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Boundary Setting After Being Friend-Dumped due to His Unrequited Feels

My now ex-friend, a friend of ten years, close friend for seven, and best friend for one, broke up with me as my best friend and friend after it became clear that I wasn't going to date him. How do I set and enforce good boundaries to keep it from backsliding into the same nonsense drama (or new drama) when we share so many spaces, including living space? [more inside]
posted by Mouse on Mercury on Sep 10, 2016 - 29 answers

Should I reach out to my ex now?

My ex-boyfriend and I (a woman) were together for the better part of a decade, starting in our mid 20s. We both thought that we would be partners for life. But in the first few weeks of this year, after several months of conversation about our life goals, I decided to break up with him, because we had grown to have different goals re: marriage & children (I want both; he wanted neither). I do not want the relationship back, but I would like for us to stay in touch. Is now an okay time to reach out? Please read the rest. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 5, 2016 - 24 answers

When should I quit my job?

I just accepted a new job that starts in mid-August, and I'm struggling with when to tell my current job that I'm leaving. [more inside]
posted by SobaFett on Jun 19, 2016 - 8 answers

New boss, better than the old boss

How do I stop carrying over anger and anxiety from a previous job with a terrible supervisor? [more inside]
posted by ziggly on Jan 29, 2016 - 7 answers

Finally pulled the plug on relationship, feeling confused.

I finally pulled the plug on my relationship after I realized I had been unhappy for most of it. My boyfriend was surprisingly understanding and respectful about it. I have a flight in a week, but I find myself often wondering if I’ve done the right thing. I’m worried I might back out of leaving and I need help. Our history and wall of text inside. [more inside]
posted by AdriftInSpace on Aug 24, 2015 - 20 answers

Adults who love life and have no kids: what is your lifestyle?

I'm not too excited about the "get married and have kids" or the "devote yourself completely to your job" approaches, yet these seem (to me at least) to be the two most common lifestyles that happy people report. Currently I take the "play video games and watch TV" approach, which isn't really happy-inducing for me anymore. For the rest of you out there who would consider yourselves happy, what lifestyle sustains you? What do your days look like? What do you do to keep things interesting for yourself? Thanks for your thoughts. [more inside]
posted by HumanBean on Jun 14, 2015 - 38 answers

When does this go away?

I've been separated from my husband for about 18 months. I'm with the person I left him for (that's the short version) and we're very happy. Except. I still miss my ex every day. I dream about him at least a few times a week. When does this stop? I would like to hear from those who have grieved a relationship and moved on. [more inside]
posted by outoftime on Apr 25, 2015 - 22 answers

Shut up, brain, just shut up!

There are some incidents that happened in the past that I'd rather not think about, but still do. [more inside]
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper on Apr 17, 2015 - 24 answers

How do you move on after a really bad fight?

My hubby and I had an enormous blowup a few months ago and it's still bothering me. I am seeing a counselor to work through some of the residual feelings and depression that have come in the aftermath of the fight, which is helping a lot. I would like some additional insight from other MeFites about how you have dealt with difficult feelings with a partner after a really bad incident. [more inside]
posted by chatelaine on Nov 6, 2014 - 120 answers

A birthday greeting from a significant and estranged ex

How should I have handled receiving a birthday greeting form an ex who completely broke my heart and whom I haven't contacted since? [more inside]
posted by blokefromipanema on Jul 18, 2014 - 31 answers

Please help me get her out of my head.

I broke up with someone just over 3 months ago and I just cannot get her out of my head. I don’t know if this is a fixation, obsession, rumination or normal grieving? [more inside]
posted by blokefromipanema on Apr 29, 2014 - 28 answers

Should I start dating again?

I'm still hurting form a recent break up. Would a foray back into the world of online dating help me get over it and move on? [more inside]
posted by blokefromipanema on Apr 3, 2014 - 23 answers

taking responsibility in a breakup

How do you manage healing from a breakup when you contributed a lot to the problem? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 12, 2013 - 18 answers

What are some hacks to not crave my ex?

I am already doing no contact and no exposure to my ex. Still, I get very regular cravings, thoughts, and dreams about them. It takes time out of my day, and disrupts my other relationships. I don't imagine I can make this stop, maybe ever, or for a long time. It's already been about a year. What are some practical, concrete tips to make this impact me less? [more inside]
posted by htid on Jul 19, 2013 - 17 answers

Help me navigate my relationships with well-meaning former coworkers.

