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New relationship - how can I learn to chill the *&#! out?

So, I'm in a new relationship, we've been together about 2 months. Although I liked him from the beginning, he was slightly keener and always the one arranging dates, etc. I told him I was a slow burner, he was ok with that and happy to go my pace. [more inside]
posted by Britchick35 on May 2, 2016 - 9 answers

Dealing with a needy & draining coworker

A needy coworker that sits behind me relies heavily on me as a lunch/social companion, I have made a few work friends myself that I prefer to hang out with ,and have tried to invite her out along as a an attempt to help her meet some new friends, but she always ends up completely silent at the table and makes everyone uncomfortable. She's not a pleasant person to socialize with in the first place, how may I untangle myself from her without causing strife at work? [more inside]
posted by 01080591 on Mar 7, 2016 - 12 answers

How to donate shoes so that they'll be given away rather than sold?

I have managed to accumulate (over time and several bad buying decisions) three pairs of quality-make men's shoes of different types, all in nearly-new condition, that I don't want or can't wear, and I'd like them to go to someone who could really use them. The thing they have in common is each has a non-obvious flaw that would cause buyer's regret in anyone who actually paid money for them, so Goodwill is out. [more inside]
posted by George_Spiggott on May 17, 2015 - 15 answers

I do love your head butts... but I've got stuff to do

My little kitty Binky has grown really needy over the last few days and I have no idea what's going on with her! [more inside]
posted by JenThePro on Nov 18, 2014 - 16 answers

I have only a little to give but how to draw the line?

I have a needy friend that I have been helping out, but I need to draw a line somehow. Complication: we work together. I can’t let my friend and her son literally starve, but I really am pretty broke. I don’t know how to word things / deal with the situation to tell her I can’t give any more, when she inevitably requests more help. [more inside]
posted by sock puppetron on wheels on May 24, 2014 - 36 answers

How can I be less needy?

My about 15-year marriage is in severe difficulty. A big part of this is me being too needy. My wife and I knew I was needy before we got married, but both thought that getting married would fix it. It hasn't. I'm taking an antidepressant, and we are in therapy and both committed to staying together. I've read some other answers on AskMi, and am following up with some book recommendations, but I feel like I need more help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 11, 2014 - 29 answers

How to deal with this needy friend..

I don't mind making new friends, but it's when they have to contact me every day is where I cross the line. How can I handle this situation delicately? [more inside]
posted by Autumn89 on Sep 5, 2013 - 21 answers

How to gently let down a 'friend'

I've been 'friends' with a woman for just under a year and am finding it difficult to maintain the friendship she is very needy. [more inside]
posted by Flowerpower on Jun 3, 2013 - 17 answers

I acted needy- can I do anything to rectify this?

Been dating a guy for 4 months and I acted needy, is there anyway I can resolve this. I don't want to lose him but fear it may be a little late now! [more inside]
posted by artystar on Mar 11, 2013 - 38 answers

How to break up with needy girlfriend?

Hi all, I have been together with my girlfriend for almost 3 years. It has probably been the loneliest three years of my life. [more inside]
posted by silvershadow on Nov 26, 2012 - 71 answers

Is it possible to make my cat less needy?

Cat psychology filter: Is it possible to make my cat less needy? [more inside]
posted by randomnity on May 17, 2012 - 15 answers

This relationship is so puzzling.

Is it time for a dtr (define the relationship) talk? Is it too soon? How would I go about doing this? [more inside]
posted by StrictlyVague on Mar 26, 2012 - 44 answers

how to survive long-distance neediness

how needy is too needy in a long-distance relationship? [more inside]
posted by happyjuice on Dec 4, 2011 - 17 answers

Help me hone my creepometer!

Online Dating Filter: What are some tell-tale red flags that someone might turn into a creep? Please help me fine tune my creepometer! [more inside]
posted by floweredfish on Sep 21, 2011 - 88 answers

Looking for materials to use in a nonprofit social media training

I'm looking for materials that can be used to help train people how to best use social media to help nonprofits engage the community. [more inside]
posted by reenum on Jul 26, 2011 - 1 answer

It's not needy, you're just being silly.

