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Should I keep messaging her?

I'm on OkCupd, and I've been chatting with someone who seems pretty cool and cute. We made plans to meet on Sunday, but she said she was busy but wanted to meet up later. I had a free ticket to a movie yesterday, so I asked if she wanted to come out. Again, busy, so I said "Hey, I'm free on Thursday and Sunday if you want to meet, but if not it's cool". I got a message back saying "I did want to, just got busy. Not into the attitude though so lets leave it there." The logical thing is just to leave it at that and not pursue her any more, but part of me wants to try and figure out if I can fix my mistake and at least meet up for a coffee to see if there's any chemistry there. Is it possible?
posted by Charlemagne In Sweatpants on Apr 15, 2013 - 45 answers

What are some particularly impressive OKCupid answers you've made/seen?

There is a whole bunch of witty awesomeness decorating OKC profiles like bower bird nests, from neat extended explanations for the questions they ask, to clever attractive ways to display things that would ordinarily be considered shortcomings. What are some good examples of things you've written, or stolen, or wanted to steal, that were particularly neat? I am looking for things that would make great inspiration for a good profile. [more inside]
posted by Blasdelb on Apr 2, 2013 - 29 answers

OKC's Kiss/Kill/Marry

Have you (or someone you know) been successful with individuals who are a low match for you on OKC? I consider low to be below '80% Match'. This is assuming you've both answered at least a 100 questions. Success I consider to be at least a few months of going out. I'm trying to get a sense of whether it is reasonable to ignore contact from low-matching individuals or if those scores are just meaningless once you get to know someone in person. Should you give that person a shot or is it a waste of time? I'm not so much concerned with the friend or enemy score.
posted by who squared on Mar 31, 2013 - 32 answers

Not-OK Cupid

I've slept with a lot of guys and only enjoyed it with like 10% of them. Are my standards too high, or too low, or what? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 18, 2013 - 21 answers

Where to go on a first date in Pittsburgh?

27 year old straight male living in Pittsburgh. I'm doing the OkCupid thing. I would like to go on a few dates, but I don't know where to go for a first date. Elsewhere on AskMe, people have said that a first date with someone you met on Okcupid should be brief compared to a first date with someone you've known in person for a while. Makes sense. I could put together an awesome date that was three hours long, but when I try to think of something short and sweet, I'm at a loss. [more inside]
posted by UrbanEye on Feb 5, 2013 - 18 answers

Communication in the early days of dating

What are your tips to keeping the lines of communication open in the first few weeks of dating someone new? [more inside]
posted by toerinishuman on Feb 3, 2013 - 6 answers

Should I cancel my date?

I arranged a date with one guy, then had another absolutely fantastic date in the interim, & really want to focus on that. Should I cancel the other date? [more inside]
posted by littlegreen on Jan 24, 2013 - 19 answers

Did I just commit a hugely embarrasing Okcupid gaffe?

I disabled my Okcupid account. When it asked Why? I checked "I met someone on Okcupid." This is true. I'm seeing 4 someones from Okcupid - obviously nothing serious or committed and all in early or very early stages of exploration. Four is overwhelming enough without tinkering with the site further. When the form asked who I met, I listed all four. After hitting submit I realized with terror that there is a chance okc might somehow notify these fellows that I listed them as "met someone." Please tell me I am wrong.
posted by anonymous on Jan 16, 2013 - 8 answers

help how does this work

So.... how does okcupid work for gay/bi women? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 11, 2013 - 15 answers

putting the trois in ménage à trois

Where to find thirds? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 22, 2012 - 10 answers

Contacting a person on OKCupid a second time, after they'd left and returned?

I messaged a woman, who seemed a fantastic match, on OKCupid. She didn't respond, and 2-3 days later deactivated her account. Some months later, she shows up again in my favorites list - same profile reactivated, again listed as single. The optimist in me thinks that last time I messaged her was perhaps just unlucky timing and she might be more interested now. Is this an exception to the general rule of "message a woman exactly once, and, if she doesn't respond, write it off and move on"? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 9, 2012 - 34 answers

They are interested. Why don't they respond?

