I've always been really bad at motivating myself to do necessary tasks. However, this has finally gotten to a point when it's actually hurting both my personal / work life. What's the best way to solve this problem? Simply telling myself: "you have to get this done before you can do X" never actually works. [more inside]
What mantras, mottos, catchphrases, rules of thumb, boot-camp-style commands, etc. have worked best for you to keep up momentum during a major decluttering project? [more inside]
What do others do to reset themselves and to bring focus and attention on the goals and objectives that they have in their lives? I do meditate, but I feel like I am all over the place and not very centered or focused on much of anything. I just feel very scattered and am not finding anything that really brings me back to a place where I know why I am doing what I am doing. Any suggestions from anyone?
I think I'm dealing with some motivational paralysis, but it's a little complicated. Any ideas MeFi? [more inside]
I was reflecting last week on how I felt last time I fell in love. Aside from a motherload of the strong feelings for the other person, I remember a strong sense of wonder and possibility. I'd like to feel this way again - but without the need to fall in love with someone. [more inside]
I’ve been told that my productivity at work needs to improve, and that I should think up three ways in which my manager can measure my productivity and its improvement. Difficulty level: software engineer. Wall of snowflakes inside (longer than expected, sorry folks!) [more inside]
How do you best motivate and encourage a youth athlete? How do you help focus a youth Athlete to get "in the zone" for an important try-out? [more inside]
I've noticed this routine in so many acts of life, whether it be a new job, relationship, exercise routine, etc. At first there is excitement, new ideas, strong motivation. Then normality sets in and everything just seems to plateau out. Less excitement, boredom, loss of motivation. You keep going through the motions, doing the minimum, or perhaps you just quit. What can/do you do in this situation? How can you get your motivation and enthusiasm back for those less-than-new parts of your life?
I have recently been put on a medication to manage chronic hives. It has one problematic side effect: my couch essentially becomes a black hole that adheres my ass to it with its gravitational pull. Once I get moving on a task the momentum sees me through, but getting to that point is like having to push a stalled car with a jammed emergency break slightly uphill before you can get it rolling downhill. How do I find ways to get myself moving? More detail and examples inside! [more inside]
I'm looking for motivational / inspirational videos on YouTube that are:
- short (< 3 minutes)
- feature fairly well-known speakers -- politicians, athletes, or actors in movies
- deal specifically with accomplishing great things and overcoming adversity / chipping away over time to do so.
A friend of mine started walking about an hour a day earlier this year, and now, 6 months later, says he has lost the enthusiasm to start his other anaerobic workouts. [more inside]
How on earth do adults organize huge projects? And allot time to them? And then actually get them done? [more inside]
I’ve noticed that wearing workout clothing/gear that makes me feel good, tough, and strong, can actually give me a little extra mental confidence to make me better, tougher, and stronger in my workouts. What kinds of workout clothing and accessories make you feel badass? [more inside]
So I have achilles tendinopathy as well as problems with my knees and feet which means (long story short) I need non-weight-bearing exercise. I have a recumbent stationary bike which is great for developing strength in knees, is easy on the poor achilles and is generally a good idea. Problem: I loathe doing it because it bores me senseless. Solution, I hope, is to gamify it. [more inside]
What restores your confidence after a significant setback? I need to remind myself why pursuing your passion is worth it when it can be so unpredictable. I'll take anything from deep, meaningful advice to funny motivators. [more inside]
I want to use a game like Chore Wars to motivate my kid to take care of his chores. Except it has to be paper-and-pencil only. [more inside]
I need to jumpstart my fitness which is currently non-existent. Would a FitBit help me (& the SO) be less lazy and more motivated? Did you use a fitbit or similar device to help you get on a fitness track? Or did you use another method?
Trying to come up with inspirational sayings for boundary enforcement, something that can be embroidered or engraved. Some sort of physical embodiment of this saying will be created. The idea should be you can't save everyone, you need to not take on the pain of the world, everything is not on your shoulders, you can say no, et cetera. [more inside]
I'm writing what promises to be the last parts of my dissertation but am not handling the important and most basic questions well. How do I stay sane and somewhat productive in uncertain times? (longish details within) [more inside]
At the moment, I'm feeling at a loose end and really direction-less. I don't know what I want to do with my life and it's making me feel really depressed. I have no short or long term goals. I'm in the process of being referred for CBT and have taken up running to treat the depression. [more inside]
I usually start off the week with a lot of energy and ready to go. But by Wednesday, I feel mentally fatigued, lacking motivation, prone to procrastination, unable to focus creatively. The worst part is that I really need the energy to push through to Friday deadlines. Do you have any tips or advice to deal with this? [more inside]
With ~10 weeks to go in my pregnancy, some health complications are keeping me and my husband close to home and eating bland food. Have kept us there for quite a while already, actually. How can we keep from going stir-crazy, especially at a time when I would love to be out and about? [more inside]
I am designing a poster for a personal project on the subject of "always moving forward" and "taking the next step" – do you have any quotes that you live by on that subject? [more inside]
Has anyone ever experienced a reduction in their motivation and drive? If so, what things have you done to try and change it? In the past, my motivation has been influenced by pain and fear, but that doesn't seem like the most useful way of staying motivated at least that is what my friends have told me. On the same topic, does anyone have any book recommendations or movies that have helped them get motivated again?
