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Can you help me make sure it sucks less when I suck more?

Anonymous — Sun, 10 Jul 2011 18:42:18 -0800

What happened to my face when I deepthroated my guy? (so very NSFW) My partner and I have been exploring deepthroating (my petite lady throat, his large-ish gentleman's equipment), with much mutual enthusiasm to go around. I'm still pretty new to this, though, and want to make sure that something that happened recently isn't cause for greater concern.

I was on my back on the bed, with my head hanging off the side, and he was standing up. We'd been engaged in this for some time, so my eyes and nose were running like faucets (nose and sinuses completely stopped up) and there was lots of saliva, and did I mention my head was upside-down?... all of which meant that I would take a huge gasping breath each time he pulled out and then dove back in, but in general I was not breathing at all while he was in my mouth. We probably were going at it for about a minute at a time between each break for me to breathe, though I definitely lost track. We did have a safety signal in case I needed him to pull out sooner, though it didn't end up being much use: at some point, it became clear before I knew it that I'd gone on a bit too long, and as best I can describe it, I just kind of exploded with a huge sputter of air around his cock. It was a very forceful event (just breath, though, not gagging/vomit).

Fast forward a few hours, and I basically have two mild-but-obvious black eyes and every pore (capillary?) in my face, especially my forehead, was a tiny bright red dot. It all faded away within 48 hours, but... you can imagine. My first thought was that it was a rash, but I found some references in google of black eyes and/or broken blood vessels resulting from an explosive sneeze or other related "trauma," like choking, and I have the feeling this was kind of the same thing, but I'd love to hear any of your more specifically related anecdotes/insights/references, as well as any guidance on whether I'm in some kind of danger if this were to happen again.

YANMD, but YMBABJE (You May Be a Blow Job Expert), and my partner and I thank you for your help.

(throwaway email: anonredface@gmail.com)

Oral sex and jaw pain.

Anonymous — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 19:46:11 -0800

How on earth can I give a blowjob to completion without my jaw recoiling in pain? Over the years I've come in contact with a variety of penises of all shapes and sizes that I love to suck. I really really like giving head, and I've been told that I'm pretty good at it. But I cannot, for the life of me, go longer than five minutes or so, so I never get the chance to finish my men off that way, and I would like to be able to every once in a while.

Yes, I take breaks where I continue to use my hand(s) and I'll do some licking or other non-jaw-oriented moves. But if my jaw was hurting before I took a break, as soon as I continue with the mouth in-and-out the pain immediately returns, so breaks don't really help much.

I know the first thing you want to scream is "TMJ!", but I have never had any other symptoms and I really don't think that's the problem.

I also have given head from pretty much every imaginable angle, and none are better than any other.

Lastly, please don't say "oh he's just happy that he's got someone down there to begin with, don't worry about it" or "finish him off with your hand, he'll just be happy to orgasm", etc, etc. I just really want to do this for my own satisfaction.

So, I'm looking for possible exercises, stretches, or techniques that you have used to overcome this problem, or any other suggestions you may have.

Thanks!

How to make a guy cum when he barely fits in your mouth?

Anonymous — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 13:16:22 -0800

His cock barely fits in my mouth; how can I give better head? (NSFW) I really didn't want to ask this and I apologize if it's come up before, but I searched the archives and the rest of the internet and have mostly been bogged down by general fellatio guides and porn. So here's the deal: I enjoy giving men oral sex, and I enjoy making them orgasm from oral even more. But I have never made my current partner (of two years) cum from oral. Maybe I'm just awful at it, but I never thought I was bad at blow jobs before this; I was always able to make men cum pretty quickly and they told me I was good at it. I realize everyone is different, but I cannot figure out what to do with my partner that will make him cum.

I think there are two issues: the first is that he is very well endowed. His penis is 7" in girth (circumference) at the thickest and I can't fit it all in my mouth; at best, I can manage about 3/4 of it, and it isn't very comfortable for me. I don't have a lot of room to work when I do get him in my mouth. The length isn't an issue (also 7"), as I've managed longer cocks than his just fine.

The second issue is that he claims he "can't cum from oral." He's never done it before, but I refuse to accept that he can't and I want to make it happen. He says he enjoys getting head, but what happens is he usually likes to try to face-fuck me and ram his cock as far down my throat as he can, which sets off my gag reflex like crazy (I'm surprised I haven't vomited all over him yet). He would really like me to deep-throat him, and although I've been able to with every other guy I was with (guys who were longer than him) I just can't take his cock. It's frustrating.

He masturbates with the hardest grip I've ever seen (but doesn't masturbate much anymore) and I have managed to make him cum with hand jobs (although it is hard work and can take awhile (because I do not use a death grip)). He has no trouble at all coming from intercourse and can come in only a couple minutes depending on the position (doggy works the quickest). I've tried licking, sucking, swirling, using my hand with my mouth, I've read a million "this gets every guy off" guides, I've done everything that so easily got off so many other guys before, but no dice. So with all that I'm not expecting much, but for those of you who are well-endowed or who have had experience with someone who gave you functional difficulties with technique, what did you do and how did you overcome it?

What's the most delicious lube?

Anonymous — Mon, 19 Jun 2006 13:32:51 -0800

What are the best flavored lubricants? The ideal solution would taste good, and work well for handjobs that transition into oral. Even better would be a vendor who sells samplers that include a whole bunch of flavors and brands.