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Need help understanding my self-absorbed mother and what to do about her

I'm a 38F mom and my mother is 61. She "raised" me as a single mother-- bio dad is a true narcissist (I met him when I was an adult and we are NC now). Raised is in quotes because my grandmother did most of the raising. She is also probably NPD or BPD, I'm not sure. [more inside]
posted by ladybugmom on Sep 26, 2016 - 19 answers

Dealing with a pushy personality type

My mother has a somewhat pushy personality type. This is creating some conflicts at home for me. How can I address this? [more inside]
posted by JoannaC on Jul 4, 2016 - 72 answers

Has anyone else had a parent who FORCED you into an eating disorder?

I (female) grew up in a house as the only girl with multiple brothers. My mother began putting me on diets at age 8, before I'd ever shown any signs of having weight issues. I was a normal 8 yr old girl, but not as scrawny as my brothers. From the diets she'd always put me on (this was the 80's, for cultural reference), it began a terrible cycle of me failing the diets and not ever being able to do enough to make her stop policing what I ate. I'm just now coming to the conclusion that I may never have had an issue with food / being overweight if my mom had not forced her insecurities on to me. Longer explanation included. Advice/perspective/fellow war stories appreciated. [more inside]
posted by zettoo on May 31, 2016 - 32 answers

A mother's love = a worrywart lacking perspective?

I get it, mothers worry, but I feel like my overprotective mother never stopped being overprotective. Are her reactions simply motherly love or is she verging on being manipulative? [more inside]
posted by blerghamot on May 7, 2016 - 36 answers

How to deal with an opinionated, overbearing mom (re my kid & childcare)

My mom has many, many opinions on how we are caring for our son (from what we give him for breakfast to the chores he should have, ugh), and she loves to share them. All the time. Especially in emails (joy). Here's the situation: I am considering going back to work full time but I am sure my mom will voice her displeasure. [more inside]
posted by trillian on Dec 28, 2015 - 18 answers

How to Deal With My Mother (Not Just Holiday Edition)

I've always had a strange relationship with my mother and the holiday season obviously makes it harder. I live overseas and today I learned my cousin died two days ago .. via my mother putting up an In Memoriam video on FB. It's the latest blow in a long series of disappointments. I'd appreciate advice on how to deal with a mother who both pulls me in and keep pushing me away. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 2, 2015 - 24 answers

Mother may I (have some book recommendations)?

What are some novels featuring imperfect but sympathetically-portrayed mothers? [more inside]
posted by ferret branca on Jul 30, 2014 - 25 answers

Help me plan for a difficult conversation with my mother

I need to talk to my mother soon about something I did, and I am looking for advice on how to handle the conversation in a way that respects her but is also mindful of my own boundaries. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe on Jul 10, 2014 - 12 answers

We're fine, mom

(stop worrying about my husband's employment) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 12, 2013 - 17 answers

My fiancé dislikes my mother..,

My fiancé dislikes my mother. How big an issue will this be? What can I do to mitigate any future issues regarding this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 30, 2013 - 29 answers

What do I do about all this guilt about my mother?

My mother (depressed, long divorced, estranged from much of her family) feels that I am not there enough for her. Since I started a serious relationship three years ago, the situation has deteriorated greatly. I feel that she depends on me far too much -- and the rest of my life is suffering -- but I'm too consumed by guilt to figure out concrete ways in which to handle this. I would appreciate suggestions for both short- and long-term strategies for building a healthier relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 12, 2013 - 23 answers

WeddingFilter: Church Service Self-Invite?

Is someone 'allowed' to invite themselves to the church service of an acquaintance's wedding? Technically allowed, or socially allowed? Are church services 'open'? [Snowflakey fact scenario inside.] [more inside]
posted by Capt. Renault on Aug 7, 2013 - 53 answers

Reading recommendations on queer families

I want to read more about alternative family structures in queer communities, particularly trans* communities, particularly communities of and for queer transpeople of color. What can you recommend? [more inside]
posted by liketitanic on Jun 29, 2013 - 4 answers

Virginia is for Mothers

Mom and I are going to Virginia beach in early August. Please help me narrow down the huge selection of beachfront hotels & things to do! [more inside]
posted by kimberussell on May 31, 2013 - 9 answers

A Mother Is.....

