My father swears that at some point during the Carter Administration, President Carter instituted a national wage freeze, such that no employer, public or private, was permitted to give any employee a raise, supposedly to put the brakes on inflation. He further claims that this had happened to him in whatever year it was, causing family hardship. He was working in construction for a private company at that time. What, if anything, is he actually remembering? [more inside]
After twelve years of silence, an abusive father has been aggressively trying to get in touch. [more inside]
The carpet in the downstairs family room in my mom's house needs to be replaced. I'm trying to figure out the best option. [more inside]
For my son’s high school history class, he has been assigned an in-class argument/opinion essay. The teacher ended most of the lecturing this week and has given them time to prepare thesis statements for the essays. Here is where it starts to get complicated (at least to my son and me): [more inside]
A family friend who is divorced has been an alcoholic for more then several years. She has primary custody of a teenage daughter. We have kept in touch with the alcoholic mom but sporadically due to her behavior. Recently I found out the the daughter was cutting and acting out, I believe due to the stress of living with her mom. Because of this I started texting the daughter just to check in and give her some positive messages (mostly like “hope you have a good day” and “I’m so impressed how you did on that test”). I did ask her if she’d like to go to an alateen meeting which she agreed to but only if I went with her. However we haven’t set a date. [more inside]
First, I understand that no one here is my lawyer. I recently ordered my free credit report for the first time. When I looked at the information, I discovered that my mom had put several utility bills and even credit cards in my name when I was a minor. Because she didn't always pay the bills on time, or at all, my credit is pretty bad. I'm not interested in pursuing criminal charges against my mom, but I do want to get these marks off my credit. What can I do to fix my credit? Who should I contact and what should I say?
My (boy / girl) twins will be entering kindergarten this September. We've been asked if we want them placed into separate classes, or left together in the same class. Need to give them our answer by Monday and frankly, I'm at a loss and have no idea what I should do. If you are a parent of school-age or older twins, can you please share what you did and why? If you yourself are a twin, how did your parents handle it? How did it work out? Other knowledgeable anecdotes and advice welcome. Links to any online resources I can read on the topic would also be appreciated.
My 74-year old father just eloped, and I have no idea if I should get a gift for him, and if so, what it should be. More dysfunctional family details inside. [more inside]
I have to go to Peoria, IL for a week starting February 6 to tend to the affairs of my mother, whose dementia is getting worse. I grew up there but I haven't been back for years, and when I did go back I stayed at Mom's. Now there is no room at Mom's because she's in assisted care. Where should I stay? [more inside]
My mother is a narcissist and I need help getting over her; please read? [more inside]
Elderly mom is ill. If it looks like she's not going to make it should I tell her estranged daughter (my semi-estranged sister) despite the risk of an ugly scene ensuing? [more inside]
My mother is going to die, probably very soon. How do I deal with waiting for it to happen? [more inside]
I'm a mother (of a toddler) who works part time and is looking to make some extra money. I've considered babysitting jobs, but aside from raising my own son, I don't have much experience with kids aside from babysitting jobs I had when I was a teenager. No recent references. Could I get hired? [more inside]
How does a single parent cope with an already limited social life and general stress with the added crap of breaking up (again!)? [more inside]
How can I not get so agitated by my ill parent's moaning? I live with my parents and take care of my dad while my mom works during the day. He has had medical problems that have left him temporarily unable to move around much, and now he has a yeast infection on his butt that is making just sitting painful at times. I can hear him sometimes moaning in pain in the other room. I can't just put on headphones, because I have to be able to hear when he calls me for help. It's having almost a physical effect on me. I get disgusted and aggravated when I hear this, and the stress is keeping me from getting much done. Is there any way I can manage this?
My dad is 95% computer illiterate and is constantly frustrated by his inability to use his computer. What resources (books, programs, videos, etc.) can you recommend that will help improve his experience? [more inside]
One of my 3 kids is applying for early decision to college and I have a financial aid question about having her non-custodial dad be part of the process. [more inside]
Asking for a friend (really): How do you (or did you) deal with finding out that you have an adult child you didn't even know existed? [more inside]
Is Neal Stephenson's Baroque Cycle "appropriate" reading for a 12 year old? [more inside]
I need advice on building a healthy relationship with my father despite his temper. [more inside]
Leave it to us to cause a kerfuffle just before the elementary school spring concert this Friday! My daughter, who's seven and in first grade, is in tears because we, her parents, asked her to modify a movement in her performance and the teacher's response was for her to just do as she's instructed (as reported by our daughter and taken with a grain of salt) because "I'm the one that's teaching here." [more inside]
What to do about an oblivious young employee abusing a lenient work environment? [more inside]
I recently read about a study that found the brain thinks in more security-oriented ways after the birth of one's first child. I can no longer find it. Folk wisdom seems to say that once you have a child, your values usually change and you are a different person. Is there research for or against chemical and neurological changes in parents?
My parents are always manipulating me, and I need to break away. Long story inside. [more inside]
How do I make my mum feel better? Today. (And I'm broke.) [more inside]
My mother's grief is overwhelming me. How do I keep my cool? [more inside]
I've always felt I didn't want/shouldn't have babies. Lately, (I'm 25) I've been having strong thoughts (and dreams) that I really want a child. It's scaring me a bit. Some friends have told me it might be normal at this age. Please help me understand or share your experiences. [more inside]
My mum will be 65 on March 18. She can just about buy anything her wee little heart desires. I cannot because money is, well, in short supply. What should I get/buy/do for her birthday? [more inside]