I'm technically not married, but my boyfriend and I are in a very committed relationship (we bought a house together, adopted two dogs together, and I foresee no separation in our future). Anywho. My boyfriend happens to be a twin. As you can imagine, he and his twin brother are very close. Problem is, I can't say that I share the same affection for the twin as my boyfriend does. In fact, I find it very difficult to be around both him and his wife. They are quite negative people. I feel like if the four of us (me, boyfriend, twin, twin's wife) were all in a difficult situation, twin and wife would be the first to point out everything that was going wrong. As you can imagine, it's pretty emotionally draining to be around them for extended periods of time. [more inside]
Feeling anxiety/paranoid at a new job. Help. [more inside]
Navigating the post-friendship relationship with someone in a small work environment. [more inside]
Greetings. I seem to have a terrible case of negative rumination and I cannot impede my negative thoughts at all; this jeopardizing my work ethic and academic studies. I would greatly appreciate some pragmatic tips and positive thinking advice. I'm not sure how to stay optimistic and positive about the world and myself. [more inside]
During fund drives, I'm always told the positive comments of listeners who support the mission of public broadcasting and the drives that pays for the public radio and TV stations to operate. But I recently heard a public radio volunteer say he thinks public TV gets up to 40% negative comments and public radio gets about 10% negative comments. [more inside]
I have been experiencing terrible bouts of depression and anxiety for the past four months or so now. I also have turbulent mood swings, ranging from being content in the morning, and scornfully miserable in the afternoon. I'm not certain what is causing all of this. I'm not an emotionally stable person; always unhappy and anxious. I have lost all desire to fulfill my hobbies, which includes: writing, reading, watching documentaries, deep conversations, watching old films, debating, poetry, social activism, and learning knowledge in general. I do not think I'm intellectual or socially exciting enough, therefore I have abandoned all of my hobbies. [more inside]
I've recently taken a part-time job with duties that include responding negative/complaint emails (from parents of kids in an after-school program). I've had lots of practice responding to these types of situations in person (thanks, retail work), but somehow seeing the comments in text makes them weigh more heavily on me. [more inside]
I have several hundred pages (sleeves) of 35mm color negatives. A few years ago I started a project to scan-in all the negatives. But because of my own disorganization, the project has turned into a big mess. [more inside]
I have asked a similar question in the past about how to shed the weight, but I am really struggling to do what I need to do. I need to take off roughly fifty pounds and I thought that if I transitioned to a vegan diet that this would help with it. I was cleared by my doctor to workout, he gave me a stress test and said that everything was okay. [more inside]
10-year-old that struggles with many things who, for a few years now, has, when feeling sad/depressed, talked about how no one likes him, he's not good at anything, has no special qualities, isn't smart... etc. Looking for ways to help him. [more inside]
I have a bunch of 35mm negatives from the 90s and 00s I'd like to get scanned, and I'm wondering what services people recommend. ScanCafe was recommended in a previous post, which sounds like it would work for me, but I'm wondering if other folks have better / cheaper recommendations. In particular the color correction seems unnecessary to me since I can color correct the few images I'll probably want to post myself in Lightroom.
I recently got the opportunity to apply for a cherry job that would have solved a lot of my current problems, but I seem to have blown it. I'm wondering if a bad employer reference might have done me in? [more inside]
I'm struggling with a lack of self-confidence and undercurrent of doubt, and hoping that I might be able to shift my attention more towards what I hope for the future than what I fear from it. What are some simple techniques that I can use to gradually move the spotlight over to the positive? Looking for very concrete exercises or practices. Something like: “start each morning writing a vision of what you want.” Would that actually work? I'd think it might just freak me out more, make me feel guilty that I'm not there yet. But something concrete like that. Thanks. [more inside]
Is a man who pretends to be friends with a woman when he is actually interested in more than friendship doing something shady? Should said woman (myself) drop him as a friend or give him a chance to adjust? He’s a good friend and generally a positive, interesting and charming friend to have (smart, insightful, witty, capable of deep conversation, trustworthy with secrets, understanding…). I’m simply not interested in dating him (for many reasons, the most glaring of which is that he’s sexist in subtle ways that I couldn’t tolerate in a partner), but I value and love his friendship and conversation. I do not want to date him, ever. I don’t know if I should salvage our friendship or let it go, for his sake and mine...I've included the details below but I think this summary captures what I am trying to intellectually and emotionally figure out. [more inside]
How do I deal with an oversensitive, constantly negative friend? I am the only "real friend" X has, so I don't feel comfortable totally breaking off the friendship, but interacting with X frequently leaves me wanting to scream. [more inside]
I encountered this phenomenon from my practice as a graphic designer: - it looks as though people with narcissistic streak and big ego - people who have problem with empathy - they also have a problem with negative space. They are anxious about it, they don't understand it and want to fill it with information. They don't "experience" beauty directly , but instead, they form "narrative" about it. I often encountered this while working with medical professionals (where narcissism is quite common). Is this something I imagined or is this something that's actually confirmed in psychology/psychiatry?