I feel that if I ask people to do anything with me, it's somehow "needy". At the same time, I know that this is ridiculous. Please help me work through this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 4, 2011 - 16 answers

We started with sex. Then liked each other a lot. Now how do we slow down?

I met a girl from a club and we had sex. She had a boyfriend then (she cheated on him with me). She is now single & we have been incredibly close. I think I'm being clingy and I need help BIGTIME because I really like her. [more inside]
posted by Vandal on Apr 30, 2011 - 23 answers

Is she needy or is it me?

Am I an a-hole or is she really emotionally needy and insecure? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 24, 2011 - 48 answers

Why Do You Love Me When We Barely Know Each Other?!

How do I respond to a very distant and very needy relative who recently started emailing me, begging me to correspond with her? [more inside]
posted by hollisimo on Dec 14, 2010 - 14 answers

should I pay for match.com platinum?

[overthinking filter] Should I pay for match.com platinum? [more inside]
posted by mercredi on Aug 3, 2009 - 18 answers

Take our toys, please

My school-aged children received some money for the holidays and decided to buy toys for needy kids instead of spending it on themselves. I took them shopping yesterday and, all told, they've got about $300 in toys to donate in addition to what I'm also kicking in. Now, what are we going to do with this stuff? [more inside]
posted by _Mona_ on Dec 23, 2008 - 11 answers

Cat expert needed! I petted a stray I feed, now he clings to me like a limpet. How do I get him to relax?

A neglected neighborhood cat has moved into my yard and is driving me crazy with his nonstop needy behavior since the day I petted him. What can I do to help him chill out? [more inside]
posted by Jennifer S. on Oct 26, 2008 - 16 answers

Clingy like a barnacle.

How can I extract myself from a relationship with an overly-clingy (and engaged) coworker? Whole mess o' details inside. [more inside]
posted by moitz on May 22, 2008 - 20 answers

I'm needy--help! (pun intended)

I'm needy--help! (pun intended) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 3, 2007 - 19 answers

How can I avoid feeling lonely?

How can I avoid feeling lonely? [more inside]
posted by rwatson on Oct 11, 2006 - 20 answers

Need Girlfriend Breakup Advice

I'm a graduate student who has been dating a classmate for about a year and a half. She a nice girl for the most part and a mother. I should explain that she got pregnant at an early age (19) from an older man (about twice her age) and still managed to do well academically. While I realize that she is very well put together academically, emotionally she is not as mature a person as I would ideally like to be with. I recently broke up with her (or at least I thought I did), but ended up right back in her arms consoling her and attempting to stem the apparent emotional devastation this break up was causing. I have been clear about my issues and honest to no avail. What do I do to get out of this relationship? We live in the same building and function in the same atmosphere. I can live with her hating me. During the (mock) break-up she told me I was the best thing that ever happened to her and she can't let me go. I am only her second boyfriend (the first being the father of her child) and third person she's ever had sex with. She has a history of clinging. I imagine a lot of people would say sever this cold turkey, but theres no such thing for someone who clings so tightly and does not appear to have the emotional coping skills to deal with rejection. I am afraid of her hurting herself, the kid, me and so on. She has absolutely no friends outside of her sister who is a year younger, while I have many. She doesn't appear to be able to connect with anyone other than her sig. other (me) and her sister. She hates her mother, doesn't know her father that well and says she is unable to bond with her child (quote, " I don't really feel attached to the child"). This leaves me alone on an emotional island of sorts. Maybe we all need therapy. I have taken the issue of birth control into my own hands, as I am afraid if left to her we might 'accidentally' end up in babyland. A bad situation for all. Any ideas, I'm open.
posted by nmorgan on Jul 7, 2005 - 21 answers


I'm looking for this : http://www.gonzo.org/hst/ht/funstopped.html [more inside]
posted by mrs.pants on Feb 21, 2005 - 1 answer

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