I decided to end my "relationship" with someone I saw for nine months. We both have the same hobby, and seeing him there has been stirring both negative and positive emotions. I don't want to give up the hobby. I could handle the negative emotions - because that's what you're supposed to feel - it's the positive ones that are doing me in. How can I get past them?
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posted by hungry hippo
on Feb 24, 2013 -
20 answers
I've got the chance to spend two years doing research work at a university in either Boston or Philadelphia. I've never been to either city, and I can't visit them before deciding. I'm looking for general impressions of what life would be like in each place. (I've posted some other details inside, but because I'm so ignorant of both places, this is pretty free-form...)
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posted by Beardman
on Feb 22, 2013 -
43 answers
Mr Jujulalia and I have the option of moving to London or Cardiff. Seeking advice from colleagues/friends/the Guardian isn't filling our advice needs. Can you help?
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posted by jujulalia
on Feb 21, 2013 -
15 answers
This is actually more like a two part question so bear with me. We are very likely moving to the bay area in the near future and could use some guidance. Also, we are heading there in about 10 days as my wife has never been and I want to make sure she falls in love with it.
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posted by nsomniak21
on Feb 20, 2013 -
17 answers
I was recently added to the list of potential hires for the foreign service. Great! I can expect a call anytime. The same day I got another solid job offer that's tempting but causes some logistical and financial complications. Do I take the bird in the hand?
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posted by exutima
on Feb 17, 2013 -
7 answers
Should we bring our cat to our new and currently empty apartment while we paint and assemble furniture, to let her get used to it - even though we are not actually moving for another week.
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posted by rawrberry
on Feb 15, 2013 -
17 answers
Please help my spouse and I find a new city. We currently live in Northern Virginia and are looking for a change of scenery.
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posted by timetoevolve
on Feb 10, 2013 -
36 answers
The long-distance boyfriend and I have decided to get engaged and he's moving in. Yay!
Me: 40's, divorced, sole adult in household for over 11 years, raised three kids, with youngest (14 yo son) still at home. Have friends and a happy life here.
Him: 50's, never married but has a son in his 20's with whom he has a great relationship, has friends and interests he can continue to explore here. (He also has a job ready for him here.)
To anyone who has experience of this type of situation, what advice do you wish you had been given to make this as painless (and ideally, actually fun!) as possible?
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posted by kinetic
on Feb 8, 2013 -
13 answers
I am considering moving to Asheville and hear a lot about how hard it is to make a living there and how over saturated it is already with entrepreneurs. I am in my mid 50's and have been a successful private chef who is now teaching cooking in various small schools and in private homes. I am not thrilled with the northeast weather and thought of Asheville as a relocation spot. Having just visited there it seemed there is a lot of food buzz going on- I know it's a "foodie" town and think I might be able to succeed there.
I am concerned about the rising cost of buying a house in the area and that I could find enough work there. Any input?
posted by privatechef
on Feb 6, 2013 -
16 answers
My partner of three years has some pretty fierce obsessive anxiety issues, and I would like some help to deal with this.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 6, 2013 -
18 answers
I am trying to find an apartment in a city across the country in the U.S., before moving there. I am unable to see the apartment/roommates in person before moving, because I am trying to leave my abusive family and can't let on to them that I am leaving (
Here is that backstory.). So, I will be doing the one-way ticket plan. I am having difficulty finding an apartment without seeing it first, as people prefer to meet potential roommates in person and when I mention to them that I can't see it in person (and suggest Skyping or videochatting to meet each other/see the apartment) I have had limited success so far and am wondering if I am coming across as a Craigslist creep. Is this the right strategy? Is it a numbers game, and I should just keep trying? Or, should I just fly there first and then find a place? Thanks for any advice.
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posted by new_horizons_new_life
on Feb 4, 2013 -
38 answers
A few questions about doing a longer trip to move myself and my stuff to a different city, for someone who hasn't done it before.
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posted by Ashlyth
on Jan 31, 2013 -
22 answers
I need to move today. Last week I found a mover on Kijiji. Confirming about 11 pm last night, we found out that he didn't have a vehicle.
