TL;DR: Current job: The good: relaxing, fancy title, nice perks/benefits, flexibility, easy schedule The bad: boring, frustrating, mundane, not in a field I love, full of micromanagers, no room for growth, no intellectual challenge A different job: The good: a field I think I want to be in, intellectually challenging, meaningful, room for growth The bad: loss of perks/benefits, potential loss of schedule flexibility, not easy, stressful, lots of unknowns Which would you chose? [more inside]
So, have been vegan for just a little while now, and living in San Francisco, it's been great. However, I have a trip to New Orleans planned in a couple weeks which wouldn't worry me that much except I'm meeting my folks there and they're definitely not vegan. [more inside]
I have been put in charge of beautifying a tiny patch of land in nyc, what should I plant in it? [more inside]
My partner and I are flying from the US into Melbourne on the first of July and leaving two weeks later. The arrival and departure flights are booked, and now we're looking to lock down our travel schedule within Australia and between Australia and New Zealand. How ambitious is this itinerary? [more inside]
I'm in the market for a new car and I _think_ I've narrowed the options to either a Honda Accord or a Honda CRV. Help me decide! [more inside]
My fiancee and I are moving to a new city/apartment this summer. Our current place never really felt like a home; it was a temporary, pre-furnished living situation and we made it work for us for a couple of years. Now that we're moving and buying adult furniture and all that jazz, we want our next place to feel like our Home. So, AskMeFi....How do we do this well? What do you wish you knew when you first moved into your home?
Nobody can prepare you for motherhood, nobody can even come close to describing the joys, sadness and all other mixes of emotions that come with adding a new life to your family. And nobody really shared the struggles or "not so pretty" side to motherhood, so with my feelings of yearning for my old life I feel so guilty that I haven't embraced this new life with an open heart and arms...are these feelings normal? Do mothers and fathers roles cause resentment, because there is inevitibly more responsiblity on the mothers (by nature to nurture if that makes sense)? How do you maintain a relationship with your SO when life seems to be so seperate now that a baby has arrived? A lot of the fun we had together is now seperate. [more inside]
I've come to realize the people I work for are fake and opportunistic to the point I've been looking quietly for a job. Then they offered me a substantial promotion. Do I take it and tolerate them until I can go elsewhere? Or do I quit now and move laterally on to something else? [more inside]
"Hi! Just wanted you to know that if you ask me to coffee, I would say yes." [more inside]
Settle a debate between me and my wife. She insists EVERY new article of clothing must be washed before wearing. T-Shirts. Underwear. Socks. All washed first. Even bed-sheets and towels (a not-yet-used comforter started this debate.) I say brand new out of package is as clean as can be. Who's right?
I'm going to be spending ~5 days and 5 nights on New Zealand's North Island in the last week of March (after Easter). I'll be there with a friend. Can you help make our trip a little less vague than it currently is? Details under the cut. [more inside]
I am in the market for a new desktop, and would like an iMac. Wondering if there are other options (read more inside if interested). [more inside]
Traveling to NOLA and I have two questions: I read a really great article about Jean and Pierre Lafitte in the New Yorker or Harpers or maybe it was a podcast on This American Life (?). It was beautifully written and very dramatic, and now I can't find it. Hope me! Also, recommendations for NOLA-typical foods that are usually gluten-free (instead of gluten-free specific restaurants). Thank you! [more inside]
I signed up for a sprint triathlon in June. By the time June rolls around, I want to be confident that I can complete the triathlon in relative comfort and calm, and not be dead last. Basically, by race day, I want it to not be a big deal. I don't care about being fast. I have some very basic equipment and a limited budget, and a *very* constrained schedule for working out. Help me figure out the bare essentials of preparing for this triathlon. [more inside]
Approaching 37 weeks, and all the anxieties of new-mommyhood abound. I've read extensively, bought all the recommended recovery/ nursing/ baby comforting paraphernalia I think would be useful... and I'm still acutely aware that this is our first go-round and my husband and I have ZERO idea what to expect (other than sleep deprivation, a sense of despair, and unpredictability). [more inside]
I have been trying very hard at a new job in a new industry, and have been reprimanded twice (both in front of other people and alone) by my boss during my second week in training. I am made to feel incompetent when I know I am very capable person who is simply learning the landscape. Please help me navigate this situation. [more inside]
I met this girl from an online dating site from Peru, and we have been chatting by text and on skype for seven months. Now she has moved to Toronto in Canada for school, but I live in Boston, and we agreed to do a long distance relationship for some time while I look for jobs in Canada or Buffalo, NY (which is close to Toronto). I only know this girl through 7 months of skype and texting, and she came to visit me one weekend recently and we got to hang out, and we had a really good time together. But I am having doubts about moving to a brand new city for someone I hardly know but I am still attracted to her, and as far as I know she has a really nice personality. Would it be worth it to leave everything behind to move to Toronto just to be close to her? The other thing is that I really like Toronto as a city, and I have a close friend who lives there.