Someone "chose" me (rated 4 or 5 stars) on OKCupid. What should be my next move? [more inside]
posted by 3FLryan on Sep 28, 2012 - 26 answers

Like me, only better.

I want to make a fake dating profile to do research. Is this unethical? [more inside]
posted by mrfuga0 on Aug 24, 2012 - 43 answers

Should I reveal to my upcoming quasi-blind quasi-date that I look different than he expects me to?

Should I (and if so, how should I) reveal to my upcoming quasi-blind quasi-date that I look different than he expects me to? [more inside]
posted by mauvest on Aug 21, 2012 - 44 answers

Am I sleep Ok-Cupiding?

My ex is showing up on my recently visited list on Ok Cupid without me having visited his page. What could be going on? I just changed my password but I'm 99% sure no one knew it before and I wasn't signed in anywhere else. I browse anonymously and I've 'hidden' him so he shouldn't know of this profile's existence (created post breakup). Wtf? Does anyone know the algorithms here well enough to tell me what the hell could be up? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 11, 2012 - 13 answers

Suggestions that may improve my OKCupid profile or conversation initiations?

Suggestions that may improve my OKCupid profile or conversation initiations? [more inside]
posted by Willpower on Aug 5, 2012 - 49 answers

Help me get the most out of OKCupid!

What should I be expecting from OKCupid? Assume my profile is just fine. [more inside]
posted by evinrude on Jul 30, 2012 - 27 answers

Once they've responded, what next?

On dating sites/OKCupid: Once I get past the initial introductions, where do I go in the conversation? Alternately, could it be something in my profile that encourages people to not respond past the initial reaction? [more inside]
posted by CrystalDave on Jul 5, 2012 - 20 answers

Feedback on dating profile

Please critique my OkCupid profile! (I know there's been a spate of these recently, but I'm back on the dating scene and Jessamyn says it's ok!) [more inside]
posted by soonertbone on Jul 2, 2012 - 51 answers

What can I do to improve my OKC Profile?

My experience with OKCupid has been somewhat frustrating. What can I do to improve my profile? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 1, 2012 - 45 answers

Suggestions for my OkCupid profile, and on how to initiate conversations with women?

My OkCupid profile--any suggestions? And what's the best way to initiate conversations with women? [more inside]
posted by Willpower on Jun 29, 2012 - 51 answers

nerdy overthinker needs a highlighter, heart and cold eye

yet another request for feedback on an OkCupid profile. Complex, nerdy overthinker in search of an editor who may be able to help focus an online persona. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 21, 2012 - 59 answers


One of those judge-my-OKCupid-profile things. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 14, 2012 - 33 answers

Make with the arrows.

Another "what the hell is wrong with my OKCupid profile" question. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 4, 2012 - 73 answers

How do I do not worry so much about getting back into online dating?

Advice needed to transition back into casual and not-so casual online dating after a long time. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 25, 2012 - 8 answers

some of my best friends are libertarians?

Should I date someone who supports Ron Paul? [more inside]
posted by mercredi on May 13, 2012 - 74 answers

Boyfriend still uses okcupid

Boyfriend still uses okcupid. [more inside]
posted by teaforone on May 5, 2012 - 52 answers

Electric Boogaloo

Last fall, I asked you guys for some help with my OkCupid profile. Your advice worked really well for me! I've changed a fair bit since then and now that I'm getting back into dating full-time I'm going back for round 2 with the hive mind. [more inside]
posted by modernserf on May 2, 2012 - 18 answers

This is all so silly

What's a girl to do? [more inside]
posted by costanza on Apr 25, 2012 - 21 answers

I'll date you AND give you $5,000,000! I just need a small down payment.

Have you run into any 401 scammers on OKcupid? [more inside]
posted by bswinburn on Apr 20, 2012 - 12 answers

Critique my profile?

Disregarding anything weird on my part in my OKCupid messages: what criticisms or observations do you have of my profile and pictures that might be able to explain my response rate? [more inside]
posted by SollosQ on Apr 18, 2012 - 56 answers

Need some OKCupid coaching for profiles

How important is it to have the perfect OKCupid profile? What might be wrong with mine? [more inside]
posted by veryblue1 on Apr 16, 2012 - 74 answers


I'm a finicky dater. Should I give up on online dating? [more inside]
posted by aintthattheway on Apr 11, 2012 - 38 answers

Is is ok if I just text you?

