I just turned 40 and am a father of two young boys (a two-year old and newborn). What are things I can do to take care of myself to ensure that I have the energy needed to be an active and energetic dad for my boys as they get older? I'm thinking largely physical, but mental tips would be great too. [more inside]
I had a child back in 2003 but obviously the Web/tech/etc has changed a lot since then. My second child is due in August and I'd love to get pointers to the best current useful/entertaining tech/web resources for fathers. Basically, help me get back in the game!
We are expecting our first child and I am an excited and joyful father to be. I would like a book or a pair of books on pregnancy and child rearing with special conditions. [more inside]
Coming to terms with circumstances. Baby fever edition. I need help doing it. How did you decide to be ok with waiting to get pregnant? Alternatively, how did you decide to go ahead and attempt pregnancy even though it was a bad idea financially in the short term? What books or articles or blog posts can I read (the library is right down the street!) that address this? [more inside]
Now that I know I hate my abusive father, what can I do specifically to move forward? [more inside]
This is not going to be pretty. I need to know if there is any way for me to maintain a life with my children if I cannot maintain one with my wife. [more inside]
My wife is pregnant and I'm not happy about it. Obviously that's a problem. Help me try to become happy about it. [more inside]
Women of Metafilter: did you have a loving relationship with your father when you were growing up? Did your father make you feel loved, supported, and valued? Can you tell me what that makes your life look/feel like today? I'm trying to understand how to move forward from a history with a sadistic, distant father, and it would help me to know what benefits you have gained from having a loving one, so that I can attempt to find those benefits for myself. [more inside]
A female friend recently asked if I'd be willing to be a sperm donor. We've agreed to discuss the possibility in a series of conversations over the next few months. What questions should I ask her? What factors do I need to take into consideration?
My dad was an insecure, unlikeable jerk (to me at least) who clearly did not like his children. I have become an insecure, unlikeable jerk (to me at least). Am I doomed to have the same, terrible relationship with my future kids as well? [more inside]
How do I, as a man, show my son a caring and feminine side to life? I've raised my son in classic, tough-guys-don't-cry fashion. I worry that I haven't given him the tools to form the best relationships with the opposite sex or to be more caring and compassionate and I want to redress the very male influences in his upbringing. Are there any other single fathers out there who have the same concerns? How have you dealt with them? Are there any good resources you would recommend? Any women who have experience of young men mainly raised by their fathers? What are your thoughts? Am I worrying unnecessarily? [more inside]
If you could tell a soon-to-be dad anything, what would you say? [more inside]