35 posts tagged with okcupid by Anonymous.
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How do I bumble? FB coordination edition

I decided to try Bumble, but I wasn't sure whether it would be posting things to my Facebook, or drawing unwanted information into my dating profile. So I created a fake facebook with a fake name to try it out. Now I can't undo that. Use fake FB profile or undo it somehow? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 21, 2016 - 7 answers

Dating a guy who expressed one thing that bothered me

The "Are you disgusted by the extremely obese?" question on okcupid: he answered Yes and marked No as unacceptable. Help me work with this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 4, 2016 - 52 answers

How to do casual sex?

I'm interested in exploring my sexuality with multiple partners. (37, F, straight-ish). However, I'm a sensitive, over-thinking type with a moderate case of vaginismus. How do i find patient and understanding partners? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 2, 2016 - 11 answers

I think I'm doing initial dating-site contacts wrong

I've been finding dating online frustrating. Everyone finds dating online frustrating. However - for me (as a guy contacting women), I seem to be doing especially badly at writing initial messages that lead to women responding, or even viewing my profile. What are those supposed to look like, anyway? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 16, 2016 - 39 answers

Baffling OKCupid situation

Help me understand what’s happening with my OKCupid profile. In the first 36 hours on joining I had 382 likes and 76 messages (none worthwhile). Since then, not a thing. What’s your take on this? Bonus question: is OKCupid the right place these days to look for a long-term partner? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 14, 2015 - 15 answers

Encourage the good guys

To men and women who partake in online dating: how should I respond to the rare person who actually sends a nice, thoughtful message, but to whom I'm not attracted? I don't want them to get discouraged because they are actually doing it right! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 30, 2015 - 41 answers

Am I un-datable without a smart phone?

No, seriously. Should I buy an iPhone just to get on Tindr. And yes, I'm that desperate. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 24, 2014 - 24 answers

Ambiguous not-dating friendship

How should I interpret this man's behaviour? I met a guy on OkCupid. I'm confused by his behaviour and would appreciate some, any, insights from the Hive Mind. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 1, 2013 - 36 answers

That went well, right?

Had a great first date with a woman who seems pretty busy. She cancelled our second date, asked for a rain check, and I haven't heard from her since. What's the etiquette here? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 26, 2013 - 21 answers

Girlfriend met a guy on dating site. This isn't settling well with me.

My girlfriend, who is lonely, used a dating site to make a "friend" which I'm having difficulty coping with. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 14, 2013 - 81 answers

Accidental penpals

I've just started talking to this (really neat!) guy on OKCupid; I like him a lot & we seem to have a ton in common. However, we won't be in the same place until August. How do I gently steer him away from a penpal-esque situation while still keeping him interested? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 26, 2013 - 12 answers

Not-OK Cupid

I've slept with a lot of guys and only enjoyed it with like 10% of them. Are my standards too high, or too low, or what? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 18, 2013 - 21 answers

Did I just commit a hugely embarrasing Okcupid gaffe?

I disabled my Okcupid account. When it asked Why? I checked "I met someone on Okcupid." This is true. I'm seeing 4 someones from Okcupid - obviously nothing serious or committed and all in early or very early stages of exploration. Four is overwhelming enough without tinkering with the site further. When the form asked who I met, I listed all four. After hitting submit I realized with terror that there is a chance okc might somehow notify these fellows that I listed them as "met someone." Please tell me I am wrong.
posted by anonymous on Jan 16, 2013 - 8 answers

help how does this work

So.... how does okcupid work for gay/bi women? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 11, 2013 - 15 answers

putting the trois in ménage à trois

Where to find thirds? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 22, 2012 - 10 answers

Contacting a person on OKCupid a second time, after they'd left and returned?

I messaged a woman, who seemed a fantastic match, on OKCupid. She didn't respond, and 2-3 days later deactivated her account. Some months later, she shows up again in my favorites list - same profile reactivated, again listed as single. The optimist in me thinks that last time I messaged her was perhaps just unlucky timing and she might be more interested now. Is this an exception to the general rule of "message a woman exactly once, and, if she doesn't respond, write it off and move on"? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 9, 2012 - 34 answers

Am I sleep Ok-Cupiding?

My ex is showing up on my recently visited list on Ok Cupid without me having visited his page. What could be going on? I just changed my password but I'm 99% sure no one knew it before and I wasn't signed in anywhere else. I browse anonymously and I've 'hidden' him so he shouldn't know of this profile's existence (created post breakup). Wtf? Does anyone know the algorithms here well enough to tell me what the hell could be up? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 11, 2012 - 13 answers

What can I do to improve my OKC Profile?

My experience with OKCupid has been somewhat frustrating. What can I do to improve my profile? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 1, 2012 - 45 answers

nerdy overthinker needs a highlighter, heart and cold eye

yet another request for feedback on an OkCupid profile. Complex, nerdy overthinker in search of an editor who may be able to help focus an online persona. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 21, 2012 - 59 answers


One of those judge-my-OKCupid-profile things. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 14, 2012 - 33 answers

Make with the arrows.

Another "what the hell is wrong with my OKCupid profile" question. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 4, 2012 - 73 answers

How do I do not worry so much about getting back into online dating?

Advice needed to transition back into casual and not-so casual online dating after a long time. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 25, 2012 - 8 answers

omgwtfbbq mefi, i can haz gay boyfriend, plz?

PhillyGayPhilter: Online dating through OkCupid hasn't been working out well for me, but I'm not quite sure how else to do it now that I'm out of college. How do I meet other young-ish gay men in Philadelphia, in either meat-space or alternative digital pastures? Anxieties, personal details, and candy within! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 20, 2012 - 10 answers

Kinky and anonymous?

Getting started in the local kinky / Fetlife community - with a real-life reputation to keep completely disconnected. How to do it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 24, 2011 - 20 answers

Saw a guy at work on OkCupid, he seems cool--should I ask him out?

This is kind of a follow-up to this question about seeing people on OkCupid that one knows offline in some capacity. I have a similar situation but an added wrinkle: I work with my potential match. Is this a good idea to pursue him or not? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 29, 2011 - 16 answers

Why do people disappear in the middle of otherwise promising conversations on online dating sites?

When I email people on dating sites, half the time they just disappear and stop responding, even if it seems like it's going well. What's going on? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 4, 2011 - 30 answers

Bringing Kinky Back

Why did the "kinky" icon disappear on my OKcupid profile? How can I get it back? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 12, 2011 - 11 answers

Où sont les femmes?

In the dating world of 2011, is being a male teacher a curse? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 9, 2011 - 45 answers

Respectful retreats on the online dating scene

Protips for an online dating/OkCupid n00b: being kind in making the decision to back-off after a string of a few messages raised some personal flags. Specifically and generally, what are my best options? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 4, 2011 - 29 answers

OKCupid, why don't you like me?

OKCupid Question: Why doesn't my profile show up in Match Search to other people? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 11, 2010 - 16 answers

No I'm not into motorcycles or coming to your hotel room when your in town for business next week.

Online Dating Filter: I seem to be getting attention from every guy, but the ones I want, what am I doing wrong? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 23, 2010 - 45 answers

How About You Be My New Dating.... Friend?

How to become friends (not a romantic interest) with someone you just went on a date with through OkCupid? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 28, 2010 - 30 answers

How do I get women to check me out?

Help a girl attract women on OKCupid. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 18, 2010 - 20 answers

How to make friends online

How does one make friends on an online dating site? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 18, 2009 - 15 answers

Girlfriend still on OKCupid

We met on OKCupid and started dating. I deleted my profile... she didn't. What to do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 14, 2009 - 49 answers

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