My parents aren't a part of my life for different reasons and I've never been certain how to approach this with my kids. They've asked pointed questions a few times and I know I can't give vague or incomplete answers forever. [more inside]
My mentally ill mother likes to send me super mean emails every once in a while, which I don't usually reply to. I just discovered today that she has accidentally been sending emails to a random person with a similar email address to mine. I'm not sure what, if anything, I should do about it. [more inside]
I have been experiencing terrible bouts of depression and anxiety for the past four months or so now. I also have turbulent mood swings, ranging from being content in the morning, and scornfully miserable in the afternoon. I'm not certain what is causing all of this. I'm not an emotionally stable person; always unhappy and anxious. I have lost all desire to fulfill my hobbies, which includes: writing, reading, watching documentaries, deep conversations, watching old films, debating, poetry, social activism, and learning knowledge in general. I do not think I'm intellectual or socially exciting enough, therefore I have abandoned all of my hobbies. [more inside]
How can we cover my recently-hospitalized, uninsured friend in Toronto? [more inside]
For example, should the phrase be "I care naught for him" or "I care not for him"? I see the argument for the former (i.e. "I care nothing for him") and the latter ("I don't care for him"), but is one better than the other? Are they interchangeable, or significantly different?
While installing a new car stereo in my 1999 Saturn SW2, I screwed something up, as I no longer get voltage to the orange "constant power" wire (well, sometimes a mere hundredth of a volt!) to my car stereo, and my engine won't crank either! Yet all of my other electronics (headlights, air conditioner, etc.) work fine. Is there a blown fuse preventing power from getting to the starter and the car stereo? If so, where might the fuse be? The fuses in the fuse box are all fine.
Help me connect a Laptop to TV with an HDMI Cable AND get sound. [more inside]
I have ended a long-term relationship where we both had mental health issues (bipolar depression in my case). I haven't worked since 2005 but am a graduate (was back in 1991 though, I'm 44 now) and have about 12 years of work experience. I believe I could work again if given the opportunity, and am willing to do the work either on myself or in terms of learning marketable skills to become employable. I also have about £50,000 ($70,000 I guess?) remaining from an inheritance, which I'm using to live on. It's actually possible to buy a modest apartment where I live for that money, but then I would not be eligible for out-of-work benefits, hence the need to rent. I have never rented before, I lived in my parents house until age 36 and then with my partner in her mother's house until age 44. So I have no references to offer as a previous renter, and am quite socially isolated due to shyness so not sure about finding character references either. My credit score is great due to only modestly using a credit card for 10 years and paying it off each month, and not getting into debt during that time. How can I best sell myself to a letting agency as someone their landlords might want to rent to, and what concessions would I need to make for renting to be a possibility - pay a big deposit? rent in advance? money in escrow account? [more inside]
I have someone in my life who I've come to realize can no longer be there. This person is an ex. We haven't seen each other but we've stayed in touch. Tried to be 'friends.' But it always ends up with hurtful messages and it's no longer a good situation for me. Probably also not for her. The relationship was long and it's been hard to let go. Complicating this: she has a serious mental illness and seems to be getting progressively worse. Which makes all of this worse. She pushes people away and has no immediate family. It makes me sad to think of her alone, but sadder to think about dealing with this for any indefinite period of time. I literally cannot handle it anymore. I'm done. So.. do I just ignore her? Tell her I can't talk to her anymore? We have gone a few weeks without talking but that's been the longest in over a year since we've been broken up. Anyone have experiences with cutting out someone with a mental illness? How did you get through?
