I lost a link to a really interesting article I wanted to read... can YOU help me find it? The article was probably on a science blog. It was, more or less, a debunking of arguments in favor of behavioral heritability and the genetic predisposition for certain horrible actions. If not a blog, perhaps it was in a weekly sitting in my therapist's office?
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posted by mr. remy
on Aug 10, 2009 -
5 answers
My parents split about a year ago. My father has started dating under unusual circumstances, and it makes me somewhat angry. Am I overreacting? How can I find peace with the situation?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 4, 2009 -
32 answers
Looking for tips, advice, how-to's, words of wisdom, dire warnings, helpful websites/blogs/books, and general info on single parenting in general...and for single parenting for a dad raising an almost 3yo in particular.
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posted by ian1977
on Jul 13, 2009 -
12 answers
Public education filter: if you went to school in a good district, a not-so-great district, or an in-between district, how did it affect the quality of your education and your success later in life?
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posted by Bardolph
on Jun 23, 2009 -
37 answers
It looks like my daughter will be earning a full scholarship to essentially the private school of her choice in NYC. These schools on average cost around $35,000/year. What's it like to go to an expensive private high school on scholarship?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 23, 2009 -
23 answers
My baby girl, 7 months old, has a spiral fractured femur - mum caught her as she was falling while getting into a back carrier - she is in hospital, has had specialist orthopaedic paediatrician attention and is now in traction. She is probably at the the best hospital in the country for this, but it is a long way from home. She is 100% breast fed, and my wife is staying with her. Can any of the medicos or Mefi, or people who have had similar experience offer some advice?
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posted by five fresh fish
on Jun 13, 2009 -
12 answers
Trying to decide just how close to move to our kid's (very enthusiastic) grandparents. If you've experienced the childrearing-with-nearby-grands situation (as kid, grand OR parent), how did it work out? Any advice on encouraging involvement while still maintaining boundaries?
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posted by Bardolph
on Jun 4, 2009 -
21 answers
My toddler is saying, "fuck". Funny when some kid on YouTube says it, not funny when your 2 year old says it at a church during prayer! And he's not trying to say truck like a defective Elmo. He's actually picked it up...(I'm no an angel, but my wife and I try to watch our mouths) and ohmygosh please any ideas on how to make him stop?
What sucks the most is most other parents assume his mom and I swear like sailors. My theory on how he picked it up...he probably heard us or TV say the word or he was trying to say another word...we reacted to it...and now it's his favorite little show when he's angry and not getting his way.
We've tried suggesting he was trying to say another word like frog or truck...telling him to say another word that's more fun like "fooey"...and now since he gets a devlish look on his face when he says it, so we've opted for discipline.
Other parents: your kids ever done this so young? Did people look at you like the scum of the earth when he was throwing a tantrum at Target, too? lol
posted by mikee
on Jun 2, 2009 -
50 answers
I'm going through a severe period of depression, and I'm having a hard time being a good parent. Can anyone give me advice on how to get through this without traumatizing my children?
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posted by anonymous
on May 25, 2009 -
16 answers
Time, money, work, and children. How do people do it? It seems we could afford it, or have time for it, but not both.
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posted by rabbitrabbit
on May 14, 2009 -
15 answers
Will I be a good mother even though I have depression? Personal experiences would also be very appreciated!!
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posted by katala
on May 12, 2009 -
28 answers
Apologies, I know there is a lot on this topic, but I have a specific question that doesn't seem to be answered.
We are thinking of having kids. We both want them.
What should we discuss before we jump in with both feet?
Who will stay home, and for how long?
What kinds of names are you considering?
What forms of punishment / praise will be used?
When can she get her ears pierced?
etc.
There seems to be so much to discuss... and I want to start having the conversation before I get hormonal. This will be our first.
What conversations did you have before yours were born?
posted by saragoodman3
on Mar 26, 2009 -
22 answers
So many great pads available to soften hard mattresses, but nothing seems to go the other direction. What are some creative ways to make our cushy pillowtop mattress firm enough for safe cosleeping with a new baby?
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posted by Bardolph
on Mar 24, 2009 -
14 answers
Can someone recommend a psychologist in Metro Vancouver who deals with adolescents and adults? My wife and I are at our limits with our 16 yr old who we believe may have some form of personality disorder. We would like her to get some counseling but she's adamantly opposed to it. We would like to get some professional advice ourselves on how best to deal with our family issues and possibly on how to convince her to go for counseling , but picking a name out of a phone book is too much of a duckshoot. I pick Mefi over the yellow pages!
posted by anonymous
on Mar 24, 2009 -
7 answers
[NewDadFilter:] I'm a shy person and a new dad. Is there anything I can do to keep from transmitting that trait to my kiddo?
