child by a strong independant mother. I can't help but love her for the effort, but I was rasied in many ways like a girl. I feel deeply betrayed. I can't seem to shake a sense of self-loathing.
I'd like to learn about jobs that involve working intensively, one-on-one, with preschool or elementary-aged kids, to help them learn or develop. But, I have so many constraints that I'm not sure any role fits. Could you point me to any possibilities? [more inside]
One-year-old kid has minimal interest in sippy cups, outright refuses to hold her own bottle. We would like to remedy this. [more inside]
Parents, what bedtimes do you set for your kids, at what ages? Do you have strong routines, how strict are you, what are your special occasion exceptions?
Please help me decide if I should force my son to go on a camp sleep-over. [more inside]
While on vacation in Belize, many of the locals commented that while they liked American adults just fine, their children were the most spoiled among the tourist families. We've heard this elsewhere on our travels to Europe and Southeast Asia. Is this true? If so, is there a unique style of American parenting that other cultures see as problematic or inferior? [more inside]
I recently started a new full-time job. My 4-1/2-year-old hates daycare. What can I do to make this better? [more inside]
Raising a child, what did you come across that you wished you would have known earlier. [more inside]
I curse when I drive. Terrible language and the most irritated inflection. It needs to stop because I am in danger of linguistically poisoning my toddler. Unfortunately, I live in an area (Metro Boston) where the roads are crowded and people pride themselves on driving like self-centered monsters. Please give me techniques to (most importantly) stop swearing and also stop appearing apoplectic.
How can I help my three kids adjust to my plans to move in with my girlfriend? Specifically, how important is alone time with dad? [more inside]
How do I teach the baby to sleep without me? [more inside]
I went to the doctor today and I have confirmation that I'm pregnant. How can I make the most out of the remaining ~32 weeks for me, my husband, and my new child? [more inside]
Moms and Dads - what are your tricks for giving yourself a mental lift when finding "me time" is unlikely? [more inside]
Parents of children in elementary school: what do you do when time outs don't work any more? [more inside]
My 16yo daughter has decided she wants a navel piercing. I'm not thrilled about the idea. [more inside]
Can you recommend any intelligent, insightful, well-written parenting or child development books? [more inside]
What tips does the Hive Mind have for sending my 7-year old off as an unaccompanied minor on a cross-country airplane trip? [more inside]
What can a mom do to ease her 12, 13 & 15 year old's heavy hearts and worried minds after they discover that she and their dad like to smoke pot? [more inside]
I am really lucky. I have a beautiful house, a good job, a smart, talented kid, a devoted, responsible husband. My life, by all objective measures, does not suck. Except it kind of does. Marital woes question: Should I stay? [more inside]
mr. desjardins and I are planning to adopt a child from foster care and I am looking for reading materials. [more inside]
Which poets/volumes should I read to my newborn? Requirements inside. [more inside]
Help me cope with multiple major life stressors in a situation where I can't seem to see many choices, at least in the short term. [more inside]
baby-led weaning: yay or nay? [more inside]
I have a friend with a 6 yo who cannot eat foods with either dairy or gluten in them. The daughter desperately misses macaroni and cheese. They tried one mix (don't know the name) that dog even refused to eat. Ideas? Suggestions? Recipes?
Help my little boy sleep! My 4 year old has never been a great sleeper, but this is ridiculous. [more inside]
Seeking advice and insights on how to deal with/react to my 8-year-old son's recent obsessive-compulsive-like behavior. [more inside]
Tween daughter on facebook behind my back.. Want to educate and discuss without freaking out. Help! [more inside]
I'm pretty sure my mother gave our one year old his first haircut while my wife and I were at work, without our permission. She denies doing so. I'm not sure how we should handle this. [more inside]
I picked the wrong time to go to library school. What else can I do with my life? [more inside]
Parents of kids with ADHD: how have you decided whether to give your kids medication? [more inside]
Just how inconvenient is it to be left-handed? [more inside]
Follow me inside for a bunch of questions about co-sleeping with an older child. [more inside]
How can I constructively get my 4 year old to get up and get ready in the morning? [more inside]
My teenage daughter is constantly bragging about herself to complete strangers. What should I do? [more inside]
What are some good activity books and websites for fathers and sons? [more inside]
Hum Rel/Law & Gov/Grab Bag: Is there Empirical Evidence of Benefits for the Child who is able to Interact with both Parents daily in a Divorced situation?
I need to find this. Very important to me. Is there empirical evidence relating to this question: Are there advantages for the children of divorced families being able to interact with both parents every day? If so, what are those benefits?--Again, in terms of citable evidence. [more inside]
[Future parent filter]: What parenting issues are more or less unique to this moment in history? [more inside]
My baby is terrified of her grandfather. What can we do to get her to like him a bit better? [more inside]
How did skipping a grade work out for you or your child, and what were the factors that made the biggest difference? [more inside]