I'm a woman, 49, in NYC, doing the OK Cupid. I've done online dating before, but have been out of it for quite some time, and really don't think I'm up to date. Please advise. [more inside]
In real life women don't flirt with me, smile at me in public, or glance at me when they walk past me. However, with online dating I do really well. What gives? I'm starting to suspect I'm just really photogenic and I'm a bit of a dog in real life.
Straight women of MetaFilter: do you message first in online dating? If not, why? [more inside]
Please school me on the unspoken rules of online dating. [more inside]
So it's been awhile since I've used OKC, just reactivated the profile, and it's now past due for an overhaul. [more inside]
Sorry to continue the recent trend of OKCupid profile reviews, but I'd like more feedback on mine. [more inside]
I need some assistance in updating my okcupid profile. [more inside]
Just started a new account. Maybe you guys can help me out? [more inside]
So now that IAC has ruined OKCupid what are the best alternatives? [more inside]
I'm on OkCupd, and I've been chatting with someone who seems pretty cool and cute. We made plans to meet on Sunday, but she said she was busy but wanted to meet up later. I had a free ticket to a movie yesterday, so I asked if she wanted to come out. Again, busy, so I said "Hey, I'm free on Thursday and Sunday if you want to meet, but if not it's cool". I got a message back saying "I did want to, just got busy. Not into the attitude though so lets leave it there." The logical thing is just to leave it at that and not pursue her any more, but part of me wants to try and figure out if I can fix my mistake and at least meet up for a coffee to see if there's any chemistry there. Is it possible?
Have you (or someone you know) been successful with individuals who are a low match for you on OKC? I consider low to be below '80% Match'. This is assuming you've both answered at least a 100 questions. Success I consider to be at least a few months of going out. I'm trying to get a sense of whether it is reasonable to ignore contact from low-matching individuals or if those scores are just meaningless once you get to know someone in person. Should you give that person a shot or is it a waste of time? I'm not so much concerned with the friend or enemy score.
Suggestions that may improve my OKCupid profile or conversation initiations? [more inside]
My OkCupid profile--any suggestions? And what's the best way to initiate conversations with women? [more inside]
Have you run into any 401 scammers on OKcupid? [more inside]
I've recently made chit-chat with an attractive barista at a coffee shop I frequent, mostly about the writing group I meet with there and a band we both like that she was playing over the sound system one day. This past weekend I signed into OKCupid for the first time in awhile, and she's one of the first matches that comes up for me. So now not only do I know that she's single, but that we both like several other bands, authors, shows and movies. We actually have a good bit in common. Do I exploit my new-found knowledge of her to make conversation in person (which is publicly posted, and it's not like I went looking for it), or do I message her on OKC in a "fancy meeting you here" sort of way? Which is less creepy?
Please help me manage my expectations about online dating! [more inside]
Looking for honest, thoughtful input regarding an OkCupid profile..... [more inside]
Online dating: how long after receiving a response should I respond? [more inside]
Online Dating Filter: I seem to be getting attention from every guy, but the ones I want, what am I doing wrong? [more inside]
How does one make friends on an online dating site? [more inside]