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posted by wheat
on Mar 6, 2009 -
23 answers
I'm having a baby girl any week now, and I couldn't be more excited, but it's left me thinking a lot about whether or not I want my parents involved in my daughter's life.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 9, 2009 -
19 answers
What is empty nest like for couples who had their children young? My wife and I had our daughter young. We are both 31 and our daughter is 13. We have been raising children our whole adult life. What is it like for parents like us when their children move out?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 5, 2009 -
12 answers
Strategies needed for negotiating with my 6 year old kid's school re: rules, behavior, etc.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 30, 2009 -
26 answers
My ex is a drunk, so I threw him out. However, we have a young child, and I'm having a hard time figuring out where to go from here.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 23, 2009 -
14 answers
We're going to be introducing our nearly-4-year-old son to the joys of snowshoeing, igloo-building and possibly even snow-camping this season. Help us not screw it up for him!
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posted by scrump
on Dec 12, 2008 -
19 answers
Please give me your tips for conducting a swap meet! This is for children's books, toys, and clothing only...
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posted by lgandme0717
on Nov 28, 2008 -
1 answer
I need help dealing with my mother's anxiety over my going to Chicago alone for a few hours.
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posted by IndigoRain
on Nov 22, 2008 -
50 answers
A friend of mine is quite possibly a father of a nine year old girl in California. He'd laid up some with a woman who got pregnant and determined to have the child, told him to get the hell away from her, she didn't want him in her or the childs life anyways, so go buzz off, and my friend did buzz off. Nine years pass. He's very interested in that child now, he'd want to establish paternity first off -- Momma was sortof a sleaze, as he was at the time -- he wants to know if he is Daddy and if he is how does he find his daughter? Street word is that Momma had to give her up to CA social system.
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posted by dancestoblue
on Nov 18, 2008 -
16 answers
I really feel my 13 year old son pulling away from me. He text msgs a ton with his friends and just the time we spend together now is minimal.
I know this is totally normal adolescent development but it still hurts me inside.
Can you suggest things we might do together now to connect? Watching a movie with me is even hard to get him to do.
He is a normal well adjusted kid---no problems in school. We usually eat dinner together as a family and I am here when he gets home from school and usually fix his breakfast and see him in the morning for 15 mins til he is out the door.
He is my youngest child and it feels sad to not have things we do in common anymore.
I used to walk him to school in 6th grade under the guise of giving our dog her daily walk but this year that ended.
Help!
posted by seekingsimplicity
on Nov 13, 2008 -
42 answers
A friend of mine has a fifteen-year-old daughter who was recently diagnosed with Oppositional Defiance Disorder (ODD). I'm looking for information and resources on parenting ODD-diagnosed/defiant and volatile kids to pass along to my friend: web sites, internet support groups, names of books to read, tips, insights and recommendations derived from personal experience, whatever you have that you think would be helpful. Thanks!
posted by orange swan
on Nov 7, 2008 -
17 answers
Any suggestions for increasing parental involvement at my son's school -- both with organizing events and with socializing with each other? The kids are in preschool and pre-K together; some have special needs.
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posted by lgandme0717
on Nov 1, 2008 -
6 answers
Plenty of little boys want to grow up to be just like Dad. But to what extent (and how) are boys' interests/activities/identities influenced by their mothers?
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posted by Bardolph
on Oct 22, 2008 -
24 answers
What is the best disposable 1 inch air filter for my son who has seasonal allergies and why?
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posted by cjets
on Oct 14, 2008 -
4 answers
My dad was an insecure, unlikeable jerk (to me at least) who clearly did not like his children. I have become an insecure, unlikeable jerk (to me at least). Am I doomed to have the same, terrible relationship with my future kids as well?
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posted by bitteroldman
on Oct 12, 2008 -
29 answers
How can you embarass a teenager who is sneaking out at night? A friend of mine (how cliche) has a daughter who is indulging in some early teen hijinks by sneaking out and basically getting into trouble. None of her actions are illegal or really THAT bad, but still the parents can't condone it. They've tried everything, taking her phone away, grounding her, taking her television, internet, away...nothing. It seems she feeds on that kind of resistance. So he's ready to try a new tactic.
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posted by jeff_w_welch
on Oct 10, 2008 -
52 answers
So, what's the current Received Wisdom on what to do when you get home and find that your 5 year old has lifted a couple pieces of candy at the grocery store without benefit of payment?
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posted by baylink
on Oct 7, 2008 -
35 answers
Is there anywhere that sells all-cotton winter coats for toddlers? My fragile son has skin allergies and while the usual mountain climbing gear may be great for all of those two-year-olds who are climbing Mount Kilimanjaro, what about the kids who need their skin to breathe free, man?
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posted by Overzealous
on Oct 4, 2008 -
11 answers
I believe being a "good parent" is being patient yet firm when dealing with your kids (idealing never showing temper or losing it- my partner thinks it's normal and healthy to show anger at what he feels is inappropriate behavior. Any one know of studies (or how to find such studies) that research that topic? The focus is babies and toddlers.
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posted by beccaj
on Sep 23, 2008 -
21 answers
