So my best friend (who also is an ex) informed me that she believes I am genderqueer and gay because I am "broken" by childhood abuse and so is everyone who is not straight. That's an offensive statement, right? And if so, how do I even respond? [more inside]
My kids have asked me how to say a few things in English, but I realize the only terms I know were the racist terms used back when I was a kid. What are the current, non-offensive terms for these activities? [more inside]
I want to sell my experience as a teacher in urban, diverse, low-income communities, both in terms of commitment and know-how. Is there a better of way of saying that I have taught student populations in urban, diverse, low-income communities? [more inside]
I would like tips on how to have a thicker skin when people say offensive things or especially when people defend offensive things. You know how whenever there's a racist incident someone says "but was anyone really surprised?" Well I am that person who is somehow always surprised and I tend to cry a little. I cry over comments on the internet. I don't know anyone else who reacts like this and I'm afraid I'd just be dismissed because there really are more important things going on. I want to respond less dramatically, maybe just shrug my shoulders or say something intelligent but not get so upset.
I work in a small shop in a male dominated trade. I am 26 but read younger (by up to 10 years if you have a weird idea of how teenagers look) small, blonde, and need to dress casually (jeans and a tshirt and sneakers) due to the nature of my work. Customer's ask me on a near-daily basis if I'm my boss's daughter. I hate this, I feel it undermines my value as an employee who has worked hard to be in the position I'm in. I'd like to think of a response that makes them feel like a ninny for one second, without offending customers. [more inside]
I have this friend, we've known each other since we were five and I see her every time I go home. She helped me deal with my abusive ex and recently attended my grandad's funeral which was a difficult time. It's all good until she writes offensive, provocative stuff on FB and I feel like I don't know this person. Do I brush it to one side or engage with it? How would you deal with this? [more inside]
I need new swear words. The old ones aren't doing it for me any more. The more offensive, violent, bizarre, and onomatopoetical, the better. [more inside]
I have a problem with my little sister's baby daddy. He's racist, bigoted, irresponsible, and I can see that he's a bad person for my sister and their child. It's driving me crazy, and being around him is breaking my heart. What can/should I do? Warning: some derogatory language within. [more inside]
My friend says my Halloween idea might be racist. This took me completely by surprise. I was skeptical, but after stewing over it I'm now looking for a second opinion. [more inside]
"That's retarded." Offensive, or not offensive? Also, if offensive, help me come up with an alternative to my life/work philosophy, which is "Don't Be Retarded." [more inside]
Is the word "prick" considered offensive? [more inside]
How to establish boundaries with way out of line friends? [more inside]
I'm a woman myself, and don't really understand the context behind why the word "ladies" is offensive. Can anyone clue me in? [more inside]
Halloweenfilter: Is it offensive for two straight men to go to a Halloween party as a lesbian couple? [more inside]
I'd like to find funny, slightly bawdy songs suitable for teenagers. [more inside]
Are the stupid jokes I made in an email offensive? [more inside]
I am involved in a project that I personally find offensive. How can I remove myself emotionally in order to do the job? [more inside]
Is it common for public schools to directly market fast food to children under the guise of "school spirit"? [more inside]
How likely is it that a white American woman in NYC wearing this shirt in public and in the workplace will be deemed offensive?
How do I address my (probably ex-) boyfriend's tendency to be easily offended without offending him again? [more inside]
Is the name/label "Protestant" generally considered derogatory by non-Catholic/non-Eastern Rite Christians? [more inside]
Which communication styles can I use to avoid offending people unintentionally? [more inside]
In a discussion with a co-worker today, it was mentioned that I seemed too "formal," and that another, unnamed co-worker, had brought it up and said that they found this formality offensive. [more inside]
The third floor of my neighbor's home was made into a children's playroom many years ago and hasn't been touched since. There's very interesting (and possibly offensive) handpainted artwork on the (plaster) walls he would like to preserve, but hasn't a clue how to do it or who to talk to for advice. How should he proceed?
How does this joke go? [more inside]
Inspired by this post, I want to either create or find a repository of links to sites facilitating asking possibly insensitive questions of a member(s) of a group. Thus, I'm looking for links to such sites. [more inside]
How can I politely ask someone to stop using the word "gay" in a derogatory way? I wish I would have objected to it from the first time that I heard this individual say it, but the person is my new roommate in a new town and I didn't want to anger him/her. Plus the first few times s/he said it, we were around other people in public and I didn't want to scold him/her at the time. S/he says "gay" to mean "stupid" all the time and it offends me. How can I bring it up now, a few weeks into our being roommates, in a way that won't be upsetting to our relationship? If this helps, I have a gay sibling and many gay friends and could use that as part of the explanation. Normally I call people out on this right away but this is a much more complicated relationship, as we have to live together and get along for a year. I don't think that s/he knows that it is offensive, although s/he is nearly 30 years old.
[OffensiveSlangFilter] What exactly does "shay," as in "shay whitey," mean? From whence does it come?