I’ve realized that I’m starting to lose faith in idealism, perpetuated in part by instances where reality hasn't lived up to it, so I'm beginning to become more "realistic" about where the limits are. However, I’m worried that this leads to mediocrity. Has anyone dealt with this? [more inside]
posted by markbao
on Feb 27, 2014 -
Sometime in the last few days, I read an opinion piece that led with the observation that 2 different and opposed views exist side by side today: essentially, optimistic and pessimistic. Something like 'The world is going to hell' vs 'We're seeing a a new flowering of civilization.' The writer's point was that these contradictory opinions are both widespread and simultaneous -- like 'best of times, worst of times,' altho I didn't see that phrase.
Well, I can't find it. I'm virtually certain it was an op-ed piece in the NYT. I probably read it on an iPad, and I don't know how much that content differs from other editions, but I've looked in print, on the Web, on the tablet -- no luck. (It could have originated a few days earlier and remained on the app/site.)
Does anybody remember such an article?
posted by LonnieK
on Mar 11, 2013 -
What novels or movies have a vivacious, charming person drop in and change everybody's perspective or shake the place up?
posted by Fairchild
on Nov 9, 2012 -
Feel-good poems/quotes/music/activities--basically seeking an avalanche of positive stuff! [more inside]
posted by sprezzy
on Oct 2, 2012 -
Is it true
, what Ricky Gervais says, about how in contrast to Americans and their high hopes, British people are taught to expect disappointment? British people: What life advice along these lines are British people given, that might differ from such U.S. ideas as Back to the Future
's "you can do anything if you put your mind to it?"
posted by steinsaltz
on Nov 30, 2011 -
I've spent decades working on the same personal flaws, and despite clear goals and clever attack strategies, nothing ever seems to stick. Is it even possible to permanently "fix" specific aspects of one's character or personality? If so, how? and how long does it take? [more inside]
posted by gallusgallus
on May 16, 2011 -
Has anyone here changed his/her personality from a pessimist to an optimist? I am talking about a lasting personality / attitude change. If so, how did you do it?
posted by bbxx
on Feb 21, 2011 -
What are some things you like to tell or remind yourself about when you have "woe is me" moments to steer yourself out of self-pity/moments of weakness and back into awesomeness?
posted by Christ, what an asshole
on Feb 16, 2011 -
How do I make a habit of failing successfully (or at least in ways interesting to myself and others)? [more inside]
posted by Bwithh
on Feb 8, 2011 -
Once upon a time, I had fun dating. After a string of spectacularly bad luck, I dread the idea of going out with anyone, because I "know" it'll be awful. Help me get my optimism back and look forward to meeting and dating. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Dec 7, 2010 -
I've realized that my fundamental drive is to avoid negative consequences, rather than to achieve positive outcomes. I'd like to change this. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by myaskme
on Sep 1, 2010 -
How should I photograph my soon-to-be-shrinking bod for best results in animated GIF? This is not a technical question but an aesthetic one. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jan 2, 2010 -
I'm looking for philosophers, both classical and modern, who have constructed arguments for optimism. [more inside]
posted by MikeHarris
on Dec 12, 2009 -
Can someone who seems embittered by their experiences with the world in general, and with people, institutions, religion and relationships in particular, improve their view with a change in circumstances? Or, is how they handle the feelings from those experiences more about character, with a change in location or fortunes not having much long-term emotional effect? [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind
on Mar 23, 2009 -
What is a classic, perhaps philosophical, novel about individual freedom to choose? So that no matter how desperate the situation you find yourself in, you always have choices about what to do, how to feel and how to think about your situation. [more inside]
posted by zaebiz
on Mar 10, 2009 -
Optimism Filter: What individuals, groups or publications are thinking innovatively about the future of our planet and how to get there? [more inside]
posted by Mender
on Jun 4, 2008 -
What is the most optimistic music known to humankind, and what is the most pessimistic or depressing music known to humankind? I'm looking for genres but I'm focusing on songs. I am also interested to see which side wins in this competition -- I'd suspect the darker side defeats the lighter side in quantity, but what about quality?
posted by Knigel
on Oct 20, 2007 -