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posted by PinkMoose
on Jan 31, 2013 -
12 answers
Can't take the cold Northeast and wonder if Charleston would work? My husband and I recently moved from Los Angeles to the Eastern shore of Ct. for a variety of reasons mainly cost of living and seeking a closer knit community. Now that we have experienced a cold winter ( it's just starting!) we see that it isn't for us. Weather is a big deal and we thought we could handle it but the being stuck indoors, the layers of clothes, the desire to hibernate are all getting to us pretty quick.
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posted by privatechef
on Jan 23, 2013 -
27 answers
I am in the process of moving from my abusive family's house/city to another city with the wages I have saved over the past few years, but I have been unable to choose a city. It would ideally be affordable, and have a supportive environment for artists/illustrators with natural beauty and publishing opportunities. Do any cities come to mind? Any help would be very much appreciated!
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posted by timespacewheredoifit
on Jan 20, 2013 -
17 answers
My wife (27) and I (30) are moving our small family (+2 year old son, -anything that won't fit in 6 suitcases) across the country to Portland, Oregon. In large part we're leaving all of our (supportive, loving) local family and friends looking for adventure and to consciously decide the sort of people we will be (Along with a serious upgrade of location from suburban Central Florida). Have others done a similar reset with themselves or their entire family? Any recommendations on how to be loving and charitable to family and friends while you are leaving and enjoying the next phase? Or pointers on how to meet and embrace a new set of friends and "family"?
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posted by stickwithjosh
on Jan 15, 2013 -
18 answers
I'm moving in with my SO in a couple of months. I have, roughly, twice as much stuff as he does. How can I pare it down? Any tips or tricks or advice for going from a single/flatsharing household to cohabitation when you're a packrat?
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posted by mippy
on Jan 14, 2013 -
36 answers
I've lived in just one city for most of my adult life. I know a lot of people who've spent their large parts of their adult lives working and living in many different cities. Those of you who've done this, how did you go about doing it? How did it work out for you?
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posted by Ziggy500
on Jan 14, 2013 -
8 answers
I'm moving several octogenarian cats along with a one bedroom apartment from CA to CO this summer. Unlike previous moves, I don't have a bunch of time to spend packing, moving, and unpacking. We're planning to drive with the cats and have a little extra money to hire movers. Mr. Arnicae has heard rumors of interstate moving companies that would pack up our things and then deliver them sometime in <6 weeks, depending on their schedule, but I can't find anything like that. How do I pick an economical but good moving company? And what is the replacement price at which I should sell/leave furniture/stuff rather than bothering to move it? Thanks!
posted by arnicae
on Jan 11, 2013 -
5 answers
I'm trying to move as minimally as possible, but hopefully not make my first six months miserable and broke while I replace important things I foolishly dumped.
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posted by sldownard
on Jan 11, 2013 -
22 answers
My husband and I are moving to NYC for work, but we own a condo in MA. Should we try to maintain MA as our legal, permanent domicile or should we just give in and call that our second home? What are the implications of working & renting in one state and owning a home in another?
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posted by isthenewblack
on Jan 6, 2013 -
9 answers
Moving just up the road in Arlington (Northern VA) but have quite a bit of stuff that I don't trust me and my friends to not mess up. So what do I look for in a professional moving company?
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posted by zombieflanders
on Dec 31, 2012 -
9 answers
So you survived your 20's, and part of it involved moving to a new city where you didn't know anyone. Recommended?
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posted by windbox
on Dec 29, 2012 -
32 answers
I feel like I have what others would consider "natural gifts," and that I may be in the process of squandering them. Help me stay/get on track.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 27, 2012 -
17 answers
Is it more important to be near family or to follow career developments? Snowflakey existential question that needs review.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 18, 2012 -
15 answers
Given this list of things I do and don't like about living in NYC, where might I want to consider moving?
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posted by showbiz_liz
on Dec 18, 2012 -
40 answers
Is it prohibitively dangerous to try to move a full-size mattress from Ohio to Florida on the roof of a Honda Accord?
