Basically I paid $400 (really cheap rent) for a small room sublet in Bensonhurst and one of my friends with benefits (who I knew for about a month), heard about my situation incidentally and kept on asking me to split rent with him in the Bronx. It's not a particularly bad area and it was financially feasible (he lives alone and his dad pays half his rent just as a nice gesture, so we'd split the remaining amount - $250 a month on me and the rest on him - about the same).
So primarily for financial reasons, as I could save money on rent, I started moving my things and called my landlord to tell him I'm leaving this month within a couple weeks.
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posted by antgly
on May 9, 2013 -
16 answers
I'm a 22-year-old college grad living home with my dysfunctional family after being away at school for four years. I want to go to dental school but need to take pre-requisite science courses first. These courses should take me 1-2 years to complete. I work about 35 hours per week, but I have no savings and ~40K in student loan debt. My dad is an alcoholic and my mom is frighteningly codependent on him. The environment in my house is miserable and stale. That being said, financially it makes the most sense for me to live home for a couple more years. Should my focus be on moving out ASAP or learning to adapt to the dysfunction while I get my shit done?
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posted by DayTripper
on Mar 9, 2013 -
22 answers
My girlfriend and I have been together for 15+ years. We are no longer able to get along and function together, and we need to break up. We have an eight year old kid and financial problems. How do we handle the logistics of separating?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 9, 2013 -
13 answers
I've given two subletters three months notice to move; they are arguing that I "don't have the power" to ask them to move out, and are demanding "proof" that I can do so. Details inside.
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posted by the other side
on Oct 12, 2012 -
12 answers
Novice/don't know what the hell I'm doing Filter: Moving away from home for the first time and need to create a budget! Any tips/help?
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posted by horizonseeker
on Jun 20, 2012 -
10 answers
I got a kitten. The kitten is not allowed to live with me in the family-owned house I stay in during the school year. Do I give up on being a cat momma and leave my kitten at my parents' house? Or do I go for broke and find my own place? The easy route is galling, but the hard route looks HARD. I'm not sure whether I should swallow my pride or man up.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 8, 2011 -
21 answers
Is moving out of my parents’ house a good or a bad idea? On the one hand if feels foolish to leave behind a rent-free, comfortable room in a loving home, but on the other hand the desire to feel more independent carries a lot more emotional weight for me.
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posted by efsrous
on Jul 26, 2011 -
29 answers
I am a 28yo female feeling overwhelmed by some significant life changes. I am just over 2 months sober. My current employment contract (for a great job that I love, in a very competitive field) ends in December and there is a good chance the position will be made redundant. And 2 days ago I broke up with my live-in partner of 4 years, as despite the fact that I care about him deeply, we don't communicate that well and I feel doubts about committing to a long-term relationship with him.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 18, 2011 -
14 answers
Need advice on handling finances during a separation. I will be seeking the advice of an attorney/mediator in the near future, but want to hear how others have handled similar situations.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 5, 2011 -
6 answers
Should the fiance stay or should she go? She has a chance to move out, no strings attached, no penalties, no hard feelings... but should I ask her to, make her, or something else?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 18, 2011 -
44 answers
I want to move out of my parents' place so I can get on with being an adult. Please help me figure out what I need to know in order to do it!
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posted by patronuscharms
on Nov 23, 2010 -
41 answers
Landlord/tenant filter: Providing somewhat later than required notice that I'm moving out. How to approach & what should I/can I offer?
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posted by midatlanticwanderer
on Jul 24, 2010 -
3 answers
After some soul-searching, I've decided I need to break up with my live-in boyfriend. Our lease is up in August, and I'm worried about how to deal with living together when we're no longer "together" while we're looking for new apartments. I'm sure many of you have gone through this, so any anecdotes or advice would be helpful.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 22, 2010 -
28 answers
Playing Driving Miss Daisy with my mom for the past 4 years, and I'm now 23. It's time for me to move on, but how, when communication is dry? Details inside.
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posted by Giggilituffin
on Feb 22, 2010 -
23 answers
I'm gonna be moving outta the house when I turn 18. Any tips, tricks, or in-depth online guides out there that you think I may find useful?
posted by bobertdude
on Jan 11, 2010 -
45 answers
I'm thinking of buying a cheap multi-bedroom apartment in the Chicago Hyde Park/north Woodlawn area to move into next year. I've never done anything like this before. Please give advice on how to search for and screen apartments and, if I went through with this, on the responsibilities I would face as resident and landlord.
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posted by flawsekno
on Jan 10, 2010 -
9 answers
I'm 16 years old. I have (though somewhat borderline) Asperger's and I'm highly intellectually (verbal, not quite visual-spatial) gifted. I don't do well in school, you could say I'm an "underachiever". I graduate high school this year. I will most likely not get into either of my top universities in the city (I'm Canadian, btw). I don't mind taking next year (from graduation until I'm 17.5) to "mature a bit" but eventually I want to go to school overseas. I need to prove to my parents I can live alone... without actually living alone.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 13, 2009 -
30 answers
My younger sister is moving in with her future-fiancé. How to mark this passage, and what house-warming gift to buy them?
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posted by SebastianKnight
on Nov 7, 2009 -
7 answers
Surprise! I'm a new renter. I wasn't expecting the opportunity, but a house is up for rent on the block where I work and they informally accepted my bid. With a deadline. What now?
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posted by Phyltre
on Nov 4, 2009 -
21 answers
Feeling horribly guilty about the possibility of breaking up with a really great person. How can I articulate to SO reasons that I don't fully understand myself? And what responsibility should I take for practical matters such as finding a roommate to replace myself, cancelling mutual holidays etc?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 21, 2009 -
5 answers
I live in Los Angeles. I'm close to signing an option on a screenplay. But I desperately want to live somewhere else, should I...?
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posted by PostIronyIsNotaMyth
on Mar 10, 2008 -
11 answers
I need help bringing up the subject of moving away from home. Any advice?
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posted by Spike
on Dec 7, 2006 -
30 answers
