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OkCupid: Why is my inbox not flooded and what's wrong with my pictures?

I'm a woman that just made a new OK Cupid account after a long hiatus. The amount of messages I'm getting are abysmal compared to when I was on the site six months ago. What am I doing wrong? [more inside]
posted by Autumn on May 2, 2014 - 49 answers

OKC Profilefilter, Part n+1

I've just gotten back on OKC after a year away. Let's critique my profile! [more inside]
posted by Maecenas on Apr 10, 2014 - 44 answers

"Am I too wacky?" - another OkCupid profile review

Loads of "hooks", as received wisdom says is the right thing to do - but does it make me sound undateably wilfully eccentric? Profile here. Any and all feedback welcome, whether it's related to my suspected issues with the profile or not. [more inside]
posted by Junebug79 on Mar 9, 2014 - 45 answers

Am I doing something *wrong* in my Okcupid profile? Can I stop?

OKCupidFilter, sorry. I am getting dramatically fewer visitors and messages these past couple weeks. I haven't gotten a year older. I tried switching around pictures, editing answers, all the stuff I could think of to do. But, other than the "hey, beautiful lady, I hop ur write me back!" messages, I'm getting crickets. Here is my profile. (Please be nice, I know I'm older.) Is there something I can do to fix this? Or is it out of my hands? Thanks ever so much!
posted by The Noble Goofy Elk on Dec 17, 2013 - 46 answers

Is you is or is you ain't a possiblity?

Having read a lot of relationship/dating AskMes, I've decided rather than wait for a relationship to fall into my lap, I should try the whole online dating thing. I am finding it rather frustrating and confusing, and hope the hive mind can help me understand it a bit better. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Athanassiel on Nov 9, 2013 - 19 answers

How am I not myself?

I've been aggressively single for a while now and I'm ready for a change. Step One: rewrite my OkCupid profile? [more inside]
posted by modernserf on Oct 10, 2013 - 20 answers

OKCupid filter: I need feedback for unpopular profile

Encouraged by the response to my question a few weeks ago (http://ask.metafilter.com/243294/So-many-reasons-to-keep-lovesex-out-of-my-life-Are-they-realistic), I have dusted off my OKCupid profile, but am not getting any responses. I need help! [more inside]
posted by primate moon on Jul 26, 2013 - 47 answers

Help a dating n00b?

Jumping back into the dating pool and hoping for some hacks and advice specific to finding the kind of people that interest me... [more inside]
posted by justonegirl on May 29, 2013 - 25 answers

Should I keep messaging her?

I'm on OkCupd, and I've been chatting with someone who seems pretty cool and cute. We made plans to meet on Sunday, but she said she was busy but wanted to meet up later. I had a free ticket to a movie yesterday, so I asked if she wanted to come out. Again, busy, so I said "Hey, I'm free on Thursday and Sunday if you want to meet, but if not it's cool". I got a message back saying "I did want to, just got busy. Not into the attitude though so lets leave it there." The logical thing is just to leave it at that and not pursue her any more, but part of me wants to try and figure out if I can fix my mistake and at least meet up for a coffee to see if there's any chemistry there. Is it possible?
posted by Charlemagne In Sweatpants on Apr 15, 2013 - 45 answers

Where to go on a first date in Pittsburgh?

27 year old straight male living in Pittsburgh. I'm doing the OkCupid thing. I would like to go on a few dates, but I don't know where to go for a first date. Elsewhere on AskMe, people have said that a first date with someone you met on Okcupid should be brief compared to a first date with someone you've known in person for a while. Makes sense. I could put together an awesome date that was three hours long, but when I try to think of something short and sweet, I'm at a loss. [more inside]
posted by UrbanEye on Feb 5, 2013 - 18 answers

Communication in the early days of dating

What are your tips to keeping the lines of communication open in the first few weeks of dating someone new? [more inside]
posted by toerinishuman on Feb 3, 2013 - 6 answers

Once they've responded, what next?

On dating sites/OKCupid: Once I get past the initial introductions, where do I go in the conversation? Alternately, could it be something in my profile that encourages people to not respond past the initial reaction? [more inside]
posted by CrystalDave on Jul 5, 2012 - 20 answers

Suggestions for my OkCupid profile, and on how to initiate conversations with women?

My OkCupid profile--any suggestions? And what's the best way to initiate conversations with women? [more inside]
posted by Willpower on Jun 29, 2012 - 51 answers

Boyfriend still uses okcupid

Boyfriend still uses okcupid. [more inside]
posted by teaforone on May 5, 2012 - 52 answers

This is all so silly

What's a girl to do? [more inside]
posted by costanza on Apr 25, 2012 - 21 answers

How to stay calm & cool on a date?

Tactics for staying calm & cool on a date, other than "dating around?" [more inside]
posted by morganw on Feb 24, 2012 - 12 answers

Too weird for OKCupid, not weird enough for Fetlife

Need help with OKCupid. Difficulty: I'm creepy [more inside]
posted by modernserf on Sep 28, 2011 - 34 answers

To use info from a girl's online profile in talking to her offline?

I've recently made chit-chat with an attractive barista at a coffee shop I frequent, mostly about the writing group I meet with there and a band we both like that she was playing over the sound system one day. This past weekend I signed into OKCupid for the first time in awhile, and she's one of the first matches that comes up for me. So now not only do I know that she's single, but that we both like several other bands, authors, shows and movies. We actually have a good bit in common. Do I exploit my new-found knowledge of her to make conversation in person (which is publicly posted, and it's not like I went looking for it), or do I message her on OKC in a "fancy meeting you here" sort of way? Which is less creepy?
posted by Zorz on Jul 26, 2011 - 40 answers

Bikes, books, Brooklyn, and boredom: help me normalize my expectations of OkCupid.

Please help me manage my expectations about online dating! [more inside]
posted by sideofwry on Jun 19, 2011 - 24 answers

72 hour rule for online dating?

Online dating: how long after receiving a response should I respond? [more inside]
posted by morganw on Apr 1, 2011 - 26 answers

In search of SWF, Flakes Need Not Apply

Online dating - help me figure out what I'm doing wrong! Multi-part question inside [more inside]
posted by photo guy on Feb 21, 2010 - 39 answers

Why Did He Bring His Girlfriend On a Date With Me?

Online-dating filter: Should I confront him about bringing his girlfriend on what I thought was a date, or just let it all go? [more inside]
posted by aabbbiee on Oct 12, 2009 - 30 answers

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