I left a toxic workplace six months ago for a new job. I'm happy with my new gig, but running into former coworkers still puts me in a funk -- and I see them constantly. How do I handle interactions with them if I work in the same field and/or travel in the same social circles? Snowflakery inside. [more inside]
posted by whenbynowandtreebyleaf on Jun 21, 2013 - 10 answers

Getting over a toxic boss in time for a new job

For the past year or so, I've been supervised by an especially moody and critical manager. Fortunately, my contract ended and I'm getting ready to start a new job at a different organization. How can I get over my grudges and feel confident in my new position? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 8, 2013 - 9 answers

I want to forget about her, but she's famous now

I wish I could forget about the girl who broke my heart when I was a teenager, but it seems the world doesn't want to let me, because she's famous now, while I'm struggling. How do I deal? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 17, 2013 - 47 answers

My guy friend keeps mentioning the girl I was dumped for... what to do?

A few months ago I was suddenly and harshly dumped for an acquaintance. One of my guy friends still has a crush on this acquaintance and keeps mentioning her to me. How to prevent this from happening again? [more inside]
posted by Sock of Silliness on Mar 14, 2013 - 38 answers

Is There Ever A Chance After You're Rejected?

Do people ever reconsider after rejecting someone? Or is that a pipe dream? I asked someone out and got rejected...but things seem to remain unclear. [more inside]
posted by christiehawk on Feb 19, 2013 - 50 answers

I hate conflict - help me make peace with a breakup gone bad

Help me make peace with the way a relationship ended while processing a major health scare, family issues, a new job and new city. [more inside]
posted by rockpaperdynamite on Dec 12, 2012 - 9 answers

Moving on from not-quite-the-one

Help me move on from a relationship where you care for each other and nothing was wrong, but it wasn't right either. Anecdotes about finding greater happiness later are especially welcome. [more inside]
posted by lacedcoffee on Nov 1, 2012 - 13 answers

How to discharge anger at an ex two years after the breakup?

When everything on the surface seems healed and healthy after a breakup, how do you quash obsessive thoughts and anger about an abusive ex- two years on? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 17, 2012 - 20 answers

What is the best choice for this relationship?

Should I tell the person I've dated that his time is up? [more inside]
posted by kellybird on Sep 9, 2012 - 30 answers

Everyone is leaving me! How I do deal with everyone else moving away and moving on while I'm stuck here?

Everyone is leaving me! How I do deal with everyone else moving away and moving on while I'm stuck here? [more inside]
posted by gumtree on Aug 19, 2012 - 12 answers

How do you move on in a healthy light from an abusive childhood?

No former teenage angst here; what do you do when your parents genuinely SUCK? [more inside]
posted by Chelsaroo650 on Jul 16, 2012 - 20 answers

What separates the "never-recover-from-this-breakup/shell of my former self" people from the ones who bounce back and love again?

Why is it that some people never seem to recover after a bad break-up or divorce? You know those people...the sort of "empty shell" folks who walk around perpetually sad or simply damaged in some way that keeps them frozen in place. I ask this question on behalf of myself--as I not-so-recently went through a break-up with a man I considered to be THE ONE--but also because I knew someone who had yet to recover from their divorce after eight years. [more inside]
posted by exploringoptimism on May 30, 2012 - 34 answers

Hung up on a hook-up

Help, I'm still depressed about a woman that stopped calling me ages ago [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 6, 2012 - 13 answers

Please explain forgiveness to me

Please explain forgiveness to me! [more inside]
posted by marimeko on Dec 4, 2011 - 32 answers

At the crossroads

My family and I are at a crossroads where we will soon have the flexibility to change our life to whatever extent we want. How do we decide? [more inside]
posted by altopower on Aug 23, 2011 - 9 answers

How do I move past hurt caused by a former friend?

How do I move past hurt caused by a former friend? [more inside]
posted by moira on Jul 17, 2011 - 25 answers

What is the ideal soundtrack for taking this job and shoving it?

At long last, I'm quitting a job I hate and moving on to something better. All I need is a playlist for the last day. [more inside]
posted by dr. boludo on Jul 11, 2011 - 53 answers

Memorial ideas for ten years after a parent's suicide

This December it will be ten years since my father committed suicide. My mother, brother and I have started talking about ways to observe the anniversary, but we're not sure how. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 10, 2011 - 11 answers

We love each other, how do we stop so we can get on with our lives?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little more than a year and we are really good together but don't share the same "life goals." We have to break up, right? How? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 23, 2011 - 32 answers

A heart that hurts is a heart that works.

