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Family negativity

I'm technically not married, but my boyfriend and I are in a very committed relationship (we bought a house together, adopted two dogs together, and I foresee no separation in our future). Anywho. My boyfriend happens to be a twin. As you can imagine, he and his twin brother are very close. Problem is, I can't say that I share the same affection for the twin as my boyfriend does. In fact, I find it very difficult to be around both him and his wife. They are quite negative people. I feel like if the four of us (me, boyfriend, twin, twin's wife) were all in a difficult situation, twin and wife would be the first to point out everything that was going wrong. As you can imagine, it's pretty emotionally draining to be around them for extended periods of time. [more inside]
posted by Teradactyl on Aug 2, 2016 - 27 answers

Take it easy on yourself..

Feeling anxiety/paranoid at a new job. Help. [more inside]
posted by MeaninglessMisfortune on Sep 14, 2015 - 9 answers

Co-worker drama over complaining

Navigating the post-friendship relationship with someone in a small work environment. [more inside]
posted by lizbunny on Jul 20, 2015 - 28 answers

How to stop negative rumination?

Greetings. I seem to have a terrible case of negative rumination and I cannot impede my negative thoughts at all; this jeopardizing my work ethic and academic studies. I would greatly appreciate some pragmatic tips and positive thinking advice. I'm not sure how to stay optimistic and positive about the world and myself. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 8, 2015 - 16 answers

Do Public Broadcasting Stations Keep ALL Public Comments

During fund drives, I'm always told the positive comments of listeners who support the mission of public broadcasting and the drives that pays for the public radio and TV stations to operate. But I recently heard a public radio volunteer say he thinks public TV gets up to 40% negative comments and public radio gets about 10% negative comments. [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind on Mar 22, 2015 - 3 answers

Severe depression and self-doubt about intelligence and people?

I have been experiencing terrible bouts of depression and anxiety for the past four months or so now. I also have turbulent mood swings, ranging from being content in the morning, and scornfully miserable in the afternoon. I'm not certain what is causing all of this. I'm not an emotionally stable person; always unhappy and anxious. I have lost all desire to fulfill my hobbies, which includes: writing, reading, watching documentaries, deep conversations, watching old films, debating, poetry, social activism, and learning knowledge in general. I do not think I'm intellectual or socially exciting enough, therefore I have abandoned all of my hobbies. [more inside]
posted by RearWindow on Feb 23, 2015 - 14 answers

Strategies for dealing with customer complaints (in text form)

I've recently taken a part-time job with duties that include responding negative/complaint emails (from parents of kids in an after-school program). I've had lots of practice responding to these types of situations in person (thanks, retail work), but somehow seeing the comments in text makes them weigh more heavily on me. [more inside]
posted by btfreek on Jan 27, 2015 - 9 answers

Making contact prints from sleeved 35mm negatives

I have several hundred pages (sleeves) of 35mm color negatives. A few years ago I started a project to scan-in all the negatives. But because of my own disorganization, the project has turned into a big mess. [more inside]
posted by akk2014 on Oct 28, 2014 - 10 answers

Losing Weight

I have asked a similar question in the past about how to shed the weight, but I am really struggling to do what I need to do. I need to take off roughly fifty pounds and I thought that if I transitioned to a vegan diet that this would help with it. I was cleared by my doctor to workout, he gave me a stress test and said that everything was okay. [more inside]
posted by nidora on Sep 7, 2014 - 37 answers

Worried mom of 10-year-old son with inferiority complex

10-year-old that struggles with many things who, for a few years now, has, when feeling sad/depressed, talked about how no one likes him, he's not good at anything, has no special qualities, isn't smart... etc. Looking for ways to help him. [more inside]
posted by youdontmakefriendswithsalad on Jun 15, 2014 - 51 answers

Negative scanning services?

I have a bunch of 35mm negatives from the 90s and 00s I'd like to get scanned, and I'm wondering what services people recommend. ScanCafe was recommended in a previous post, which sounds like it would work for me, but I'm wondering if other folks have better / cheaper recommendations. In particular the color correction seems unnecessary to me since I can color correct the few images I'll probably want to post myself in Lightroom.
posted by pombe on May 14, 2014 - 3 answers

Was I slandered, or am I just paranoid?

I recently got the opportunity to apply for a cherry job that would have solved a lot of my current problems, but I seem to have blown it. I'm wondering if a bad employer reference might have done me in? [more inside]
posted by cartoonella on Dec 6, 2013 - 26 answers

Help me focus less on my fears and more on my dreams.

