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Help me get over my online obsession

Of all the men I meet on OK Cupid, I choose to like one 11,000 km away. How do I get over him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 20, 2014 - 16 answers

What Do You See In This OK Cupid Profile?

I'm not looking for advice about my OKC Profile so much as I want to get your impression of what it's saying. [more inside]
posted by These Five Dollar Socks Are Green on Oct 1, 2014 - 37 answers

How to end things with a one night stand? (Campsite rule in effect)

I met someone from an online dating site, we didn't have much to talk about, but had fantastic sex. What's the right way to say "I'm not interested in pursuing this?" [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 23, 2014 - 21 answers

OkCupid code words?

I've noticed in my travels on OK Cupid that there seem to be a few code words in play on the site --- for example, mentioning the movie Secretary in the movies/books section seems to pretty consistently be a gentle hint that the person is either into BDSM themselves or at least kink friendly. It made me wonder what other key words may be out there that I'm missing out on, in case I've put them in my profile or see them in others'. What is the modern handkerchief code?
posted by maggiepolitt on Aug 12, 2014 - 34 answers

When you're the nth choice...

I had a date with someone I met online. I liked him. But I don't think my interest is reciprocal. [more inside]
posted by dean_deen on Jul 13, 2014 - 21 answers

Gather round, OKC profile critics...

I know the topic of OKCupid profile critiques is polarizing. Those who enjoy picking apart profiles and judging photos, please bring your honesty and step on up. [more inside]
posted by justonegirl on Jun 30, 2014 - 32 answers

Yet another OKC profile critique request

So far my response rate seems pretty low compared to I've heard is typical. Is there anything in my profile that might be the cause? [more inside]
posted by doctord on Jun 2, 2014 - 31 answers

I'll miss you till I meet you

This terrifies me a little bit...but I was wondering if you lovely people could take a look at my profile and let me know what you think of it. See anything I should improve? (I'm a woman looking to date women.) [more inside]
posted by zahava on May 16, 2014 - 30 answers

Starting online dating when you're still a bit a broken inside

I'm 30, male, British. Over the last few weeks I've felt the clouds of my latest depression begin to part and some sunlight poke through. I'm contemplating trying online dating again. How can I take advantage of this improvement whilst being careful not to over-tax myself and do an emotional crash-and-burn? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 20, 2014 - 12 answers

OKC Profilefilter, Part n+1

I've just gotten back on OKC after a year away. Let's critique my profile! [more inside]
posted by Maecenas on Apr 10, 2014 - 44 answers

Describe going from "date" to "relationship"

I'm a guy in his thirties who has never been in a romantic relationship. I've been dating through OKCupid for a while, without too much success, and I think one of the reasons is that I just don't have a model of how you go from "first date" to "exclusive relationship involving emotional commitment". Hollywood love stories are no help, and I have no real-life experience, even at second hand, of how this tends to happen. I think it would help me to read some concrete descriptions of various paths this transition can take. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 9, 2014 - 14 answers

Should I start dating again?

I'm still hurting form a recent break up. Would a foray back into the world of online dating help me get over it and move on? [more inside]
posted by blokefromipanema on Apr 3, 2014 - 23 answers

Again with the OKCupid nonsense

I'm back on OKCupid after some time spent getting my head on straight (well, bi I guess). I'd like some third party advice on my profile. Friends are ok, but they're too nice to be really helpful. [more inside]
posted by showbiz_liz on Mar 31, 2014 - 52 answers

Should I do online dating? (22 year-old female)

I'm 22 years old. I have never had a boyfriend and have never been on a date. Currently I'm finishing up my undergrad and will be entering a Master program in the Fall. I think I'm fairly attractive and I do not have a super high standard. At my college, I do socialize and have a lot of friends but for some reasons, I don't know many guys and the ones I know are either already in a relationship or just not interested in me. I've thought about online dating but I don't know if I'm too young for it, if my inexperience would put me in dangerous situations, etc. I've thought about joining paid sites such as match.com or eharmony.com because I thought maybe guys are more serious on those sites. However, I am still a student and my budget is limited. I'd greatly appreciate any advice anyone has for me.
posted by missybitsy on Mar 12, 2014 - 18 answers

You've critiqued my profile. Critique my messages!

I haven't had a boyfriend since I was 16 years old. I've complained about that here, there, everywhere. I truly want to change that, or at least go on meaningful, fun dates. You've critiqued my OKC profile (I thank you for this! It's improved the messages I've received.) Now I'd like you to tell me why no one will respond to me. [more inside]
posted by rhythm_queen on Mar 9, 2014 - 61 answers

"Am I too wacky?" - another OkCupid profile review

Loads of "hooks", as received wisdom says is the right thing to do - but does it make me sound undateably wilfully eccentric? Profile here. Any and all feedback welcome, whether it's related to my suspected issues with the profile or not. [more inside]
posted by Junebug79 on Mar 9, 2014 - 45 answers

How to take online dating slowly?