I have some dating questions. [more inside]
posted by sockysocksock on Apr 1, 2012 - 21 answers

Due to heavy call volume, your wait time is approximately......

Please teach me the etiquette of online dating/meeting people when there are just too many choices. [more inside]
posted by tryniti on Mar 6, 2012 - 14 answers

How to stay calm & cool on a date?

Tactics for staying calm & cool on a date, other than "dating around?" [more inside]
posted by morganw on Feb 24, 2012 - 12 answers

omgwtfbbq mefi, i can haz gay boyfriend, plz?

PhillyGayPhilter: Online dating through OkCupid hasn't been working out well for me, but I'm not quite sure how else to do it now that I'm out of college. How do I meet other young-ish gay men in Philadelphia, in either meat-space or alternative digital pastures? Anxieties, personal details, and candy within! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 20, 2012 - 10 answers

OKCupid without Cupid

Is OKCupid a good way to meet platonic friends? [more inside]
posted by nikodym on Jan 4, 2012 - 31 answers

Kinky and anonymous?

Getting started in the local kinky / Fetlife community - with a real-life reputation to keep completely disconnected. How to do it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 24, 2011 - 20 answers

What's wrong with my okcupid profile?

I have been using OkCupid for a few weeks with no luck. And I do mean no luck -- meaning, nobody will even talk with me. Is there something wrong with my profile? Something wrong with me? [more inside]
posted by Azazel Fel on Oct 3, 2011 - 105 answers

Too weird for OKCupid, not weird enough for Fetlife

Need help with OKCupid. Difficulty: I'm creepy [more inside]
posted by modernserf on Sep 28, 2011 - 34 answers

Saw a guy at work on OkCupid, he seems cool--should I ask him out?

This is kind of a follow-up to this question about seeing people on OkCupid that one knows offline in some capacity. I have a similar situation but an added wrinkle: I work with my potential match. Is this a good idea to pursue him or not? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 29, 2011 - 16 answers

To use info from a girl's online profile in talking to her offline?

I've recently made chit-chat with an attractive barista at a coffee shop I frequent, mostly about the writing group I meet with there and a band we both like that she was playing over the sound system one day. This past weekend I signed into OKCupid for the first time in awhile, and she's one of the first matches that comes up for me. So now not only do I know that she's single, but that we both like several other bands, authors, shows and movies. We actually have a good bit in common. Do I exploit my new-found knowledge of her to make conversation in person (which is publicly posted, and it's not like I went looking for it), or do I message her on OKC in a "fancy meeting you here" sort of way? Which is less creepy?
posted by Zorz on Jul 26, 2011 - 40 answers

Should I ask guys out on OKCupid?

Should I ask guys out on OKCupid? [more inside]
posted by whitelily on Jun 25, 2011 - 49 answers

Feeling undeserving.

How do I start feeling like I deserve the happiness I feel in relationships? [more inside]
posted by speedgraphic on Jun 22, 2011 - 9 answers

Bikes, books, Brooklyn, and boredom: help me normalize my expectations of OkCupid.

Please help me manage my expectations about online dating! [more inside]
posted by sideofwry on Jun 19, 2011 - 24 answers

It says you like Cool-jams? I do like Cool-jams.

What can I do to make first dates more fun and interesting, and less like a job interview? [more inside]
posted by soonertbone on Jun 13, 2011 - 34 answers

What does "down to earth" mean? Context: On-line dating.

What does "down to earth" mean? Context: On-line dating. [more inside]
posted by ThisIsNotMe on May 5, 2011 - 50 answers

Needing Advice on An Okcupid Profile

Looking for honest, thoughtful input regarding an OkCupid profile..... [more inside]
posted by Hogermite on Apr 7, 2011 - 64 answers

72 hour rule for online dating?

Online dating: how long after receiving a response should I respond? [more inside]
posted by morganw on Apr 1, 2011 - 26 answers

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