I'm struggling with a lack of self-confidence and undercurrent of doubt, and hoping that I might be able to shift my attention more towards what I hope for the future than what I fear from it. What are some simple techniques that I can use to gradually move the spotlight over to the positive? Looking for very concrete exercises or practices. Something like: “start each morning writing a vision of what you want.” Would that actually work? I'd think it might just freak me out more, make me feel guilty that I'm not there yet. But something concrete like that. Thanks. [more inside]
posted by Calicatt on Oct 4, 2013 - 11 answers

Lose a good friend or try to fix it?

Is a man who pretends to be friends with a woman when he is actually interested in more than friendship doing something shady? Should said woman (myself) drop him as a friend or give him a chance to adjust? He’s a good friend and generally a positive, interesting and charming friend to have (smart, insightful, witty, capable of deep conversation, trustworthy with secrets, understanding…). I’m simply not interested in dating him (for many reasons, the most glaring of which is that he’s sexist in subtle ways that I couldn’t tolerate in a partner), but I value and love his friendship and conversation. I do not want to date him, ever. I don’t know if I should salvage our friendship or let it go, for his sake and mine...I've included the details below but I think this summary captures what I am trying to intellectually and emotionally figure out. [more inside]
posted by grassbottles on Feb 28, 2013 - 54 answers

How do I deal with an oversensitive, constantly negative friend?

How do I deal with an oversensitive, constantly negative friend? I am the only "real friend" X has, so I don't feel comfortable totally breaking off the friendship, but interacting with X frequently leaves me wanting to scream. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 20, 2012 - 31 answers


I encountered this phenomenon from my practice as a graphic designer: - it looks as though people with narcissistic streak and big ego - people who have problem with empathy - they also have a problem with negative space. They are anxious about it, they don't understand it and want to fill it with information. They don't "experience" beauty directly , but instead, they form "narrative" about it. I often encountered this while working with medical professionals (where narcissism is quite common). Is this something I imagined or is this something that's actually confirmed in psychology/psychiatry?
posted by leigh1 on Jun 24, 2012 - 20 answers

What benefit does a Negative Operating Cycle get you?

What benefit does a Negative Operating Cycle get you? Other than just cash on hand. Amazon has a lot of cash because they practice Just In Time inventory management & sell out of their products before the bill for that product comes due. Other companies pay the bill first & then wait for the stock to sell out to recoup their money. Aside from the benefit of having cash on hand, what benefit do you get from this? [more inside]
posted by MesoFilter on Feb 17, 2012 - 19 answers

How to determine polarity of electric wires.

I have two DC electric wires: one is positive, one is negative. Without buying anything, how can I tell which is which? [more inside]
posted by brenton on Jul 27, 2011 - 16 answers

Make a video about us -- but it has to be a NICE video

I'm trying to find a story about an SUV or truck company that allowed users to make commercials for their vehicles -- and people made some very negative ads. [more inside]
posted by Flying Saucer on Jun 9, 2011 - 6 answers

Upside down with negative equity, what can I do?

So when I bought my house it was worth around 280K. Its currently valued at around 155K. My mortgage is about 220K. So I have a lot of negative equity and I just got divorced which halved my income which makes making the payments harder. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 30, 2011 - 10 answers

The negative of music

What would you hear if you played the negative image of an LP? [more inside]
posted by ricochet biscuit on Mar 7, 2011 - 10 answers

How do you handle a poor recommendation from a professor you still have to take classes from?

How do you handle a poor recommendation from a professor you still have to take classes from? (Special Snowflake details inside) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 24, 2011 - 39 answers

Help me get through conversations with my sister!

Looking for advice when relating to my sister. She says some things that are very judgemental, and I would love advice about how to brush her comments off without getting into an argument. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 7, 2010 - 32 answers

Zero to Hero in one month?

If I haven't loved myself for months, can I make myself love myself in a month? [more inside]
posted by tunestunes on Jul 11, 2010 - 19 answers

How to move past feeling like a shitty teacher

I feel awful. I adjusted my grading practices and now I have all these emails from angry students. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 6, 2010 - 65 answers

Not going digital, but...

