How does one handle "parenting" a teenager without feeling like you are just asking questions/following up on things/doing not-fun things? I feel like my life is get up, do the things, go to work, come home, enforce a bunch of rules, watch tv, go to bed. I don't want that to be my relationship with my niece! [more inside]
My teenage brother has been struggling with pretty severe anxiety and depression for the last ~9 months; while my parents are being (in my view) amazing caregivers for him, I think they're both suffering from a lack of self-care, optimism, and support. What resources can I point them to, and what can I do, to help them with this? [more inside]
What do we do about this depressed / unmotivated / lazy kid? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
My 15-yo daughter has been dating a guy for about a year, has recently become sexually active with him, and we're moving toward getting her on hormonal birth control. The fact that she even came to me to talk about this is a minor miracle. How can I encourage a sex-positive attitude? What boundaries and limits, if any, should I establish? [more inside]
How can I make sure that my teenage son hangs out with right friends? [more inside]
How do we "parent" a 16 year old girl? My family is taking in a 16 year old girl to be a new member of our family. She's an amazing young woman in a tough situation. No behavior or academic issues (I taught her in 8th grade, she babysits for us regularly), some emotional issues (most likely due to her environment). We're going to go through the process of temporary custody, so this is not a question about "the system" or "legality". This is a question of family dynamics. We have other children in the house who are super excited as well, but our oldest is 7 and we have no idea how to come up with rules, routines, and boundaries for a 16 year old. Of course we'll have to come up with what will work for us, but what kind of things should we be thinking about? We're already talking about curfew, bedtime!!!!?????, computer use, etc. What should we be thinking about that we might not be. Any help from those with teens or those who have adopted older kids would be appreciated.
Help me respond appropriately to my teenage son's marijuana use. [more inside]
How can someone help a teenage boy who has been showing some hateful, homophobic behavior recently? [more inside]
How can I make my household more functional and less antagonistic this summer? Tons of details inside. [more inside]
How do my wife and I give our 17 year-old ward (and, god, I hate that term) a happy environment while teaching her how to interact with people in acceptable ways? [more inside]
What are the appropriate next steps for a divorced parent to take when she finds out that her 16 year old son has been smoking pot for the last year? [more inside]
I'm the parent of a 13 year old underachiever. [more inside]
A co-worker and friend of mine is a single mother of three (girls of 6 and 11, son of 14). The boy is becoming more and more hostile and defiant by the day, and even ran away for several hours this past weekend. He's bright and creative, but seems to reserve his anger for the home. I'm fairly certain drugs/alcohol are not involved. Mom is at wit's end. I don't have kids myself so I feel unqualified giving advice. Anyone here who's been in the same situation? Any recommendations on how to go about beginning to try working this out? Counseling?