I have been at my current job for five years; 2 years ago I transitioned from an active-duty (military) position to the same job as a civilian hire on a 2 year contract. I was hired at a salary below the median, with the understanding that this would be expected to increase. I have been upfront that I would like to stay, but would want my compensation to be more commensurate with industry standards. As the end of my contract approaches complications ensue...
[more inside]
posted by maryrussell
on Jun 29, 2010 -
6 answers
How can we convince our property manager to fix our leaky roof and is our beloved complex disintegrating?
[more inside]
posted by Pamelayne
on Jun 12, 2010 -
9 answers
I need to deal with intimidation and be intimidating myself. I am, alas, of an accommodating nature. How do I do that?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on May 7, 2010 -
23 answers
I recently applied for an apartment that I saw through a realtor. Then I met with the landlord and they wanted to negotiate the price up. Is this reasonable or not?
[more inside]
posted by serathen
on Apr 22, 2010 -
16 answers
Would I be greedy if I tried to make a salary counteroffer without any real reason?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Apr 18, 2010 -
9 answers
What information do I need to have at my fingertips to profitably negotiate the sale of a commercial rental property? Or should I even do it?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Apr 15, 2010 -
8 answers
A psychological question about work -- How can I be zen and mature about a work reorganization? (I know this sounds like a boring work question, but it's really about how to get over fears of being left out or that other people are better than me.)
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Mar 26, 2010 -
8 answers
In my first interview, when asked about salary, I was the first to state a number. Am I screwed?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Feb 26, 2010 -
10 answers
Salary negotiation - how to do it? I know that,
in theory, you're supposed to get them to talk first. Does that really work? How do you do that without coming off like a jerk? Nowadays, the salary question starts in the first email. I generally deflect this question pretty well, but in the interview when they ask "What salary range are you looking for?" I run out of things to say. How do you answer this question? Give me specific phrases I can use. Based on an
earlier AskMe threads, the Noel Smith Wenkle approach works well. On the other hand... (more inside)
[more inside]
posted by MesoFilter
on Feb 4, 2010 -
27 answers
How do I ask for a substantial raise in these circumstances?
It's review time at my company. In the past this has consisted of a brief discussion of the previous year, and either a predetermined raise, or no raise at all.
[more inside]
posted by mad bomber what bombs at midnight
on Jan 5, 2010 -
14 answers
I'm a veteran software engineer / technical lead working for an internet company. I think I've got an opportunity to really cash in at my job, and need guidance on how best to do this.
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Nov 30, 2009 -
9 answers
What approaches have worked for you to reduce the size of a medical bill after services have been rendered?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Nov 12, 2009 -
6 answers
How can I transition from a public-sector web job to a private-sector job and get a good private-sector salary?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Sep 23, 2009 -
11 answers
Negotiating salary. What? How? Do I email? Phone? Accept the offer, and then negotiate? And what wording do I use to not sound like a dick?
[more inside]
posted by schroedinger
on Sep 5, 2009 -
11 answers
NegotiationFilter: An old acquaintance who I trust is giving me the opportunity to invest in a business in which I would do all the work and he would provide all the financing. The amount of money he is talking about is in the mid six figures.
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jul 26, 2009 -
14 answers
What's the usual room block requirements when planning a wedding or meeting? Any negotiating tips?
[more inside]
posted by ejaned8
on May 7, 2009 -
4 answers
How do you gain consensus? As a project manager, I need to bring people to the table and get them to agree on positions. This is not always easy. I can't imagine how incredibly difficult it must be for Obama to bring together Republicans and Democrats. What type of magic is required to get people on the same page and moving in the same direction? Real world examples, anecdotes, books, tips, techniques all welcome.
posted by jasondigitized
on Mar 16, 2009 -
16 answers
[I am asking this for a friend.] Legal troubles over a decade-old debt to a bank. I am being sued by a law firm representing a collection agency. I would like to find a way to resolve this situation that does not involve hiring a lawyer, since I cannot afford one. I receive income via Social Security Disability.