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posted by grokfest
on Dec 16, 2012 -
27 answers
Moving from Alabama to Boston to join a startup. How do I adjust to this new city and the startup culture there?
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posted by bamassippi
on Dec 16, 2012 -
21 answers
The Short: I'm a single young adult with a college degree and student loan debt. I live in a sterile small city with limited job prospects. I want to move out and get an entry-level or temporary job in a coastal U.S. city (NYC, LA, SF, Seattle). Please walk me through the logistics and help me devise a plan, as well as offer any advice you have on making it on your own in a new city (essentially, how to be an independent, self-sufficient adult).
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posted by matticulate
on Dec 13, 2012 -
19 answers
We're moving the week before Christmas. Soooo let's have a Christmas Eve picnic! Suggestions for food and decor?
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posted by spunweb
on Dec 9, 2012 -
12 answers
My cat is driving me insane.
We moved into a new place near the end of October/beginning of November. Since we got here, she has been so incredibly vocal. She's always mewing and howling. It's the same noise she makes when I'm in another room and she wants me around. Or when she's stuck somewhere.
I haven't had a good night's sleep since we got here. It's a loud, shrill noise and I can't sleep through it. She keeps me up late at night, wakes me up early in the morning.
What can I do about this? I need to be able to sleep.
posted by Modica
on Dec 3, 2012 -
19 answers
Gang members think someone who owes them money lives at our house. They are wrong and we told them so twice. Then they came back at night and threw a brick through our window. We immediately went to a hotel and have already signed a rental agreement elsewhere. However, I am scared to go pack up the house. Is that rational, and if so, what recourse do we have?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 27, 2012 -
25 answers
Within three months, my family will be returning to the States... Where I know almost no one ( after living in northeastern Btazil for eight years ). I know all the lists/literature about starting off well in a new country; how can I say goodbye to the country that I have grown to love?
posted by Mr. Metaphor
on Nov 24, 2012 -
3 answers
Help me figure out which DC neighborhoods would be the best to focus my condo/townhouse hunting on. Schools/safety/price - snowflakes available inside.
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posted by dadici
on Nov 20, 2012 -
14 answers
I'm seriously considering a move to Phoenix, AZ but need to gather a lot of specialized information first. I have a disability that causes me to use a wheelchair and employ personal assistants so I'm looking to learn from other disabled folk (or their friends or family) in the Phoenix area what resources exist, what the accessibility is of public transportation, apartment buildings and of the city overall. I'm also curious to learn whether AZ offers financial assistance to supplement the cost of personal care, but I have lots more questions than those. Any info shared would be much appreciated!!
posted by arizona80
on Nov 13, 2012 -
12 answers
I'm planning to move in a little over a year and will only bring what I can fit in my car. How do I start clear out most of my possessions?
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posted by mtphoto
on Nov 13, 2012 -
21 answers
My roommate situation is becoming untenable. Should I ride out the storm or leave? What is the best way to bail? Snowflakes inside.
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posted by munyeca
on Nov 12, 2012 -
12 answers
I'm moving to a new city. How can I best build a social network - and what can I do before I get there?
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posted by Ashlyth
on Nov 10, 2012 -
15 answers
How do I plan for or learn to cope with huge changes in my life this year that include graduating university, getting married, moving cross country? (sorry long!!)
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posted by snowysoul
on Nov 2, 2012 -
3 answers
I have a growing chunk of money in my checking account. I've paid off my student loans and don't have credit card debt. What's the most responsible way to manage this money? Does a potential major move affect the analysis?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 2, 2012 -
17 answers
I'm moving to Pittsburgh, but I'll be working in Vandergrift. Can you help me with Pittsburgh neighborhoods and its environs?
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posted by Turkey Glue
on Oct 24, 2012 -
12 answers
How does one tell dysfunctional parents that you're not planning on ever coming home after being away for a work contract (i.e. a supposedly temporary absence is going to turn permanent)?
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posted by glache
on Oct 24, 2012 -
20 answers