I just got unceremoniously canned from my part time (12 hour) job, which I started beginning of January, for a no call no show. I didn't MEAN to no call, no show. My full-time job gave us the Federal holiday off, and my brain made Monday into Sunday. I know, super lame. I could get into the legal and other issues that are taking quite a bit of my mental energy, but what's the point. Just know I've been somewhat distracted, to say the least. [more inside]
Is it worth it to buy a MBP without a super drive? [more inside]
With the caveat that I know 'shitting where I eat' is a bad idea, I'd like to let a coworker know I'm interested in him. Asking him out isn't an option too, because I'm pretty shy and would probably blush and flub anything that's supposed to be casual. How do I do this? We have zero interaction. [more inside]
Having found the lump a year ago this June, it took me until today to find the courage to try doing something. Many of the sites I found said to go through my local health department, so I finally worked up the courage to walk in today. They had no idea what to say, and no longer offer any program that would help. I walked out with a pamphlet for a clinic in another town that they think "might" have a program to help with a sliding payment scale but they weren't even sure about that. [more inside]
Forgive the crappy typing as I'm doing this on my phone. 2 days ago the transformer in front of our house was struck by lightening. We were without power for a day (which really sucks since we're on a well so without power we have no pump to get water). Anyway power restored but then I notice no router. The router got fried by the lightening and so I call Verizon fios and talk to dude who tells me that the earliest they can send someone out, because its not just router that fried but apparently the main thing to our house as well, is September 10th. I'm pretty pissed and frustrated. I get that it's not their fault and it might be restored earlier but come on, 8 days? Do I have any recourse? Like not paying for 8 days I have no service? I'm thinking of switching but we've only got 2 ISP's in our area, Cox and Verizon. Even the Verizon customer service guy was apologizing and saying that they are short staffed etc. Do I call every day? What's the best way to deal with this. Needless to say right now I'm thinking Verizon sucks in the worst way.
I have no medical insurance and cannot afford to see my physician to get my prescriptions refilled. Any idea(s) on how I could possibly get then refilled for nothing ? [more inside]
Prepping a car camping trip. I never take pork or chicken when camping in an effort to respect food-handling volatility guidelines. I do, however, ignore those same guidelines with respect to eggs and bacon (bacon is preserved and, well, eggs must be served with bacon at breakfast when camping). I have been requested to bring 'fresh prawns' to grill. There is no water onsite and there will be no temperature-assured cold storage, but we will have an ice chest with other cold-dependent consumables in it such as the eggs. The campsite is in the mountains of the Pacific Northwest and averages daily/nightly high-lows of 72/52 at this time of year. Cursory research appears to establish that prawns are in the same set of volatile meats that pork, chicken and crab belong to. It may be reasonable to source and bring hard-frozen prawns and cook them from semi-thawed. Departure to campsite expected drive time about five hours; departure to food consumption expected out-of-fridge storage time estimated nine to twelve hours. I am leaning toward saying no to the request. Hive mind, your analysis please.
It comes and goes. Some days I feel completely fine and on others I am in 7/10 degree agony. I have no dental insurance and finally ponied up to be examined today. The dentist took an xray and did an examination and everything looked perfectly fine. She showed me the xray and although she's the professional not me, I have to concur that I saw no abnormalities. She said the gums look fine and that there should be no reason for me having pain. The affected tooth is the second molar in from the back on the bottom lefthand side. [more inside]
I had a meeting yesterday about a very exciting business opportunity. The woman I met with is part of my social/business circle, and I know that she has recently become very involved with Landmark, and has pressured all of her friends and associates to join, as is the Landmark custom. During the meeting she suggested that I come to an introductory event. I told her that I had some familiarity with it and was not interested, but of course, she tried to talk me into it. I changed the subject and she dropped it, for now. Based on past experience, it will come up again and again and again because that's what Landmark teaches its proponents to do. [more inside]
I've noticed lately that a lot of my work day involves colleagues asking me to help them with things. Finding them a new apartment, helping them deal with parking tickets, making telephone calls to get them free stuff (using our professional network). I am sort of a secretary... but I am not their secretary, if you get what I mean. How do I deflect the sense that these are appropriate for my role? [more inside]
I am looking for a dental plan I can enroll in. My employer does not provide dental insurance. I live in Massachusetts. [more inside]
I was looking around for information on long-term investment planning and I ran across this page, which says that after adjusting for inflation, long-term stock market returns are only 1.9% before taxes. The whole site seems to advocate this sort of really creepy gold fetishism that's been popping up lately, so my natural reaction is to dismiss it. But I still have doubts, and this plays into my anxieties about whether retirement savings is worthwhile at all. Help me debunk this? (Existential crisis inside.) [more inside]
Hi, my computer isn't making any sounds at all. win7. The control panel shows the realtek ac97 sound card (or maybe it is a built in piece of the motherboard?) but won't make any noise.. the speakers work, have tested them in another machine.