I am planning mother's day presents. The only thing I can say is that I need mother-related phrases. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by Crystalinne on Apr 22, 2013 - 3 answers

Sometimes living alone and sometimes not.

Advice for living sometimes alone and sometimes with someone I don’t particularly get on with. [more inside]
posted by sock of ages on Sep 30, 2012 - 12 answers

Was my behavior disrespectful?

I would like some outside opinions on an incident that occurred yesterday that is still bothering me. [more inside]
posted by starpoint on Aug 19, 2012 - 34 answers

Mom stop it now.

What psychological malady did Edith Ewing Bouvier Beale, of Grey Gardens fame, suffer? [more inside]
posted by fifilaru on Jun 18, 2012 - 8 answers

What makes a mom a good mom? What does it feel like to have a good mom?

What makes a mom a good mom? What does it feel like to have a good mom? [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar on May 3, 2012 - 46 answers

How do we get out of paying for employer insurance during FMLA?

FMLA-Filter: What counts as officially "returned" to work after the 12 week FMLA for maternity leave? [more inside]
posted by amazingstill on Apr 30, 2012 - 9 answers

How can I support my wife so she is able to care for our child while I'm at work?

Women, what are some things you did after birth that helped you to become more self-sufficient in taking care of your child (i.e. not needing to have the father around all the time)? What are some things the father did to support you in this process? [more inside]
posted by nosh, daven, shtup on Jan 25, 2012 - 55 answers

Should I continue giving my baby breast milk, even if it's just a little?

Should I continue giving my baby breast milk, even if it's just a little? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 12, 2011 - 14 answers

I can't just uninvite her, can I?

How should I handle my mom wanting to promote her most recent Pyramid Scheme at my Wedding? [more inside]
posted by holdkris99 on Oct 20, 2011 - 69 answers

Word to your mother

If your not-quite-yet-born self could give one or two pieces of advice to your soon-to-be mom about how not to screw up you and your relationship with her, what would it be? [more inside]
posted by staggering termagant on May 9, 2011 - 118 answers

How do I do something nice for Mother's Day when I normally try to avoid my mother?

What do I do for Mother's Day given that (1) she has brought me quite a bit of stress over the past few years and (2) her own mother passed away a few months ago? [more inside]
posted by Terriniski on Apr 30, 2011 - 10 answers

Mom, if you're reading this? Please go away!

My mother stalks me online and it bothers me. How do I get her to stop. Or, an easier question: How do I stop letting it bug me so much? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 16, 2011 - 40 answers

How can I survive my mother's death?

How can I survive my mother's death? [more inside]
posted by thelastgirl on Feb 13, 2011 - 36 answers

how do I avoid saying something stupid or inappropriate about your x, the father of your child?

Guy trying to date a beautiful single mother don'ts filter: Young single mothers who date: how do I avoid saying something stupid or inappropriate about your x, the father of your child? [more inside]
posted by eli_d on Dec 23, 2010 - 27 answers

What to do with my mom on Thanksgiving in NYC?

Last minute NYC Thanksgiving plans: need help with hotels, food, activities, etc. [more inside]
posted by greta simone on Nov 22, 2010 - 10 answers

Are you my momma?

I hear stories about a mother cat raising puppies as if they were her own, or a mother dog raising kittens as if they were her own. What happens to these baby animals when they grow up? Do they have identity issues? [more inside]
posted by nikkorizz on Nov 13, 2010 - 17 answers

Help me figure out what to cook for mothers' day!