What benefit does a Negative Operating Cycle get you? Other than just cash on hand. Amazon has a lot of cash because they practice Just In Time inventory management & sell out of their products before the bill for that product comes due. Other companies pay the bill first & then wait for the stock to sell out to recoup their money. Aside from the benefit of having cash on hand, what benefit do you get from this? [more inside]
I have two DC electric wires: one is positive, one is negative. Without buying anything, how can I tell which is which? [more inside]
I'm trying to find a story about an SUV or truck company that allowed users to make commercials for their vehicles -- and people made some very negative ads. [more inside]
So when I bought my house it was worth around 280K. Its currently valued at around 155K. My mortgage is about 220K. So I have a lot of negative equity and I just got divorced which halved my income which makes making the payments harder. [more inside]
What would you hear if you played the negative image of an LP? [more inside]
How do you handle a poor recommendation from a professor you still have to take classes from? (Special Snowflake details inside) [more inside]
Looking for advice when relating to my sister. She says some things that are very judgemental, and I would love advice about how to brush her comments off without getting into an argument. [more inside]
If I haven't loved myself for months, can I make myself love myself in a month? [more inside]
I feel awful. I adjusted my grading practices and now I have all these emails from angry students. [more inside]
Considering buying a negative scanner, and looking for recommendations. [more inside]
What visual artists are known (or would you say should be) for use of white space / negative space? [more inside]
I am having the hardest time working with positive and negative integers in elementary algebra. Please hope me. [more inside]
Small change embarrassment: After buying an eBay item I had $4.20 in my Paypal account. Unluckily my eBay seller fees were charged at the same time for $4.35. I now presumably have a negative balance of -$0.15 in my account. I have added $10 from my bank account (which has money in it sufficient to cover all this) to Paypal, but it will not clear for a few days. What will happen to my Paypal account.
How do I ignore negative thoughts without suppressing them? [more inside]
[PhotographyFilter] Recommendations for an affordable negative scanner? [more inside]
Best way to deal fairly with non-spam, malicious comments on a personal blog? Deleting them straight away, or allowing such comments but following up with an answer/reply? [more inside]
I'm seeking a W.B. Yeats poem that's as "positive" and as "universal" as possible -- specifically, that doesn't talk about death, or aging, or romantic love -- and that isn't spoken by, or addressed to, one individual who's clearly female or male. [more inside]
What do you know about the Japanese word/concept of 'Ma'? I know it denotes the negative space between objects and it relates closely to the similarly used Japanese word 'Mu'. [more inside]
Why am I getting blotches on my black and white negatives? What are the marks? Are they dust? Water spots? How do I fix this? [more inside]
Scanning slides and negatives. What level of scanner must I consider to get high res. files from which I can produce sharp, digital prints up to 8" x 10"? Canon offers the CanoScan LiDE 600F for around $140.00 but I'm concerned about the quality of it's scans.
How can I become less of a pessimist and less of a negative thinker? [more inside]
To those who have successfully treated their depression using CBT or are in the process of doing so: How did you/ do you handle the constant barrage of negative thoughts and self evaluations? [more inside]
I won an eBay auction, but the seller didn't have the item in stock at the time of the auction's completion. Two weeks later I was given a full refund via PayPal. I left neutral feedback (pretty neutral experience, wouldn't you say?), and got retaliatory negative feedback from the seller, along with a request to have the feedback mutually withdrawn. How can I stick it to him? [more inside]
Can offshore companies such as neteller, firepay, various online gambling sites and other such companies that operate outside of the US, but have us based customers, tarnish or submitt negative information to US credit reporting agencies (trans union, Equixfax, etc) ?
what is a (left-to-right) mirror image of the standard logarithmic graph called? [more inside]
I have negatives from ten rolls of 35mm color film (about 240 pictures total) that I'd like to get scanned. Has anyone had any experience with companies that do this sort of scanning? Any to recommend or avoid? [more inside]
I'm looking for a good photo lab in Manhattan... [more inside]
I have a Canon CanoScan 9950F and I'm attempting to use it to scan 126-format negatives. [more inside]
Electricity: I'm wiring up a new dishwasher with the power cord from the old dishwasher. Just to make things interesting, the power cord has absolutely no indication of which side is positive and which side is negative. Is this because it's AC and it doesn't matter? I'm in the US on 110.
Three vaguely questions on negative calorie foods and dried fruits.[MI] [more inside]