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How to stop guilt about putting your self first

What helped you stop fearing that you're a bad person for putting your needs before others wants, when those people were really suffering? (Context: relatiobships) [more inside]
posted by Chrysalis on Aug 31, 2016 - 17 answers

Parted like the Red Sea

What buyers' guides based on release dates and announcements do as well as MacRumors does for Apple products? I'm specifically interested in GPUs, but I'd be interested to hear about any other product categories covered so helpfully.
posted by michaelh on Feb 2, 2016 - 1 answer

"Good" Reasons for Not Doing/Getting a Desirable Thing

Coming at this from a psychological/sociological stance, not a personal/idosyncratic one. What are the broad categories of reasons someone doesn't do or get something they say they want? For example, one would be "Doesn't really want it" (actual desire or willingness to 'pay the cost'). Another: "Doesn't know how to achieve it" (the domain of knowledge/capability). And, perhaps, "Doesn't have permission" (no power/authority to effect the change). [more inside]
posted by dancing leaves on Nov 14, 2015 - 32 answers

How selfish is it OK to be in life?

I struggle with thinking I "should" do a lot of things, and feel guilty about not doing more for charity and for other people. How can I find a good balance between doing what I want to do for myself, and doing my duty as a good person?
posted by sninctown on Apr 23, 2015 - 18 answers

How can I be better at anticipating others' practical needs?

I want to get better at accommodating others when they are trying to do something practical. Holding doors open for others is the obvious example, but other little things such as remembering to grab a spoon along with food someone requested, positioning myself as to not get in the way of others when people are moving things, keeping things tidy, retrieving the right tools for a job... [more inside]
posted by gemutlichkeit on Mar 5, 2015 - 11 answers

Caregiver for cerebral palsy

Hi, so last night I met a sweet family who hired me to be a companion/ nanny / caregiver for their son who has cerebral palsy. I am not a nurse, I work in a hospital but no patient contact. I have however, a few months of cerebral palsy experience from the time I volunteered in college . We were talking about money- and she said something : I usually pay my nurses 20/hour , but you know they are nurses. However, I am willing to pay you that if you will learn to do tube feeding. So I guess I am confused with what she said? I don't know how much she will pay me, cause she didn't say anything exact, right? Should I ask or should I let it go and see when she pays me? What would u do?
posted by barexamfreak on Sep 10, 2014 - 14 answers

How to talk to my parents about my special needs brother

I (24yo F) live independently here in DC and have a good life. I have a great full-time job that pays pretty well for someone my age, go to grad school part time, and have a happy social life. I have an excellent relationship with my parents, but I need to talk to them about how my special needs sibling (21yo M) affects my life in the present and the future. I get along very well with my parents, but I'm not sure how to broach this topic in a way that is productive and respectful. [more inside]
posted by schroedingersgirl on Aug 19, 2014 - 24 answers

Help me stop being blinded by positives

Nearly 8 months after leaving a bad marriage and (eventually) initiating a divorce, I'm looking to move on with my life. Not necessarily by dating just yet - I've still got a lot to sort through before I'd inflict myself on anyone - but eventually. One of the things that I need to work on is my tendency to see the positives in any situation, which often leads me to ignore the negatives. How can I train myself to find a better balance between the positives and negatives? [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Jul 15, 2013 - 13 answers

Post grad student resources - what do y'all need?

Provided those needs are cheap, and can be provided on a website run by your Faculty. [more inside]
posted by b33j on Jun 2, 2013 - 8 answers

Do I really want to go into medicine, or do I simply want to want it?

I've been setting my goal on medicine (looks like it's not immediately, but in the next few years). However, I've been having doubts and second thoughts ever since I went into my undergraduate years. I'm graduating undergrad now, and have an entry-level job at a hospital. How and when will I know if that's what I want? [more inside]
posted by Seeking Direction on Apr 6, 2013 - 23 answers

Old friends, babysitting, child with special needs?

