I don't want kids and list this in my online dating profiles. What should I do when men who indicate that they DO want kids contact me?
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posted by oceanview
on Apr 21, 2013 -
21 answers
We've already met. I messed it up (kinda), and now I want to ask him out again. Yes, I know: optimistic.
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posted by Salamander
on Mar 21, 2013 -
26 answers
How often should I expect to not click with someone? How often should I expect to not hear from the person again?
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posted by mermily
on Mar 9, 2013 -
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I've slept with a lot of guys and only enjoyed it with like 10% of them. Are my standards too high, or too low, or what?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 18, 2013 -
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What are your tips to keeping the lines of communication open in the first few weeks of dating someone new?
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posted by toerinishuman
on Feb 3, 2013 -
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I don't want to breech the fb borders yet, as I feel it could kill some of the mystery and magic of getting to know her in real life, but we may never cross paths again. Do I exercise my limited patience for a moment that I can't wait for or just send a msg and start the ball rolling?
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posted by talljamal
on Feb 1, 2013 -
26 answers
I disabled my Okcupid account. When it asked Why? I checked "I met someone on Okcupid." This is true. I'm seeing 4 someones from Okcupid - obviously nothing serious or committed and all in early or very early stages of exploration. Four is overwhelming enough without tinkering with the site further. When the form asked who I met, I listed all four.
After hitting submit I realized with terror that there is a chance okc might somehow notify these fellows that I listed them as "met someone." Please tell me I am wrong.
posted by anonymous
on Jan 16, 2013 -
8 answers
I'm wondering if I should keep emailing someone I've only met once and won't see again for six months.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 8, 2012 -
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I messaged a woman, who seemed a fantastic match, on OKCupid. She didn't respond, and 2-3 days later deactivated her account. Some months later, she shows up again in my favorites list - same profile reactivated, again listed as single. The optimist in me thinks that last time I messaged her was perhaps just unlucky timing and she might be more interested now. Is this an exception to the general rule of "message a woman exactly once, and, if she doesn't respond, write it off and move on"?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 9, 2012 -
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This online dating thing is sort of working out, in that I'm getting dates with great people, but it never seems to move beyond 3-4 dates and I'm getting the kind of vagueness I got when I was in high school. How aggressive do I need to be?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 8, 2012 -
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Someone "chose" me (rated 4 or 5 stars) on OKCupid. What should be my next move?
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posted by 3FLryan
on Sep 28, 2012 -
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I met an online suitor who's more into me than I'm into him, and I don't even really want to be friends with him. How can I tell him this?
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posted by dean_deen
on Sep 9, 2012 -
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You're a woman in your 30s looking to meet men for dating/relationships. What are you doing to meet people OUTSIDE OF online dating sites?
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posted by sherlockt
on Jul 19, 2012 -
38 answers
My OkCupid profile--any suggestions? And what's the best way to initiate conversations with women?
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posted by Willpower
on Jun 29, 2012 -
51 answers
How do I take good photos for an online dating site, as a guy who doesn't photograph well?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 15, 2012 -
14 answers
Is it rational that I'm turned off about receiving a first text at midnight by someone I have a 1st date coming up with?
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posted by oceanview
on Jun 8, 2012 -
69 answers
Looking for a little perspective on communication styles to help ease some anxiety about a woman I've been out with a few times. (You guessed it--snowflake inside)
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 3, 2012 -
14 answers
Advice needed to transition back into casual and not-so casual online dating after a long time.
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posted by anonymous
on May 25, 2012 -
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At my wits end with personal ads (and photos). Sorry guys, this one is long. You've been warned.
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posted by anonymous
on May 16, 2012 -
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How important is it to have the perfect OKCupid profile? What might be wrong with mine?
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posted by veryblue1
on Apr 16, 2012 -
74 answers
Please teach me the etiquette of online dating/meeting people when there are just too many choices.
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posted by tryniti
on Mar 6, 2012 -
14 answers
Just broke up with my BF 2 weeks ago; need advice about how to busy myself and move on and how to meet new people (friends or potential dates). Thinking about meetup.com and match.com, need advice from anyone who has used these sites.
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posted by CheeseAndRice
on Feb 22, 2012 -
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PhillyGayPhilter: Online dating through OkCupid hasn't been working out well for me, but I'm not quite sure how else to do it now that I'm out of college. How do I meet other young-ish gay men in Philadelphia, in either meat-space or alternative digital pastures? Anxieties, personal details, and candy within!
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 20, 2012 -
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I'm having trouble getting second dates from online dating sites. My personality has always been to develop a comfort zone with people slowly, and I worry that I'm getting brushed aside since there's not an "OMG CHEMISTRY" connection on the first date.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 7, 2012 -
18 answers
Went on a couple of really good dates with a girl from an online dating site, resulted in some minor making out. Now I have to end it for reasons outside of those dates. Should I call her to tell her? Text? In person? Details inside...
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 30, 2012 -
46 answers
Is my plan to handle a tempting but ultimately unwanted and inappropriate sexual/ romantic advance from a co-worker a good one?
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posted by evil_esto
on Dec 26, 2011 -
27 answers
Online Dating Filter: What are some tell-tale red flags that someone might turn into a creep? Please help me fine tune my creepometer!
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posted by floweredfish
on Sep 21, 2011 -
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I'm a woman and I had a first date yesterday with a guy I met online. He sent me pictures that were obviously several years old because he's at least 50 pounds heavier now. I need help deciding whether I should continue to see him.
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posted by oceanview
on Aug 28, 2011 -
48 answers
I am a 29-year old straight male who needs some help with both the mechanics of online dating as well as becoming comfortable with the idea of online dating. Snowflakely details inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 26, 2011 -
30 answers
I'm a below average looking guy to start with. In photos, though, I look like the troll from under the bridge. I'm going to sign up for online dating soon. How can I obtain a picture of myself that doesn't scare small children and pets—or, more importantly, 18-25 year old girls?
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posted by anonymous
on May 31, 2011 -
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