My manager is very hands-off and this is not going to change. How can I get better at managing myself, when I would prefer an environment with more direction and feedback? [more inside]
Should I put more effort into reading books? Is not reading books detrimental to my critical thinking skills? [more inside]
I've had a difficult time over the last while and I feel like I've completely run out of steam. How can I keep going and accomplish all I need to? I feel all my motivation is gone and frankly I just want to hibernate but obviously I can't. Have you ideas about how to keep putting one foot in front of the other? [more inside]
I lost close to 100lbs and have kept it off for years. I want to continue to lose the weight, but I don't have anything pushing me to do so. I'm not gaining, but I'm not losing either. [more inside]
Every semester my motivation follows the same pattern. I excel in courses for the first month or so of classes, then my motivation sharply drops off. What are some workarounds and strategies to give a more consistent performance? [more inside]
I'm seeking stories of personal transformation. Those who overcame their depression and lack of focus to become a driven and motivated person. [more inside]
Does anyone have tips for how to get things done when you are feeling really depressed or generally terrible? I need to make myself catch up when I am dangerously behind in school. [more inside]
My life is calm. I live in one place. My house is clean and decluttered. I have free time. And now I am bored... [more inside]
Struggling with my boyfriend's apparent lack of effort in our relationship, but I'm not sure if it's worth trying to work though, because he won't discuss if he have a future together. [more inside]
You aren't my doctor, psychologist or psychiatrist, but maybe you have something to share that will help me get onto a path toward curing a relentless, life-altering ( in the worst possible way( issue with sleep. [more inside]
I want an app, a visual reminder & a sound track. 2014 is going to be my best year yet, and I need some tools to make it work. [more inside]
I have read in numerous places that exercise can sometimes help with mood and concentration. My only exercise goal is to help alleviate these possible issues, but I couldn't keep any motivation and stopped after only a few weeks. Specific considerations: [more inside]
I've never had much motivation to do anything, or much ability to persevere, and this makes life a chore. I feel like I was born without a motor - like other people have some source of energy inside that drives them towards their goals, while I tend to just drift passively and hope the things I want come to me (they don't). Talk therapy hasn't helped much, and I'm not sure what to try next. [more inside]
I've been on a bit of a health kick lately--excercising, moving around, and trying to really improve the life I've been leading. I've also begun to run as well and even though I know it is good for him, I always balk, delay, or procrastinate when I know I should do it. After exercising I feel great. Awesome. Amazing. However, it is the initial thought of getting out there, that effort, that strain that prevents me from breaking inertia and actually getting out there. [more inside]
Post Australian Federal election, faced with my nation of birth demoting science, closing the Climate Commission and being assholes about asylum seekers I'm feeling angry, but also pretty hopeless. And that's just the major Australian issues of the last fortnight. I need music to keep me going. What are your favourite protest, activist and resistance songs that are just plain good music? (Bonus points for relevant artists that aren't bolshy white men.) [more inside]
I am a big believer that motivation is everything. I have some things I want to accomplish and am in a motivational slump of sorts (call it apathy). I am not depressed. What are some motivational tricks or strategies you use to build motivation levels? For example:listen to "eye of the tiger" real loud (i've done this).
A few years ago I was on a great weight loss path, and then it stopped when disaster struck... but the gist of it is a big part of my motivation was the SO I had at the time. So how do I get motivated for me? I want to lose weight, but not enough to overcome my self-imposed obstacles. [more inside]
I used to think that I was lazy, but now I find that I can be motivated, dedicated and extremely efficient...but only when there are concrete and guaranteed benifits to my actions. Right now, I want to expand my portfolio and gain some new skills for the sake of increasing my employability and maybe getting a different job. But since this goal is far-off and not guaranteed, I'm having trouble sticking to it and I've been getting nowhere. Is there a way to operate that allows my actions to have short term and guaranteed benefits? [more inside]
What books/podcasts/videos have content similar to est/Landmark Forum? [more inside]
"You got this!" "Looking good! Looking strong!" "Keep it going, almost there!" I have a few solid cheers up my sleeve, but looking for that quick one-liner that would help YOU feel supported while you make it to the finish line. [more inside]
What kind of goals do you suggest setting for someone starting his or her work life? Both concrete goals for the job and general motivations for earning money [more inside]
How do I fight my inner self-saboteur? [more inside]
The only thing that gets me to the gym is watching science fiction movies on my iPhone. Can you recommend some more based on the criteria inside? [more inside]
I'm looking for a few short stories to read aloud to ESL students between 13 and 16 years old, each divisible into a few 15- to 20-minute chunks, and each engaging. [more inside]
Can you point me to specific stories, either your own or else freely available on the web, of times when someone has really disliked an activity at the beginning and found it very difficult or unnatural, but after working at it for a significant amount of time, finally comes to love and excel at it?
You're a competitive athlete. How did you level up? [more inside]