I'm a bisexual woman in my 20s, and I started online dating in January. I moved to a new country so I am totally content with meeting new people and learning more about the city through them. I also really enjoy just talking to new people in general without any expectations, but I wonder if can do something better so I can actually have something romantic? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 2, 2014 - 6 answers

I turned him down. So why do I keep thinking about him?

I met someone online. Had a great date with him, but ultimately decided not to pursue things with him. So why can't I get him out of my head? And should I try again with him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 18, 2014 - 21 answers

Married to our jobs, but seeing each other on the side

How do I avoid shop talk on dates? [more inside]
posted by Sara C. on Jan 8, 2014 - 34 answers

Open relationships, online dating, and is this nuts

Last year I ended a 15-year marriage (my only serious relationship ever) and am trying to slowly ease my way back into dating. The marriage was falling to pieces for awhile, and my ex and I are fine friends and co-parents, but probably never should have married. There's no drama and my head is on straight, pretty much. I am a female, early 40s, with children. A couple of weeks ago I put up a profile on OKC, and soon after, what I had previously imagined as The Doomsday Scenario happened. I was contacted by a dad I know through the neighborhood and my kids. It gets more complicated.... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 2, 2014 - 52 answers

Oops! Did I spill my crazy on you? Help me be a better online dater!

First date excitement, late-night texting, boundary-pushing, and empty promises of a second date. Drama ensues, all in the span of a few weeks. Did I bring this on myself, was this guy bad news, and how do I tell the difference in the future? [more inside]
posted by mini apple on Dec 12, 2013 - 49 answers

Ambiguous not-dating friendship

How should I interpret this man's behaviour? I met a guy on OkCupid. I'm confused by his behaviour and would appreciate some, any, insights from the Hive Mind. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 1, 2013 - 36 answers

One-off online personal ads?

Are there any other thriving sites out there, like craiglist, where you can post one-off personal ads? Dating, casual encounters, whatever--I'm looking for sites that *don't* have a single static profile (e.g. match, okcupid), but instead you post something, and it ages over time, and then you can post something else after a while.
posted by zeek321 on Sep 4, 2013 - 1 answer

Online Dating Profile 101: Building a Better "About Me" Section

After taking a break from the dating scene I'm ready to make some serious attempts to find the right match. I need some help refining my "about" description so that it accurately conveys my personality but also makes it clear that I am looking for a serious relationship and not something casual. Any input you have to offer would be very much appreciated. :) [more inside]
posted by Hello Darling on Jul 28, 2013 - 22 answers

OKCupid filter: I need feedback for unpopular profile

Encouraged by the response to my question a few weeks ago (http://ask.metafilter.com/243294/So-many-reasons-to-keep-lovesex-out-of-my-life-Are-they-realistic), I have dusted off my OKCupid profile, but am not getting any responses. I need help! [more inside]
posted by primate moon on Jul 26, 2013 - 47 answers

Where can I meet single dads (parents) for dating?

I've been trying online dating, having been a single mom for a few years now, but I'm not finding very many single dads out there. Where are they? [more inside]
posted by Chaussette and the Pussy Cats on Jul 14, 2013 - 12 answers

Where should I tell online dates that I work?

I work for a well-known company and I'm never sure what to say when a guy I've met via an online dating site asks where I work. I don't feel comfortable giving this information out, just like I would never give someone my home address. Obviously 99% of the time it would be fine, but it's very easy to find my company's address, and there are some crazies out there who could conceivably show up at my office if things ever turned sour. [more inside]
posted by whitelily on Jun 24, 2013 - 47 answers

Help a dating n00b?

Jumping back into the dating pool and hoping for some hacks and advice specific to finding the kind of people that interest me... [more inside]
posted by justonegirl on May 29, 2013 - 25 answers

Accidental penpals

I've just started talking to this (really neat!) guy on OKCupid; I like him a lot & we seem to have a ton in common. However, we won't be in the same place until August. How do I gently steer him away from a penpal-esque situation while still keeping him interested? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 26, 2013 - 12 answers

Back Up! No Baby Zone.

I don't want kids and list this in my online dating profiles. What should I do when men who indicate that they DO want kids contact me? [more inside]
posted by oceanview on Apr 21, 2013 - 21 answers

Is there such a thing as a second chance in online dating?