My wife and I are interested in getting a dog. We sort of thought of it as something we'd ease into, especially since we had heard that adoption can take a little bit of time. We stopped by a nearby animal rescue this weekend just to see what was involved, and met a very sweet, gentle 7-year-old pugle. We were very surprised to be told that the rescue does same-day adoption, and we could potentially take her home that day. I balked a little bit because our apartment isn't really set up for a dog, but we're both first time dog owners, so don't really know what that even means. [more inside]
I am going back to New Orleans for next month. Since medicaid was just expanded in Louisiana, in the event of a health emergency, will my NY state medicaid work down there?
How long does it take to find another job in another city? On average? I am currently living in Providence RI, but I want to move to Buffalo NY, and I want to secure a job in Buffalo first. How long would it take to find a new job in a new city that is many miles away?
Hi all! Around 6 months ago, I took on a contracting/freelance (they use the terms interchangeably) position at a large company. Sadly, they have no intention on making the position permanent for any of the contractors in our department; this is in addition to me feeling the company isn't the right fit for me. As a result, I've started applying to other jobs. It's going surprisingly well and I've nailed down two interviews thus far... the problem, you may ask? How the heck do I get time away from my existing job? [more inside]
My husband and I want to sell our house, move, and possibly start new careers. We hope to do all of this within a year, and I am overwhelmed with where to start. [more inside]
I have an old, old iPhone 4s (bought used about 2 years ago, it was probably one of the first 4s's manufactured!) which has been great and very reliable. It's doing some things that worry me, though, and I was wondering if I really must get a new phone soon or can I put it off longer. [more inside]
I'm heading home to New Zealand for the holidays and would like to get a prepaid sim with some data and decent coverage. [more inside]
What do you wish you had known or done before starting a new job? [more inside]
I am looking to get the healthiest I have ever been. I am specifically looking for workout assistance. I am absolutely not looking for any diet advice. My schedule is a little weird and my anxiety over being around others while working out is also a little weird, but I'm also open to many new things. Snowflakes.... [more inside]
I need to know if mentioning on an interview that I've just started working a new job is advisable or not. Is it frowned upon to be searching for a new job so quickly, or is it seen as being proactive? Are you supposed to stay on a job you don't think is a good fit just because it's only been a month? These are questions I am wrestling with as I prepare for an interview on Monday. If there are any federal employees or HR folks who can advise on this, I would be so appreciative. [more inside]
The Internet appears to have swallowed an almost ten-year old commercial from the NYTimes about its (then new) Weekender subscription service, which included the famous "Saturdays, the word alone makes me happy" comment. It was parodied here by the 92Y Tribeca (RIP) and was then revised by the NY Times. I am, however, looking for the original ad that ran in 2006 (according to this Time article). Was even able to locate the abridged version of the commercial, but can't find the original. MeFi's can you help me save this from the internet rabbit hole?
I've gotten out of a ten-year plus job that was essentially (if not in reality) a protected workplace and not too difficult and now am going to tackle (have been hired for) a new, higher-up and better paying one (before the first job I was very sick for quite a while and therefore couldn't work at all so missed out on the opportunity to learn about much about the Big Girl/Big Boy details of life in the workplace). Because of this, I feel like I really don't know what I should be doing (besides the work I mean). What is your very best advice for being/appearing professional on the job? I know about not gossiping and being on time.
Hi, everyone. So it's only been my third day of a new job and I had to call in sick. I feel absolutely mortified and really worried about what my manager thinks of me now. I would have still gone if it was just the death-like flu symptoms, but I was also vomiting and I knew I wouldn't have been able to make it there, let alone the rest of the day. On top of that, my wallet was stolen at the doctor's office which had the employee security badge to enter the building inside it, so I'm going to have to ask for a replacement for that as well - in my first week! Talk about bad luck... I called in to let my manager know, and she did say that she would rather not have me come in and spread germs in the office and it was best that I stayed home.Still, I'm very worried about the impression I may have given to her about my reliability. I don't want her to think I'm flaky and not fit for the position. My mind is so fuzzy right now, please help me figure out what I can to assure her that this was a one-time thing and she can be confident that she can trust me to be a reliable employee... Thanks in advance, guys.