Old friends, babysitting, child with special needs? [more inside]
posted by skbw on Jan 4, 2013 - 13 answers

Healthy and fulfilling expectations for a relationship

What are the healthy and fulfilling expectations of what a relationship should be and do for you? [more inside]
posted by yeahyeahyeah on Nov 25, 2012 - 8 answers

"i miss you." "UGH, really?"

How to deal with feelings of revulsion when others are expressing their need for your time and care? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 17, 2012 - 31 answers

Do we "need" love?

Do we really "need" romantic love in our lives? Is there a magical point of self-love where one just attracts love from others? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 4, 2012 - 27 answers

My man fixes my stuff, but doesn't touch me enough

Boyfriend is great, but how can I get him to meet my emotional needs more consistently? [more inside]
posted by hungry hippo on Jul 6, 2012 - 31 answers

My boyfriend can't be in my life how I would like?

My boyfriend can't express himself much at all, should I be concerned? [more inside]
posted by Chelsaroo650 on Oct 24, 2011 - 30 answers

How not to people-please your way to relationship angst

How do those who tend to people-please stay honest with their feelings and needs in romantic relationships? I want to avoid becoming overwhelmed and disoriented after about half a year or so, which seems to happen again and again. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 27, 2011 - 14 answers

shameful school principle needs to be exposed

How can I get the word out about a bad school principle? [more inside]
posted by tangyraspberry on Sep 15, 2010 - 17 answers

Legal issues for special needs children

As a parent of a special needs child, what are some legal issues you wish someone had told you about before you had to deal with them? [more inside]
posted by valkyryn on Aug 12, 2010 - 4 answers

helping high-functioning sister gain independence

special needs filter: how do I help my high-functioning sibling gain independence? what have your experiences with special needs siblings been like? [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish on Jul 22, 2010 - 4 answers

What do I need and want from a relationship?

Looking for tips on to figure out what one needs in a relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 23, 2010 - 9 answers

The Impossible to Shop for Relative

Christmas Gift Filter: Uncle who does and needs nothing. What to get? [more inside]
posted by zizzle on Dec 2, 2008 - 30 answers

People-the 8th wonder of the world.

There are times that I find it really hard to "understand people". Two questions have been weighing on my mind this weekend. How do I accomodate people's practical needs that I'm not familiar with? How do difficult people make and keep friends? [more inside]
posted by sixcolors on Mar 23, 2008 - 22 answers

Stomp stomp stomp, KILL

Some new neighbors just moved into the flat above us. How do I reduce the noise of their constant stomping? Would asking them nicely render a solution? And more importantly, is there some stomping disorder in modern psychology that I should know about? Because their flat is the same size and layout as ours, which isn't that big at all (you can walk across the hall to the door in about 10 steps) and I am genuinely baffled at how much stomping can indeed be done in such a capacity.
posted by bondgirl53001 on Jan 16, 2008 - 33 answers

Software for construction

I am a contractor who specializes in Multi family apartment remodeling. Can anyone recommend an estimating software that is affordable and easy to use.
posted by hernandez5000 on Sep 15, 2007 - 1 answer

Need list of autism schools

Is there a comprehensive list of US schools for autistic children available in print or on the web ? [more inside]
posted by jurczyk on Mar 22, 2007 - 6 answers

Blame the caffeine for all the 5 a.m. phone calls

[Insecure Female Filter] Help me feel less clingy when asking for affection from or even just displaying it to my more stoic significant other. Back story & lots [more inside]
posted by Phire on Jan 2, 2007 - 17 answers

dui dad

I need help from a Chicago cop to arrest my Dad for a DUI... [more inside]
posted by phredhead on Nov 14, 2005 - 68 answers

What Do You Want?

What do you want that you are not getting? [more inside]
posted by strangeleftydoublethink on Oct 4, 2004 - 69 answers

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