We've already met. I messed it up (kinda), and now I want to ask him out again. Yes, I know: optimistic. [more inside]
posted by Salamander on Mar 21, 2013 - 26 answers

What's your online dating hit rate?

How often should I expect to not click with someone? How often should I expect to not hear from the person again? [more inside]
posted by mermily on Mar 9, 2013 - 12 answers

Not-OK Cupid

I've slept with a lot of guys and only enjoyed it with like 10% of them. Are my standards too high, or too low, or what? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 18, 2013 - 21 answers

Communication in the early days of dating

What are your tips to keeping the lines of communication open in the first few weeks of dating someone new? [more inside]
posted by toerinishuman on Feb 3, 2013 - 6 answers

Is a facebook message a bad move for contacting the elusive lady?

I don't want to breech the fb borders yet, as I feel it could kill some of the mystery and magic of getting to know her in real life, but we may never cross paths again. Do I exercise my limited patience for a moment that I can't wait for or just send a msg and start the ball rolling? [more inside]
posted by talljamal on Feb 1, 2013 - 26 answers

Did I just commit a hugely embarrasing Okcupid gaffe?

I disabled my Okcupid account. When it asked Why? I checked "I met someone on Okcupid." This is true. I'm seeing 4 someones from Okcupid - obviously nothing serious or committed and all in early or very early stages of exploration. Four is overwhelming enough without tinkering with the site further. When the form asked who I met, I listed all four. After hitting submit I realized with terror that there is a chance okc might somehow notify these fellows that I listed them as "met someone." Please tell me I am wrong.
posted by anonymous on Jan 16, 2013 - 8 answers

Another 'critique my online dating profile' question...

New to the online dating game. Late-20s female, London-based. [more inside]
posted by MrChuckles on Jan 2, 2013 - 30 answers

Welcome to PenPal World

I'm wondering if I should keep emailing someone I've only met once and won't see again for six months. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 8, 2012 - 11 answers

putting the trois in ménage à trois

Where to find thirds? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 22, 2012 - 10 answers

Contacting a person on OKCupid a second time, after they'd left and returned?

I messaged a woman, who seemed a fantastic match, on OKCupid. She didn't respond, and 2-3 days later deactivated her account. Some months later, she shows up again in my favorites list - same profile reactivated, again listed as single. The optimist in me thinks that last time I messaged her was perhaps just unlucky timing and she might be more interested now. Is this an exception to the general rule of "message a woman exactly once, and, if she doesn't respond, write it off and move on"? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 9, 2012 - 34 answers

Am I going about online dating correctly?

This online dating thing is sort of working out, in that I'm getting dates with great people, but it never seems to move beyond 3-4 dates and I'm getting the kind of vagueness I got when I was in high school. How aggressive do I need to be? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 8, 2012 - 24 answers

They are interested. Why don't they respond?

Someone "chose" me (rated 4 or 5 stars) on OKCupid. What should be my next move? [more inside]
posted by 3FLryan on Sep 28, 2012 - 26 answers

I think we should just be friends. Actually, I don't even think that...

I met an online suitor who's more into me than I'm into him, and I don't even really want to be friends with him. How can I tell him this? [more inside]
posted by dean_deen on Sep 9, 2012 - 19 answers

Like me, only better.

I want to make a fake dating profile to do research. Is this unethical? [more inside]
posted by mrfuga0 on Aug 24, 2012 - 43 answers

Suggestions that may improve my OKCupid profile or conversation initiations?

Suggestions that may improve my OKCupid profile or conversation initiations? [more inside]
posted by Willpower on Aug 5, 2012 - 49 answers

Help me get the most out of OKCupid!

What should I be expecting from OKCupid? Assume my profile is just fine. [more inside]
posted by evinrude on Jul 30, 2012 - 27 answers

Where are the single thirtysomethings outside of OKCupid?

You're a woman in your 30s looking to meet men for dating/relationships. What are you doing to meet people OUTSIDE OF online dating sites? [more inside]
posted by sherlockt on Jul 19, 2012 - 38 answers

Feedback on dating profile

Please critique my OkCupid profile! (I know there's been a spate of these recently, but I'm back on the dating scene and Jessamyn says it's ok!) [more inside]
posted by soonertbone on Jul 2, 2012 - 51 answers

Suggestions for my OkCupid profile, and on how to initiate conversations with women?

My OkCupid profile--any suggestions? And what's the best way to initiate conversations with women? [more inside]
posted by Willpower on Jun 29, 2012 - 51 answers

How do I take good quality pictures of myself?

How do I take good photos for an online dating site, as a guy who doesn't photograph well? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 15, 2012 - 14 answers

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