I have a colleague who wants me to put in a couple of hours after work for a personal project for him. He has emailed me desperately and repeatedly several times over the past week and asks me about it every day, even though I told him I am too busy. I think he thinks I can squeeze it in to my normal working hours, but I can't. How do I get rid of this person? [more inside]
I decided to end my "relationship" with someone I saw for nine months. We both have the same hobby, and seeing him there has been stirring both negative and positive emotions. I don't want to give up the hobby. I could handle the negative emotions - because that's what you're supposed to feel - it's the positive ones that are doing me in. How can I get past them? [more inside]
From a medical/science standpoint, what are the limiting factors that make it difficult to produce pharmaceutical drugs that do not have negative side effects?
What items (gadgets) should I have on hand for power outages? [more inside]
Has anyone had any experience in dealing with organizations like nomoredebts.org or consolidatedcredit.ca? [more inside]
I got into an accident with another motorist. She side swiped my car and then hit a electric post. She failed to yield and was found to be at fault. Now the electric company is asking for $10k to repair the pole damage from me. Without having property damage insurance, and living in a no fault state, is there anything I can do?
I have an ex who seems to be be depressed and has sent me a few emails telling me that we are all programmed by the "Source" that free will does not exist, that nothing depends on us etc and that the "Source" has decided that he would always be unhappy in love ! And that if the "Source" has decided that he would be unhappy, unaccomplished, alone then he must be happy with that decision. (He's 55, pianist/composer, not well known, gets by with the financial help of his parents., never been able to commit or live with a woman. His father is bi-polar, been hospitalised a few times for that). This is contrary to my world view, which I told him but I'm rather worried about where his mind is going. Any thoughts, help much appreciated
I'm having trouble finding teeth whitening strips that don't have a mint flavor. Some advertise that they have a mint flavor and others just don't say. (For health reasons, I must avoid mint.) Any ideas?
My SO has an issue maybe with gluten and maybe with just the processed flours...snowflake details inside... [more inside]
Can I eat these fishcakes? [more inside]
Has anyone successfully given up refined sugar (long term)? What were the benefits you noticed? [more inside]
I didn't work hard for anything I have. But all the hard work I have done has ultimately been for nothing. What's the best way to maintain the will to take initiative, when, for most of my life, personal action hasn't mattered? [more inside]
Amazing, newer French novels that are not available in English translation? [more inside]
I'm 26 year old guy recently returned from teaching in Japan, out of a job, and looking for a new adventure. [more inside]
I am unemployed, living in New York City, with no health insurance and need to see a dermatologist. I can't afford a $250 visit. Does anyone know of a (cheap) dermatologist I could see?
Happy DINK having doubts: How do you discern between real change in baby-making opinion and just temporary hormonal brooding? [more inside]
Can I teach myself to be a silversmith? More specifically, I want to make nice rings, with drusy and cut stones, and maybe some raw brass pendants. But how do I start? [more inside]
Know of an anti-perspirant widely available in Australia that has a subtle or no perfume? [more inside]
Is $10,000 enough for me to move out of Florida (where I am currently) and make it in Los Angeles without a job lined up? [more inside]
Accidental DJ would like awesome advice on danceable music. [more inside]
Pregnant and Scared: How to have a baby and a life? Advice desperately needed: Were you somehow able to fulfill your dreams (travel, career, etc.) with a baby, especially if you were middle class (or lower) economically? If so, how did you do it? [more inside]
My boyfriend is not putting effort into our relationship to the same degree I am? [more inside]
Why does the motorola branded micro usb cable that came with my droid phone both charge *AND* transfer data, but generic micro usb cables will only charge the phone? [more inside]
Will a few thousand dollars be enough for me to move out of the Midwest (where I am currently) and make it in Oregon without a job lined up? [more inside]
Does anyone have a copy or know where I can find the video of Doc Ellis' no-hitter game while he was tripping on LSD?
Relative constantly contradicts me on all matters large and small. Help me not lose my mind! [more inside]
Has anyone seen "Sleep No More" in NYC? Trying to get first hand reviews of the show.
Had a brief, but harsh exchange of words with someone on an online message board where I stated his response of "No Homo" made me feel uncomfortable. He said I was the most humorless person on the board. Should I learn to accept a joke even if I don't like it? [more inside]