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Help me break the ice with strangers!

Chrysalis — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 23:33:58 -0800

I want to be more extroverted and confident and practice starting conversations with strangers... what are some good conversation openers? Tips? I'm female if that makes a difference. Would like to talk to random cute guys with view to potentially picking up but also just generally be confident enough to strike up a brief conversation with a random person while I'm out and about and rack up some practice. Looking for good conversation openers and tips in general.

Should I be less gregarious around my boss?

Anonymous — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 12:33:02 -0800

Should I be less gregarious around my boss? I'm quite outgoing; my boss is more introverted and quiet. As a result, I naturally find myself participating in conversations much more than he does when we're in social settings with colleagues (e.g. group lunches/outings). I am concerned about the possibility of his being uneasy about having an employee who frequently draws more attention in conversation than he does (especially since I'm a fairly recent hire at the beginning of my career). However, I haven't noticed any visible signs of his being uneasy; he often laughs at my jokes and even sides with me in discussions. Nevertheless, I know that upstaging one's boss can lead to trouble, and I don't want to put myself in that situation.

Any advice on whether I should tone it down in conversation? For context, I work at a tech company in the US, and I'm in a job where being outgoing is seen as an asset.

(Anonymous so my boss doesn't trace this back.)

Entourage outgoing mail

dearleader — Mon, 12 May 2008 08:48:19 -0800

Sometimes my Entourage allows outgoing messages on a new network, sometimes it doesn't (in which case I use the web based client, which is a pain). Just wondering if there's an easy way to fix this, or do you have to tweak something with every new network you use?

Problems with my outgoing (SMTP) mail server with Outlook 2007.

Mr_Crazyhorse — Sun, 24 Feb 2008 13:56:07 -0800

Problems with my outgoing (SMTP) mail server with Outlook 2007. For some reason I was able to set up Outlook 2007 at my office just fine, but I can't get it to work at home. Incoming (POP3) is fine at the office and at home, but I can't get outgoing (SMTP) to work at all from home. I have checked and all the account settings are the exact same as far as I can tell. Really trying to work this but feeling lost. As a bonus boner, my inbox at work doesn't contain all the same received emails as my inbox at home. I'm going nuts here.

Home Settings: (Same as work settings AFAIK)

Your Name Joe J. Doe
E-mail Address joe@domain.com
Account Type POP3
Incoming Mail Server mail.domain.com
Outgoing Mail Server(SMTP) mail.domain.com
User Name joe@domain.com
Password 1234
Remember Password CHECKED
Require Login with SPA UNCHECKED
Mail Account joe@domain.com
Organization BLANK
Reply E-Mail BLANK
Outgoing SMTP Req. Auth. CHECKED
Use same setting as my… CHECKED
Connect using my LAN CHECKED
Incoming Server 110
Outgoing (SMTP) 25
Use the following type… None
Leave a copy of messages… CHECKED

Error Message when testing settings:
Send test e-mail message: Outlook cannot connect to your outgoing (SMTP) e-mail server. If you continue to receive this message, contact your server administrator or Internet service provider (ISP).

This would seem to be an issue with my ISP, but I can login fine at work with the same settings.

I'll be around checking today.

God bless your little hearts.

Thunderbird Filters and Wrap

zenpop — Tue, 08 Jan 2008 12:13:10 -0800

Two quick Thunderbird questions: 1. Outgoing mail filters (work-arounds). 2. Incoming mail line breaks. Why would an elaborate and fairly solid email application be developed that doesn't include the ability to set up a filter for OUTGOING email? I desperately need this function due to the huge amount of email that moves through my office. Do any hardcore TB users have a work-around or is their an add-on that I've missed? Yes, I'm aware that email sent as a RESPONSE will go into the same folder as the INCOMING filter routed it, but I need to have all originally generated email go into various folders, etc.

Also, I have several regular correspondents that send email that does not WRAP. Reading their missives is impossible as the line lenghth will stretch two feet across the email template. Any suggestions to remedy this?

Help me overcome and introverted nature.

mintchip — Thu, 22 Nov 2007 19:56:55 -0800

Help me overcome and introverted nature. I am basically introverted. I don't have a hard time talking to people if I have to, or if I really want to. I just often don't really have the desire to overcome my default state of introversion.

It's not that I don't like other people; in fact, I love it when people are friendly with me!! I've just always been more content to sit back and observe others and wait for them to talk to me. But more often than not, this results in missed opportunities. Seems like people just don't notice the quiet girl who sits back and waits for them to talk to her :(

Recently I've been spending time with someone who is very outgoing. He makes friends with all of the wait staff (male or female) whenever we go out. Honestly, this leaves me feeling a little jealous--I would love to meet people too and have friends wherever I go but feel that no one ever talks to me.

I think the issue is that I just don't know how to make the first move. How can I push myself out of my comfort zone?

Thunderbird woes

special-k — Thu, 10 May 2007 10:12:19 -0800

Thunderbird filter: I use two different mail servers depending on my isp (work or home). Both have different outgoing smtp servers. While Thunderbird let's me specify multiple smtp servers (with one as the default), it always throws up an error when I am with the other ISP. Why doesn't TB automatically choose one (or try both)? If not, why does it even allow me to add multiple ones? I know, it's a minor annoyance but I want to fix it.

Introverted

joshuak — Sat, 10 Jun 2006 15:35:58 -0800

How to be more outgoing and social? I can't call people. I don't know why. And when I'm at social gatherings I never approach people, I just stand in the corner and hope someone approaches me. My whole life I've wanted to be more outgoing because I really don't have any friends that I see on the weekends or anything. How can I work up the nerve to approach people?

Also, I would love to be able to dance but I always get so self conscious