Turning a corner in the breakup process. How do I stay grounded while my heart catches up with my head? [more inside]
posted by Ceci n'est pas un sockpuppet on Oct 15, 2010 - 6 answers

Goodbye to all that

I was with my ex-wife for a long, long time. She cheated; we separated and ultimately got an easy divorce. We’ve each moved on, and I’m close to proposing to my girlfriend after about two years together. We’re a great pair. But I often feel unanchored, cast about by the knowledge that nothing lasts forever. Am I doing it wrong? Other divorced folks (esp. those on the dumped side)—what’s the path forward? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 20, 2010 - 18 answers

I already have a dartboard, so that's out.

What to do with pictures/mementos of an ex? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 23, 2010 - 38 answers

Did I make a mistake, are my standards too high?

I made the right decision here right? Or my standards too high and I'll die lonely, missed by no one? [more inside]
posted by althanis on Aug 15, 2010 - 26 answers

Ex-gf of last month is getting married. Why has this upset me?

I just found out the exgf - of 3-4 weeks - is engaged. Help me sort out of my feelings and make me realize this has nothing to do with me? [more inside]
posted by althanis on Aug 7, 2010 - 33 answers

Moving on from a bad relationship.

Relationship has ended, and it's probably for the best, but why do I keep remembering only the good times, and keep feeling sad and like I've made a mess of it? [more inside]
posted by althanis on Jul 30, 2010 - 20 answers

How to be ok with my boyfriend's feelings?

Crazy card alert? Please, help me sort out my relationship, MeFi world! [more inside]
posted by LemonGardot on Jul 6, 2010 - 15 answers

De profundis clamavi ad te

Ghosts-of-relationships-past-filter: How do I forget an old girlfriend, years gone by? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 11, 2010 - 20 answers

Help me move on.

I need to move on after a relationship with this guy for two years. He was the best thing that could happen to anyone. He brought me lost of gifts, treated me well, painted a portrait of me, made me laugh, listened to my problems, etc. In short it was enough to make all of my girlfriends totally jealous. The thing that nobody else knew about was how serious this was really getting. We talked about getting married sometime in the future, about having babies, once we even fought about whether we'd send them to boarding school or not. He had fought with his mother over me(she didn't approve cz my dad is rich and thought he'd never approve). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 18, 2010 - 19 answers

Jumping de Fences

How do you ask your significant other personal questions without coming off as challenging? [more inside]
posted by MayNicholas on Feb 22, 2010 - 23 answers

Friends shouldn't have an expiry date

I can't seem to keep any friends for more than two years. Why do I do this and how can I stop? (somewhat long, sorry) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 18, 2009 - 11 answers

Have you met my new much much better than you boyfriend?

Was in love with a friend. He is not in love with me. Haven't talked to him in 3 months, but find myself constantly having (childish) fantasies of him begging me back, going into a jealous rage when I've found someone else, and basically living with the horrible regret of throwing away his one chance at happiness. Must regain sanity and purge these thoughts. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 30, 2009 - 22 answers

Why can't I get over this breakup?

The break-up was the logical, sane conclusion to my doubts about my ability to stay faithful. The relationship of a few years did not have a future in a happy marriage--I needed more experience and growth, she needed growth, period. So why, over half a year after I broke it off, am I still wondering if I made the right decision? Why can't I get her out of my head? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 20, 2009 - 10 answers

Need to move on...

I just broke up with my boyfriend and I am heartbroken and super lonely in New York City. How can I keep myself busy and meet new people? Help me out NYC Mefites/ breakup advice givers! [more inside]
posted by pulled_levers on Jul 5, 2009 - 30 answers

How to become unstuck?

breakup filter: It's been two months after the end of a nearly 6 year relationship (this was also my first relationship, ever). I'm still having trouble letting go, but he, evidently, is not. Help me stop comparing my now-self to my then-self, me to him, and who-he-left-me-for to what-I-was-worth-to-him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 21, 2009 - 21 answers

She won't accept I've left her, I can't stop feeling terrible.

Why won't my ex move on? And am I ever going to stop feeling tied to her? [more inside]
posted by plechazunga on Jun 10, 2009 - 26 answers

post-breakup fallout

Questions on post-breakup insomnia, anxiety, and making decisions about my future. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 4, 2009 - 23 answers

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