Considering buying a negative scanner, and looking for recommendations. [more inside]
posted by JoanArkham on May 5, 2010 - 15 answers

"...try as we may to make a silence, we cannot." - John Cage

What visual artists are known (or would you say should be) for use of white space / negative space? [more inside]
posted by regicide is good for you on Feb 6, 2010 - 31 answers

Hopelessly lost in algebra land

I am having the hardest time working with positive and negative integers in elementary algebra. Please hope me. [more inside]
posted by hollygoheavy on Oct 5, 2009 - 20 answers

Small change embarrassment

Small change embarrassment: After buying an eBay item I had $4.20 in my Paypal account. Unluckily my eBay seller fees were charged at the same time for $4.35. I now presumably have a negative balance of -$0.15 in my account. I have added $10 from my bank account (which has money in it sufficient to cover all this) to Paypal, but it will not clear for a few days. What will happen to my Paypal account.
posted by bad grammar on Jun 15, 2009 - 7 answers


How do I ignore negative thoughts without suppressing them? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 20, 2009 - 15 answers

Looking To Make A Positive From Many Negatives

[PhotographyFilter] Recommendations for an affordable negative scanner? [more inside]
posted by Bobby Bittman on Nov 9, 2008 - 7 answers

Best way to deal fairly with non-spam, malicious comments on a personal blog?

Best way to deal fairly with non-spam, malicious comments on a personal blog? Deleting them straight away, or allowing such comments but following up with an answer/reply? [more inside]
posted by gemmy on May 9, 2008 - 14 answers

Positive, "universal" Yeats poems?

I'm seeking a W.B. Yeats poem that's as "positive" and as "universal" as possible -- specifically, that doesn't talk about death, or aging, or romantic love -- and that isn't spoken by, or addressed to, one individual who's clearly female or male. [more inside]
posted by lorimer on Jan 25, 2008 - 10 answers

Defining the Japanese Concept of 'Ma'

What do you know about the Japanese word/concept of 'Ma'? I know it denotes the negative space between objects and it relates closely to the similarly used Japanese word 'Mu'. [more inside]
posted by 0bvious on Dec 27, 2007 - 15 answers

Dust spots? Water marks? Crud on film?

Why am I getting blotches on my black and white negatives? What are the marks? Are they dust? Water spots? How do I fix this? [more inside]
posted by Geckwoistmeinauto on Nov 28, 2007 - 13 answers

How to find a quality film and negative scanner?

Scanning slides and negatives. What level of scanner must I consider to get high res. files from which I can produce sharp, digital prints up to 8" x 10"? Canon offers the CanoScan LiDE 600F for around $140.00 but I'm concerned about the quality of it's scans.
posted by tangyraspberry on Oct 17, 2007 - 7 answers

How can I become much less of a pessimist and negative thinker?

How can I become less of a pessimist and less of a negative thinker? [more inside]
posted by damn dirty ape on Aug 18, 2007 - 20 answers

How can I get a handle on the negative thoughts running through my mind constantly

To those who have successfully treated their depression using CBT or are in the process of doing so: How did you/ do you handle the constant barrage of negative thoughts and self evaluations? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 21, 2007 - 20 answers

eBay retaliatory negative feedback retaliation

I won an eBay auction, but the seller didn't have the item in stock at the time of the auction's completion. Two weeks later I was given a full refund via PayPal. I left neutral feedback (pretty neutral experience, wouldn't you say?), and got retaliatory negative feedback from the seller, along with a request to have the feedback mutually withdrawn. How can I stick it to him? [more inside]
posted by tipthepizzaguy on Mar 29, 2007 - 30 answers

Can Neteller Impact a US Credit Report?

Can offshore companies such as neteller, firepay, various online gambling sites and other such companies that operate outside of the US, but have us based customers, tarnish or submitt negative information to US credit reporting agencies (trans union, Equixfax, etc) ?
posted by crewshell on Dec 6, 2006 - 2 answers

sorry about this

what is a (left-to-right) mirror image of the standard logarithmic graph called? [more inside]
posted by hayeled on Oct 23, 2006 - 16 answers

Experience with 35mm negative scanning services?

I have negatives from ten rolls of 35mm color film (about 240 pictures total) that I'd like to get scanned. Has anyone had any experience with companies that do this sort of scanning? Any to recommend or avoid? [more inside]
posted by jimw on Jan 5, 2006 - 6 answers

printing/cross-processing in nyc

I'm looking for a good photo lab in Manhattan... [more inside]
posted by provolot on Nov 29, 2005 - 6 answers

Scanning negatives

I have a Canon CanoScan 9950F and I'm attempting to use it to scan 126-format negatives. [more inside]
posted by Scoo on Aug 13, 2005 - 3 answers

Wiring a Dishwasher

Electricity: I'm wiring up a new dishwasher with the power cord from the old dishwasher. Just to make things interesting, the power cord has absolutely no indication of which side is positive and which side is negative. Is this because it's AC and it doesn't matter? I'm in the US on 110.
posted by yerfatma on Dec 6, 2004 - 14 answers

Negative calorie foods ?

Three vaguely questions on negative calorie foods and dried fruits.[MI] [more inside]
posted by twine42 on Sep 10, 2004 - 16 answers

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