What should I cook for my mom for mothers' day? [more inside]
posted by fvox13 on May 8, 2010 - 5 answers

Looking for good quotes about moms

A short, sweet-but-not-cloying quotation for a Mother's Day card? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 24, 2010 - 10 answers

Help, I feel culturally patronised

My boyfriend's mother keeps trying to rename me and I find it offensive, what should I do? [more inside]
posted by Xianny on Nov 18, 2009 - 76 answers

Mama Gambino

My mother spends a good deal of her day playing Mafia Wars and has accumulated hundreds of people she doesn't know on Facebook through the game. She is definitely not street savvy or tech savvy in any way and I'm worried that she may be taken advantage of. I don't play Mafia Wars, but I just don't trust that its taken up such a large part of her life right now. Is it just a way for her to pass the time? Or do I need to be concerned?
posted by Unred on Nov 6, 2009 - 16 answers

How do I stop being jealous of my younger sister and pissed off at my mom?

How do I stop being jealous of my younger sister and pissed off at my mom? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 13, 2009 - 24 answers

Ensuring I never scream, "Tina, bring me the ax!"

Avoiding Mommie Dearest: How to raise a healthy, happy daughter when your own relationship with your mother was less than ideal? [more inside]
posted by thenewbrunette on Aug 24, 2009 - 20 answers

SteakFilter: Help us wow our Mom's with a great steak recipe for Mothers Day!

SteakFilter: Help us wow our Mom's with a great steak recipe for Mothers Day! [more inside]
posted by pghjezebel on May 4, 2009 - 28 answers

Novels about women and their crazy moms?

Novels about women and their crazy moms? [more inside]
posted by It ain't over yet on Oct 17, 2008 - 33 answers

Not even Mommie Dearest...

Parents splitting up after 35 years -- maybe temporarily, but I'm betting on the long-term. They're both crazy, but my mom is C-R-A-Z-Y, and her poisonous attitude has now doomed this relationship for good. Our own relationship has always been strained, but how do I even begin to relate to her now? [more inside]
posted by Madamina on Oct 8, 2008 - 20 answers

Mum thinks it's OK to sub-contract childcare - what do you think?

Perspective filter: When my Mum is caring for my baby, is it reasonable for her to have someone else, who I don't know, care for him? Angst and hair-pulling follows. [more inside]
posted by lottie on Sep 24, 2008 - 53 answers

How to help a parent and her adult children cope with an assault that happened 40 years ago?

How to help a parent and her adult children cope with an assault that happened 40 years ago? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 17, 2008 - 8 answers

Make my mom's day!

So what are you getting for your mom on mothers day? [more inside]
posted by keep it tight on May 6, 2008 - 32 answers

Films about Mothers and Daughters

Mothers and daughters and the films about them - can you name some? [more inside]
posted by mooza on Mar 15, 2008 - 45 answers

I'm my mother's favorite. Now what?

My mother recently told me I'm her favorite child. How can I deal with the guilt? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 14, 2008 - 41 answers

Nope... doesn't ring a bell.

My mother has decided she wants a Tibetan singing bowl. Any recommendations? [more inside]
posted by musicinmybrain on Jul 29, 2007 - 7 answers

Good Historical Fiction For My Mother?

Help me recommend a historical novel to my mother. [more inside]
posted by thivaia on Jun 19, 2007 - 50 answers

My mother makes me want to die sometimes.

Do you hate your mother? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 9, 2007 - 40 answers

How to make her a social butterfly?

My mother will be living alone in DC next year. I'm worried that she's going to spend her evenings alone and depressed. Help me think of stuff for her to do. [more inside]
posted by bluenausea on Jun 3, 2007 - 13 answers

How to gently get my mom to stop calling all the shots

Any advice on how to cut the "apron strings" from my mother, who I love very much but have become a little resentful of? [more inside]
posted by slyboots421 on May 11, 2007 - 21 answers

Dessert ideas needed

I need dessert idea(s) to accommodate some restrictions. [more inside]
posted by disaster77 on May 9, 2007 - 17 answers

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