Help a geeky, introverted West Coast girl find good food and fun stuff to do in NYC. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
I am a professional in NYC, living in Queens. I'm a transplant, but I think I will be here for the next, well, forever. A number of people I know are buying apartments, but a lot of them had help from their parents. I don't have that luxury, but if I wanted to, I could probably afford a place in a good neighborhood (though nothing as trendy as Astoria, for example). Snowflake details follow! [more inside]
I'm not really looking for "how to make new friends" advice, but more of how to cultivate and grow a community of friends - fellow young families in particular. Has anyone had success doing this in a similar situation, and how, exactly, specifically? [more inside]
Feeling anxiety/paranoid at a new job. Help. [more inside]
How did you and your partner survive parenthood? [more inside]
For a specific project at work, we will require an iPad in the near future (say, next week or two). We are only interested in new merchandise (NOT refurbished or used). I was tasked with exploring the best prices on iPads. We are not constrained to any specific vendors, but obviously need a reputable one. I thought the prices of Apple products were essentially uniform across retailers -- but are there deals to be had on new iPads? If so, how do I find them? [more inside]
I'm looking for my cousin, who would like to come here for 2 months or so and study English. I was hoping to find a program that would put her with a family here (I don't really have the space or lifestyle for it). And of course, I need the program to be reputable and safe :) I imagine this sort of thing HAS to exist. Do you know of one?
I am looking to find out the average # of residents on a block within the 5 boroughs. The hard part is finding out how many blocks are in a square mile. The estimates of how many blocks are in a square mile varies a lot. Do you have any idea of how many people on average live in a city block within the 5 boroughs? Thank you for your help!
I live in New York City and I have a friend coming into town in a few weeks who is going through alcohol recovery. I'm looking for things to do in the city with them that lessen the presence of alcohol in the environment. [more inside]
A month ago I successfully applied and received an offer for an internal role. Initially, everything was good but for the last two weeks neither the new management or director have communicated at all with me. I am supposed to start this upcoming Monday, but with two days to go I haven't heard anything regarding my new project or even where to show up. I have sent several emails to the new manager and still haven’t heard from them. What is your recommended course of action? [more inside]
Recommendations for a new DVD player? [more inside]
I'm itching for change and would like to move to preferably in the next year. I'm looking into San Francisco, Los Angeles, New York City and Portland. I've moved before and to different states/ cities, but this would be the biggest move ever in my life. I need advice on how to find jobs out of state, finding a place to live, and how to get all my junk across country as well. Is it easier to just save up a bunch and move and find a job when I get settled or should I try to get a job and then use that opportunity to move? Any tips or advice would be appreciated. [more inside]
Apartment hunting in Brooklyn moves a mile a minute and we have a quick decision to make. There's a good apartment in park slope. We love the idea of it but there's one weird thing: there's a "bump" in the ceiling. The ceiling is sort of tiled, and the area under the light fixture buckles down into a ~meter wide contact lens-like shape. It's odd, and the landlord doesn't plan to "fix" it because he says there's no problem. There's no sign of mold or leaking there or anywhere else in the apartment for that matter. Questions: 1) What concerns should we have and 2) should we sign a lease? For those who don't know NY housing hunts, if you don't decide, someone else will and then you're back to square 1, so hoping folks can weigh in with everything we should be thinking about! (and I don't know how to post a picture, but will if someone tells me how!)
Please help me understand if this is a bedbug. [more inside]
My friend is looking to change careers and hopefully move into the nonprofit world. Is a career change possible at her age? What should she be doing? What types of positions should she be looking for? She's in her 50s and has a legal background. She can practice law and formerly worked in legal publishing, but she hasn't worked in law for decades. She's spent the last decade or so as an analyst at a financial company.
Am I too, ahem, old, to learn new tricks? [more inside]
I'm headed to NYC for the weekend and would like to spend part of a day relaxing at a spa, with massage, sauna, baths, the works (think Aire Ancient Baths or Russian Baths, for two I've considered). Where, based on your experience (preferably personal) will I be least likely to stick out as a woman who's a size 22? [more inside]
My old computer died. How do I sync my iPhone to a new computer without losing all of my new photos and videos? [more inside]
I'm in the market for a new (to me) car. I've looked at old AskMes and googled, but still have a lot of questions on how to determine which car to buy and how best to buy it. Would greatly appreciate your help! [more inside]
The new macbook is incredibly sexy. However, like most of you already know, it has tradeoffs compared to the current Air. So I was thinking that the 2nd generation next year might hit the sweet spot for me. [more inside]