[more inside]
posted by not_on_display
on Feb 13, 2009 -
16 answers
How should I go about negotiating a new lease with my leasing company? Ideally I would pay the same or less in monthly rent.
[more inside]
posted by anotherpanacea
on Jan 31, 2009 -
6 answers
How does a very logical person deal effectively with someone who makes all their decisions on an emotional basis? I’m asking for the benefit of a friend who is a having a terrible time with her marriage, but I’ve also never had any success myself in dealing with people who make all their decisions on an emotional basis. I get very frustrated when someone insists on making the emotional choice even though it makes no practical sense, and especially when they won’t even take responsibility for the consequences of doing so. If any of you have had success in this type of interaction, I’d love to hear about it.
[more inside]
posted by orange swan
on Jan 20, 2009 -
41 answers
What's the best way to buy a .com domain from a squatter? Have you used a third-party to anonymously negotiate a domain purchase? I'd be very interested to hear your experiences.
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Nov 21, 2008 -
10 answers
I was just offered a job I was turned down for last month. How do I best handle the conversation?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Oct 7, 2008 -
19 answers
When buying a house is it better to have the seller pay the closing costs or to reduce the sale price of the home?
[more inside]
posted by jclovebrew
on Oct 1, 2008 -
9 answers
Have you ever gotten past what seemed like a major impasse in a romantic relationship? Something significant that the two of you, after MUCH thoughtful discussion spread over months, just couldn't usefully agree about? Did a couples therapist or other neutral third party help you? What else helped you?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Sep 26, 2008 -
9 answers
My wife and I asked her sister for my wife's wedding dress back. She is refusing to give it to us until we pay her for damage to her car.
[more inside]
posted by adi
on Jul 27, 2008 -
58 answers
My wife has a salary review coming up. A few months ago a colleague doing the same job as her revealed his wage was £1000 a year more, though he has been there for a shorter time. Should she mention this in her meeting?
[more inside]
posted by hatmandu
on Jul 9, 2008 -
21 answers
So I'm looking to buy a house, but my short-sale offer was rejected by the seller's lender. (I assume the seller's financial situation is not as dire as necessary for their bank to approve a short sale for them.) Any suggestions on how to buy the house without throwing money away?
[more inside]
posted by mhh5
on Jun 13, 2008 -
28 answers
I've accepted a new job and I'm giving notice tomorrow. I may have low-balled myself, salary-wise. If my current employer counter-offers, can I ask my new employer to match?
[more inside]
posted by PlusDistance
on Jun 1, 2008 -
10 answers
I think I'm too nice to do certain things entrepreneurship requires. I need tips to be a tougher negotiator and be able to drive good deals.
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on May 22, 2008 -
15 answers
At what point in the job interview process is it appropriate to inquire what the salary might look like?
[more inside]
posted by boots
on May 2, 2008 -
17 answers
i'm considering asking for a raise at work, which might essentially require asking for a raise for my whole team. soliciting opinions on if it's appropriate at this time.
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Apr 9, 2008 -
9 answers
In which careers can one can get the most experience doing complex negotiations early on -- and make good (or great) money at it?
posted by shivohum
on Mar 28, 2008 -
4 answers
I interviewed for a job, all went really well, and I was told they would offer me the position, but I wanted too much money. So I tried to work some negotiating magic, and I'd like input on my counter-offer and if other people have done this and if it works like I hope.
[more inside]
posted by high0nfire
on Mar 27, 2008 -
14 answers
I gave a collector Right of First Refusal on a painting. How long should I give him to decide?
[more inside]
posted by artdrectr
on Mar 24, 2008 -
7 answers
I'm expecting a promotion soon. I want to move to a better office. Should I ask to move now, or wait until my review?
[more inside]
posted by acridrabbit
on Mar 18, 2008 -
7 answers
My car spontaneously combusted. Please help me avoid getting burned by the insurance company! Of all the values out there, which one is the closest to what they insurance company will offer me, which one should I be aiming for and how should I go about getting it?
[more inside]
posted by quakerjono
on Mar 3, 2008 -
12 answers
